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Has anyone been in the position where they have started talking to someone that initially they weren't aware of what that other person looked like and after some backwards and forwards messaging they send a picture and you realise they are totally out of your league!!!
They seem really nice, conversation is easy but you just don't believe that they would actually be interested in you!
Maybe it's lack of self confidence or whatever,but if you were in that situation would you meet them anyway (a social one of course) or would you back off for fear of rejection? |
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"Has anyone been in the position where they have started talking to someone that initially they weren't aware of what that other person looked like and after some backwards and forwards messaging they send a picture and you realise they are totally out of your league!!!
They seem really nice, conversation is easy but you just don't believe that they would actually be interested in you!
Maybe it's lack of self confidence or whatever,but if you were in that situation would you meet them anyway (a social one of course) or would you back off for fear of rejection?"
I honestly don’t think you’ve got anything to worry about. I’m sure you’re a really nice genuine woman yourself and looks wise, well you look absolutely incredible to me  |
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Yes I've had this happen and it has blown me away.
I understand you can have your fears and doubts but then maybe they also see the same in you too, it is entirely possible and if they are interested in you then why shouldn't you see where it goes.
I rarely see what others do in myself but why should I doubt that there is nothing of me to like? We all have some qualities others will like so just go for it.
What have you got to lose OP?  |
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"Yes I've had this happen and it has blown me away.
I understand you can have your fears and doubts but then maybe they also see the same in you too, it is entirely possible and if they are interested in you then why shouldn't you see where it goes.
I rarely see what others do in myself but why should I doubt that there is nothing of me to like? We all have some qualities others will like so just go for it.
What have you got to lose OP? "
That's good to hear and I'm happy for you
It's just getting past that fear of rejection, but in reality,I have nothing to lose,thank you |
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"Has anyone been in the position where they have started talking to someone that initially they weren't aware of what that other person looked like and after some backwards and forwards messaging they send a picture and you realise they are totally out of your league!!!
They seem really nice, conversation is easy but you just don't believe that they would actually be interested in you!
Maybe it's lack of self confidence or whatever,but if you were in that situation would you meet them anyway (a social one of course) or would you back off for fear of rejection?"
No, that would involve talking to people... |
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"Yeah I'd meet them because nobody is out of my league just because of what they look like.
Plenty of people are way out my league intellectually but that wouldn't stop me meeting them either."
That's a good way to look at it, and it would cause more issues if they weren't on my wavelength! |
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"Out of their league? Surely if you get talking to someone you must be on the same boat? Don't put yerself down OP and just go with the flow  "
Going with the flow is a skill I could really do with learning  |
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over a year ago
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"Has anyone been in the position where they have started talking to someone that initially they weren't aware of what that other person looked like and after some backwards and forwards messaging they send a picture and you realise they are totally out of your league!!!
They seem really nice, conversation is easy but you just don't believe that they would actually be interested in you!
Maybe it's lack of self confidence or whatever,but if you were in that situation would you meet them anyway (a social one of course) or would you back off for fear of rejection?"
Yes. Even from the public pictures I'm certain he's way out of my league and I was convinced for a long time that he couldn't be attracted to me, just couldn't figure out if he was talking to me just to be nice or for a bet. I'm still not sure he's actually attracted and it's been quite a while now.
And as much as I'd love to believe the meet will happen, I am pretty certain if it does I'll end up rejected. So my instinct is to just not do it. But then there is a part of me that says "what if I can trust him and believe what he says".
You're gorgeous and genuinely have nothing to worry about. If he's keen after seeing everything you've shown him and after you've talked, go for it. |
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"Has anyone been in the position where they have started talking to someone that initially they weren't aware of what that other person looked like and after some backwards and forwards messaging they send a picture and you realise they are totally out of your league!!!
They seem really nice, conversation is easy but you just don't believe that they would actually be interested in you!
Maybe it's lack of self confidence or whatever,but if you were in that situation would you meet them anyway (a social one of course) or would you back off for fear of rejection?
Yes. Even from the public pictures I'm certain he's way out of my league and I was convinced for a long time that he couldn't be attracted to me, just couldn't figure out if he was talking to me just to be nice or for a bet. I'm still not sure he's actually attracted and it's been quite a while now.
And as much as I'd love to believe the meet will happen, I am pretty certain if it does I'll end up rejected. So my instinct is to just not do it. But then there is a part of me that says "what if I can trust him and believe what he says".
You're gorgeous and genuinely have nothing to worry about. If he's keen after seeing everything you've shown him and after you've talked, go for it. "
Visually there is an abundance of reasons why he would be attracted to you and I've seen many of your posts so can see why he would be attracted to your personality too, hopefully after you have met him, he can help you see that
I really hope it happens for you and you go for it yourself when the time comes xx |
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kinda... but its been where they dont know what i look like, chatted online to ladies who were out of my league as they were very pretty, knowing full well that i wouldnt get a second look if we walked past each other on the street, without knowing what i look like we have got on really well but after they see a pic of me the convo doesnt continue for very long. in the situations where they can see what i look like then a convo doesnt even start, on the very rare occasions i message first then its usually a no-reply.. sometimes a sorry ur not my type. just makes me think i must be fugly. i have no self confidence or self esteem as it is so i dont bother trying and ive had enough rejection to last me.
clearly im not in a position to give advice on your situation so i'll just wish you good luck |
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"Has anyone been in the position where they have started talking to someone that initially they weren't aware of what that other person looked like and after some backwards and forwards messaging they send a picture and you realise they are totally out of your league!!!
They seem really nice, conversation is easy but you just don't believe that they would actually be interested in you!
Maybe it's lack of self confidence or whatever,but if you were in that situation would you meet them anyway (a social one of course) or would you back off for fear of rejection?"
They would be talking to you, not your body. In most cases a persons personality is infinitely more attractive than any physical feature. If you both enjoy each other’s company on an intellectual level then you should always meet, as the cornerstone to any relationship is friendship not physical attraction.
I have met very attractive women in my life who I would not give the time of day to as their personality is utterly revolting and some very plain women who I would go to the ends of the earth for as they are a genuine friend.
I, myself, am nothing special, but I try to bring joy and happiness to others as I hope they would to xxx |
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"They would be talking to you, not your body. In most cases a persons personality is infinitely more attractive than any physical feature. If you both enjoy each other’s company on an intellectual level then you should always meet, as the cornerstone to any relationship is friendship not physical attraction.
I have met very attractive women in my life who I would not give the time of day to as their personality is utterly revolting and some very plain women who I would go to the ends of the earth for as they are a genuine friend.
I, myself, am nothing special, but I try to bring joy and happiness to others as I hope they would to xxx"
Exactly what he said ^ |
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