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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My gf and mum agree that Im a one off but they wouldn t have me any other way..ah bless
Another stated Im as mad as a box of frogs and completely unique
And finally another..my sounds compadre says Im one crazy fkin animal that thinks deep but dances to the sound of the drum.
Now whether its good or bad I ve shared this with you I don t know or care but whatabout you?  |
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I'm sometimes surprised at the way I'm perceived. I only care about how my loved ones perceive me, I can't do anything about how anyone else sees me because they will be influenced by their own experiences |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm sometimes surprised at the way I'm perceived. I only care about how my loved ones perceive me, I can't do anything about how anyone else sees me because they will be influenced by their own experiences"
I learned one thing during my time in the wastelands...care not the thoughts of others..if it pleases you then carry one..it helps that I can count loved ones on one hand minus three fingers lolol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm usually perceived how ppl want to perceive me, which can be very variable from wonderful loving caring guy to cocky arrogant twat..... "
People perceive by what they hear or see not by what they know as fact... |
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I'm perceived as tough as nails, made of a mixture of Teflon, Kevlar and rhinoceros hide. People perceive me to be indestructible. Most of the time, they are probably right, but just sometimes.......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think it's hard to know how others perceive you. And I guess it'll be different depending on who you ask "
This is true , people who dont know me perceive me as immature due to my age, those who do know me perceive me as an old man In a young man's body  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People used to say that I was unapproachable, as I looked like I was seconds away from snapping and ripping the head off anyone.
Apparently,my resting face gave that impression.
I was very quiet, but would have talked the arse off them had they spoken to me.
Oh well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think it's hard to know how others perceive you. And I guess it'll be different depending on who you ask "
Oh i dont need to ask they tell me anyways but then admittedly it is only a very very small number of people and I have had truly crazy times in their company ...but the few that know me know I dont give a rats ass what they think..i lived a life manipulated in past times but then I found me..so lets just pull the ripcord and rock n roll..cos my party stops at a wooden box and looking down on the two gathered I dont wanna hear the usual funeral stuff...i wanna hear endless hysteria brought on by memories..now thats a life!! IMO  |
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Some may like me,
Some probably dislike me a lot,
Some might find im funny while others don't.
As long as those I care for and I'm friends with like my company and think I'm an OK person to know then I'm generally happy.
The rest, well who knows but if anyone wants to give me a character assessment/assisination then feel free as I like a laugh  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends who you ask I think. My family all say I'm a completly unique pervy nutcase, with a big heart. My best friends would probably say the same.
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Love this woman..in an online crazy bird in the hen coup kinda way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmmm. Someone who takes no crap but never gives up on those I care about?"
Id put a heart up but that dont come up in the face thingys but if I could find one thats what I d put up  |
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By some, a stone-hearted bitch. By others, extremely loving, affectionate and loyal. And a myriad of other things depending on who is doing the perceiving.
All I can do is be me, and others will perceive me however they perceive me - I'm not going to be untrue to myself or false just to please other people. There are very few people whose opinion actually matters to me, but even for those I won't change who I am. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some may like me,
Some probably dislike me a lot,
Some might find im funny while others don't.
As long as those I care for and I'm friends with like my company and think I'm an OK person to know then I'm generally happy.
The rest, well who knows but if anyone wants to give me a character assessment/assisination then feel free as I like a laugh "
I think you re alreet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My work colleagues and gaming groups all think I'm quiet, reserved and rather antisocial, with a dry, sarcastic sense of humour that rears its head occasionally.
I don't think anyone on Fab has much of an opinion about me at all. |
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"Some may like me,
Some probably dislike me a lot,
Some might find im funny while others don't.
As long as those I care for and I'm friends with like my company and think I'm an OK person to know then I'm generally happy.
The rest, well who knows but if anyone wants to give me a character assessment/assisination then feel free as I like a laugh
I think you re alreet "
Ooooh ta very much muchly  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"By some, a stone-hearted bitch. By others, extremely loving, affectionate and loyal. And a myriad of other things depending on who is doing the perceiving.
All I can do is be me, and others will perceive me however they perceive me - I'm not going to be untrue to myself or false just to please other people. There are very few people whose opinion actually matters to me, but even for those I won't change who I am. "
I love this..so many people try to be who others think they should be or expect..bleddy social media..the only one we should be true to...is ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get told I'm too nice and too trusting, like it's a bad thing. But I'm very direct, honest and dont suffer fools x"
My first impression of you today was really genuine and takes no shit.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm. Someone who takes no crap but never gives up on those I care about?
Id put a heart up but that dont come up in the face thingys but if I could find one thats what I d put up "
( L o v e ) without the spaces xx |
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"I get told I'm too nice and too trusting, like it's a bad thing. But I'm very direct, honest and dont suffer fools x
My first impression of you today was really genuine and takes no shit..... "
Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People used to say that I was unapproachable, as I looked like I was seconds away from snapping and ripping the head off anyone.
Apparently,my resting face gave that impression.
I was very quiet, but would have talked the arse off them had they spoken to me.
Oh well."
Very much the same in the past..ex squaddie and city vagabond face that said..step away from the touch fuse..was a defence mechanism protecting me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends who you ask I think. My family all say I'm a completly unique pervy nutcase, with a big heart. My best friends would probably say the same.
Love this woman..in an online crazy bird in the hen coup kinda way "
you too, youre my kind of crazy  |
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"Think it's hard to know how others perceive you. And I guess it'll be different depending on who you ask
Oh i dont need to ask they tell me anyways but then admittedly it is only a very very small number of people and I have had truly crazy times in their company ...but the few that know me know I dont give a rats ass what they think..i lived a life manipulated in past times but then I found me..so lets just pull the ripcord and rock n roll..cos my party stops at a wooden box and looking down on the two gathered I dont wanna hear the usual funeral stuff...i wanna hear endless hysteria brought on by memories..now thats a life!! IMO "
Think that's the thing, you can only be yourself. And I try not to worry about others perceptions of me. Some will like me others won't and I'm good with that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Reet time to try this sleep thing..more than 2 hours would be good so I ll check in tomorrow...my apologies if I ve not yet answered you..not being rude..just very knackered..but please keep on putting your posts up..love to all xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A stuck up, snobby posh bird.
I'm so not. I'm quite shy, a quiet person, a little aloof, particularly from the bickering on here and quite serious, reserved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to care a lot what others thought of me, I don’t worry so much now, I think I probably come off as a bit aloof and uninterested probably online and in person now because I’m not constantly trying to please everyone. If you like me great! If not, I won’t lose any sleep over it |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think that people think that they are perceived in a particular way because sometimes they want to be or sometimes they are afraid/worried their negative traits are seen as their overall.
As far as how others see me, I'm not sure. It varies a lot, I've heard all sorts said about me. Some utter bollocks, some less so. I'd be lying if I said it doesn't matter to me how I am - for example at work it very much does matter how I am seen. I care less about random folk on fab who don't care to get to know me but I don't like the feeling of being actively disliked when I know it's not true. Not that it keeps me awake, more I'm a sensitive soul. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Often worry too much about what people think about me and at times without asking never sure
those that dont know me well consider me boring and quiet and at times quite naive especially sexually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don't know me that well it will be quiet, reserved, maybe a bit shy, nervous and unsure.
If you get to know me it can be the above to loud, talkative, funny, imaginative.
Some see me as weird, odd and strange
Family would add in anti-social (I prefer asocial), kind, loving patient, perceptive, moody and intelligent.
Some might say loyal.
I like to see myself as self-contained. I can get nervous and unsure and doubting, I am not sociable. Thoughtful, imaginative, an introvert's introvert, introspective. |
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I'll temper anything with self perception.
I know me well.
Don't forget to factor in the other person when they try to put you through their filter.
I suspect most of the above is what people want to be thought as. |
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"As a cold hearted b**ch
Do you work in IT?
I do."
Well knock me down with a feather, I never thought that I would meet anybody like you. The evenings must just fly past with our jolly banter (insert laughter here)
Do you remember the time when..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people generally think I'm quite sweet, innocent and homely. I'm resident host and babysitter for everyone. So I enjoy my secret Fab life immensely ! |
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Fuck knows.
At work I'm like the mumma bear, that's one that I do know coz I've been told enough times.
My family. Not a clue.
My friends? Guess it depends which ones you speak to.
As for people here, again, depends who you speak to and who's truth it is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To everyone, its been interesting reading. Perception is an opinion of those looking on at best. At worst it s an opinion based on what they ve heard from others. Alas though we, as individuals, often create that perception from what we believe to be an expectation of those around. People have opinions on non shirt wearing males around public places but theres no law against it and it causes no harm; it is thought nail varnish and make up is a womans sole right by many, or that a woman shouldn t be natural in her look..with society comes the rules of the herd...well I say BE YOU!! Sod everyone else and never ever change for someone else if you are happy, truly happy. But heres the thing...take time out every so often to slow down or stop and reflect upon oneself and who you are because often peoples expectations are sneaky lil buggers and without you realising,you ve been swallowed up. I am lucky as this is my only contact online with people and in my daily life I have my gf...and Im rarely ever seen in built up areas of any kind where the masses perpetuate their ideas and fashions etc. So, be kind to yourself, listen only to your own thought and desires and follow them as best you can. Obviously if you have a family setting up a full dungeon and orgys in the family home will be awkward..you know what I mean...x |
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I don't know what people think of me because I never need to ask, I use their responses to my actions as a social base. When looking at myself I can dream up many different traits that I show to many different people but only one is a constant and that is being eclectic x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not entirely sure
My team at work say I am a nurturer, kind caring yet tough when I need to be
My kids think I'm batshit but good fun
As for anyone else god knows, and I don't really care |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not entirely sure
My team at work say I am a nurturer, kind caring yet tough when I need to be
My kids think I'm batshit but good fun
As for anyone else god knows, and I don't really care "
Sounds like a good mix |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you were to aks family and loved ones, they would most likely say things along the lines of - Smart arse, clumsy, wicked humour, kind and patience of a Saint.
So basically, a useless know it all who thinks he's funny, and can wait a long time for this and that and be kind to people.
I'll keep my opinions to myself on how I feel about my loved ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not entirely sure
My team at work say I am a nurturer, kind caring yet tough when I need to be
My kids think I'm batshit but good fun
As for anyone else god knows, and I don't really care
Sounds like a good mix "
It is
What about you? How are you perceived? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be interested to know what people really think of me, but I'm mildly concerned I might not like the answer. Then again, that would give me something to work on, right? |
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"I'd be interested to know what people really think of me, but I'm mildly concerned I might not like the answer. Then again, that would give me something to work on, right?"
I'm not sure about that. If lots of people told me I'm perceived as horribly unkind I would probably consider my actions. But usually others perceptions are so skewed by their own insecurities, experiences and prejudices and how you project yourself in different situations that as long as the people you love get you, others perceptions aren't useful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most people think I'm a cunt. "
I like you. You are real, what you see is what you get.
Too many people who come across as lovely and sweet yet scratch the surface and they're vile.
Give me real anyday |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
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No idea what people think of me.. many on the forum won't know me other that what I post. And as we know what can be so miss leading and interpreted in many ways.
I'd like to think most will see me as easy going, polite and non confrontational.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I spent many years being told that I was worthless, pointless, and everything bad that happened was my fault.
Doesn't make it true Ms O. "
Sometimes it is. X |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"By some, a stone-hearted bitch. By others, extremely loving, affectionate and loyal. And a myriad of other things depending on who is doing the perceiving.
All I can do is be me, and others will perceive me however they perceive me - I'm not going to be untrue to myself or false just to please other people. There are very few people whose opinion actually matters to me, but even for those I won't change who I am. "
That about sums me up too (well apart from the stone hearted bitch thing of course ) - people will find me as they find me, all I can do is be the authentic me and leave others to judge and come to their own conclusions about me.
Here is a good example of the range of perceptions applied to me - I've been called everything from oracle and wise man of the forums to a know it all and a bully.
Personally I don't think I'm any of those things, but if they are how people perceive me then so be it - unless people offer compelling reasons for me to think I need to change, I'll just carry on being me. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Most people think I'm a cunt. "
You're not, you and I rarely agree, likewise with your other half, but you have both always told it as you see it, and stuck to your principles, a little bluntly at times perhaps, but sometimes punches don't need to be pulled. |
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"Most people think I'm a cunt.
You're not, you and I rarely agree, likewise with your other half, but you have both always told it as you see it, and stuck to your principles, a little bluntly at times perhaps, but sometimes punches don't need to be pulled."
This  I very rarely agree but I do enjoy Clems posts and ripostes |
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"I spent many years being told that I was worthless, pointless, and everything bad that happened was my fault.
Pretty sure 9/11 wasn’t your fault "
Nope that was down to the Americans masquerading as Islamic terrorists.  |
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) Everyone you have ever met knows a different version of you. Including the version you percieve to be true.
