Settle for second choice...relationship wise.
Tongue in cheek question but seriously would you ?
I'm in a position (proper single) where I'd like a permenant partner, been playing for tooooooooo long would love to settle with the right one.
Had lots of offers for the relationship, do you hold out and think she's out there or think this is as good as it gets for me ?
Serious question, feel times running out, feeling a bit low - that's life
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over a year ago
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"No I'd not settle, hard as it can be on your own it would be much lonelier with the wrong person.
Best wishes x"
This  .
I been there done that twice.
Although at the time I thought they were the right person.
Third time lucky  |
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"Don't settle. And it's never too late to find love and a partner you truly gel with. Stay true to what you want. 
After 18 months of looking you really start to lose faith in yourself "
I wouldn't settle.
I was in an unhappy marriage for 18 years and when I left I promised myself that I wouldn't settle because it's also not fair on that person as I wouldn't give them my true self and give them what they deserve.
I was single for over 4 years before finding my now boyfriend and I am so happy for waiting.
I must point out that my life wasn't put on hold as a single lady, I thoroughly enjoyed my time and experiences.
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"Don't settle. And it's never too late to find love and a partner you truly gel with. Stay true to what you want.
After 18 months of looking you really start to lose faith in yourself "
I have been single for over 10 year as I WILL NOT SETTLE for 2nd best. Rather be happy (ish) single than go through relationship crap if it is not right |
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We were chatting about this at work today, I said no way would I settle or want to be someone’s second best. The problem is actually finding that one person who gives you everything you need, that person that is the ying to your yang, the person who doesn’t quite drive you crazy with all their quirky qualities 
Everyone keeps telling me I need a good man to take care of me and I’m kinda like “does he even exist and where is he” 
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Up to you. I’ve never settled for anything in life, no matter what it is. I won’t be second/third/fourth best either. Probably not made things easy for myself along the way but I guess it’s the way I’m made and to
be honest I’m happy with who I am x
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I think most people settle if honest... I think I found the one. It didn't work... now I look at what it is want and honestly don't think it's possible. So I think really most people get attached to someone they think is "as good as they can get". I didn't think I'll bother again, I think you have to grow together and that take so long to "become one".
I'll settle for a meet that will put a little finger in my bum. |
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I don't really understand what you mean by second choice
If I met someone that I fancied and got on with, I'd give it a whirl and see what happened rather than be prone to thinking there was someone better |
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A5 this point I'd need to be smacked in the face with a hard love punch to settle down. In 15 years time when the kids are gone, my looks have faded and loneliness settles in, who knows. |
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How do you know your settling? Have you actually given these potential 'second best' options a chance to see if they give you everything.
Its easy to say your settling but a lot of the time, we dont truly give people a proper chance |
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"A5 this point I'd need to be smacked in the face with a hard love punch to settle down. In 15 years time when the kids are gone, my looks have faded and loneliness settles in, who knows. "
When I say settle, I mean for a relationship that's potentially more friendship than sparks. |
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I settled once, she gave me 3 amazing children but then she had an affair and fell pregnant from it.... i didn't know till my daughter was almost 3 when the now ex told me while d*unk... i got a dna test to prove her wrong but it turned out to be the only time she had told the truth.
So i walked away heartbroken not for her but for my 4 children (yes I said 4 as I still class the youngest to be my daughter).
Since that day of walking away I vowed to never settle again, but realise this choice will more than likely mean spending the rest of my life single |
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By *icknHMan
over a year ago
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"Settle for second choice...relationship wise.
Tongue in cheek question but seriously would you ?
I'm in a position (proper single) where I'd like a permenant partner, been playing for tooooooooo long would love to settle with the right one.
Mate when you KNOW then it’s all consuming, not a tick box scale...good luck
Had lots of offers for the relationship, do you hold out and think she's out there or think this is as good as it gets for me ?
Serious question, feel times running out, feeling a bit low - that's life
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