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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I thought being as its fathers day we could all share a memory or something about our dads that makes up smile. I guess this doesnt have to be limited to those passed. Ive been without mine for ten years but feels so much longer just had a majorly long cry and not done that in a while!

Mine used to read the same book to me everynight, i used to fall asleep in his arms and he would carry me to bed, he was amazing

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I remember having earache and my dad going to the ice cream van to get me a zoom ice lolly, sitting with a hot water bottle pressed to my ear and the ice lolly was a strange sight lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I lost my dad very unexpectedly almost four years ago, my fondest memory of him is him dancing with me at family parties. Even when I was 20 years old he still danced with me like he did when I was a little girl. I miss him so much everyday, he was only 42 when he passed, it seems so unfair that the most amazing people are taken from us. Happy fathers day to all the amazing daddies out there including my husband who today is celebrating his first fathers day!

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By *aceytopWoman  over a year ago

from a town near you

his face when he saw his first Grandchild

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

lost mines around a month ago now. i remember as kids cuz my dad had a bad back me and my brother would walk on it for him we`d have to hold onto eachother to stop from falling off and dad was always cracking us up

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I was only 11 when I lost my dad, never really got to know him but still miss him everyday.

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By *iewMan  over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I had no relationship with mine but fully appreciate others having fantastic dads and you must miss yours deeply.

all the best to you all x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

So many great memories. He died when I was 21 and he was 52 so we did have the (too brief) time to get to know each other.

Like the OP I still have a weep when certain memories kick in but more aften have a silly grin about the things he used to do.

My dad had a great tenor voice and sang in choirs when he was younger and encouraged me in my music. My one regret is that while I had access to recording studios I never got to record him or us singing.

I know he is still with me every day of my life and when I see mum later today we will raise a glass to a lovely man.

Ok got the tears again ...

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By *ot - CoupleCouple  over a year ago

Glasgow

Thanks for the post OP

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Lost my dad when i was 20 and still miss him every day. Specially when i need shelves puttin up lol. He was amazing exactly like me i always felt noone else undastood me afta he was gone. But now ive produced a teenage daughter thats a real chip of the old block things r better what a nice thread thanks op x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

When mine died I inherited the care of my mother (dementia).

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By *iewMan  over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I love the new VW Polo advert that focuses on the relationship between daughter and father, it truly captures the bond.

It is very touching and seeing the pain in his eyes when she drives off to University moves me every time x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Aw thats brought a tear to my eye now. Yes thanks OP what a lovely thought. Lost my dad 7 years ago now. He was the absolute best.....

On the flip side you have just reminded me that there is a daddy in the house (mr notts) still whose 22 yr old girls might be coming round on spec later. We were thinking about playing later, but I guess I better put think twice about getting dressed for this evening

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By *enithWoman  over a year ago

closer than you think

lost my Dad 11 years ago when he was 62

Tall dark haired with a hint of Dean Martin he was my hero and I always used to tell my friends that I had a famous dad as his name was Cliff Richards!!

One of my favourite memories was standing on his feet and him "waltzing" around the dance floor always makes me cry when I hear Luther Vandross and "Dance with my Father again"

We had lots of laughs together and will shed a tear or two in memory of the greatest dad a girl could wish for.

God Bless you Dad xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

lost mine in 2005. R.I.P to all the fathers no longer with us today! May god bless the all. Billy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I was sent abroad to attend school when I was 14, and did not have a very close relationship with my dad.

He died in 2005 due to smoking related illness, not unexpected, as I expected him to go much sooner due to excesses in his earlier years.

Unfortunately, due to excessive consumption of alcohol, bad memories of him outweighs the good ones significantly.

However, I do have a fond memory of an incident that occurred with I was about 12/3.

My mum got fed up of his d*unkeness, and decided to leave him to fend for himself one night. She took us to a nearby hotel for the night, and my siblings and I were having a whale of a time, watching TV, eating and drinking the contents of the mini bar etc...

Then my mum started to get worried, about him hurting himself by falling over or choking on his own vomit etc., and decided to go home instead, much to the kids' disapproval!

He calmed down significantly since that incident, as he knew my mum was capable of leaving him, which was something he always took for granted.

My mum and I would often joked and reminded him of this incident in his latter years, when he had to give up smoking and drinking due to health reasons.

Dad, Happy Father's Day, wherever you may be, and thanks for looking out for me.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

My thought goes to my late partner's family, as well as his son's, as both have passed away in 2008 and 2011 respectively.

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By *odareyouMan  over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I ve tried writing this so many times and my words don't do him justice... so I'm going to use the words mum had the vicar use at the funeral ...

Mum said 'he was a prince among men..'

I think thats good enough ...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"lost mine in 2005. R.I.P to all the fathers no longer with us today! May god bless the all. Billy"
mine too...2005.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

Dont really have a relationship with my dad, although we have built bridges in the last 5 years. I do remember ringing him when callum was born and his girlfriend had to take over the phone cause he was crying that much.

So the relationship i have with him now is probebly the best it will get, but it something better than it was

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By *ush_tushWoman  over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm in the bath, reading this thread and the tears are just falling...

My dad died in January and we always made a fuss - he was in his 90's but his spirit and mind were his 40's, a lively character who did far more for others than himself. a true inspiration to all his kids.

I shall raise a glass of 30 yr old Speyside single malt in his honour today.

Miss you Pop

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I never really new my natural dad as he left us when I was 3 yrs old my big influence growing up was my grandad who I take this day to remember. He was my inspiration to join the marines as he was a commando in ww2 my proudest moment was my passing out parade receiving my green beret and commando insignia in front off grandad who was in his regimental blazer and green beret. I miss him every day but especially today. Love u grandad Chris x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I lost my dad 7 months ago. One of my fondest memories of him is him staying on the phone to me when I was in labour with my first baby. He talked to me for over 2 hours before we both decided it was time for me to go to the hospital. He was a lovely man, a good dad and an excellent granddad xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

My dad used to take me to the pub a lot.

He did start to get very grumpy in his old age though.

I still miss him though.

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By *stwoforfun2Couple  over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

I ( Mr ) sadly lost my Dad at 18, over 30 years ago. We used to watch last of the summer wine together and loved Tommy Cooper, two joys that me and my 10 year old son enjoy together all these years later.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I lost mine the week before my 10th birthday to bowel cancer...there isnt a day goes by that i dont wish he was here today...i always have and always will feel lost without him...love you Dad xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

My dad taught me to drink when I was about 10, and I could help myself to the bar and fridge.

He said it is better for me to know how to handle drink at social gatherings at an early age.

Nearly all his sibling drank quite heavily, he was one of 14, and some died of alcohol related illnesses.

Thanks, Dad! I shall raise a glass to you later.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Every Sunday after church, long walks through the orchards while Mum finished up the roast. Then Sunday afternoon jolly car rides to the sea or a river. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Lovely thread

My dad died just after New Years 2000, he was in hospital 3 days when mum said I should come home, he hadn't spoken that whole time but when he heard my voice in the room he opened his eyes and said my name

He was very gentlemanly, a rubbish dancer lol! a good golfer, unassuming and kind.

I would sit on the floor at the arm of his fave chair when I was a little girl, and his big heavy hand would land on my head and he would stroke my hair saying "how's my wee Henny-Penny?"

He was a very quiet man and apperently when I was 3 I eventually asked my mum

" mummy?, who is that old man who sits in that chair? " lol! ...he worked 7 days a week, so in fairness I didn't see him as much would've been nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Ah thanks for your replies guys, i posted this when i got in from work this morning and i just woke up to read your replies, now im balling again lol! Gotta go to work again tonight so hope im less tearful at 6pm! Happy fathers day to all your dads and father figures past and present x x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ah thanks for your replies guys, i posted this when i got in from work this morning and i just woke up to read your replies, now im balling again lol! Gotta go to work again tonight so hope im less tearful at 6pm! Happy fathers day to all your dads and father figures past and present x x "

xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

My parents taught all 3 of us to play Mah-jong from an early age.

Again, it had something to do with being able to socialise with the others at big family events.

One of them would sit at the table to make up the numbers, while the other would move from one person to the next to help with moves etc...

He came over to the UK to study in his youth briefly, and was definitely an Anglophile. To this day, I believe he was "summoned" to go back home as he was at risk of getting hitched with a local lady. We found some old black and white photos from his time in the UK when we were clearing the family home in readiness for my parents' immigration to another country, and there were a few that featured a nice looking lady.

He was very coy about them when we quizzed him about her!

He taught us all about western table manners like cutlery and glasses at an early age etc...

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By *edbagioMan  over a year ago

ripon

hard to take this part of life;

the passing on of loved ones.

mine passed on two yrs and still

feel the loss.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

fathers day has no meaning for me at all.

he was a bully to us and my mother.

and then left her for another woman and sold the house from under her.

she was left with nothing, and i do mean nothing. just the clothes she has.

she had to move in with me because at the time she didnt have any money to rent a place.

and my old man has never once made any sort of contact with the family or his grand children.

because he knows, when i find him.

bad things will happen.

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