Hello, I'll probably get slatted for this, but after some advise. I started a relationship 18 weeks ago with a woman, we have been social bubbling and are starting to explore my kinks and she has discovered some of my toys which she would love to try with me, this includes a double ended dildo. However how do I approach the fact I enjoy receiving anal and obviously how to do in conversation that I like to crossdress.
She has said she wants to explore my deepest darkest desires and that I should tell them her, but I fear this might be a bit too much. Any help would be very much appreciated and thank you in advance.
Love John/Sara xxx |
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"Just tell her. She wants to know more about your kinks and maybe if you can't be completely yourself with her then she isn't right for you."
This, absolutely.
Just be open and honest, either this is for her or it isn't. It's best to find out now. |
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Honesty is best . I kept my dressing and kinks quiet for yrs with different partners and my ex wife .
If they don’t accept you for what you are it’ll never work .
I told my now mrs straight out when we first started getting to know each other .
We’ve been together 7 yrs now .  |
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I agree with the advice above.
Its important to be true to yourself and enjoy your sexual desires as much as anyone else. You already have her wanting to know your desires and so now it's your turn to be open and honest.
Very best wishes to you OP  |
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Absolutely find a way ASAP to let her know as more often than not it isn't the crossdressing that is the issue so much as the lies and deceit that comes from hiding it for so long.
Couple that further down the line with not explaining it all and enjoying anal play, you are on a road to her thinking that you are also secretly gay and not into women either and you've only been with her to try and hide both things.
Honesty really is the best policy here and many like you and me will have a similar story or 2 like this to tell.
Its always better try to get it into the open and hope it works out or even to live alone and end up finding someone who will accept you than it is to live a frustrated and unsatisfying lie......for both of you.
Good luck OP. |
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My gf didn t even suspect I did when we first got together but interestingly she wanted to see me dressed so I obliged after constant lil pushes..didn t tell her til afterward but earliest is best as all have said above..admittedly I don t dress an awful lot these days but I tell when I have and she s over the moon because she understands its a part of me. Enjoy x  |
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I’ve had five major relationships in my life, in each I told the woman involved about my crossdressing. Non of those relationships broke down over the dressing. Not all were supportive, but non denied the fact it was a part of the person I am.
Obviously I never did this on the first date but once it appeared to be getting serious, I ensured they knew.
Hopefully she’ll understand, good luck |
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