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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A simple question: how do you show someone interest? Are you blunt or play long game of getting to know someone? Observe and send little hints? Crack on and set up a social? Use a friend to find out if there is a mutual interest? Or you let others chase you? And when do you "give up"?

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say I am pretty forward and very flirtatious. I don't have any issues with letting someone know that I'm into them.

I usually give up trying when I don't get the same energy back o.O

What about you lovely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would say I am pretty forward and very flirtatious. I don't have any issues with letting someone know that I'm into them.

I usually give up trying when I don't get the same energy back o.O

What about you lovely? "

Does that mean I get to have booty and booby snuggles one day

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi LBC you are a wonderful and fun flirt. Always enjoy reading you.

I am flirty without much weight into it. If I open up to someone and seek their company out of forum that means much more. I am not that straight forward I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A simple question: how do you show someone interest? Are you blunt or play long game of getting to know someone? Observe and send little hints? Crack on and set up a social? Use a friend to find out if there is a mutual interest? Or you let others chase you? And when do you "give up"?

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

Forum flirting is fun, but I think it's just that to be honest. I've tried responding to forum flirts in PM in the past, and generally gotten nowhere

If I see a profile I like I'll drop them a line to say so, but my most successful interactions on here have come from me responding to others' initial messages. Maybe my first messages just aren't up to much... who knows?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

If someone approaches us and I'm keen then I flirt a bit, get to know them a bit then come out and tell them I'm keen. Like alot of folk we struggle for time for meets around life and kids etc so if we come across a good un I explain that and that we are interested but they might have to bare with us

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

That's is a hard question. I dunno. If you click you click.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh god it depends if I just want sex then it’s a bit of flirty banter naughty messages and teasing. If I want someone in an other way I can be quite forward and tell them I like them. Generally I find being honest and straightforward works with both!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I flirt on the forum a little, maybe pm them about something from there.

Gauge interest to see if its got legs.

See if they have continued interest over time,or if they are like a kid in a sweetshop, I avoid.

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By *penbicoupleCouple over a year ago

Northampton

Google 'HOTAPE'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just struggle with subtly and social cues so unless some one was clearly making it obvious, I'd probably not be able to tell anyone liking me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

Forum flirting is fun, but I think it's just that to be honest. I've tried responding to forum flirts in PM in the past, and generally gotten nowhere

The most interesting ones came for me of the back of some interesting comments.. rather than cold selling oneself. It's hard to stand out of the crowd, but if someone shows personal interest in my thoughts then I think that increases their chances rather than another compliment about looks, like many do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

Good things are worth waiting for I say. Like Christmas

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That's is a hard question. I dunno. If you click you click. "

That's ok. It's me overthinking again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh god it depends if I just want sex then it’s a bit of flirty banter naughty messages and teasing. If I want someone in an other way I can be quite forward and tell them I like them. Generally I find being honest and straightforward works with both! "

Give me some lessons

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Google 'HOTAPE'. "

I will!

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

Forum flirting is fun, but I think it's just that to be honest. I've tried responding to forum flirts in PM in the past, and generally gotten nowhere

That's a good point about engaging with the person, rather than just complimenting the pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just struggle with subtly and social cues so unless some one was clearly making it obvious, I'd probably not be able to tell anyone liking me x"

But you put it out there so now if someone does like you and reads it.. here is a very strong cue for them

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Google 'HOTAPE'. "

I've been described as a hot ape.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me..."

Were you serenading her?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just struggle with subtly and social cues so unless some one was clearly making it obvious, I'd probably not be able to tell anyone liking me x

But you put it out there so now if someone does like you and reads it.. here is a very strong cue for them

I hope so, I miss feeling wanted

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

Sometimes I am blunt. But that doesn't always work. So I tend to tailor it to the situation and the person

I recently tried blunt and it got me nowhere. So now? Now I'm in flirty mode for however long that lasts. Sometimes they are just so foolish that they dont appreciate when I'm blunt with what i want. Their loss I guess and I move on. Doesn't upset me any more. I just delete and carry on having harmless fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape. "

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm crap at flirting, never know if a guy is genuinely interested

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I find it harder to recognise genuine interest than I think I express my own. If I'm interested you'll probably know. Or not, fuck knows. Forum flirting I take with a mug of salt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just struggle with subtly and social cues so unless some one was clearly making it obvious, I'd probably not be able to tell anyone liking me x

But you put it out there so now if someone does like you and reads it.. here is a very strong cue for them

I hope so, I miss feeling wanted "

Aww

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors.. "

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sometimes I am blunt. But that doesn't always work. So I tend to tailor it to the situation and the person

I like tailoring tip! As long as its within my comfort zone I would probably try. Otherwise I would most likely regret it next day.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

Were you serenading her?

No. Just staring. Didn't want to ruin my chances with my terrible singing voice y'know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just front it sometimes comes over a bit cocky though

I am rubbish at messaging i know what i want to say but don’t no how to put it.

Better face to face

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME "

Must love these Aha! Moments when you look back..

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

"Sometimes I am blunt. But that doesn't always work. So I tend to tailor it to the situation and the person

I like tailoring tip! As long as its within my comfort zone I would probably try. Otherwise I would most likely regret it next day. "

Yes that happens. But the odds are in our favour on here. So no point crying over a wasted opportunity.

Harsh of me maybe but...NEXT!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

Were you serenading her?

No. Just staring. Didn't want to ruin my chances with my terrible singing voice y'know

I went to check if you had a voice video but no.. damn !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just front it sometimes comes over a bit cocky though

I am rubbish at messaging i know what i want to say but don’t no how to put it.

Better face to face "

But to get to face to face one needs to get through their inbox first! Tricky eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a slow burner and prefer to suss out if we actually like each other as people first

I don't find any substance in fickle flirting with a stranger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

Were you serenading her?

No. Just staring. Didn't want to ruin my chances with my terrible singing voice y'know

I thought that qas a pigeon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I gave up long ago.

Flirting is beyond me, interest has to be mutual, but then I have learned to trust little that others say on here.

Actions, well they tend to have more substance than words, yet words and actions often don't match....

Chase? If its not mutual, then there is no point in chasing lost causes.....

Of course the downside to all that is that sometimes the chase can be fun, the flirting stimulating, and if the words and actions match then it can be completely life changing.....

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

Were you serenading her?

No. Just staring. Didn't want to ruin my chances with my terrible singing voice y'know

I thought that qas a pigeon

Seriously, I do a pretty mean wood pigeon bird noise.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

"I think I gave up long ago.

Flirting is beyond me, interest has to be mutual, but then I have learned to trust little that others say on here.

Actions, well they tend to have more substance than words, yet words and actions often don't match....

Chase? If its not mutual, then there is no point in chasing lost causes.....

Of course the downside to all that is that sometimes the chase can be fun, the flirting stimulating, and if the words and actions match then it can be completely life changing.....

Oh in the right situation with a connection in body and mind. Very life changing

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By *ulahlollipopWoman over a year ago

Reading/London

I’m ridiculously shy hidden behind a veneer of hyper-flirtiness, if I don’t get a very obvious green light quite quickly I just fade away. So many people I’ve desperately fancied and lost because I’ve never had the guts to follow through and be direct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

Were you serenading her?

No. Just staring. Didn't want to ruin my chances with my terrible singing voice y'know

I thought that qas a pigeon

Seriously, I do a pretty mean wood pigeon bird noise.

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME

Must love these Aha! Moments when you look back..

Spend my life kicking myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sometimes I am blunt. But that doesn't always work. So I tend to tailor it to the situation and the person

I like tailoring tip! As long as its within my comfort zone I would probably try. Otherwise I would most likely regret it next day.

Yes that happens. But the odds are in our favour on here. So no point crying over a wasted opportunity.

Harsh of me maybe but...NEXT!

Harsh or self protective. Only you can label it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think to much about it, in real life We sometimes get on with some people better than others. It’s the same online, on here it’s even trickier because people worry a lot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just front it sometimes comes over a bit cocky though

I am rubbish at messaging i know what i want to say but don’t no how to put it.

Better face to face

But to get to face to face one needs to get through their inbox first! Tricky eh? "

Very!! really though. Am not the sharpest knife in the draw,i stuggle with words i said it. I can hold a convo an will make you laugh its just the message bit

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a slow burner and prefer to suss out if we actually like each other as people first

I don't find any substance in fickle flirting with a stranger "

I relate to first part. Then it feels like meeting someone you really know the essence of and not much can surprise you negatively.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm crap at flirting, never know if a guy is genuinely interested"

Then it's best if they make it known !

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I'm usually very direct and will just message someone - I've only ever met one person that I didn't initiate contact with, although he was on my radar, he just beat me to the first message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Apparently, sitting in the tree outside the lady of your affection's window, staring in at her at 2AM is unacceptable!

Or so the Police Officer told me...

Were you serenading her?

No. Just staring. Didn't want to ruin my chances with my terrible singing voice y'know

I thought that qas a pigeon

Did you throw some bread crumbs at him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think I gave up long ago.

Flirting is beyond me, interest has to be mutual, but then I have learned to trust little that others say on here.

Actions, well they tend to have more substance than words, yet words and actions often don't match....

Chase? If its not mutual, then there is no point in chasing lost causes.....

Of course the downside to all that is that sometimes the chase can be fun, the flirting stimulating, and if the words and actions match then it can be completely life changing.....

Yes.. I suppose timing to make it work for both and hit right mind spots can be a challenge. But then.. oh the joy! So maybe not giving up just yet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m ridiculously shy hidden behind a veneer of hyper-flirtiness, if I don’t get a very obvious green light quite quickly I just fade away. So many people I’ve desperately fancied and lost because I’ve never had the guts to follow through and be direct

Ah same. But I try not look back. I always tell myself that if they dont get my subtle hints then they weren't right in the first place. Or that's my pathetic excuse anyway !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME

Must love these Aha! Moments when you look back..

Spend my life kicking myself"

It's a good exercise my app tells me

Onwards and upwards.

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

I wish I was better at it. Once we’ve established a friendship it’s mostly good and I keep my Fab friends for ages but getting to that point is difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t think to much about it, in real life We sometimes get on with some people better than others. It’s the same online, on here it’s even trickier because people worry a lot "

Maybe here the worries are just more visible as they are written?

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm usually pretty direct. If I want something I'm not going to play games or sit around and hope they come to me. I like to message for a while but if the interest seems mutual I'm happy to ask about a social.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just front it sometimes comes over a bit cocky though

I am rubbish at messaging i know what i want to say but don’t no how to put it.

Better face to face

But to get to face to face one needs to get through their inbox first! Tricky eh?

Very!! really though. Am not the sharpest knife in the draw,i stuggle with words i said it. I can hold a convo an will make you laugh its just the message bit "

Ah dont be hard on yourself. We all shine in different ways.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm usually very direct and will just message someone - I've only ever met one person that I didn't initiate contact with, although he was on my radar, he just beat me to the first message. "

I wanted to say you are lucky. But then I realised you arent. You make it work for yourself. That's a great skill

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I'm not really one for fora flirting to convey genuine interest (when talking to someone new), I think it's more for the person doing it than the one it is directed to if that makes sense?

If I like someone I will find any excuse to message them or go up to them, regardless of how crappy an opening it is.

I do like getting to know someone but I don't see it as a "long game", for me I enjoy the experience of learning about someone and talking to them, anything else that happens is a bonus and it's not done thinking oh I really want to fuck them. I tend to find those feelings happen the more I know someone anyway. A friend once sort of set me up with someone? But that's more she thought we'd get on, we work in the same industry and we were talking about his photos. I still had to message him first with my usual waffling cringe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm rubbish at flirting or knowing when someone is flirting with me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t think to much about it, in real life We sometimes get on with some people better than others. It’s the same online, on here it’s even trickier because people worry a lot

Maybe here the worries are just more visible as they are written? "

We are all different, I don’t worry about people’s perception of me if they don’t me. It’s just something that keeps us occupied and if something comes from it then great, if not then no harm has been done

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME

Must love these Aha! Moments when you look back..

Spend my life kicking myself

It's a good exercise my app tells me

Onwards and upwards. "

More like sideways. But it's somewhere!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just front it sometimes comes over a bit cocky though

I am rubbish at messaging i know what i want to say but don’t no how to put it.

Better face to face

But to get to face to face one needs to get through their inbox first! Tricky eh?

Very!! really though. Am not the sharpest knife in the draw,i stuggle with words i said it. I can hold a convo an will make you laugh its just the message bit

Ah dont be hard on yourself. We all shine in different ways. "

Not hard just the truth!! pen an paper no hope at alll timber brick construction boom very practical Good with my hands!!! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Read profile. That's how I usually approach a potential meet

You know it's going nowhere when a message is read and then you have not received a reply. I give it a week and then give up.

When you send a face picture and request one in return and it goes silent. That's instantly going nowhere. Give up.

When the yellow highlight on an unread message never turns white. Yet you see them floating around the site

. Probably a sign they don't want to know you like that.

The biggest give away it's not going anywhere is the dreaded block button

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just try to start a conversation, and then leave when they ignore me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wish I was better at it. Once we’ve established a friendship it’s mostly good and I keep my Fab friends for ages but getting to that point is difficult "

High 5. Its rare for me to just click with someone.

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By *olex99Man over a year ago

Hull

I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm usually pretty direct. If I want something I'm not going to play games or sit around and hope they come to me. I like to message for a while but if the interest seems mutual I'm happy to ask about a social. "

Not a princess in a tower then

Directing your own fab destiny seems like the ultimate goal.

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By *abasaurus RexMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Tend to get to know someone. Think it’s another reason I have more success through dating apps than fab, and in person - I’m much more flirtatious when I know that the attraction is reciprocated.

I’m absolutely awful at picking up flirting in person unless it’s pretty direct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

You do realise there are about 10 time’s more men than woman. Don’t expect loads of attention, a thick skin is required

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not really one for fora flirting to convey genuine interest (when talking to someone new), I think it's more for the person doing it than the one it is directed to if that makes sense?

If I like someone I will find any excuse to message them or go up to them, regardless of how crappy an opening it is.

Yes it does make sense.

I enjoy that too.. I do message first as well, just realised as I have too much time on my hands and think a lot.. how I struggle to convey it to something sexual at times. But those are the most precious meets after a long build up with no ti_eline or tick list.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME

Must love these Aha! Moments when you look back..

Spend my life kicking myself

It's a good exercise my app tells me

Onwards and upwards.

More like sideways. But it's somewhere! "

Can you do splits?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm rubbish at flirting or knowing when someone is flirting with me"

Are you more direct then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t think to much about it, in real life We sometimes get on with some people better than others. It’s the same online, on here it’s even trickier because people worry a lot

Maybe here the worries are just more visible as they are written?

Light hearted approach is probably good choice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will generally admire from a distance til I grow the metaphorical bollocks required to let them know I'm interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Read profile. That's how I usually approach a potential meet

You know it's going nowhere when a message is read and then you have not received a reply. I give it a week and then give up.

When you send a face picture and request one in return and it goes silent. That's instantly going nowhere. Give up.

When the yellow highlight on an unread message never turns white. Yet you see them floating around the site

. Probably a sign they don't want to know you like that.

The biggest give away it's not going anywhere is the dreaded block button

Jesus.. I'm awful with my inbox. I need to be in the right state of mind to get into ping pong of messages. But when it works I like to move on to another platform of communication and have that contact whenever possible because I know they are someone who will respect my space and when we do have time for each other it will be a great pleasurable or meaningful moment/words exchange.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t think to much about it, in real life We sometimes get on with some people better than others. It’s the same online, on here it’s even trickier because people worry a lot

Maybe here the worries are just more visible as they are written?

Light hearted approach is probably good choice.

See it’s not a choice to me it’s just how I look at things. So much easier to doubt ourselves than realise everyone doubts themselves

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just try to start a conversation, and then leave when they ignore me."

Does it work?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

I like the courage you had to send an obvious hint

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Tend to get to know someone. Think it’s another reason I have more success through dating apps than fab, and in person - I’m much more flirtatious when I know that the attraction is reciprocated.

I’m absolutely awful at picking up flirting in person unless it’s pretty direct

Someone has to make the move! When you say I'm better at flirting when I know that attraction is reciprocated.. that means you are waiting for your object of interest to send you a direct message first?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I might flirt on the forum if I can think of a flirty reply to a post.

I might send a message off of the back of a thread, someone might send me a message off of something I've written. The messaging might continue for a bit then stop. Then re-start if something else crops up.

But I'm not going to instantly think we've had a few messages so when are we going to fuck (bit tricky at the moment anyway).

I do like to let things happen organically. I'll message if there's something I want to say rather than just cold messaging - I save those for the threads where you are asked to send someone something nice or tell someone you fancy them.

If someone wants to be direct with me and send me a message to say 'you're a bit of alright

' then I'll take that. And then if it goes further great and if not no biggie - I might have still had an enjoyable conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I will generally admire from a distance til I grow the metaphorical bollocks required to let them know I'm interested

Metaphorical bollocks

Nothing wrong with long admiring. Let's you see their behaviour over period of time

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Google 'HOTAPE'.

I've been described as a hot ape.

Hahaha

Hot for sure. Ape.. well technically looking at our ancestors..

OH MY GOD THEY WERE FLIRTING WITH ME

Must love these Aha! Moments when you look back..

Spend my life kicking myself

It's a good exercise my app tells me

Onwards and upwards.

More like sideways. But it's somewhere!

Can you do splits?

Working on it - soon

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By *hunky GentMan over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I try to see if my flirting works and take it as a good sign if they don't laugh too much. Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I want someone I make it extremely clear I'm after them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them.

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By *abasaurus RexMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I’m absolutely awful at picking up flirting in person unless it’s pretty direct

Honestly? I think I just hate the thought of ever being that creepy guy that hits on people, so I just don’t. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Read profile. That's how I usually approach a potential meet

You know it's going nowhere when a message is read and then you have not received a reply. I give it a week and then give up.

When you send a face picture and request one in return and it goes silent. That's instantly going nowhere. Give up.

When the yellow highlight on an unread message never turns white. Yet you see them floating around the site

. Probably a sign they don't want to know you like that.

The biggest give away it's not going anywhere is the dreaded block button

Why bring Jesus into these irreligious activities

If you read my profile I like to move things on

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I might flirt on the forum if I can think of a flirty reply to a post.

But I'm not going to instantly think we've had a few messages so when are we going to fuck (bit tricky at the moment anyway).

If someone wants to be direct with me and send me a message to say 'you're a bit of alright

' then I'll take that. And then if it goes further great and if not no biggie - I might have still had an enjoyable conversation."

Second paragraph that's close to what happens in my inbox. Interesting thoughts on and off.

And yes those nicety threads can be a great ice breaker.

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By *arl17Man over a year ago

Central Portugal

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them. "

Me to, can’t be arsed with all the timewasters here tbh x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I try to see if my flirting works and take it as a good sign if they don't laugh too much. Lol "

I'm sure I read many times on here that laughter can be as important outside of the bedroom as inside!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I want someone I make it extremely clear I'm after them

Saves you lots of time I guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them. "

Oh if they read it they must feel even more special !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A flirting message often do the job for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m absolutely awful at picking up flirting in person unless it’s pretty direct

Honestly? I think I just hate the thought of ever being that creepy guy that hits on people, so I just don’t. Haha. "

As long as those you like can discover you in your "safe haven"

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By *imBanksMan over a year ago

Letchworth

Flirting in person and forum flirting are 2 different things. It's often hard to write a few words that a gesture or expression would say much more clearly.

Carrying on from a flirty chat is harder at the moment with the current situation as the opportunity to meet is not as easy. The message tennis soon fizzles out, especially if it seems to be one sided

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Read profile. That's how I usually approach a potential meet

You know it's going nowhere when a message is read and then you have not received a reply. I give it a week and then give up.

When you send a face picture and request one in return and it goes silent. That's instantly going nowhere. Give up.

When the yellow highlight on an unread message never turns white. Yet you see them floating around the site

. Probably a sign they don't want to know you like that.

The biggest give away it's not going anywhere is the dreaded block button

Why bring Jesus into these irreligious activities

If you read my profile I like to move things on

Ah yes I see the last sentence!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them.

Me to, can’t be arsed with all the timewasters here tbh x

I dont see it as time wasting.. as some mentioned it is nice to take time to get to know someone without expecting too much.

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By *olex99Man over a year ago

Hull

"I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

I like the courage you had to send an obvious hint

It still hasn't made a difference lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them.

Me to, can’t be arsed with all the timewasters here tbh x

I dont see it as time wasting.. as some mentioned it is nice to take time to get to know someone without expecting too much. "

Totally agree with you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

I like the courage you had to send an obvious hint

It still hasn't made a difference lol"

Have you tried winking with the other eye

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By *arl17Man over a year ago

Central Portugal

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them.

Me to, can’t be arsed with all the timewasters here tbh x

I dont see it as time wasting.. as some mentioned it is nice to take time to get to know someone without expecting too much. "

Your on Fab lol x

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By *alking HeadMan over a year ago

Bolton

What's wrong with pushing a cucumber through their letterbox and shouting "HOW ABOUT IT LOVE?"

Some of the time, it works every time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them.

Me to, can’t be arsed with all the timewasters here tbh x

I dont see it as time wasting.. as some mentioned it is nice to take time to get to know someone without expecting too much.

Your on Fab lol x"

Maybe my fab experience is different to yours.

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I’m absolutely awful at picking up flirting in person unless it’s pretty direct

Honestly? I think I just hate the thought of ever being that creepy guy that hits on people, so I just don’t. Haha. "

I feel that. As much as you know you're not that guy. My instinct in person is that they probably don't want to be hassled, or hit on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Flirting in person and forum flirting are 2 different things. It's often hard to write a few words that a gesture or expression would say much more clearly.

Cant cover in words everything your face, body language and voice would say. Painting a picture of interest is some task!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I make it clear early on, I'm much better at flirting face to face! I've found it really hard on here during lockdown to sustain discourse: I'd normally ask for a social as soon as possible.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

I like the courage you had to send an obvious hint

It still hasn't made a difference lol"

Maybe time will prove you wrong. I hope so anyway

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I talk to them.

If i maintain communication for more than a week then get your coat you’ve pulled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I flirt better in person. It doesn't work for me on here & I'm rubbish at picking up subtle hints. So ladies, make it obvious please

I like the courage you had to send an obvious hint

It still hasn't made a difference lol

Have you tried winking with the other eye

This brings me to an important question .. why there is only left wink emoji?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's wrong with pushing a cucumber through their letterbox and shouting "HOW ABOUT IT LOVE?"

Some of the time, it works every time."

That's a mighty letterbox. Unless you get shredded pushing too hard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I make it clear early on, I'm much better at flirting face to face! I've found it really hard on here during lockdown to sustain discourse: I'd normally ask for a social as soon as possible. "

It’s hard to know during lockdown

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I want someone I make it extremely clear I'm after them

Saves you lots of time I guess

"
exactly lol. No point in beating about the bush lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I make it clear early on, I'm much better at flirting face to face! I've found it really hard on here during lockdown to sustain discourse: I'd normally ask for a social as soon as possible. "

It's so unusual not being able to progress at normal (for everyone) pace..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just try to start a conversation, and then leave when they ignore me.

Does it work? "

No one's punched me for being a pushy cunt so far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I talk to them.

If i maintain communication for more than a week then get your coat you’ve pulled.

Yes there is only so many compliments and general chit chat which can last for more than a day or two

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By *alking HeadMan over a year ago

Bolton

"What's wrong with pushing a cucumber through their letterbox and shouting "HOW ABOUT IT LOVE?"

Some of the time, it works every time.

That's a mighty letterbox. Unless you get shredded pushing too hard.

You haven't seen my cucumber!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Face to face flirting or vocally flirting on the phone is so much easier.

I find texting becomes a tad tedious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I try to see if my flirting works and take it as a good sign if they don't laugh too much. Lol

I'm sure I read many times on here that laughter can be as important outside of the bedroom as inside! "

They know who they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I make it clear early on, I'm much better at flirting face to face! I've found it really hard on here during lockdown to sustain discourse: I'd normally ask for a social as soon as possible.

It’s hard to know during lockdown "

Yet not impossible

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just try to start a conversation, and then leave when they ignore me.

Does it work?

No one's punched me for being a pushy cunt so far."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What's wrong with pushing a cucumber through their letterbox and shouting "HOW ABOUT IT LOVE?"

Some of the time, it works every time.

That's a mighty letterbox. Unless you get shredded pushing too hard.

You haven't seen my cucumber!

Your havent seen my grater box.

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By *arl17Man over a year ago

Central Portugal

"I’m pretty forward. If I like you, you’ll know about it

But I’m pretty picky. The few people I speak to regularly I messaged first because I chose them.

Me to, can’t be arsed with all the timewasters here tbh x

I dont see it as time wasting.. as some mentioned it is nice to take time to get to know someone without expecting too much.

Your on Fab lol x

Maybe my fab experience is different to yours. "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Face to face flirting or vocally flirting on the phone is so much easier.

I find texting becomes a tad tedious.

I see. I do enjoy it and obviously we are in circumstances where it's hard to progress!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Face to face flirting or vocally flirting on the phone is so much easier.

I find texting becomes a tad tedious.

I see. I do enjoy it and obviously we are in circumstances where it's hard to progress! "

I have shown lockdown the full respect since early Feb.

So many are hesitant to talk on phone. It gets things moving

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By *rivateparts!Man over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I'm a flirt in the forums but when push comes to shove, then I go shy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on the context and what the context allows but I usually make it known if the woman seems receptive. Otherwise I just flirt for the sake of it without really trying anything. Just more to make them feel good.

I love paying compliments to elderly women, their smiles make my day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I blunt just say what I want that thee way I like it too. Got message other day she fit simply said I have to have that cock...&later dshe is x

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By *edeWoman over a year ago

the abyss

I'm not sure I know how to flirt - but I'm very much a wait to be spoken to first type of girl. Wish I had more confidence to be able to make the first move - maybe one day

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I like a bit of forum flirting, it’s good fun.

I like to get to know someone a bit before I decide I’d like to actually meet them and I’d need to be attracted to them from what I could see on their pictures. Sometimes that feeling of wanting to meet them can come really quickly and other times it’s a slow build. But once I know I am fairly direct about it. I don’t like playing games with people’s emotions and I don’t like it when it happens to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can t tell when someones flirting with me or just having a laugh or being friendly and Im not the type to be presumptious so I just talk to people as normal. Unless you re full on and up front the chances are we d part company having had a laugh etc. The thing is with me I ve spent a lot of my life alone, even when in a crowd so though I interact well with the right people it doesn t mean I can distinguish certain attitudes such as flirting...does that make sense? Basically you d have to come on very strong and obvious with me otherwise you re just liable to get the gentleman that opens the door for you on the way out and says good bye

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Face to face flirting or vocally flirting on the phone is so much easier.

I find texting becomes a tad tedious.

I see. I do enjoy it and obviously we are in circumstances where it's hard to progress!

I have shown lockdown the full respect since early Feb.

So many are hesitant to talk on phone. It gets things moving

It can help indeed especially if one is sensitive to voice

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Forum flirting is just for fun, not to be taken seriously at all.

My meet flirting is behind the scenes and it will go from a initial let's chat to a social pretty quickly. Distance meets take a bit more time and would come under more intricate getting to know each other as we would be investing in travel, hotels etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm a flirt in the forums but when push comes to shove, then I go shy!"

But flirting must help a little. Shyness can be seen as charming too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends on the context and what the context allows but I usually make it known if the woman seems receptive. Otherwise I just flirt for the sake of it without really trying anything. Just more to make them feel good.

I love paying compliments to elderly women, their smiles make my day"

It's my birthday soon.. there is hope I classify as elderly then;-)

I see flirting very similar. It makes me and others feel good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I blunt just say what I want that thee way I like it too. Got message other day she fit simply said I have to have that cock...&later dshe is x"

Glad direct works for you. Just shows there is not one effective approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not sure I know how to flirt - but I'm very much a wait to be spoken to first type of girl. Wish I had more confidence to be able to make the first move - maybe one day

I wish you the courage to take that step one day. It can be nerve wracking but it's nice to tip scales of 'power' and reach out first for what you desire.

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Although the questions are simple the answer for me is not:

There are people I would like to get to know more outside of the forum to see if there is a connection or just a friendship. But I think it's tough to break through the barriers sometime due to the sheer volume of messages that women and couples receive. Flirt a little and see if I can build a rapport before taking the plunge. But it could take a while.

As for me I think I like a bit of flirting and if I haven't picked up that your flirting ( I can be a little blind to this) then just tell me. Chances are I have already had my eye on you and was deciding to what to do..

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Depends where I am.... At a club in a jacuzzi i'll probably just suck your dick.

In here or in real life my walls are probably up so high I'd not notice any flirtation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I try and play the long game but sometimes that rush of blood !!! Game over...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like a bit of forum flirting, it’s good fun.

I need clarity too but some mystery along the way is welcome.. heightening tension a little perhaps? But it's good to be assertive.. and dont let anyone fool you.

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By *luebellRacerCouple over a year ago

Shropshire

Little bit of forum flirting or straight in with face pic message. No point pursuing if there's going to be no interest.

I've got thick skin, so won't take a no personally. I'm also known for jumping in feet first!

Never ask, you'll never know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send a FAF and thirty dick pics.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

This!

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can t tell when someones flirting with me or just having a laugh or being friendly and Im not the type to be presumptious so I just talk to people as normal. Unless you re full on and up front the chances are we d part company having had a laugh etc. The thing is with me I ve spent a lot of my life alone, even when in a crowd so though I interact well with the right people it doesn t mean I can distinguish certain attitudes such as flirting...does that make sense? Basically you d have to come on very strong and obvious with me otherwise you re just liable to get the gentleman that opens the door for you on the way out and says good bye

Why not good evening ! Why goodbye?

I get it. I'm not great with eye contact so I have to rely on other cues. We all manage somehow

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Forum flirting is just for fun, not to be taken seriously at all.

The practical bit is important to.. you wouldnt want to be stood up after travelling substantial distance..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Although the questions are simple the answer for me is not:

Putting yourself out there and being Frank about intentions can be terrifying but good to take a plunge if someone caught our eye

I suppose Am I on your hotlist thread or ooft can be helpful with that !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Depends where I am.... At a club in a jacuzzi i'll probably just suck your dick.

In here or in real life my walls are probably up so high I'd not notice any flirtation. "

May I ask why such a difference in approach?

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By *umalotagainMan over a year ago

a town called malice

Light is often greener than you might think

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I try and play the long game but sometimes that rush of blood !!! Game over..."

There is always a bonus of learning

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Little bit of forum flirting or straight in with face pic message. No point pursuing if there's going to be no interest.

I've got thick skin, so won't take a no personally. I'm also known for jumping in feet first!

Never ask, you'll never know!

I shall take a note

maybe carrying with not knowing is just prolonging the dreamy fantasy for some before they hear final no?

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By *etite_delightWoman over a year ago

BunnyLand

My approach is in general; to observe and send little hints then I expect to get cracked on and receive a request to set up a social.

If my hints don’t work, I usually give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I send a FAF and thirty dick pics."

That's some good catalogue of cock photography you have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im shy so tend to build up slowly and take my lead from them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My approach is in general; to observe and send little hints then I expect to get cracked on and receive a request to set up a social.

If my hints don’t work, I usually give up

That has been me for a lot of the time. It's worse if other person is the same and we both wait

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Face to face flirting or vocally flirting on the phone is so much easier.

I find texting becomes a tad tedious.

I see. I do enjoy it and obviously we are in circumstances where it's hard to progress!

I have shown lockdown the full respect since early Feb.

So many are hesitant to talk on phone. It gets things moving

It can help indeed especially if one is sensitive to voice

It works for my sense's, a build up to when it is safe to meet

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By *luebellRacerCouple over a year ago

Shropshire

"Little bit of forum flirting or straight in with face pic message. No point pursuing if there's going to be no interest.

I've got thick skin, so won't take a no personally. I'm also known for jumping in feet first!

Never ask, you'll never know!

I shall take a note

maybe carrying with not knowing is just prolonging the dreamy fantasy for some before they hear final no? "

I bit the bullet and messaged someone I'd been ogling... not so much flirtation back, but we're now on each other's friends list!

So now I don't feel so creepy perving

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By *imon_hydeMan over a year ago

Stockport

Oh I'm rubbish at this, I'm slow build and I get the impression that I should be more obvious and direct.

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By *etite_delightWoman over a year ago

BunnyLand

"My approach is in general; to observe and send little hints then I expect to get cracked on and receive a request to set up a social.

If my hints don’t work, I usually give up

That has been me for a lot of the time. It's worse if other person is the same and we both wait

I probably wouldn’t know, poor us!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im shy so tend to build up slowly and take my lead from them "

Oh the tension of awaiting

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I used to be quite forward and flirt on the forums but I've learnt that can make enemies of women who also have their eye on the same person.

Aside from the loss of mojo so no desire to flirt right now, I think if the time comes it'll be done privately rather than publicly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm fairly direct behind the scenes. I'll pave my own paths to fuckery.

Forum wise I'm not that big a flirt I don't think. With past, present or future lovers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And bonus question: is there an approach you prefer? Sometimes forum flirt can be read as a green light, when in reality there isnt much to it in my eyes. Just a little 'show off'.

Good things are worth waiting for I say. Like Christmas

Exactly lol!! Although ahhhhhhh too early for the C word lmao

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm hopeless. I've never any idea if someone is actually flirting with intent on the forum, in messages or in real life or is just being friendly. So unless they actually say it, I tend to bumble on wishing they actually wanted me and missing a chance.

Although I have become better at actually asking in messages, and if I get a positive answer I then tend to get very shy for a bit.

I assume forum flirting is just for fun though.

As for me, I've heard tell I'm a bit of a flirt on the forum, but I totally don't see it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm hopeless. I've never any idea if someone is actually flirting with intent on the forum, in messages or in real life or is just being friendly. So unless they actually say it, I tend to bumble on wishing they actually wanted me and missing a chance.

Although I have become better at actually asking in messages, and if I get a positive answer I then tend to get very shy for a bit.

I assume forum flirting is just for fun though.

As for me, I've heard tell I'm a bit of a flirt on the forum, but I totally don't see it.

Nothing wrong with a good flirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Face to face flirting or vocally flirting on the phone is so much easier.

I find texting becomes a tad tedious.

I see. I do enjoy it and obviously we are in circumstances where it's hard to progress!

I have shown lockdown the full respect since early Feb.

So many are hesitant to talk on phone. It gets things moving

It can help indeed especially if one is sensitive to voice

It works for my sense's, a build up to when it is safe to meet

or quickly realising one isnt what we thought.. or you cannot get over their accent

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Little bit of forum flirting or straight in with face pic message. No point pursuing if there's going to be no interest.

I've got thick skin, so won't take a no personally. I'm also known for jumping in feet first!

Never ask, you'll never know!

I shall take a note

maybe carrying with not knowing is just prolonging the dreamy fantasy for some before they hear final no?

I bit the bullet and messaged someone I'd been ogling... not so much flirtation back, but we're now on each other's friends list!

So now I don't feel so creepy perving

Hahaha slow steps.. and what a perk for your bravery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't beat a good ignoring strategy to gauge interest. Then after 2 weeks of ignoring and very little has happened...there's your answer!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh I'm rubbish at this, I'm slow build and I get the impression that I should be more obvious and direct. "

I think the replies varied so we all have a chance regardless;-)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" You can't beat a good ignoring strategy to gauge interest. Then after 2 weeks of ignoring and very little has happened...there's your answer!

Ah is that why you didnt reply me..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I used to be quite forward and flirt on the forums but I've learnt that can make enemies of women who also have their eye on the same person.

Aside from the loss of mojo so no desire to flirt right now, I think if the time comes it'll be done privately rather than publicly.

What people dont know they cannot ruin.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer the glass half full approach, based on that theory

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm fairly direct behind the scenes. I'll pave my own paths to fuckery.

Forum wise I'm not that big a flirt I don't think. With past, present or future lovers. "

I will pave my own paths to fuckery - that made me smile! Heat-ed statement

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Although I have become better at actually asking in messages, and if I get a positive answer I then tend to get very shy for a bit.

I assume forum flirting is just for fun though.

As for me, I've heard tell I'm a bit of a flirt on the forum, but I totally don't see it.

How do you see yourself is probably a question for another thread

Shy or nervous can be a good sign I was told.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I make it clear early on, I'm much better at flirting face to face! I've found it really hard on here during lockdown to sustain discourse: I'd normally ask for a social as soon as possible.

It’s hard to know during lockdown

Yet not impossible "

Sometimes I am enjoying the hard work of texting and persuasion

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

The forums are a great place to get to know people, and for a little lighthearted, initial flirting.

If said person responds with similar interest I take it to PM flirting - a more subtle approach.

Sometimes it comes to fruition, sometimes not

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