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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend of mine here gets 100 messages plus every few days and just hasn't the time to reply to em all - it's frustrating I guess but at least you know to move on and cross them off, as it were. |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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I would have said it was rude whennI first joined as I always (still) try to reply politely to every message. BUT... When you get abuse back for simply pointing out something that you state on your profile - that they have obviously not read before sending a 'wanna fuck' message - as a reason for not meeting.... Sometimes it seems it would just be easier to delete! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"
^ that’s rude, how do you know they didn’t read it then mark it as unread
Seriously - if it’s still unread by Friday it’s obviously unimportant and should be binned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been."
Especially if it's a "wanna fuck" message, which I imagine lots would delete anyway. |
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"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been.
Especially if it's a "wanna fuck" message, which I imagine lots would delete anyway."
Or "hello" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite often a message can be read in full without clicking on it so it may appear to look unread but actually has been.
Especially if it's a "wanna fuck" message, which I imagine lots would delete anyway.
Or "hello""
Yeah - a lack of effort in a 'normal' message can be just as attractive as "wanna fuck". |
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"When you can see from the preview it's "hi" or "I'd love to fuck her arse" or "free now?", it's going straight to delete, no qualms. "
This!
And we have a subject line in our profile. You don't read, we don't read! Simples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I reply, they reply with a thanks for your response reply! Cos I'm not really trying to clear my inbox!  "
I genuinely never thought about that  - I'll know for future reference though. |
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You should see some of the messages we get. Most of them are just crap. If somebody doesn't put any effort into a message to us, why should we bother putting any effort into getting back to them?
If we can see from the preview that a message only says "Hi", why is it rude to just put it straight in the bin? It doesn't warrant opening it.
Instead of getting annoyed with people who don't read messages, why don't you put your efforts into encouraging people to write messages that are actually worth paying any attention to? |
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I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful."
. Do you need a P.A payment in kind x
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"I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful."
Obviously, you should get a secretary. It would create a job and is your patriotic duty in Covid-world   |
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"I answer loads of messages but am sitting with 422 unread. I am not superwoman and i do not have a secretary but i do have a life outside fab. I do my best to keep on top of them but it is impossible. 99% of messages i answer will answer back and it all becomes very stressful."
I won't include you in my random "wanna fuck' message day so as not to add to your stress, I'm nice like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Deleting unread messages is really very rude"
We list our requirements for what we're looking for in our profile and state if you ignore reading it thoroughly and message you'll be deleted and blocked, So any guys that message after not reading our profile have been warned so were not being rude, simple
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it's not... Not reading my profile before messaging is rude... Reading it and messaging anyway, is rude... Getting pissy when I delete unread is rude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have said it was rude whennI first joined as I always (still) try to reply politely to every message. BUT... When you get abuse back for simply pointing out something that you state on your profile - that they have obviously not read before sending a 'wanna fuck' message - as a reason for not meeting.... Sometimes it seems it would just be easier to delete! "
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People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. "
Tarkus, if you routinely got crass and offensive messages, suggesting how someone would like to smash your back doors in, use you, abuse you, blah blah etc, and that was the first and only message, would you really sit there and compose:
Dearest Sir,
Thank you for your kind offer to do wholly inappropriate and unwanted things to me, whether or not I want them. I can see from your profile that you are a most discerning fellow (I note the profile text which reads "will fill in later"). I am most flattered at your attention, but regret to inform you that I will be politely declining your invitation.
I do hope you find somebody to fulfill your slightly bizarre fantasies and look forward to never hearing from you ever again, if it's all the same.
With warmest regards,
Tarkus
No, you'd just delete like the rest of us do. Some things do not need a reply and sending a reply simply encourages them and goads them into sending more messages to persuade you, to tell you what you're missing, or just to inform you that you're a fat whore and they didn't really want to fuck you in the arse in any case. We message and approach VERY few people but we receive a lot of inward messages, most of which are dross. |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. "
Get many one line or rude messages then ? |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
Get many one line or rude messages then ?"
In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hidden profiles and no avatar are pretty impersonal. I'd delete a message from someone like you tbh OP, not because I'm being mean, more for drama avoidance purposes, because your lack of profile would make me suspicious.... |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
Get many one line or rude messages then ?
In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message."
Congratulations, we get extremely rude ones almost daily and have had abuse for being disabled. Forgive us for keeping people at e-arms length  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single woman I can get 100 messages a day. The majority of the messages I get are pure nonsense as well lol. I’m quite selective as to who I reply too. It’s not snobbery or anything like that. I just don’t have the time to reply to everyone. |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
Get many one line or rude messages then ?
In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message."
You are very lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
Get many one line or rude messages then ?
In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.
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I feel like messaging you one so you don’t feel left out haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness. "
How many do you get?! |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
How many do you get?! "
Anything between 15 and 20per week, I have filtered out messages from male members so this keeps numbers down |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
Get many one line or rude messages then ?
In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.
Congratulations, we get extremely rude ones almost daily and have had abuse for being disabled. Forgive us for keeping people at e-arms length "
I am fortunate that I am able to filter out messages from males on here |
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
Get many one line or rude messages then ?
In my 5+ years on Fab I can honestly say that I have never received an abusive message.
I feel like messaging you one so you don’t feel left out haha "
Feel free to do so |
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"You can normally gauge from the message title and first line without opening, whether it needs to be opened or deleted
Definitely!"
Great advice. I'm now going to put FAF at the end of messages instead of the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And this is the exact reason for short copy and past message because I bet some whare in all those messages about 30 out off the hundred were well thought out including stuff from profile that people say they must read and also took the person 30 odd minutes to write and there is no excuse for it it’s simple stright up rude and you deserve all the want to fuck and hi how’s you message you get as it’s ur own damm fault for being so rude honest I get 200+ messages a day not hard to say no thanks if they keep pushing that’s what the fucking block button is for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People on here both male and female take this site too seriously and need to get a life outside of Fab.
I always read all profiles thoroughly even the ones longer than War & Peace, usually find reason not to send message, be it location, age parameters or list of interests.
I do however reply to any messages I receive no matter how brief they are, I suppose it is old school politeness.
How many do you get?!
Anything between 15 and 20per week, I have filtered out messages from male members so this keeps numbers down"
I used to get that while reading and deleting less... And I still get more than that, even though I don't meet to play... So ya know... Not really the same eh?! |
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