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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm thinking about moving to a new place and starting again.
My kids are now adults and only 1 lives at home.
Not sure where yet. I'm lucky that I can work from home with my job, that a massive plus.
Who has done this? Or has considered doing it?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would love to move closer to the sea. Have considered Ayrshire for years."
I grew up in a small town on the coast, im not sure i want to go back there. I want to be
Near the coast somewhere, |
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Did it once. Moved from Essex to the black country.
If I had the funds and a stable income then yes, I'd move back down south I think.
As much as this is now my home and I'd miss an awful lot of people, I don't want to not know my grandkids if I have any. My family is scattered all over the place and I'm not emotionally close to any of them other than my son, my dad and one aunt n uncle.
I don't want my son and any kids he has to feel the same. But... at the same time I don't feel bound by my family, or like I owe them anything or any real responsibility to them (other than the ones mentioned) and that's quite freeing |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I'm thinking about moving to a new place and starting again.
My kids are now adults and only 1 lives at home.
Not sure where yet. I'm lucky that I can work from home with my job, that a massive plus.
Who has done this? Or has considered doing it?
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Before kids yes, relocated and started a business in another country. Stayed in uk while like were 0-16, now they are a bit older thinking about it again. Like you we can work anywhere including several low or tax free countries. The weather and beaches would be nice but it’s people that keep us here , they matter to us more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did it once. Moved from Essex to the black country.
If I had the funds and a stable income then yes, I'd move back down south I think.
As much as this is now my home and I'd miss an awful lot of people, I don't want to not know my grandkids if I have any. My family is scattered all over the place and I'm not emotionally close to any of them other than my son, my dad and one aunt n uncle.
I don't want my son and any kids he has to feel the same. But... at the same time I don't feel bound by my family, or like I owe them anything or any real responsibility to them (other than the ones mentioned) and that's quite freeing "
I would miss my kids and if they have children I would want to be quite near them.
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"Did it once. Moved from Essex to the black country.
If I had the funds and a stable income then yes, I'd move back down south I think.
As much as this is now my home and I'd miss an awful lot of people, I don't want to not know my grandkids if I have any. My family is scattered all over the place and I'm not emotionally close to any of them other than my son, my dad and one aunt n uncle.
I don't want my son and any kids he has to feel the same. But... at the same time I don't feel bound by my family, or like I owe them anything or any real responsibility to them (other than the ones mentioned) and that's quite freeing
I would miss my kids and if they have children I would want to be quite near them.
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Yeah, that's why I'd go back down south. My son moved back down 3 years ago. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Did it once. Moved from Essex to the black country.
If I had the funds and a stable income then yes, I'd move back down south I think.
As much as this is now my home and I'd miss an awful lot of people, I don't want to not know my grandkids if I have any. My family is scattered all over the place and I'm not emotionally close to any of them other than my son, my dad and one aunt n uncle.
I don't want my son and any kids he has to feel the same. But... at the same time I don't feel bound by my family, or like I owe them anything or any real responsibility to them (other than the ones mentioned) and that's quite freeing
I would miss my kids and if they have children I would want to be quite near them.
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This is the dilemma with Australia, US, NZ etc it’s to far to keep proper relationships. It has to be Europe or Middle East furthest for us, maybe New York/East coast , I wanna be able to see family at least once a month for weekends etc |
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Yes done it.
Sold up, downsized to a doer upper, stopped full time working. It's like pressing the reset button on your life.
If it wasn't for the fact that my parents are still alive we'd probably be living in Spain if not permanently then most of the year. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My parents have done it twice!
Moved from Sheffield to where I still live to run a pub in 97. Now they've upped sticks once again and moved onto a narrowboat in December with the cat. |
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Done it. Have been a work “migrant” for a good portion of my life. But... I wasn’t working from home in those scenarios. This is important as work has always been a good way to start building a social circle when you move.
It depends on personalities I guess but when you choose to move somewhere you need to build some type of friend/associate network and that is one of the main considerations.
Plus moving somewhere that you want to be and into accommodation that makes you feel comfortable helps with the initial “move shock”.
Good luck with what you decide to do..  |
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"Done it. Have been a work “migrant” for a good portion of my life. But... I wasn’t working from home in those scenarios. This is important as work has always been a good way to start building a social circle when you move.
It depends on personalities I guess but when you choose to move somewhere you need to build some type of friend/associate network and that is one of the main considerations.
Plus moving somewhere that you want to be and into accommodation that makes you feel comfortable helps with the initial “move shock”.
Good luck with what you decide to do.. "
You're right about a friend/associate network. It's very difficult if you're not working to make connections with other people. That is one thing we've struggled with since moving. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Most of us in the company work from home anyway, current climate hasn't made much difference to me.
Making new friends/social network is probably going to be the hardest thing for me, as I'm quite quiet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking about moving to a new place and starting again.
My kids are now adults and only 1 lives at home.
Not sure where yet. I'm lucky that I can work from home with my job, that a massive plus.
Who has done this? Or has considered doing it?
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I have moved several times, both here and overseas. Some have worked out well, some less so - but every one was a great experience.
The key question is: what are your priorities?
Is this going to be a 'forever' move or just something you do for a few years?
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"Most of us in the company work from home anyway, current climate hasn't made much difference to me.
Making new friends/social network is probably going to be the hardest thing for me, as I'm quite quiet"
Believe it or not, Fab was a great source of comfort and “familiar faces” for a few of my moves - and led to long term friendships that were not sex based..!
I also found that because I was a gym user and played sports, this helped to get in with different crowds as well. And of course age is a factor as most of the people I got to know were younger than me and I wasn’t quite willing to start going to bingo ..! Lol |
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I think the longest I’ve lived in any town or city (after I left home) is around five years. I lived in both the South East of England and the North West mainly. The reason, work every time but my favourite was Northern Ireland a great place and I really miss Belfast, some great nights out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep jumped ship and moved from
Dorset to cornwall pretty much within a week and it was hard but I’m slowly loving it. Do what makes you happy. Be where you’re happy. Seaside or city etc. You only get one life. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have done this, rather successfully I might add, but was due to work at the time, so that made it easier by far I think.
I went to Australia a couple years ago for a year to lay the ground work for moving myself, partner and her daughter over. Life being life and hurdles and spanners in the work and I'm back in England.
Definitely do your research, and make sure it's for the right reasons  |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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I left home when I went to university and never went back. But I’ve stayed in this area ever since. Now kids are finished with schooling it might be a good time to think about moving somewhere else. But where? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive lived in several different parts of the country because of jobs. Youre lucky if you are able to chose for other reasons. As a swinger you can check out the scene in advance via sites like this. |
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Done it
Moved from Scotland to Spain. Kept trying to plan and save but it wasn’t working. I got to the point where I thought if I didn’t try it soon, I’d never do it.
Packed up, sold off what I could and with very little in the bank, no job and no accommodation, locked the door behind me and got on a plane.
All was going well til corona shut the world down
I don’t for a second regret it, but I’m tired of not being able to work now as my industry hasn’t quite kickstarted back yet. It’ll come though so I have faith and still think I’ve done the right thing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Done it
Moved from Scotland to Spain. Kept trying to plan and save but it wasn’t working. I got to the point where I thought if I didn’t try it soon, I’d never do it.
Packed up, sold off what I could and with very little in the bank, no job and no accommodation, locked the door behind me and got on a plane.
All was going well til corona shut the world down
I don’t for a second regret it, but I’m tired of not being able to work now as my industry hasn’t quite kickstarted back yet. It’ll come though so I have faith and still think I’ve done the right thing "
I feel if I don't do it now I never will and I will probably end up regretting it.
Not really liked the town i live in and wished I moved 10 yrs. The kids were going through school etc.
I feel its the right time now for me.
Would love to move aboard but can't at the moment unless I change positions in my job. |
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