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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you first open the door of Fab as a complete novice with high expectations, what was the biggest surprise, or what caught you unawares?
Moi? Well of course the usual expectations that I'm going to be spotted amongst the masses, but my biggest error was mistakenly placing my face pic as public.
A gentle prod from a relative stranger suggested I make it private. Mind you was that because she thought it was bad?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With a body like that, the face must be good! Right? But this is fabland.
My biggest surprise was that all the sexiest types I like live in England & Wales. |
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the sheer volume of messages within the first moments.
It felt like men were literally waiting for a "newbie alert" whistle to get blown and then kapow. Literally hundreds of messages referring to you as beautiful, perfect etc.... before a picture had even been uploaded.
It's like being dumped in the woods in the dead of night and realising you're surrounded by wolves |
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough?  "
This overwhelmed me too. Zero pics or profile text but so many messages telling me I was stunning/gorgeous. Based on what exactly? The fact I'd ticked a box to say female x |
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"the sheer volume of messages within the first moments.
It felt like men were literally waiting for a "newbie alert" whistle to get blown and then kapow. Literally hundreds of messages referring to you as beautiful, perfect etc.... before a picture had even been uploaded.
It's like being dumped in the woods in the dead of night and realising you're surrounded by wolves "
That's exactly it. It's horrifying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough? "
Yeah I was shocked at this too! Had twenty messages without a single pic up in 30 minutes!!! Crazy! |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough?
This overwhelmed me too. Zero pics or profile text but so many messages telling me I was stunning/gorgeous. Based on what exactly? The fact I'd ticked a box to say female x"
For some being female is enough! They also tend not to even look at profiles & to utilise a scattergun approach, sending the same generic message to every female within a certain distance.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough? "
It is dumbfounded. I have a friend who's only picture is a foot. The minute they unhide their profile, they're bombarded with messages.
I know its strictly taboo but I feel like creating a spoof profile to appreciate it! Bonkers |
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How passive aggressive some of the women can come across, especially in profiles. Over time, you learn why and realise it’s totally justified - not that it has to be anyway - and accept it as par for the course  |
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"Yep. The number of messages and how badly some blokes take rejection."
Oh god, yes. The rejection too. How one minute you are the best thing ever then the word no turns you immediately into a fat slag x  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
The biggest surprise for me was the amount of men that would meet people without even knowing what they look like and how they expect you to drop everything for a quick fumble in their hunk of junk car. |
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the complete lack of respect for who you are as a human and especially as a woman.
How many men think their penis can solve ALL of your problems.
Flu? My cock will make you feel better
Mental breakdown? My cock will make you feel better.
Sickness and the squits? My cock will make you feel better
17 hour day at work and utterly exhausted? My cock will make you feel better.
Dog and best friend just been put to sleep and your heart breaking into pieces? My cock will make you feel better.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely love fab, can't stress that enough! But, the meanness from ppl towards others when they feel threatened or anxious. Ppl will quite literally try to ruin others and get them off the site for the most petty and ridiculous reasons. And the territorial nature of the forum. I was really expecting swinging to be inclusive and free for everyone to enjoy. It doesn't bother me so much, I have skin like a bloody rhino and I'd still waffle on to myself happily even if nobody wanted to listen, but I see others suffer a LOT with this side of fab life and I think it's unnecessary ....   |
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"Yep. The number of messages and how badly some blokes take rejection.
Oh god, yes. The rejection too. How one minute you are the best thing ever then the word no turns you immediately into a fat slag x "
I covered this one of my tutorial vids.  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"the complete lack of respect for who you are as a human and especially as a woman.
How many men think their penis can solve ALL of your problems.
Flu? My cock will make you feel better
Mental breakdown? My cock will make you feel better.
Sickness and the squits? My cock will make you feel better
17 hour day at work and utterly exhausted? My cock will make you feel better.
Dog and best friend just been put to sleep and your heart breaking into pieces? My cock will make you feel better.
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I once had a sickness bug and someone still tried to get me to meet him, he literally begged |
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The nicer side of it is that I have made some forever friends through fab and the forums. People who have reached out to me and helped me when I've been feeling down. That, even though some of them I haven't met, I count them as true friends x |
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"the complete lack of respect for who you are as a human and especially as a woman.
How many men think their penis can solve ALL of your problems.
Flu? My cock will make you feel better
Mental breakdown? My cock will make you feel better.
Sickness and the squits? My cock will make you feel better
17 hour day at work and utterly exhausted? My cock will make you feel better.
Dog and best friend just been put to sleep and your heart breaking into pieces? My cock will make you feel better.
I once had a sickness bug and someone still tried to get me to meet him, he literally begged "
Same! That's when you wonder what the hell you're doing here. Like eh? I'm puking, I've shit myself 7 times in the last 5 hours and my house smells like death and rotting flesh. You not only want to enter a house that should be wearing a giant hazmat suit, but you want to put your cock in someone half dead.
Aside from all of the grimness, it really goes to show how they don't care a toss about how you feel, about how good the sex will be because let's face it, it would likely be the worst sex of their lives, all they care about is trying to bully you into saying yes!
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"the complete lack of respect for who you are as a human and especially as a woman.
How many men think their penis can solve ALL of your problems.
Flu? My cock will make you feel better
Mental breakdown? My cock will make you feel better.
Sickness and the squits? My cock will make you feel better
17 hour day at work and utterly exhausted? My cock will make you feel better.
Dog and best friend just been put to sleep and your heart breaking into pieces? My cock will make you feel better.
I once had a sickness bug and someone still tried to get me to meet him, he literally begged
Same! That's when you wonder what the hell you're doing here. Like eh? I'm puking, I've shit myself 7 times in the last 5 hours and my house smells like death and rotting flesh. You not only want to enter a house that should be wearing a giant hazmat suit, but you want to put your cock in someone half dead.
Aside from all of the grimness, it really goes to show how they don't care a toss about how you feel, about how good the sex will be because let's face it, it would likely be the worst sex of their lives, all they care about is trying to bully you into saying yes!
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God yes |
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough?
This overwhelmed me too. Zero pics or profile text but so many messages telling me I was stunning/gorgeous. Based on what exactly? The fact I'd ticked a box to say female x
For some being female is enough! They also tend not to even look at profiles & to utilise a scattergun approach, sending the same generic message to every female within a certain distance. "
Yes this!
And poor Mr Racer gets all the attention he isn't after too!  |
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"I genuinely love fab, can't stress that enough! But, the meanness from ppl towards others when they feel threatened or anxious. Ppl will quite literally try to ruin others and get them off the site for the most petty and ridiculous reasons. And the territorial nature of the forum. I was really expecting swinging to be inclusive and free for everyone to enjoy. It doesn't bother me so much, I have skin like a bloody rhino and I'd still waffle on to myself happily even if nobody wanted to listen, but I see others suffer a LOT with this side of fab life and I think it's unnecessary .... "
I couldn't have put that better myself...there really are some horrid, vindictive people on here. It's never upset me, people like that will only ever evoke disdain from me, but I've seen nice people genuinely upset by their behaviour. |
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My fb told me all about fab when he suggested I joined, so I had a pretty good idea of what went on.
What shocked me was the timescale of arranging fantasy meets and how quickly the right people are willing to play, I did go a bit kid in the sweetie shop after that |
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough? "
Sometimes even that's flexible |
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough?
This overwhelmed me too. Zero pics or profile text but so many messages telling me I was stunning/gorgeous. Based on what exactly? The fact I'd ticked a box to say female x"
Validates my not messaging newbies rule. I always let them settle in before messaging if a newbie catches my eye. Also allows big Dave to get bored of his fake profile and stops me from wasting my time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How relentless some gay & bi guys will be to get a guy even tho straight. The attention was flattering and I’m one to engage in polite conversation even if there’s no sexual connection. Politely saying no and having a bit of banter with some of them, they would persist until even saying what does it matter who sucks your cock, man or woman a blow job is a blow job.....was actually shocking and I’m not easily shook. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I genuinely love fab, can't stress that enough! But, the meanness from ppl towards others when they feel threatened or anxious. Ppl will quite literally try to ruin others and get them off the site for the most petty and ridiculous reasons. And the territorial nature of the forum. I was really expecting swinging to be inclusive and free for everyone to enjoy. It doesn't bother me so much, I have skin like a bloody rhino and I'd still waffle on to myself happily even if nobody wanted to listen, but I see others suffer a LOT with this side of fab life and I think it's unnecessary ....
All forums can end up territorial. It's the nature of humanity. And nothing is truly inclusive. "
Everything is what we allow it to be..... |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
North West, Outer Letterkenny area |
"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough? "
a profile joined earlier today, female. 400 messages in 3 hours. Funniest thing was I did am image search and all fake photos. So 400 odd guys probably sent dick pics to some dude sitting at home. |
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I joined as a couple with a very specific request, but the amount of messages we received was over whelming and 99% irrelevant..... it was and I’m sure still is the case anyone new gets inundated on the hope someone new might say hi
It was so bad the guy left after three hours |
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"How passive aggressive some of the women can come across, especially in profiles. Over time, you learn why and realise it’s totally justified - not that it has to be anyway - and accept it as par for the course "
I just go for straight up agressive now. Grrr! |
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" When you first open the door of Fab as a complete novice with high expectations, what was the biggest surprise, or what caught you unawares?
Moi? Well of course the usual expectations that I'm going to be spotted amongst the masses, but my biggest error was mistakenly placing my face pic as public.
A gentle prod from a relative stranger suggested I make it private. Mind you was that because she thought it was bad? "
I think for most women it's the ungodly amount of messages you get and you may not even have a pic up yet
For me tho at 1st I thought this place was one huge scam and that the people who I messaged was like bots or something of course I quickly learned that wasn't the case  |
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" When you first open the door of Fab as a complete novice with high expectations, what was the biggest surprise, or what caught you unawares?
Moi? Well of course the usual expectations that I'm going to be spotted amongst the masses, but my biggest error was mistakenly placing my face pic as public.
A gentle prod from a relative stranger suggested I make it private. Mind you was that because she thought it was bad?
I think for most women it's the ungodly amount of messages you get and you may not even have a pic up yet
For me tho at 1st I thought this place was one huge scam and that the people who I messaged was like bots or something of course I quickly learned that wasn't the case "
Please verify that you are a real person |
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I was honestly surprised that people message expecting you to be ready to drop your knickers 24/7. Like I'm permanently sitting at home in lingerie, waiting for strangers to message me saying "hey"
Mrs TMN x |
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"How passive aggressive some of the women can come across, especially in profiles. Over time, you learn why and realise it’s totally justified - not that it has to be anyway - and accept it as par for the course
I just go for straight up agressive now. Grrr! "
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" When you first open the door of Fab as a complete novice with high expectations, what was the biggest surprise, or what caught you unawares?
Moi? Well of course the usual expectations that I'm going to be spotted amongst the masses, but my biggest error was mistakenly placing my face pic as public.
A gentle prod from a relative stranger suggested I make it private. Mind you was that because she thought it was bad?
I think for most women it's the ungodly amount of messages you get and you may not even have a pic up yet
For me tho at 1st I thought this place was one huge scam and that the people who I messaged was like bots or something of course I quickly learned that wasn't the case
Please verify that you are a real person"
Fecksake I've been found out again I thought this look would fool everyone oh well back to the Ole drawing board I guess |
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"the sheer volume of messages within the first moments.
It felt like men were literally waiting for a "newbie alert" whistle to get blown and then kapow. Literally hundreds of messages referring to you as beautiful, perfect etc.... before a picture had even been uploaded.
It's like being dumped in the woods in the dead of night and realising you're surrounded by wolves "
Definitely this!
I've come back onto fab a few times with a single fem profile. Always the same saddos message the newbies. Predatory and lacking in social skills I would advise newbie women to put nothing on their profile and block anyone who messages for the first week. That will reduce the 'will fuck a hole in the floor' wankers in your area. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I genuinely love fab, can't stress that enough! But, the meanness from ppl towards others when they feel threatened or anxious. Ppl will quite literally try to ruin others and get them off the site for the most petty and ridiculous reasons. And the territorial nature of the forum. I was really expecting swinging to be inclusive and free for everyone to enjoy. It doesn't bother me so much, I have skin like a bloody rhino and I'd still waffle on to myself happily even if nobody wanted to listen, but I see others suffer a LOT with this side of fab life and I think it's unnecessary ....
And your point is? "
Ppl should be generally a little less cunty, is my point, innit.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The sheer amount of messages I got before I even had photos up. Are people really desperate enough to not care what you look like or know anything about you. Just female is enough? "
100% this. Although I attract people now it means little when I attracted that many when photoless and just the owner of a vagina. |
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