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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....   |
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
No op - you’re not. Some people are shite - pure and simple! Hopefully the next person you meet will be more worthy of your time and effort! X |
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
yuck, can't stand it when people who always blame others and never take responsibility... definitely red flag, get rid and move on girl  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side..... "
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude"
I know, and this is kibda tough for me to say because I really like you, but posting a thread about the incident is kinda proving him right with his excuses. Only productive thing you can really do is forget and move on, you've already wasted enough time on him.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude
I know, and this is kibda tough for me to say because I really like you, but posting a thread about the incident is kinda proving him right with his excuses. Only productive thing you can really do is forget and move on, you've already wasted enough time on him.... "
I was after people's opinions...not his.
So me asking people if it's wrong...is proving why he did it?
Not according to the rest of the people on this thread |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Being stood up and then being made the problem for expressing feelings around it is pretty manipulative on his part.
You don't need our approval for feeling pissed off OP. Trust your own feelings, no need to second guess yourself on this one. Block, move on. It's good you found out early he is flakey. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude
I know, and this is kibda tough for me to say because I really like you, but posting a thread about the incident is kinda proving him right with his excuses. Only productive thing you can really do is forget and move on, you've already wasted enough time on him....
I was after people's opinions...not his.
So me asking people if it's wrong...is proving why he did it?
Not according to the rest of the people on this thread"
No no no, you can ask people anything you like, and I answered with my best reply. I'll shupp now since I was trying to be nice and just explain that regardless of whether this bloke is a twat or not, you have possibly brought him drama and you're checking his profile to see it's hidden etc and it's possibly what he feared. I'm definitely not saying don't say whatever you feel you want to, I would however encourage you to avoid suggesting replies aren't welcome unless they agree with you or other posters because that would be a bit mean....
I'll shupp now anyway. Nanight |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude
I know, and this is kibda tough for me to say because I really like you, but posting a thread about the incident is kinda proving him right with his excuses. Only productive thing you can really do is forget and move on, you've already wasted enough time on him....
I was after people's opinions...not his.
So me asking people if it's wrong...is proving why he did it?
Not according to the rest of the people on this thread
No no no, you can ask people anything you like, and I answered with my best reply. I'll shupp now since I was trying to be nice and just explain that regardless of whether this bloke is a twat or not, you have possibly brought him drama and you're checking his profile to see it's hidden etc and it's possibly what he feared. I'm definitely not saying don't say whatever you feel you want to, I would however encourage you to avoid suggesting replies aren't welcome unless they agree with you or other posters because that would be a bit mean....
I'll shupp now anyway. Nanight "
OP is just asking for validation on their feelings. They haven't named and shamed nor given any details that might give away the identity of the person. There is no possible way this can bring drama to his door.
OP, this has happened to me before and I know it sucks, especially when you have put time into not only getting to know someone online but also physically meeting them and getting your hopes up. All I can say is just try to put him to the back of your mind and block him on every platform. If he thinks you're dramatic then prove him wrong and don't give him the satisfaction he is not worth your time and stress! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude
I know, and this is kibda tough for me to say because I really like you, but posting a thread about the incident is kinda proving him right with his excuses. Only productive thing you can really do is forget and move on, you've already wasted enough time on him....
I was after people's opinions...not his.
So me asking people if it's wrong...is proving why he did it?
Not according to the rest of the people on this thread
No no no, you can ask people anything you like, and I answered with my best reply. I'll shupp now since I was trying to be nice and just explain that regardless of whether this bloke is a twat or not, you have possibly brought him drama and you're checking his profile to see it's hidden etc and it's possibly what he feared. I'm definitely not saying don't say whatever you feel you want to, I would however encourage you to avoid suggesting replies aren't welcome unless they agree with you or other posters because that would be a bit mean....
I'll shupp now anyway. Nanight
OP is just asking for validation on their feelings. They haven't named and shamed nor given any details that might give away the identity of the person. There is no possible way this can bring drama to his door.
OP, this has happened to me before and I know it sucks, especially when you have put time into not only getting to know someone online but also physically meeting them and getting your hopes up. All I can say is just try to put him to the back of your mind and block him on every platform. If he thinks you're dramatic then prove him wrong and don't give him the satisfaction he is not worth your time and stress! "
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"Interested to know if meet number 3 was going to be another social or a play meet?
He suggested meeting for coffee as he hadn't even kissed me yet"
I would not do 2 socials let alone 3. One social should be enough to know whether to follow it up for a sex meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
What a dick... 
Block,move on... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
Dont take it to heart or personally, there are many twats on here and he obviously doesn't deserve your attention.
Lifes too short... block the cock  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like a master manipulator blaming it on you. It will definitely be that he’s attached and that she didn’t do as expected.
I have had that same manipulation used on me, block now before he comes back all apologetic in a couple of days |
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
In the current climate I'm surprised anyone is meeting. That said, if he agreed to meet and didn't without explanation I'd be annoyed too: that's just plain rude.
That said, you're part of a couple and he probably assumed he would have drama free liaisons. From his perspective this isn't the case and more drama he's prepared to accept for nsa hook ups.
Learn from it and look forward to meeting someone new. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don't seem to be short of meets according to your summary - last one 3 weeks ago. So I wouldn't worry about it too much. There'll be a new one arranged soon I'm sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
Totaly bang out of order, had done all the time when I was part of a couple. At least he should of had the courtesy to let you know. His loss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why are you looking at hes profile ? You must of looked to no he had hidden it ,move on , just ignore the fact he is alive , I wouldn’t of started a post about him , |
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"You're not being unreasonable, he has wasted your time. I'd block him to be honest if he's trying to make this your problem. "
exactly that! Respect is the key whatever the feelings might be, whether you are in the same page or not |
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"Why are you looking at hes profile ? You must of looked to no he had hidden it ,move on , just ignore the fact he is alive , I wouldn’t of started a post about him , "
This!
I've cut dead my husband (ex), father of my children, when he disrespected me, so struggle to understand people getting upset with nonentities on sex sites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Standing someone up suggests he left you at a location and never showed. He cancelled a coffee from what I can tell?
As a consequence you have created this thread and stalked his profile until he blocked you presumably. Sounds like he dodged a bullet.
Perhaps chat to your husband about this, according to your profile you always meet together? He must also be heart broken  |
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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago
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"I am still trying to get my head around the fact that you had 2 coffee meets then planned another meet so you could share a kiss. Is just me who has one coffee meet then sex on the 2nd meet?."
No, not just you |
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"I am still trying to get my head around the fact that you had 2 coffee meets then planned another meet so you could share a kiss. Is just me who has one coffee meet then sex on the 2nd meet?."
I've only had two coffee meets once and I understood why. He was a first time sub, looking to go into a woman's home he didn't know to be tied up etc.
He wanted to feel comfortable with me and as we were meeting where I was having lunch anyway, it wasn't a problem.
Our "relationship" lasted 10 years.  |
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"Standing someone up suggests he left you at a location and never showed. He cancelled a coffee from what I can tell?
As a consequence you have created this thread and stalked his profile until he blocked you presumably. Sounds like he dodged a bullet.
Perhaps chat to your husband about this, according to your profile you always meet together? He must also be heart broken "
How do you know he just cancelled? The OP said stood up, I'd say that is different from contacting someone prior the event to cancel.
Stalked his profile? Get real. Looking at someones profile who has stood you up would be accepted.
Your post seems bitter, especially the 'dodged a bullet/tell your husband' comment.
OP as you can see this is the mentality of some men on here
No respect or understanding of basic human decency. Block and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Op you're perfectly fine in being upset. It's happened to me before as I'm sure it has been to most people on here.
You're gorgeous and no one deserves to have their time wasted. So no second chances for him he isnt relevant to you anymore!
On to the next one queen! |
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"Standing someone up suggests he left you at a location and never showed. He cancelled a coffee from what I can tell?
As a consequence you have created this thread and stalked his profile until he blocked you presumably. Sounds like he dodged a bullet.
Perhaps chat to your husband about this, according to your profile you always meet together? He must also be heart broken
How do you know he just cancelled? The OP said stood up, I'd say that is different from contacting someone prior the event to cancel.
Stalked his profile? Get real. Looking at someones profile who has stood you up would be accepted.
Your post seems bitter, especially the 'dodged a bullet/tell your husband' comment.
OP as you can see this is the mentality of some men on here
No respect or understanding of basic human decency. Block and move on.
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In fairness, whilst I didn't see it necessary to mention her husband, I share the general sentiment. |
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"Why are you looking at hes profile ? You must of looked to no he had hidden it ,move on...
I've cut dead my husband (ex), father of my children, when he disrespected me, so struggle to understand people getting upset with nonentities on sex sites."
Because, we’re all different personalities |
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?
The fact you wrote a thread tells me I can understand his side.....
Really? I wouldn't do that to anyone, it's just rude
I know, and this is kibda tough for me to say because I really like you, but posting a thread about the incident is kinda proving him right with his excuses. Only productive thing you can really do is forget and move on, you've already wasted enough time on him.... "
Being pissed off at being stood up doesn’t mean you’re too attached it just means you have standards and time is precious. Christ I’d be pissed off if I’d met someone twice and they thought it was ok not to even shoot a quick text. Nothing to with attachment just basic manners. |
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"When you say stood up. Did he not turn up or did he give you prior warning? "
Yes this changes thing. I’ve had this exact situation before. Mine just didn’t show up which really gets my goat as in his place are 20 lovely, genuine people who would show up and that time and opportunity has been taken away x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
Sorry you were let down but as with a horse get back in the saddle and try again.
I meet a number to give massage (not at the moment of course) and always keep in touch on the day of the meet saying I am on my way etc and when I arrive at the car park if its at a hotel. If they don't reply only then would I not go to the proposed meet. I would never let someone down - but don't let it get you down is my advice.  |
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"Interested to know if meet number 3 was going to be another social or a play meet?
He suggested meeting for coffee as he hadn't even kissed me yet"
Sounds like a complete time waster or v v v shy ??!!!
Not even kissed after 2 fab dates, seriously find someone else and don’t waste your time. Definitely don’t give him satisfaction of thinking your thinking about him ?? |
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"Interested to know if meet number 3 was going to be another social or a play meet?
He suggested meeting for coffee as he hadn't even kissed me yet
Sounds like a complete time waster or v v v shy ??!!!
Not even kissed after 2 fab dates, seriously find someone else and don’t waste your time. Definitely don’t give him satisfaction of thinking your thinking about him ??"
Sounds to me like he was disappointed he wasn’t getting his willy wet. Might be wrong though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Standing someone up suggests he left you at a location and never showed. He cancelled a coffee from what I can tell?
As a consequence you have created this thread and stalked his profile until he blocked you presumably. Sounds like he dodged a bullet.
Perhaps chat to your husband about this, according to your profile you always meet together? He must also be heart broken "
Oh dear! Someone’s bitter and twisted 
Checking his profile when he cancelled isnt stalking, ridiculous. As someone who was stalked, it’s offensive to use the term so lightly.
I’m assuming the OP posted as she feels a tad confused by it all, and it reads like she’s been left feeling like she’s done something wrong by the guy. Questioning why he wasted her time isn’t unreasonable.
Block and move on..... id assume he’s attached |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When you say stood up. Did he not turn up or did he give you prior warning? "
He didn't give any prior warning. Left me waiting. His excuse later on was he overslept |
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"OK, i got stood up this morning by someone i had met twice for socials. He suggested meeting this morning then stood me up. He's now saying because i am upset about it, I'm too attached and he doesn't want my drama.
This sounds harsh to me as i wouldn't even stand up a friend.
Am really being unreasonable?"
Like it's been said simply block and move on unfortunately these things happen |
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