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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?
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I would say yes it can be done,but sometimes them little old feelings do creep in..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feelings can always happen.
I have been in all scenarios.
No feelings happened and we are still friends.
They fell for me.
I fell for them.
You cannot help it if it is going to happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes yes, sometimes no, depends on the situation and the people involved.
I’ve seen it work fine for some folks, and I’ve seen some horribly messy situations amongst others.
Honesty, openness and communication is key in everything! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be a minefield. People start out by saying it's just a bit of fun, but often ends badly. Sandra allowed me to take a friend of hers out one evening for a drink and casual sex. Afterwards, the friend kept telling Sandra I had feelings for her that went beyond a casual sex filled evening. I had given her no reason whatsoever to think this. She was just game playing. |
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"Sometimes yes, sometimes no, depends on the situation and the people involved.
I’ve seen it work fine for some folks, and I’ve seen some horribly messy situations amongst others.
Honesty, openness and communication is key in everything! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want to fall for them a little bit, but I can still be in love with a friend I think right upto the very tip of the boundaries that are set. It can be hard though, depends on how good you are at denying what it is you probably need compared to what you are getting. Keep talking to them. |
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"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?
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Yes - absolutely. It just takes total honesty from both parties. Still no guarantee though of course. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am that weird one who is likely to catch feelings.
I had a FWB which I thought I had feelings for, but he didn't feel the same way and I was able to get over it and we are still friends years later.
Then I had another FWB who I've caught feelings for and it looked like our friendship will end because of it because he wasn't ready for another relationship after a bad breakup. I persevered and we will soon be celebrating our third anniversary 
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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago
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I have a female fwb and I don’t have those type of feelings for her, I see her as a friend but with added extras. But I am in a relationship with a man so that might be why my feelings haven’t developed beyond friends. I don’t know how I’d feel if I was single, obviously. |
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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago
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I think I'm a bit in love with all my mates, wouldn't be mates otherwise. Some of us are just better at compartmentalising sex. Almost inevitably that will happen to some extent in a fwb situation. Just have to be open & honest as friends if deeper feelings are simmering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not always....
Its usually the one who cares most, has invested most, that has most to lose.
Life can't always be put in neat tidy boxes, nor can people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's wrong with feelings?
As long as you know where the line is drawn.
I love my friends wether I'm having sex with them or not. If I had a falling out with a girlfriend I'd still be really upset. Cant see the difference really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it all depends how long you are keeping up the benefits part of the friendship and the reason for stopping. But from personal experience I say you can |
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Yes but I class them as a f*ck buddy.
I want to fall in love with my fwb's that's what makes the friendship relationship so special, even if they are married we can have feelings but It is how you act with those feelings thats important
Embrace love don't possess people is our take on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes but I class them as a f*ck buddy.
I want to fall in love with my fwb's that's what makes the friendship relationship so special, even if they are married we can have feelings but It is how you act with those feelings thats important
Embrace love don't possess people is our take on it"
This definitely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In theory, but several of my fwb relationships had to end because the guy developed feelings. Apparently I have no feelings lol."
Same! My first ended because he started telling me he loved me and asking me to elope with him instead of marrying my husband
I've got one at the moment who I don't see that often but seems to be working pretty well for now. |
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Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
It is difficult to draw a line between pure sympathy, the desire to fuck and get fucked and developing more than just personal interest and a loving feeling.
I had a FWB some time ago which I still miss, but I don't know if I love her. It is probably the enjoyment of having a nice person around, even if it just for a cuddle and a kiss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's more difficult for at least one side not to catch feelings. As get to know eachother overtime some small things could make the attraction stronger. If you already knew eachother then it might work. |
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"Tried it no... "
Im talking a close friend then moved onto fwb...
If you find someone new with the intention of keeping it fwb then its a new ball game .. Have the code word "Bert" if u think the other is getting too heavy as a reality check ha! |
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"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them   "
Don’t know really there’s only one way to find out |
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"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them "
I'm cold and frosty according to many and I couldn't be in a FWB relationship long term without seeing the other person as more than a friend. |
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I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im wondering here if all the people saying yes are the cold frosty ones and their fwb's are the ones desperatly in love without being able to tell them "
I chose my fwb because he could love me and I him but we would never be in love... I don't want a full on relationship again, he does, just not with me... Makes keeping boundaries much easier aswell as dealing with the end of what we do have, when it comes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Define falling hard? I have feelings for all the people I’ve met. I probably wouldn’t meet them again if I didn’t. Feelings don’t scare me to be honest. I know what I want and what I dont want. It’s how you deal with said feelings I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?
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I don’t think so. I think anything regular builds feelings of one form or another and there is a risk of one person having greater feelings than the other .. |
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"Can guys and girls have sex and just be friends without one of them falling hard for the other?
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Yes. Finding a genuine FWB that stands the test of time though is pretty hard, but totally possible. |
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"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X"
Absolutely this.
It helps if there is a fundamental reason as to why you’d never couple up too IME. |
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"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X"
Very eloquently put  |
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"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X"
Absolutely! |
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"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X"
Totally agree and beautifully worded.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Occasionally. I’ve had both. I’ve had fwb where it’s been good and the feelings have stayed away
I’ve had ones where I have developed strong feelings after seeing each other for sometime
And I had the one that I fell utterly in love with but it was so messy as he wasn’t single. |
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"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X"
Exactly this.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it important to realise that you would have feelings and care for a FWB in a different way to the feelings for your primary partner. This would in no way diminish the feelings for your partner in the same way that caring for a vanilla friend would not.
Also, it is important to realise that the FWB is a human with feelings and emotions and should be respected and treated with care and dignity too.
Just my thoughts.
W X
Exactly this.
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This is all very true |
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