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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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....how is your sense of it lately?
A few things going on "off fab" in the real world with real people just made me think about this yesterday. I know fab is a place to escape and to lose yourself, but is it possible to do that and still keep a firm grip on perspective while doing so? If, so, how do you fare? Do you even care? Do you ever think about the things you don't know about that are happening in the real world of other people, or do you prefer to think of fab just as what you see on your screen....?
Try to stay friendly if you can, there's no hidden agenda here, I was just thinking this to myself yesterday and wondering what your views are and hoping you'll share them and have a general chat....? 
Vag, tributes, fabs, attention in all its forms including offers of spectacular sex are always welcome in my box....
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Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place |
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place "
Awww you, you're a brave lady, getting braver too....
It's just, you know how we all seem to worry about who is popular here or who is shagging who or who missed us out on a thread or who's picture is best or who got away with whatever or what does that person's comment REALLY mean? I just think there is more serious shit going in in the big world and whilst for me fab is my escape from that, I should still try and keep my sense of perspective of what the words of some friendly strangers actually mean in relation to it....
I think I'm rambling now, I'll shush...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thats way to complicated for my tired brain at the moment  will re-visit when more awake 
Same. I don’t think I I even understand the question!"
Try.... |
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I'm trying to work out the true context of the question...but my answer as I interpret it:
I really think about other aspects and lives and other people, but experience tells me you can overload, and sometimes you have to focus on a smaller viewpoint. Doesn't mean yiu can't be kind, you just can't solve the world.
I spent years revisiting many tragic events in my head...I never resolved them and never will, so escapism is fine in healthy doses. |
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place
Awww you, you're a brave lady, getting braver too....
It's just, you know how we all seem to worry about who is popular here or who is shagging who or who missed us out on a thread or who's picture is best or who got away with whatever or what does that person's comment REALLY mean? I just think there is more serious shit going in in the big world and whilst for me fab is my escape from that, I should still try and keep my sense of perspective of what the words of some friendly strangers actually mean in relation to it....
I think I'm rambling now, I'll shush... "
No I get it, is someone missing a comment I made important in the grand scheme of things, well obviously bloody not at the moment.
But sometimes we forget what's important or our frustrations spill out in unpredictable ways. I think that is what makes people people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place "
And here is an example of perspective...how many people knew, and how well you hide it...on here at least.
Maybe its easier to have perspective on people who aren't confrontational or perhaps hurting and angry. I hope your path is healing you. |
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place
And here is an example of perspective...how many people knew, and how well you hide it...on here at least.
Maybe its easier to have perspective on people who aren't confrontational or perhaps hurting and angry. I hope your path is healing you."
Work in progress as always, but I'm good thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I'm trying to work out the true context of the question...but my answer as I interpret it:
I really think about other aspects and lives and other people, but experience tells me you can overload, and sometimes you have to focus on a smaller viewpoint. Doesn't mean yiu can't be kind, you just can't solve the world.
I spent years revisiting many tragic events in my head...I never resolved them and never will, so escapism is fine in healthy doses. "
I understand that reply, if I go off at a small tangent here wrt my own personal tragedy I spent many years thinking on that only to then go away on a silly Spanish holiday and suddenly crack it in one week and return a new man - sometimes things click!
But ignore the above please. It's not really relevant to what I was asking.
What I was really asking was in the first line of the OP tbh? Maybe I should have just phrased it as "CAN OR DO YOU TAKE FAB TOO SERIOUSLY AND DO YOU ASK YOURSELF THAT QUESTION REGULARLY?" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place
And here is an example of perspective...how many people knew, and how well you hide it...on here at least.
Maybe its easier to have perspective on people who aren't confrontational or perhaps hurting and angry. I hope your path is healing you."
I think perspective can be skewed by anger or anxiety or pressure for sure, all three abundant here (well hopefully not HERE here).... |
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CAN OR DO YOU TAKE FAB TOO SERIOUSLY AND DO YOU ASK YOURSELF THAT QUESTION REGULARLY?
Yes I do get upset over things on here where I shouldn't, lasts an hour or so where I give my head a wobble and tell myself to grow up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"CAN OR DO YOU TAKE FAB TOO SERIOUSLY AND DO YOU ASK YOURSELF THAT QUESTION REGULARLY?
Yes I do get upset over things on here where I shouldn't, lasts an hour or so where I give my head a wobble and tell myself to grow up. "
Yeah, stop doing that, and NEVER hide your profile you spanner! Think of all those poor perverts such as myself who you'd be denying a wank! Real world problems!  |
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Nope I don't take fab seriously at all, its a tool to use how I wish to.
On here If any of my friends are going through a tough time I will support them as friends do, I see the comments of when certain people are not themselves and will sometimes message them an are you OK, but on the whole tbh. I see it as none of my business to intrude in people's lives, I have my own life to lead and cannot help everyone that I'd like to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You think about things too much.
Can you?"
I can overthink for England, but I also know (now) when to step away. Dont overcomplicate life and thoughts, its much more peaceful  |
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place "
We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Can't imagine what you are going through. I hope you can both find strength to persevere through this difficult time.
Our thoughts are with you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You think about things too much.
Can you?"
I think there's both healthy and unhealthy thought. If for example I was aware of someone who was really suffering with a real world problem and it made me stop and think to myself "Fuck me im lucky!" and "Is a twat giving me jip on a thread on fab worth getting a rage on about?" - then that in my view might be some healthy and positive thought that's come out of an awful situation....? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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" I'm trying to work out the true context of the question...but my answer as I interpret it:
I really think about other aspects and lives and other people, but experience tells me you can overload, and sometimes you have to focus on a smaller viewpoint. Doesn't mean yiu can't be kind, you just can't solve the world.
I spent years revisiting many tragic events in my head...I never resolved them and never will, so escapism is fine in healthy doses. "
What you describe is very close this that we use to mentor leaders, pm if you don’t get it, it’s good tool for staying sane and moving forward on challenges personal and professional
https://www.habitsforwellbeing.com/the-circle-of-concern-and-influence/ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nope I don't take fab seriously at all, its a tool to use how I wish to.
On here If any of my friends are going through a tough time I will support them as friends do, I see the comments of when certain people are not themselves and will sometimes message them an are you OK, but on the whole tbh. I see it as none of my business to intrude in people's lives, I have my own life to lead and cannot help everyone that I'd like to"
I kinda have the same approach tbf...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You think about things too much.
Can you?"
I think you can...then feel responsible and overload?
I watched people die in agony, and for years and years wondered what I could have done to change it. I couldn't.
An extreme example of course...but my point being is, you can't change everything. Sometimes accept and be stoic.
But when I'm being a dick I don't always see others perspectives. But then are they seeing mine? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You think about things too much.
Can you?
I think you can...then feel responsible and overload?
I watched people die in agony, and for years and years wondered what I could have done to change it. I couldn't.
An extreme example of course...but my point being is, you can't change everything. Sometimes accept and be stoic.
But when I'm being a dick I don't always see others perspectives. But then are they seeing mine? "
I like that bit about being a dick! It's true, I know when I'm taking the piss or being sarcastic, but especially in text I'm sure plenty of ppl see it as anger or bitterness or nastiness, and then they take that into their own thoughts and recycle it.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point.... |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point.... "
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point? "
I'll be clear, SEND VAG plz, thanks...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Brain pain 
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point? "
But absolutely! This thread is totally not what I was expecting, I feared an angry misinterpretation, I'm just letting you run with it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point? "
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead "
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)? "
His questions are a bit like an exam sometimes |
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I have highs and lows. Sometimes i am happy and sometimes i am sad. Sometimes i enjoy life and sometimes i wonder why i bother even being here. But then i remembef all the good things i have and all the people who are not as fortunate as me so i go to bed and wake up ready to conquer another day.x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)? "
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead "
What's wrong with two ppl being right differently? I think it's perfectly possible! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have highs and lows. Sometimes i am happy and sometimes i am sad. Sometimes i enjoy life and sometimes i wonder why i bother even being here. But then i remembef all the good things i have and all the people who are not as fortunate as me so i go to bed and wake up ready to conquer another day.x"
This is what I mean - perspective conquers fear! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thats way to complicated for my tired brain at the moment will re-visit when more awake
Same. I don’t think I I even understand the question!"
Was there a question in here? |
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"Thats way to complicated for my tired brain at the moment will re-visit when more awake
Same. I don’t think I I even understand the question!
Was there a question in here? "
Feel free to not answer it....? |
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I'm being a live in nurse maid for my dear old mum after a stay in hospital following a fall .. watching her determination as she trundles about on her walker makes it all worthwhile..I'm on week three ... trips to shops are my chances of brief escape  |
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"I have highs and lows. Sometimes i am happy and sometimes i am sad. Sometimes i enjoy life and sometimes i wonder why i bother even being here. But then i remembef all the good things i have and all the people who are not as fortunate as me so i go to bed and wake up ready to conquer another day.x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's clear some people invest too much of themselves in Fab which of course it is their choice to do that but when others start spreading rumours and telling lies behind the scenes that's when I think people should find a more fulfilling pastime
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )"
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not quite sure I've understood your OP but as oft happens on here I'm going to answer what I think it's about.
So take a person x (any resemblance to those on the fora is not intentional). Person x has been having a tough time - they're currently getting divorced, family issues, put on weight etc etc... I would do my best to bite my tongue with that person, even if I'm not their biggest fan because I think, well they have enough crap on so why add to it? I also think "why waste energy bringing someone else down?". Not because a small part of me doesn't want to, more because I'm trying to be better. I wouldn't pretend to be their new best friend because that's  but I think sometimes remembering there are genuine people behind the posts wouldn't go amiss on here.
I don't overthink the lives of those I don't know, nor their posts but I try and show them a bit of... compassion. Yeah, I'll go with that word. I remember when I've been really down and had awful things going on and just one small comment can add to that darkness you feel so I try and be better and not add to others.
Sometimes I've failed in the past but generally I think I'm quite mindful. Also it helps that a) I post far less nowadays and b) it tends to be in fairly inane threads about what you find attractive/food.
Ramblings done. |
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"I'm being a live in nurse maid for my dear old mum after a stay in hospital following a fall .. watching her determination as she trundles about on her walker makes it all worthwhile..I'm on week three ... trips to shops are my chances of brief escape "
Awww, I'm sorry to hear that, but well done buddy! That must be hard work, but also rewarding to be able to help, and yes things like this offer us a chance to rebalance our perspective.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's clear some people invest too much of themselves in Fab which of course it is their choice to do that but when others start spreading rumours and telling lies behind the scenes that's when I think people should find a more fulfilling pastime
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Tru dat, innit....
I live in hope.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS "
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place "
I can't reply privately to you so I'll just have to give you the HUGE BIG VIRTUAL HUG here... sincerely wish you the best as you go through what you are at this present time in your life . |
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place
I can't reply privately to you so I'll just have to give you the HUGE BIG VIRTUAL HUG here... sincerely wish you the best as you go through what you are at this present time in your life ."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm not quite sure I've understood your OP but as oft happens on here I'm going to answer what I think it's about.
So take a person x (any resemblance to those on the fora is not intentional). Person x has been having a tough time - they're currently getting divorced, family issues, put on weight etc etc... I would do my best to bite my tongue with that person, even if I'm not their biggest fan because I think, well they have enough crap on so why add to it? I also think "why waste energy bringing someone else down?". Not because a small part of me doesn't want to, more because I'm trying to be better. I wouldn't pretend to be their new best friend because that's but I think sometimes remembering there are genuine people behind the posts wouldn't go amiss on here.
I don't overthink the lives of those I don't know, nor their posts but I try and show them a bit of... compassion. Yeah, I'll go with that word. I remember when I've been really down and had awful things going on and just one small comment can add to that darkness you feel so I try and be better and not add to others.
Sometimes I've failed in the past but generally I think I'm quite mindful. Also it helps that a) I post far less nowadays and b) it tends to be in fairly inane threads about what you find attractive/food.
Ramblings done. "
Thanks Meli, I like your response and you are lovely and I like you more every day! Interpret that as send vag if you will?
A) I think you should post more!
B) are you saying my thread is inane?
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C) is it only inane because it was confusing....? |
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"Well it's no secret that I've had a real crappy time recently, I've lost a baby where I nearly died and ended up in hospital a couple of weeks into lockdown.
I'm human of course I loose a sense of perspective occasionally and take things too personally especially at the moment. But I use fab as a bit of an escape, I've just taken new photos because I'm actively trying to reagin my own body.
However, I hope in general that my own sadness and grief isn't impacting negatively on others. We never know what is happening behind closed doors, especially on a forum. We should all try and see the positives and not assume the worst. I think it would make the world a better place
I can't reply privately to you so I'll just have to give you the HUGE BIG VIRTUAL HUG here... sincerely wish you the best as you go through what you are at this present time in your life .
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Same here. I tried to message too. Big hug from me also.xx
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on. "
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ.... |
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My sense of perspective is well balanced ,l have been through enough in my life to realize not to sweat the small stuff here, to realize of course people here have a life outside of this joint and also to realise in both Fabland and real life the one common denominator l always give to people is RESPECT..100%... ALWAYS . |
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"My sense of perspective is well balanced ,l have been through enough in my life to realize not to sweat the small stuff here, to realize of course people here have a life outside of this joint and also to realise in both Fabland and real life the one common denominator l always give to people is RESPECT..100%... ALWAYS . "
Rettthhhppppekkktttttt! 100% though seriously.... |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations "
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling. |
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ.... "
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat. |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty! "
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing 
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me |
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over a year ago
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling."
Thank you for your kind words yesterday, Doc. You are one of this site’s gems |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling."
I love how thoughtful you are doc. I could learn a lot from you! |
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over a year ago
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling.
I love how thoughtful you are doc. I could learn a lot from you! "
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling."
It's difficult to ignore our un concious triggers. But as I'm getting older I'm learning what they are, so at least I'm aware of them. We're all work in progress |
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"My sense of perspective is well balanced ,l have been through enough in my life to realize not to sweat the small stuff here, to realize of course people here have a life outside of this joint and also to realise in both Fabland and real life the one common denominator l always give to people is RESPECT..100%... ALWAYS .
Rettthhhppppekkktttttt! 100% though seriously.... "
Yup..100% ...l may not always agree with what people say but will always respect their opinion on how they feel about things. |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling.
It's difficult to ignore our un concious triggers. But as I'm getting older I'm learning what they are, so at least I'm aware of them. We're all work in progress "
Indeed, in my case, it’s more a case of physician heal thyself |
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat. "
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective.... |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me "
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love..... |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling.
It's difficult to ignore our un concious triggers. But as I'm getting older I'm learning what they are, so at least I'm aware of them. We're all work in progress "
You've been great at not letting shit get to you recently and sticking at being you... |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love....."
I think people think I'm odd enough as it is x |
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"My sense of perspective is well balanced ,l have been through enough in my life to realize not to sweat the small stuff here, to realize of course people here have a life outside of this joint and also to realise in both Fabland and real life the one common denominator l always give to people is RESPECT..100%... ALWAYS .
Rettthhhppppekkktttttt! 100% though seriously....
Yup..100% ...l may not always agree with what people say but will always respect their opinion on how they feel about things."
Yes high five this, everyone's personal experience is different and we should all respect it even if you think they are wrong |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling.
I love how thoughtful you are doc. I could learn a lot from you! "
Thank you. However we are our own best teacher, most wisdom is within us, we just need to access it. |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling.
It's difficult to ignore our un concious triggers. But as I'm getting older I'm learning what they are, so at least I'm aware of them. We're all work in progress
You've been great at not letting shit get to you recently and sticking at being you... "
Ta mush only know how to be me |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love.....
I think people think I'm odd enough as it is x "
I like odd |
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"My sense of perspective is well balanced ,l have been through enough in my life to realize not to sweat the small stuff here, to realize of course people here have a life outside of this joint and also to realise in both Fabland and real life the one common denominator l always give to people is RESPECT..100%... ALWAYS .
Rettthhhppppekkktttttt! 100% though seriously....
Yup..100% ...l may not always agree with what people say but will always respect their opinion on how they feel about things."
I think you can learn an awful lot from differences. I like to think there are very few people who get out of bed in the morning and think "right imma fuck that Nippy fella right up today", so why should I fear their different opinion. Even from a purely selfish perspective, if I can respect them then hopefully they'll respect me in return and we can both get on....? |
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat.
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective.... "
Nah that's too much thought. I can't say I ever see others as opponents! I leave my life shit at the door and I'm never going to see eye to eye with anyone that approaches the forum differently. I accept that. I'm just not that invested. I've never got wound up over the forums like some seem to. I've never got angry. It's just insignificant drivel to me and literally like chatting to someone at a bus stop. |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love.....
I think people think I'm odd enough as it is x "
Shuppppp.... |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love.....
I think people think I'm odd enough as it is x
I like odd "
Odd made me masturbate.... |
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I don’t take Fab as a whole seriously primarily most of us are here for sex right? But what I do take seriously are the good friendships we/I have made and also other people’s feelings as much as possible x |
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat.
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective....
Nah that's too much thought. I can't say I ever see others as opponents! I leave my life shit at the door and I'm never going to see eye to eye with anyone that approaches the forum differently. I accept that. I'm just not that invested. I've never got wound up over the forums like some seem to. I've never got angry. It's just insignificant drivel to me and literally like chatting to someone at a bus stop. "
I'm glad . I did worry a little the other night as I didn't mean to offend... |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love.....
I think people think I'm odd enough as it is x
I like odd
Odd made me masturbate.... "
Weirdo oh damn it I those too |
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"I don’t take Fab as a whole seriously primarily most of us are here for sex right? But what I do take seriously are the good friendships we/I have made and also other people’s feelings as much as possible x"
I count you two as good friends, even though you've evaded meeting me so far....
Sex? On the forums???? |
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"Brain pain
I don't think a lot in the real world, little at all in the fab world. I believe I'm generally inoffensive, so I don't NEED to think deeper of others?
Did that answer any of the question(s)?
Isn't a little pain sexy? And what's the largest sexual organ (excluding f&b's penis)? You could be so offensive though with that beautiful mind of yours if you're applied it, it's such a waste....!
(Also, send vag plz! I know you technically already have today, but I'm a needy bastard.... )
Leave my dick out of it ! I have feelings FFS
Trust me your dick wants heat..85, she naughty!
Oh Lordy, what appalling timing
Also, did you just say my mind is wasted on me
No I'm saying that all the evil thoughts I know you have but don't let out should be released upon the fab public my love.....
I think people think I'm odd enough as it is x
I like odd
Odd made me masturbate....
Weirdo oh damn it I those too "
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat.
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective....
Nah that's too much thought. I can't say I ever see others as opponents! I leave my life shit at the door and I'm never going to see eye to eye with anyone that approaches the forum differently. I accept that. I'm just not that invested. I've never got wound up over the forums like some seem to. I've never got angry. It's just insignificant drivel to me and literally like chatting to someone at a bus stop.
I'm glad . I did worry a little the other night as I didn't mean to offend..."
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat.
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective....
Nah that's too much thought. I can't say I ever see others as opponents! I leave my life shit at the door and I'm never going to see eye to eye with anyone that approaches the forum differently. I accept that. I'm just not that invested. I've never got wound up over the forums like some seem to. I've never got angry. It's just insignificant drivel to me and literally like chatting to someone at a bus stop.
I'm glad . I did worry a little the other night as I didn't mean to offend...
Did we do something i should be aware of? "
No, but I can think of plenty I wouldn't mind doing with you.... |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
I do that too, think it's about having an open mind and being open to different interpretations
Oh I get in that position. My motivational values include seeing different perspectives. However if my core values are threatened I’m less likely to see the other perspective in my initial reaction. I’m getting better at managing when I’m unconsciously triggered into conflict though.
In the main Fab is my sandpit until friends are struggling.
Thank you for your kind words yesterday, Doc. You are one of this site’s gems "
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat.
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective....
Nah that's too much thought. I can't say I ever see others as opponents! I leave my life shit at the door and I'm never going to see eye to eye with anyone that approaches the forum differently. I accept that. I'm just not that invested. I've never got wound up over the forums like some seem to. I've never got angry. It's just insignificant drivel to me and literally like chatting to someone at a bus stop.
I'm glad . I did worry a little the other night as I didn't mean to offend...
Did we do something i should be aware of?
No, but I can think of plenty I wouldn't mind doing with you.... "
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"Really fab is just a place to meet others for sex. Which I can't do atm. The forum makes interesting reading sometimes. I can't be arsed to voice my opinion often because it seems to upset some because I'm direct. I don't read anything more into it than that.
Going by that, my sense of perspective is spot on.
Always feel free to voice what you think, especially at my place, as long as you're prepared for other voices and opinions that may differ....
. You say that like I should be armed with a tin hat.
Never! Sometimes arm yourself with a smile and a hug and a shared cuppa or something and find your opponent isn't so different from yourself when you've both put things into perspective....
Nah that's too much thought. I can't say I ever see others as opponents! I leave my life shit at the door and I'm never going to see eye to eye with anyone that approaches the forum differently. I accept that. I'm just not that invested. I've never got wound up over the forums like some seem to. I've never got angry. It's just insignificant drivel to me and literally like chatting to someone at a bus stop.
I'm glad . I did worry a little the other night as I didn't mean to offend...
Did we do something i should be aware of?
No, but I can think of plenty I wouldn't mind doing with you....
Fucking hell... you have a death wish too!?"
I have been known to like a little trouble.... |
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"So sorry this has happened. Pm me if you need to chat. Xxx
Thanks
I think she meant Frida...."
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"I don’t take Fab as a whole seriously primarily most of us are here for sex right? But what I do take seriously are the good friendships we/I have made and also other people’s feelings as much as possible x
I count you two as good friends, even though you've evaded meeting me so far....
Sex? On the forums???? "
Told you come to Kent and you’re on |
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"So sorry this has happened. Pm me if you need to chat. Xxx
Thanks
I think she meant Frida....
The rules are if reply and quote isn't used then anyone can claim it! "
Did you message her? If you're chatting can you ask her to seem boobs? |
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"I don’t take Fab as a whole seriously primarily most of us are here for sex right? But what I do take seriously are the good friendships we/I have made and also other people’s feelings as much as possible x
I count you two as good friends, even though you've evaded meeting me so far....
Sex? On the forums????
Told you come to Kent and you’re on "
That's a date! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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" Thanks Meli, I like your response and you are lovely and I like you more every day! Interpret that as send vag if you will?
A) I think you should post more!
B) are you saying my thread is inane?
Or
C) is it only inane because it was confusing....?"
If I sent you vag our friendship might be over.
A) Cute but real life stuff. Also sometimes my thoughts and inability to post a short post are so dreary.
B) Your thread isn't inane. The easy, daft threads I mainly take part in nowadays aren't. I like ones like these because reading other perspectives is fascinating.
C) It wasn't that confusing, I got the gist of it. Snog yeah?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" Thanks Meli, I like your response and you are lovely and I like you more every day! Interpret that as send vag if you will?
A) I think you should post more!
B) are you saying my thread is inane?
Or
C) is it only inane because it was confusing....?
If I sent you vag our friendship might be over.
A) Cute but real life stuff. Also sometimes my thoughts and inability to post a short post are so dreary.
B) Your thread isn't inane. The easy, daft threads I mainly take part in nowadays aren't. I like ones like these because reading other perspectives is fascinating.
C) It wasn't that confusing, I got the gist of it. Snog yeah?
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Snog with intent....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You think about things too much.
Can you?
I can overthink for England, but I also know (now) when to step away. Dont overcomplicate life and thoughts, its much more peaceful "
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I'd say I maintain a healthy perspective and firm grip on reality as regards fab.
I don't share regarding my personal life on the forum and I don't know any regular posters outwith what they post.
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead "
^^This^^
There are always many sides to everything. For me Fab is an escape and somewhere I can talk about things I can't talk about anywhere else. If I'm not feeling it though or if there's no particular threads which I find interesting then I'll stay away and try again later.
I'm not bothered about the whose in or out or who said what to whom - even in work places I stay out of the politics.
At the moment I see everyone else as nicknames and their profiles - if I get to know anyone on here more than that the we'll see. |
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"Btw, if the thread is too much I apologise and please feel free to send nudes or fab me. I'm deadly serious about this, but fuck knows how you're actually interpreting this point....
Isn't that kind of the point, many of us read things depending on our state of mind at any particular point?
I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I can reply one way that is my first thought, then see someone else reply another and think ah yes, maybe that was it instead
^^This^^
There are always many sides to everything. For me Fab is an escape and somewhere I can talk about things I can't talk about anywhere else. If I'm not feeling it though or if there's no particular threads which I find interesting then I'll stay away and try again later.
I'm not bothered about the whose in or out or who said what to whom - even in work places I stay out of the politics.
At the moment I see everyone else as nicknames and their profiles - if I get to know anyone on here more than that the we'll see."
Do you think that might change as you get to know people and form friendships or enter into clashes? (sometimes the clashes are an unavoidable part of being visible on here imho - there's always someone who will take a dislike to you for one reason or another) |
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I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I
Do you think that might change as you get to know people and form friendships or enter into clashes? (sometimes the clashes are an unavoidable part of being visible on here imho - there's always someone who will take a dislike to you for one reason or another) "
It might but then I'm good at compartmentalising.
There is my RL currently
There is Fab Fora
Fab PMing could be separated from the fora
If anyone on Fab goes into my RL then that will be another compartment seperate to Fab fora/PMing and parts of my RL
If there could be clashes then I'll just try not to play along. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"It's clear some people invest too much of themselves in Fab which of course it is their choice to do that but when others start spreading rumours and telling lies behind the scenes that's when I think people should find a more fulfilling pastime
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I treat fabs as an interacted glossy mag, I stare at the pictures, I read the gossip and I play the games (picture/forum games)
Then the other side, currently using it for dating too, and it is a good link to my lifestyle, but when my phone is down, nothing said on here will impact my day to day life |
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"Too many questions OP. Makes me think that indeed you overthink it. "
I'll admit it wasn't the clearest post I've ever made . However it was a really simple concept, perhaps overloaded with words initially as I often do, but explained as the thread unravelled and others managed to grasp it without too much effort. Basically a friend of mine is having a hard time and it made me stop and question the importance and value we place on the fab forums and all the shit and drama that occurs here in relation to the real life important life and death stuff that I think truly matters. I actually took something positive from that thought process and therefore I don't believe it was overthought in that respect because I feel better for having thought it
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"I treat fabs as an interacted glossy mag, I stare at the pictures, I read the gossip and I play the games (picture/forum games)
Then the other side, currently using it for dating too, and it is a good link to my lifestyle, but when my phone is down, nothing said on here will impact my day to day life"
I think that's a positive way to look at it . I just give and absorb whats here in the most positive way I can and I definitely don't get fab FOMO..... |
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I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I
Do you think that might change as you get to know people and form friendships or enter into clashes? (sometimes the clashes are an unavoidable part of being visible on here imho - there's always someone who will take a dislike to you for one reason or another)
It might but then I'm good at compartmentalising.
There is my RL currently
There is Fab Fora
Fab PMing could be separated from the fora
If anyone on Fab goes into my RL then that will be another compartment seperate to Fab fora/PMing and parts of my RL
If there could be clashes then I'll just try not to play along. "
You have a very strong and interesting mind. Can you please teach me how not to play along, I'm too playful..... |
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After a good night's sleep and a ponder over a cup of tea. I apologize if any of my posts have triggered anyone who has had similar experiences to me.
Thank you Nip for a good OP, your waffle precisely demonstrated how ones own thought process dictates how you view or answer a question.
And lastly thank you so much for all the kindhearted messages I've received here and in my PMs |
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"After a good night's sleep and a ponder over a cup of tea. I apologize if any of my posts have triggered anyone who has had similar experiences to me.
Thank you Nip for a good OP, your waffle precisely demonstrated how ones own thought process dictates how you view or answer a question.
And lastly thank you so much for all the kindhearted messages I've received here and in my PMs "
Good to hear you slept well. Hugs |
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"After a good night's sleep and a ponder over a cup of tea. I apologize if any of my posts have triggered anyone who has had similar experiences to me.
Thank you Nip for a good OP, your waffle precisely demonstrated how ones own thought process dictates how you view or answer a question.
And lastly thank you so much for all the kindhearted messages I've received here and in my PMs
Good to hear you slept well. Hugs "
Thank you |
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I find it really interesting how things get interpreted, I
Do you think that might change as you get to know people and form friendships or enter into clashes? (sometimes the clashes are an unavoidable part of being visible on here imho - there's always someone who will take a dislike to you for one reason or another)
It might but then I'm good at compartmentalising.
There is my RL currently
There is Fab Fora
Fab PMing could be separated from the fora
If anyone on Fab goes into my RL then that will be another compartment seperate to Fab fora/PMing and parts of my RL
If there could be clashes then I'll just try not to play along.
You have a very strong and interesting mind. Can you please teach me how not to play along, I'm too playful..... "
You have to practice looking at life as an absurdity... |
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