"For us could be I'm (Mrs cause I do the messaging) am thinking of a reply or more likely I've been distracted by something shiney."
pmsl something shiny is definitely the answer to my question ! Thank you so much x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me if I read and don't respond I'm saving it for later. Otherwise I send an automatic decline. Sadly I have a back log of tasty messages/ppl saved that I am unlikely to get to the bottom of

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For us could be I'm (Mrs cause I do the messaging) am thinking of a reply or more likely I've been distracted by something shiney. pmsl something shiny is definitely the answer to my question ! Thank you so much x"

This is quite often my reason too

. Sometimes I’ll remember to come back to it, but sometimes I don’t

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

"For me if I read and don't respond I'm saving it for later. Otherwise I send an automatic decline. Sadly I have a back log of tasty messages/ppl saved that I am unlikely to get to the bottom of

I think you need to start working 2 shifts or maybe weekends too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what does it mean when you send a message to someone and they don’t delete it but don’t reply ? "

I always reply yo you..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They got distracted. I do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Either they are thinking of a response.

Or they can't even take a second or two to delete? hopefully the first

I'll hold my hands up, I'm one of those people that will read a message, read it again, put phone/tablet down and have little think, then get distracted and not reply for a bit.. Sometimes, not at all.

This goes for in real life with family and friends, not just on here.

(Great way to "sell myself" I know) but it's never done out of sheer ignorance

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"... you need to stop looking at your sent items"

Wholeheartedly stand by this - it can drive you crazy if your focus is on them replying. There could be any number of reasons.

This isn't life.

Try to see it as once you've sent your message it's gone. Any reply is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"For me if I read and don't respond I'm saving it for later. Otherwise I send an automatic decline. Sadly I have a back log of tasty messages/ppl saved that I am unlikely to get to the bottom of

"
unfortunately for ladies with the amount of mail they get sometimes the good ones slip through .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So what does it mean when you send a message to someone and they don’t delete it but don’t reply ?

I always reply yo you..

"
yes because your a lovely lady and my new bestie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They got distracted. I do. "
not shiny objects by any chance ! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I open them take a look and if its not forum related or a friend I leave it.

Then just do a bulk delete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing, it means nothing.

Why try and read into it, just move on

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I get distracted

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nothing, it means nothing.

Why try and read into it, just move on"
because it makes for a good thread one thought x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes I'll open a message, read it, then when I have time to reply I can't find it again.

Sometimes I open a message and think nope and ignore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry chum it probably means they are not interested. But take these thibgs well and move on and have a fantastic time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It means they aren’t interested.

If someone wanted to reply, they would.

It’s not a difficult concept.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what does it mean when you send a message to someone and they don’t delete it but don’t reply ? "

Means I'm a lazy fucker and your profile avatar doesn't do it for me. You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sometimes I'll open a message, read it, then when I have time to reply I can't find it again.

Sometimes I open a message and think nope and ignore.

"
hmmm why not just delete? X

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

They might not be sure yet if they want to reply, so leave it and come back to it. If you delete it, you don’t get a chance to come back to it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They might not be sure yet if they want to reply, so leave it and come back to it. If you delete it, you don’t get a chance to come back to it.

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what does it mean when you send a message to someone and they don’t delete it but don’t reply ? "

If do this it is because I have forgotten to reply, I might read a message and mean to go back to it then forget

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They might not be sure yet if they want to reply, so leave it and come back to it. If you delete it, you don’t get a chance to come back to it.

"
fair enough x

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"They might not be sure yet if they want to reply, so leave it and come back to it. If you delete it, you don’t get a chance to come back to it.

fair enough x"

I do it myself.

sometimes I come back to it and reply, sometimes I don’t... x

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm too lazy to delete.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me it means they didn’t reply to the message I sent. To think anymore about it, I found, just messed with my head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes I'll open a message, read it, then when I have time to reply I can't find it again.

Sometimes I open a message and think nope and ignore.

hmmm why not just delete? X"

But why should I?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm too lazy to delete."

lol to lazy to open too ? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has anyone said lazy yet?

I keep all mine, even the cock ones....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like turning my yellow box back to blue

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm too lazy to delete.

lol to lazy to open too ? X"

Can be. That's why I have such strict filters now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm too lazy to delete.

lol to lazy to open too ? X"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm too lazy to delete.

lol to lazy to open too ? X

Yes. "

See above. If i don't like the avatar I don't even open the message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm too lazy to delete.

lol to lazy to open too ? X

Yes.

See above. If i don't like the avatar I don't even open the message. "

This

. Or the user name

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The way I look at it is if someone has read my message but not responded or deleted after a few days I assume ( righ or wrong)

They possibly aren't interested so I just delet it and if they responded at a later stage happy days

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

Ohh dear I do this

I get distracted

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By *attb179Man over a year ago

London

"For me if I read and don't respond I'm saving it for later. Otherwise I send an automatic decline. Sadly I have a back log of tasty messages/ppl saved that I am unlikely to get to the bottom of

Wait so there's still hope for my message...

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By *attb179Man over a year ago

London

"So what does it mean when you send a message to someone and they don’t delete it but don’t reply ? "

I assume they read it and forgot about it, if they haven't replied within a day. The fact they didn't delete it or reply with a no, suggests another message isn't unacceptable. Some may disagree...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm too lazy to delete.

lol to lazy to open too ? X

Can be. That's why I have such strict filters now. "
yes those bloody filters ! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get so many messages from women and couples I just can’t open them all and delete.

I’m lying of course but had y’all for a second didn’t I

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They keep it in their inbox in case they are bored and no one else want to talk.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"They keep it in their inbox in case they are bored and no one else want to talk. "

Is that why you talk to me all the time?

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By *meliaeWoman over a year ago

Chester

Id recommend deleting your sent items if you’re checking to see the status of first messages.

Some aren’t interested, some forgot, some are waiting for time to respond, but it’s impossible to tell which is it. Just delete and forget about it until they respond, if they ever respond

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They keep it in their inbox in case they are bored and no one else want to talk. "

That old chestnut hey ....

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

many things.

* I can't be arsed

* I read it then needed a shit, in the 2 minutes it takes to drop a log I've remembered something I was meant to do and crack on with that once I'm out the toilet

* I know I'm not in the best of moods so I intend on replying when I'm not in bitch cunt mode

* I got hungry and needed a donut

* something came on the telly and distracted me

* next door got really noisy so I've got up and walked away to put my music on loudly, and now I'm singing along to Slipknot with my middle fingers facing the adjoining wall

* oooooo, kettle has boiled for the 17th time and I'm actually gonna make a coffee while the water is still hot

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By *RSTCouple over a year ago

S. Northants

For us it's usually something we'd like to consider and will talk about preferences etc between us first (we are a couples profile after all), or it might be that we want to simply show the other half before we reply. We're not always around at the same time or in parent mode so can't always reply instantly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Id recommend deleting your sent items if you’re checking to see the status of first messages.

Some aren’t interested, some forgot, some are waiting for time to respond, but it’s impossible to tell which is it. Just delete and forget about it until they respond, if they ever respond "
Great idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"For us it's usually something we'd like to consider and will talk about preferences etc between us first (we are a couples profile after all), or it might be that we want to simply show the other half before we reply. We're not always around at the same time or in parent mode so can't always reply instantly. "
makes a lot of sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sometimes I'll open a message, read it, then when I have time to reply I can't find it again.

This is what I thought happens to a lot of messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol you're very ...... Ooh shiney! ...... Welcome