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What if your parents didnt accept your partner?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I watched lethal couples it is program about greed and other things surrounding a relstionship, her mom got a bad feeling of her daughters partner and rightly so she was right but didnt say anything as she loved her and wanted her to be happy, what would you do if you got the same feeling about someones partner? I am not sure as it is a tricky one as you still wsnt them to be happy with the one they haf choosen. |
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By *meliaeWoman
over a year ago
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Im pretty open with my parents about partners I am in a relationship with. There has been a couple they have voiced concerns over, I ignored them and then after a while things ended due to the same concerns my parents had. I wouldnt make that mistake again, definitely listening to the parents |
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I wished i had listened to my parents. As a mother now i let my children live their lives as they choose. I will stand by any choices they make and always be there for support when needed but will never interfere.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a parent the partners that our children choose is down to them not us so we support them and be there if ever needed.
Daughter number one is with an Aussie in Oz and son number one is converting to Islam for his girlfriend so they can live together and for us all is good.
Are your parents the reason why you are single Shag.?????
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im pretty open with my parents about partners I am in a relationship with. There has been a couple they have voiced concerns over, I ignored them and then after a while things ended due to the same concerns my parents had. I wouldnt make that mistake again, definitely listening to the parents "
Yes it seems that parents knows it more as the saying goes love is blind so it is harder for the person in the couple to see it from another perspective.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I wished i had listened to my parents. As a mother now i let my children live their lives as they choose. I will stand by any choices they make and always be there for support when needed but will never interfere.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As a parent the partners that our children choose is down to them not us so we support them and be there if ever needed.
Daughter number one is with an Aussie in Oz and son number one is converting to Islam for his girlfriend so they can live together and for us all is good.
Are your parents the reason why you are single Shag.?????
T"
That is good and no it isnt it is through choice as I like the single life more as well |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im pretty open with my parents about partners I am in a relationship with. There has been a couple they have voiced concerns over, I ignored them and then after a while things ended due to the same concerns my parents had. I wouldnt make that mistake again, definitely listening to the parents Yes it seems that parents knows it more as the saying goes love is blind so it is harder for the person in the couple to see it from another perspective."
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It's tough, as most of the time, parents are a great source of unconditional support and they know stuff about you, even you dont know. I guess you have to take it as intelligence and information, much like a trusted best friend and then make your own mind up. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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My first serious fella (first love) was disliked by my family as he was a “bad boy” who came from a town that had a bad reputation.
We were together 9 years. My grandfather (who I adored) was openly rude to him and I had to put him straight. My mum and step-dad tolerated him, for me.
He did nothing wrong to make them dislike him. He gave up his bad boy ways, he moved towns to be near me, he treated me like a Queen and we had great fun together.
It was an eye opener for me to see the people I loved and respected treat someone I had chosen (and loved) that way. And it did negatively taint my opinion of my family. I’d never seen that side of them before, and I thought it rude and unnecessary.
When we split up they still never said why they disliked him, other than they thought he wasn’t good enough for me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's tough, as most of the time, parents are a great source of unconditional support and they know stuff about you, even you dont know. I guess you have to take it as intelligence and information, much like a trusted best friend and then make your own mind up. "
Yes, it is a touch one too as they have life experience as well of what to look out for and the signs bad and good ones there.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My first serious fella (first love) was disliked by my family as he was a “bad boy” who came from a town that had a bad reputation.
We were together 9 years. My grandfather (who I adored) was openly rude to him and I had to put him straight. My mum and step-dad tolerated him, for me.
He did nothing wrong to make them dislike him. He gave up his bad boy ways, he moved towns to be near me, he treated me like a Queen and we had great fun together.
It was an eye opener for me to see the people I loved and respected treat someone I had chosen (and loved) that way. And it did negatively taint my opinion of my family. I’d never seen that side of them before, and I thought it rude and unnecessary.
When we split up they still never said why they disliked him, other than they thought he wasn’t good enough for me "
Yes and that could happen to as you could be surprised with your parents views of what they think your partner too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why wouldn't ppl who love me love the ppl I love or at least pretend to get along with them, both ways....?"
Yes I think so too, in the program I saw she did accept him and didnt say anything to her, but later it turned out the mother was right about him, but yes it is good to make your own mistakes too and learn from them as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a tricky one. If my daughter was dating someone and I didn't like them it would be for good reason.
But, ultimately it is her choice and I would have to support her, let her make mistakes, be there for her and get on with him (as long as she wasn't in danger). I risk ruining our relationship, trust and god knows what else if I don't.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's a tricky one. If my daughter was dating someone and I didn't like them it would be for good reason.
But, ultimately it is her choice and I would have to support her, let her make mistakes, be there for her and get on with him (as long as she wasn't in danger). I risk ruining our relationship, trust and god knows what else if I don't. "
Yes, it is a tricky one too and yes sometimes it best to learn from your own mistakes as well but still good with your parents input onit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd probably tell my parents / family to fuck off if they tried to interfere. I'm not on the best of the terms with them all anyway, I'm the black sheep, so I'd probably just sack them off if they tried to ruin something that made me happy.
If they're right, they're right. But they have no right to get involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually come to think of it, I don't think my family liked my ex. My nana even said to me once that I'd changed since I got with her. It wasn't true. She did a lot of things they didn't like. I bumped into my nana in townone day and my ex was gonna meet us for breakfast, but she had a row with her mum before setting off and was having an anxiety attack, so I told my nana that she wasn't feeling well and she got annoyed about it.
Yeah, looking back they didn't like her at all and I think deep down she knew that because she'd often not want to go around. |
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"Actually come to think of it, I don't think my family liked my ex. My nana even said to me once that I'd changed since I got with her. It wasn't true. She did a lot of things they didn't like. I bumped into my nana in townone day and my ex was gonna meet us for breakfast, but she had a row with her mum before setting off and was having an anxiety attack, so I told my nana that she wasn't feeling well and she got annoyed about it.
Yeah, looking back they didn't like her at all and I think deep down she knew that because she'd often not want to go around."
Mr E Man, may I ask:
1 do you love your ex?
2 strikes me she loves you if she had a fall out with her mum before meeting you
3 perhaps her family don't like you (see above)
so, plan of action might be to engage with her mum, assuage reservations, likewise with your nan.
If you love each other, then make it true and relaxed for you both and each of your families. Sounds like a loss of trust needs to be rebuilt mate, if you want to you can do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That ship sailed years ago, mate. I haven't spoken to her in years. Not to mention she's in a relationship with someone else and has a kid with them. There was a time where I did want her back, not anymore though.
There's someone else who I want to be with now, but unfortunately she only sees me as a friend. I'm gutted, but there's nothing I can do about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine didn’t, was very stressful at times. They tolerated him for me. But they were right, they could witness the gradual abuse but were powerless to stop it. X |
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