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Fab fatigue

By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

How real is it and have you experienced it before?

I've had hints of it in the past but nothing compared to now. Don't find the vibe and overall experience to be a pleasant one at the moment, and that could be down to myself as much as anything else I suppose.

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

Yes I know this exact feeling. I had a 5 month break before returning a few weeks ago. It helped.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just disappear for a while and then slip back in when I’m feeling it a bit more.

Sometimes it just becomes a bit annoying.

It’s more my personal head space at the time than any particular thing on here though and I’m currently _iewing most of it with positivity.

Just take a break if you’re not feeling it pal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

About 3pm everyday

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just have a break you’ll know when to come back if you get that feeling again I think it’s good to have a break every now and again just hide your profile and come back refreshed I’ve done it a couple of times

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Yes I know this exact feeling. I had a 5 month break before returning a few weeks ago. It helped.

I for one, did notice your absence.

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

"Yes I know this exact feeling. I had a 5 month break before returning a few weeks ago. It helped.

I for one, did notice your absence."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."

Sorry to hear you are feeling like this.

Fab does seem like you are wading through mud in Flip Flops at times, especially when people can be so fickle at tmes, I usually hide my profile and wait for the storm to pass. And it always does.

Just be kind to yourself and understand that you aren't going to feel like that forever

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By *RSTCouple over a year ago

S. Northants

It's a definite thing. We had a largely negative experience with the site when we first found it.

Lots of abusive Messages calling us liars, that Hubby was just a cheat without her permission, fakes etc. Despite being photo verified.

It became such a negative space we left, but then found we had no way of finding what we were looking for, or asking the questions we had.

Came back with a slightly different approach and it's been more positive. We still get the unsolicited dick pics and messages from those we have no interest in, despite our page clearly saying so. We still think our dynamic is still a niche on here though, but find other ways to entertain ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About 3pm everyday

Is that when the wife gets home from work?

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Big hugs chill!

I find things shift and change on here so much as people come and go. I've never totally stopped enjoying it but had periods of time I'm less interested than others. That kinda naturally controls my level of involvement. It's always good to come back refreshed after a break thoufh and see all the new faces, or even just faces I haven't noticed as much before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Io haven't had a break as such, just don't log on often if I'm feeling deflated and what not, not sure I've had fab fatigue though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s definitely a thing , we just hide our profile for a few weeks now and again! Only you will know if you need a break or not xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have it regularly so tend to go private and have a week or 2 break

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just leave. Not a good idea if you have an established profile you want to keep but if I am still here it is too easy to just keep logging on. It is worth having a break though and forgetting it for a while. Its not going anywhere and nor for the most part are any of us

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I just disappear for a while and then slip back in when I’m feeling it a bit more.

Sometimes it just becomes a bit annoying.

It’s more my personal head space at the time than any particular thing on here though and I’m currently _iewing most of it with positivity.

Just take a break if you’re not feeling it pal"

I can certainly relate regarding the annoying bit. You you find yourself eye rolling one too many times on multiple threads it's very telling. Still unsure if it's the content, my current headspace or both.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's real for sure, it has so many forms too. But generally for me it's about when you spend too much time here without contributing it exchanging anything positive. Solutions is to log out for a bit and take in some of the delights of the real world....

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

. Women getting giddy and messaging constantly regardless of whether I reply or not, falling in love after a few texts because they think they know me from some flirty shit I've posted on a forum. What's that all about? Surely ppl are more self aware than this, but apparently not?

And then there's all the anger at present, the being jumped on for having a _iew that differs from someone elses. What's wrong with disagreement, why does one person need to be right all the time, why do we need a winner - is that how we really want to live? Isn't that a shitty dictatorship? Different _iews and respect for those _iews make for an expansive caring society surely?

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Then there's users using forum rules to try to get at other users. Users having multiple accounts to toy with others and manipulate. Users letting the fab fame go to their heads. Users being so obviously addicted to it. Users just whining about anything they can in order to make themselves feel better when they feel they're losing popularity. Why don't ppl try celebrating others and see how that makes them and the others feel? Maybe some users would be surprised....

Rant over....

* Mic drop *

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I just disappear for a while and then slip back in when I’m feeling it a bit more.

Sometimes it just becomes a bit annoying.

It’s more my personal head space at the time than any particular thing on here though and I’m currently _iewing most of it with positivity.

Just take a break if you’re not feeling it pal

Probably a bit of both. I've mostly learnt when to stop reading a post and press the back button and never go back in. I'm not always perfect at doing so but it's the aim. I come here to enjoy myself and choose my threads accordingly. Sometimes headspace can make it harder to ignore the shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's real for sure, it has so many forms too. But generally for me it's about when you spend too much time here without contributing it exchanging anything positive. Solutions is to log out for a bit and take in some of the delights of the real world....

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Rant over....

* Mic drop *

Arrogant of me*

(fat arrogant fingers

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's a sign you have far too much time on your hands. I don't spend that much time here to get tired of it. I only log on when I've nothing better to do. I really didn't realise this was an actual thing.

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By *ddballs 45Man over a year ago

Hull

I've taken a break before. I used to be a chatroom mod. I deleted my profile. But couldn't keep away so created a new profile

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I just disappear for a while and then slip back in when I’m feeling it a bit more.

Sometimes it just becomes a bit annoying.

It’s more my personal head space at the time than any particular thing on here though and I’m currently _iewing most of it with positivity.

Just take a break if you’re not feeling it pal

I find myself doing this far too often of late.

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Rant over....

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I think it’s definitely time for a brew my friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Rant over....

* Mic drop *

I think it’s definitely time for a brew my friend

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Just hide your profile for a bit ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Rant over....

* Mic drop *

I really hope you are ok bud.

This resonates all too easily with me having been the subject of behind the scenes shit, havinf stuff spread by liars and knowing that people have left because of it

Just don't understand it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"About 3pm everyday

Is that when the wife gets home from work?"

Nobody told me I had a wife. Where has she been hiding?

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By *otsossieMan over a year ago

Chesterfield

I’m mostly here for the forums chat tbh.

The world is an odd place just now And I’m waiting for it to sort itself out.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I have regular fab breaks as you know and that helps to put it all into perspective, after all it is only fab and if I find myself getting too cross and snappy its time for a fab break to immerse myself fully back into real life x

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Take a break. Have left before but always end up coming back. So I usually just hide and leave now when I've had enough.

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious.

Sorry to hear you are feeling like this.

Fab does seem like you are wading through mud in Flip Flops at times, especially when people can be so fickle at tmes, I usually hide my profile and wait for the storm to pass. And it always does.

Just be kind to yourself and understand that you aren't going to feel like that forever

Wading through mud in flip flops is an interesting contextualisation, and very fitting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."

I'll come on, go to the forums and if it's quiet or no particular threads which interest me I'll go away and come back later.

If I've got RL stuff to do I'll do that instead (or try to).

I can get easily addicted to forums (yes I've been there constantly refreshing waiting for something to happen). So I need to consistently monitor my usage and if it's impacting RL then I have to force myself away.

When the fun stops. Stop (for a time anyway)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's real indeed.

The ebb and flow of people changes, the flavour of threads change minorly, the repetitive threads DON'T change. Your own mental place changes. Your mood and tolerance changes. Your single status (emotional or actual) changes and thus FAB requirements change.

I go through very definite phases and and purposefully restrict myself with time outs.

Do what you gotta do X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Rant over....

* Mic drop *

I really hope you are ok bud.

This resonates all too easily with me having been the subject of behind the scenes shit, havinf stuff spread by liars and knowing that people have left because of it

Just don't understand it"

I'm fine my lovely, that was mostly tongue in cheek and supposed to be a bit funny. I'm actually for once not suffering any behind the scenes junk (well minimal anyway that I know of) and I'm having quite a positive spell, so it's all good. Just a list of the pitfalls of fab forum life really.

I could maybe kinda do with keeping a lower profile and attracting less of the fawning forumites maybe, hence me being a little quieter lately, but I can't really complain about ppl trying to be nice.....

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By *nblemishedhotwifeCouple over a year ago

Warwick

Not sure on fatigue but it does get very boring. Same recycled message's from the same unsuitable people.

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By *olarbear73Man over a year ago

Glasgow

When I felt like this before I left. Should’ve just hid. Like with anything, fatigue just means you ought to go something else instead for a while. I’m sure Fab will still be here when you’re refreshed.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple over a year ago

Cardiff

Oh really sorry to hear this chill out, you are part of the fab furniture

But we do hide from time to time, never yet hit the delete button but have been close

I hope you recover your fab mojo soon

Take care

Jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Currently I am feeling a little fatigued because I'm feeling too much in demand (I know, how arrogant you F me!!!!). And it's making me feel a bit

And then there's the popularity and jealousy and possessiveness, why not enjoy your own experience rather than gossiping and bringing others down?

Rant over....

* Mic drop *

I really hope you are ok bud.

This resonates all too easily with me having been the subject of behind the scenes shit, havinf stuff spread by liars and knowing that people have left because of it

Just don't understand it

Good to hear, just keep being you never mind the haters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just _hillout

Stay intermittent

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"When I felt like this before I left. Should’ve just hid. Like with anything, fatigue just means you ought to go something else instead for a while. I’m sure Fab will still be here when you’re refreshed.

Ever regret having deleted instead of just hiding? All those great veris

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's real indeed.

I go through very definite phases and and purposefully restrict myself with time outs.

Do what you gotta do X "

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

Ever regret having deleted instead of just hiding? All those great veris

I deleted instead of hiding. I didn’t have any veris because I don’t use or display them. It’s personal preference I guess ... but leaving altogether was the right decision for me at the time.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Fapathy as I call it is definitely a "thing" and I've certainly felt less drawn to the site lately, and don't feel that constant urge to keep checking in, and have definitely found I've not missed it when I've not logged on for a while and often when I do check in I find myself spending a quick 5 minutes and then logging off without a great deal of interaction with the site or the people on it.

I think the reasons for it are various - obviously COVID plays its part as you can't use the site for its primary purpose, you then have the general air of negativity and triteness that seems to surround the forums more and more lately, not to mention some of the behind the scenes shenanigans that go on

Add to that personal circumstances both work and outside of work that take priority and overall I think I'm just at a point where I don't really know what I want or expect from the site currently.

As for what I do about it - for now I'll just carry on bimbling along in my own way, checking in and interacting when the urge takes me - it may get better and things may change or it may come to the point where my visits become less and less frequent.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I get bored with it. Usually if I’ve not got someone piquing my interest.

Just step back a bit and have some time focusing on you, pamper yourself, do stuff you enjoy and then you’ll get your groove back.

I think there is a bit of post lockdown lows about at the moment too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep. I find it all a bit cringey at the moment to be honest. Not like it was. Some people seem to live on here! It’s a bit samey. I don’t come on here much anymore. And on top of that there’s some real unnecessary nastiness going on which I really can’t be doing with. Childish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep. I find it all a bit cringey at the moment to be honest. Not like it was. Some people seem to live on here! It’s a bit samey. I don’t come on here much anymore. And on top of that there’s some real unnecessary nastiness going on which I really can’t be doing with. Childish "

Took the words out of my mouth

childish

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Took the words out of my mouth

childish"

Yep it’s not really for me right now. But I’ll probably change. I barely look at the forums anymore when I come on. First time in ages!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't log on for days or weeks depending on how strong the fatigue is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have regular bouts of not coming on and having a break....... I feel one of those breaks coming in as I’ve noticed lately the vibe is certainly different and all a bit clicky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Took the words out of my mouth

childish

Yep it’s not really for me right now. But I’ll probably change. I barely look at the forums anymore when I come on. First time in ages!"

LOTS of threads I don't go in,just stick mainly to music or film threads lately

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't log on for days or weeks depending on how strong the fatigue is.

Your an enigma FB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Took the words out of my mouth

childish

Yep it’s not really for me right now. But I’ll probably change. I barely look at the forums anymore when I come on. First time in ages!

LOTS of threads I don't go in,just stick mainly to music or film threads lately"

I only come on to see your cock Dash

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't log on for days or weeks depending on how strong the fatigue is.

My fatigue eases and my anus relaxes as soon as I see you pop up my little sexy bearded pumpkin of fabulousness....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't log on for days or weeks depending on how strong the fatigue is.

Your an enigma FB"

No, you are...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said Nora, disgraceful way for grown adults to behave, one must question what is lacking in their lives.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Took the words out of my mouth

childish

Yep it’s not really for me right now. But I’ll probably change. I barely look at the forums anymore when I come on. First time in ages!

LOTS of threads I don't go in,just stick mainly to music or film threads lately

I only come on to see your cock Dash "

If you zoom in you can see 'nora' wrote on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said Nora, disgraceful way for grown adults to behave, one must question what is lacking in their lives."

My penis, innit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said Nora, disgraceful way for grown adults to behave, one must question what is lacking in their lives."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Took the words out of my mouth

childish

Yep it’s not really for me right now. But I’ll probably change. I barely look at the forums anymore when I come on. First time in ages!

LOTS of threads I don't go in,just stick mainly to music or film threads lately

I only come on to see your cock Dash

If you zoom in you can see 'nora' wrote on it"

Oh god that just made me twinge!

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."
yes I gave the forums a miss for last couple of weeks , fab deffo not what it used to be , but I'm alot less forgiving now, timewasters are in force and most of the time I really cant be arsed

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By *rivateparts!Man over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I have a rant and take a break for a few days.

Love me or loathe me it makes no difference to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't log on for days or weeks depending on how strong the fatigue is.

Your an enigma FB but I'd love to dance with you on Celine"

Glad to see that you are confident enough to call her Celine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve taken to not logging in for the day a lot lately. Think real life is also taking its toll x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously though, I do also think that people can't expect their popularity to be maintained if they stick to the same old tried and tested ways and don't evolve. As an ongoing long term experience we need to get involved and celebrate the change that is inevitable in life and fab.... Get stuck in and make life what you want it to be rather than whining when other folk step in for you....

I was just chatting with a friend who thinks fab is currently the most inclusive it's ever been. I kinda agree with her....

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I’ve found fab more frustrating than helpful over lockdown. I have dipped in and out and kept up with a few friends but a lot of the fun is making new connections with a _iew to meeting up if things go well. I started making some connections but when you can’t take it anywhere it’s just frustrating and then it fizzles out.

The last couple of days I’ve dipped in again. Nothing really changes, so it doesn’t matter if I take a break. It will be here to come back to.

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By *olarbear73Man over a year ago

Glasgow

Ever regret having deleted instead of just hiding? All those great veris

Yeah I guess. They’re all still in my memories though Chill

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I think we've discussed fab fatigue before OP.

I think that lockdown is understandably making some more... antsy. I do think there's been a rise in people making underhand digs/references to others and that overall it contributes to a less pleasant overall feeling than before.

On the other hand, I do think people are engaging with a greater number of people than before. A more varied range of people are running threads than before and actually talking to different posters who contribute, not just those whose face fit or they want to fuck.

I do get a bit meh about it at times; I'm posting with less frequency than before and now go days without logging on (I'm ill right now and this is a welcome distraction). I think that is in part to my personal feelings - fab isn't as important to me now and those I really want to interact with I talk to away from here. The forum and its users are nice enough but not that exciting if it makes sense?

Taking time away is always a good idea, focus on things and those that are genuinely important to you and you might come back able to laugh at the odd post here and there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."

I’ve got fab fatigue at the moment

. I’m just hidden and popping in and out. Hope you’re ok Chill.xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ever regret having deleted instead of just hiding? All those great veris

Yeah I guess. They’re all still in my memories though Chill

Oh thats sweet.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."

Same. We've had extended periods off during Covid world and continues to dip in and out. Agree about the vibe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said Nora, disgraceful way for grown adults to behave, one must question what is lacking in their lives."

Is this playing out over fab I never see any hint of things like this, I dont look for it but really dont come across it either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think we've discussed fab fatigue before OP.

Taking time away is always a good idea, focus on things and those that are genuinely important to you and you might come back able to laugh at the odd post here and there."

I think I'm blind to these underhanded digs people keep mentioning lately, it's come up a few times this week but I've not really seen any myself? I think people often see what they want to see or what they're looking for in others however, especially on text. Either that or because I've extracted myself from the gossip loop now I have no idea what's going on. More ppl should extract themselves in a similar way if this is true - it's quite liberating when you're removed from the negativity and you're just to be able to say to the gossips and to yourself that you're not interested.... focus on what matters.....

P.s. hope you're better soon Meli x

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Well said Nora, disgraceful way for grown adults to behave, one must question what is lacking in their lives.

Is this playing out over fab I never see any hint of things like this, I dont look for it but really dont come across it either. "

It is sadly as i've been caught up in it directly and indirectly in the past. It contributes nothing of good for one's experience here and becomes exasperating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've deleted a couple of times and very much enjoyed the break

Enjoying being back and some of the newer posters now, bringing different perspectives and made a couple of interesting connections recently.. People are more open to chatting now and less FAF evey 2 seconds... I like chat, so suits me very well at the moment

I've also blocked newbies and that seems to be improving my Fab experience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done. "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done. "

Awww don't go Benny. We love your wood

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done. "

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at! "

Same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

Same

I’d actually go as far as to say fittest bod on fab in my opinion.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at! "

What she said.

Although I also perve at Nora too

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

"I think we've discussed fab fatigue before OP.

Taking time away is always a good idea, focus on things and those that are genuinely important to you and you might come back able to laugh at the odd post here and there.

P.s. hope you're better soon Meli x"

This.

Take care Meli.

Jo.Xx

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By *elle xWoman over a year ago

Doire Theas

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

Same

I’d actually go as far as to say fittest bod on fab in my opinion. "

Agreed

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

Fab is very meh and to be honest if it wasn’t for the drawings I wouldn’t be logging on at all, but even those have come to a stand still.... why should I do something nice.

I’m currently hidden and I’m not sure if I will unhide. I talk to those I wish to outside of here and just find the fab fakeness, two faced, hypocritical, playground behaviour all the more tedious than normal.

Time will tell if I return but for now I’ll leave the wolves in sheep’s clothing to play their school yard games, I’ve no time or patience for these people

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."

I think the current situation doesn’t help.

When you use fab primarily for meeting and socialising as many of us do then it effectively becomes defunct in the current climate.

I’m on far less than I used to be. I occasionally jump on the forums but often find that unless you’re hot as f*** or a very regular contributor then you’re pretty much overlooked.

As for the vibe - society as a whole is, with good reason, worried and frustrated. Many have lost jobs or found income reduced - all of us are living a drastically different way of life to the life we had six months ago - plus it’s slowly dawning on us that this will be much longer term than anticipated.

Hardly surprising that people may be less patient and more gripey than usual?

Sending massive hugs!

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

I'm finding myself taking longer, more frequent breaks lately. Partly because there's not much that interests me in the forums, partly because of my own mindset - I'm not currently interested in meeting or getting to know anyone new. As Meli said, I keep in touch with those that are important to me away from here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Know exactly what you mean Chill. Hardly come in the fora anymore

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"About 3pm everyday

me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I handle it by walking away. Its not like its going anywhere x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with a lot of the comments above. Almost deleted my profile this week, covid has changed everyones lifes, I know I'm exhausted the last while and missing interaction with friends.

The nastiness and snide comments here can take its toll too. When happens I just take a break. I avoid some threads as not worth the grief, I participate in the fun ones and try to post fun threads too.

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Happened to us a few times. We just hide the profile and walk away for a few weeks or a couple of months. When we come back nothing has changed so you don't miss much.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

" I think I'm blind to these underhanded digs people keep mentioning lately, it's come up a few times this week but I've not really seen any myself? I think people often see what they want to see or what they're looking for in others however, especially on text. Either that or because I've extracted myself from the gossip loop now I have no idea what's going on. More ppl should extract themselves in a similar way if this is true - it's quite liberating when you're removed from the negativity and you're just to be able to say to the gossips and to yourself that you're not interested.... focus on what matters.....

P.s. hope you're better soon Meli x

This.

Take care Meli.

Jo.Xx "

Thank you Jo and Nippy, I'm just wallowing a bit.

I do think you're right Nippy - a person's own perception and bias can cloud how you interpret words. Maybe those fawning forumites aren't as fawning as you think they are?

No, I'm teasing you there.

There's definitely truth in focusing on what matters; I'm a lot happier when I do so and sometimes when I get a bit caught up on fab it gets kind of draining? Again, I know that's a sign of the times and my own mindset.

For all of the above and my previous post though, I'm happy to see the new faces who bring positivity on here. It's lovely to read genuine kindness with no motives and I hope that those who are having a difficult time with everything going on find it easing soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am feeling exactly the same as the last few weeks have upset me seeing a friend leave because of people being mean. Fab and SM can take over your life, it preoccupies your mind. I have found myself constantly and habitually reaching for my phone and really, what I'm reading is like informational junk food. Most of what I read, at times, is useless to me and disturbs my inner tranquility. It doesn't make me smile or happy. Add to the fact that we can't physically meet. It takes its toll! It might be time for a Fab Detox, take a break for a while Chill and come back all refreshed? x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

Same

I’d actually go as far as to say fittest bod on fab in my opinion.

Agreed

Thankyou All for the lovely comments, speechless

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done. "

Oh no your one of the fittest on here love perving at your pics

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Part of the problem is that we use fab to meet and socialise with that facility currently suspended there is little point in log on. We occasionally email friends to check in and have video chatted with some very good friends on here but reality is we could easily walk away from fab never to return. Quite a few of our friends have already left.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

Same

I’d actually go as far as to say fittest bod on fab in my opinion.

Agreed

Thankyou All for the lovely comments, speechless

I like your nipples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

Same

I’d actually go as far as to say fittest bod on fab in my opinion.

Agreed

Thankyou All for the lovely comments, speechless

I like your nipples

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Blooming heck, you’re the last person I expected such a thread from. You know how I have been feeling of late as we have talked about it. I’m both happy and sad to hear it’s not just me but others too.

I don’t know why it’s such a strange place at the moment but maybe a little break for a breather is what’s needed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think lockdown has given an opportunity for people to realise that all too often, fab interactions are fleeting in nature

People chat, they meet and then move on, so perhaps that keeps interest from waning

The current situation may have shown that for some, virtual interaction is hard to sustain

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve had it in the past I usually hide my profile for a Month or so until I feel my fab mojo come back.

I’ve felt it recently but I’ve been enjoying the conversations I’ve been having with a few so I’ve just taken a day or two instead.

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Blooming heck, you’re the last person I expected such a thread from. You know how I have been feeling of late as we have talked about it. I’m both happy and sad to hear it’s not just me but others too.

I don’t know why it’s such a strange place at the moment but maybe a little break for a breather is what’s needed. "

Gets to us all in the end

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By *etite_delightWoman over a year ago

BunnyLand

It comes and goes for me nowadays. Sometimes threads seems so meaningless and even stupid that I want to leave without looking back, sometimes I want to comment every one of them and enjoy getting myself involved.

Guessing with the lockdown and restrictions around, there isn’t much to do socially so my mood fluctuates more than usual , which, I end up getting either addicted or stay away completely

no balance in between.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To me it seems it's affecting a lot of the old regulars who've been here a long time and maybe had things easier in the past. The newer members seem to just crack iyn and have fun. I genuinely think it might be the issue of embracing change and getting stuck in with the new folk. Also recognition that 175's are now a fuck load harder for all of us. I used to do a thread and it'd complete in an hour, with the current attitude of ppl not wanting to get involved, the only way to complete a thread is by sitting on it like an egg all day and that's no fun.... .....that's not a whinge, it's just how things are, especially if we're not ALL getting involved and contributing....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To me it seems it's affecting a lot of the old regulars who've been here a long time and maybe had things easier in the past. The newer members seem to just crack iyn and have fun. I genuinely think it might be the issue of embracing change and getting stuck in with the new folk. Also recognition that 175's are now a fuck load harder for all of us. I used to do a thread and it'd complete in an hour, with the current attitude of ppl not wanting to get involved, the only way to complete a thread is by sitting on it like an egg all day and that's no fun.... .....that's not a whinge, it's just how things are, especially if we're not ALL getting involved and contributing....

Tell me Nippy have you ever sat on an egg? Just curious

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

the second it becomes a chore, take a break......

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Or maybe it’s that fab was a easier/funner place in the past and there seems to have been a sudden addition of people with really shitty attitudes both on the forums and in the inboxes. Because that’s what my problem has been.

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

When it stops being fun I disappear until I am ready to play again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell me Nippy have you ever sat on an egg? Just curious

I would for you....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I lost interest weeks ago and was ready to leave but that seems easier said than done.

Don’t go! You’re one of the only lot of pics I perv

at!

Same

I’d actually go as far as to say fittest bod on fab in my opinion.

Agreed

Thankyou All for the lovely comments, speechless

On my Hotlist too

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"When it stops being fun I disappear until I am ready to play again "

Very much my thinking

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

"When it stops being fun I disappear until I am ready to play again

Very much my thinking

Less stress. No I'm leaving posts. Just come and go as suits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You only quoted half my comment, the second part was really relevant I think....

....and I'm sorry you feel that way my love, but extracting yourself and watching from the sidelines would most likely perpetuate that feeling. Have you tried getting to know the shitty people, they might not be as shitty as you think.....?

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"the second it becomes a chore, take a break......"

Absolutely.

If it ain't fun, step away.

Whether that be temporarily or otherwise is your call.

Also I think it's worth taking ownership for how much your own attitude can colour exchanges on here, so if you aren't feeling it sometimes it's worth looking inwards for the reason rather than outwards.

Speaking from my own experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell me Nippy have you ever sat on an egg? Just curious

I would for you....

Noted for future

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell me Nippy have you ever sat on an egg? Just curious

I would for you....

Noted for future

Only if I can wear your knickers while I do.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In the past I've spontaneously deleted.

But now I just hide my profile and have a good think first. I've toyed a lot about deleting permanently over the last several months due to a major upcoming move in my life, but I want to do it with thought to ensure I don't simply return a few months later.

Only you know!

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

I have felt it and sometimes I think I need a break. It has to do with probably how I'm feeling about myself more than anything else.

I do miss people who have left here though. The dynamic of the forum is ever evolving.

I hope you are ok Chillout. You've been since before me I remember seeing you Nora and others around x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have felt it and sometimes I think I need a break. It has to do with probably how I'm feeling about myself more than anything else.

I do miss people who have left here though. The dynamic of the forum is ever evolving.

I hope you are ok Chillout. You've been since before me I remember seeing you Nora and others around x

Great ass!

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I agree to an extent - think there has always been an element of negativity and nastiness, but just lately it seems to have been worse, add to that the triteness of a lot of threads (which again has always been there to an extent but seems to have got worse) and it all adds up.

The place has always been peaks and troughs just lately though it's been more trough than peak.

And of course it's going to be longer standing regulars that are feeling it more, simply because they've been here long enough to have seen the good and the bad and are able to recognise that it can be, and has been better. It's also not about "popularity" for many, and certainly not me, I honestly couldn't give a stuff if I'm considered popular or not by a mostly random bunch of strangers - the only people that matter to me are the ones that matter.

I've been around a lot of forums on all sorts of topics in my time, and for a site aimed at adults, there are times that this has been one of the most childish I have been a member of.

Given the choice of "adapting" to fit what I perceive the current trend and taking a step backwards I'll do the latter every time, as the current trend is indeed very "meh" to me.

Of course you could say "if you don't like it change it" but it will take a collective shift for that to happen and can't be done singlehandedly and with the level of Fapathy that a lot are feeling (as evidenced by this thread) that's not going to happen any time soon.

So for now I'll continue to "bimble" as I said further up, accept that it is a bit "meh" currently, and if and when I'm ready to, will either become more active or fade away completely - no skin either way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious."

Times atm are different for everyone and the freedom of healthy movement among members isn't the same or is radically reduced so it's bound to affect members participation in this joint ,as in if no meets there's only so much of the forums etc that ya can take before it maybe gets boring or maybe just monotonous , some hide their profile for a break others leave the joint and rejoin...the thing is to always try to keep things fresh and invigorating but with the current climate that's a bit harder to do .

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"I have felt it and sometimes I think I need a break. It has to do with probably how I'm feeling about myself more than anything else.

I do miss people who have left here though. The dynamic of the forum is ever evolving.

I hope you are ok Chillout. You've been since before me I remember seeing you Nora and others around x

Great ass! "

This is why I stay

Thank you kindly Dash

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By *am4CamWoman over a year ago

Fairy Land

I’ve had fab fatigue for a couple of years; hence hovering about in disguise, waiting to see if inspiration hits again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In the past I have left and come back again. Its like an ever revolving door. But now I just walk away ignore fab the forums and recently have interacted less and less with the forum and even in PM. Like the wheel of fortune it keeps spinning whether we are here or not....

Hope your OK OP but if you feel the need to take time out, you don't have to delete your account, just hide it ignore it and and do something in your life that brings you joy peace contentment.

Then you can come and go when you feel ready, or just let fab fade as a memory until you may wish to return.

It matters not what others think, its your life, live it for you, the way you want, and if that's here or elsewhere, I wish you peace.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same recycled trash, with the same hatred, peddled by fucktards.

I love it

Perhaps give yourself a few weeks off and return to reassure yourself you made the right decision

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell me Nippy have you ever sat on an egg? Just curious

I would for you....

Noted for future

Only if I can wear your knickers while I do.....

You might have to get them off Dave first

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"How real is it and have you experienced it before?

How have you dealt with it if you'd have it before? Did you take an extended break from here as I soon intend to do or employed some other strategy?

Generally curious.

While I do think the current climate plays into it - I also think it's an easy thing to blame.

Just because the climate means that meets are not an option doesn't automatically mean some of the negativity that seems to abound lately has to be, or the behind the scenes nastiness that goes on.

It comes back to all the usual values of respect, consideration etc that should still apply regardless of the climate and lately I think a lot of those appear to have gone out the window.

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I pretty much log on in the morning and look at my messages 2-3 times a day instead of every 10 mi utes as I used to. More than once I’ve thought of deleting my account altogether, but it did take me a long time to build my profile to what it is now... so I don’t.

I am trying to “wean” myself off the site... don’t know how successful I am, but at least I’m trying!

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Fab is very meh and to be honest if it wasn’t for the drawings I wouldn’t be logging on at all, but even those have come to a stand still.... why should I do something nice.

Time will tell if I return but for now I’ll leave the wolves in sheep’s clothing to play their school yard games, I’ve no time or patience for these people "

Very much in agreement re the playground behaviour

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I want to dish out so many hugs in this thread

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By *hillout OP Man over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I want to dish out so many hugs in this thread

Aww bless you. You're one of the genuinely good ones

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I want to dish out so many hugs in this thread

Aww bless you. You're one of the genuinely good ones

Aww Chill

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

" In the past I've spontaneously deleted.

Only you know! "

Yeah.

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Fab is very meh and to be honest if it wasn’t for the drawings I wouldn’t be logging on at all, but even those have come to a stand still.... why should I do something nice.

Time will tell if I return but for now I’ll leave the wolves in sheep’s clothing to play their school yard games, I’ve no time or patience for these people

Very much in agreement re the playground behaviour

So do I read this thread correct ? It's a direct criticism of some forum members and there actions and opinions ? Obviously however without name or shame ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I get that way and have found the easiest option is to leave. If I hide I find I log on out of habit. Only way for me is going cold turkey. I don’t really feel I fit in here anymore. I’ve changed too much. Been burnt too much and I have my own way of doing things now. But after so many years it’s hard to stay away completely.

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