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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good and even loving sex can be a mixture. Depending on what ppl enjoy.

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By *ire_thornMan over a year ago

no comment

Personally i feel tha5 sensual passionate sex comes with the overall chemistry of the parties involved. I've been in situations where it went from wham bam to some really passionate stuff.

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By *olex99Man over a year ago

Hull

There can be both. It's good to mix it up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi "

I find that you only have sensual sex if there are proper intimate feelings involved otherwise it’s just a way for both of you to get what you need

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sensual always.

Fast and hard has never really done it for me - feels too much like you're trying to compete in a race and just ends up as a turn off.

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By *arriedandlooking1928Man over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Fast and hard can be great when you're in a hurry and it's what you both need but slow and sensual is always more rewarding for both parties

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With limited experience i'll add my thoughts..

I liked slow and sensual as i'm a slow,sensual and raw liking and giving guy. I don't get anything out of a wam - bam - slice of ham fuck time, its thoughtless, worthless and pointless most of the time imo.

Each to the own pref though..

Rewards are far greater with slow, meaningful pleasure giving leading to heightened tension and finish..

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Of course she is .. unless she just wants a quicky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She, the lady is always worth and in my opinion should always be worthy of meaningful, sensual, firey, hot pleasure in all sexual manners.

I'm oldskool me, the lady is always first and hardest pleasured. My pleasure is a bonus...

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

Both. They're in no way mutually exclusive. Whatever that specific partner wants at that specific moment.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

All down to what the fwb wants at the time of the meet whether that be one or the other or both

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By *oxladMan over a year ago

WORKSOP

Sensual always

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By *rivateparts!Man over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

There's a time and a place for both.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Both I'd say and depends on the fwb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bollocks!

Bang her brains out, I haven't all day to be a blooming '90's' man.

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By *ornado69Man over a year ago

Princess Risborough

Sensual sex, I get my pleasure from giving my FWB the sex and contact that she desires. For me it's my pleasure to give her what she wants and how she wants it.

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

No preference.

Depends on our mood.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi "

It depends on both moods, but yes a fwb does deserve slow and sensual sex.

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

From a woman I have sensual sex most of the time you dont have to be in a relationship to have sensual sex op

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

It really depends on the situation and the mood you are both in.. for me it's about making sure you are both satisfied. That can range from a quick frantic fuck when you first arrive to slow and sensual sleepy sex when you first wake up..

So I guess yes a fwb is deffinatly worth slow and sensual.

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi "
and as to say is she worthy ? Of course everyone is worthy , I know exactly what I want from a meet , and if it sounds like it's not for me I wont meet ,

Do u have a low opinion of yourself to say that ? Or not get what you want out of meets ?

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi and as to say is she worthy ? Of course everyone is worthy , I know exactly what I want from a meet , and if it sounds like it's not for me I wont meet ,

Do u have a low opinion of yourself to say that ? Or not get what you want out of meets ? "

This thread is not about people being nosey and asking me about my situation. If you please answer my original question. Thank you.

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By *hat BlokeMan over a year ago

Harrogate

If a lady is worth sleeping with, she is worthy of a mans affection and care. So sensual sex would be my default position. Once you get to know each other and each other’s tastes you can grow your repertoire into quickies, hard and fast and possibly a bit of kink. But for me it must always grow from the affection seed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to do both with my FWB which was probably the reason why I caught feelings for him.

Luckily for me it didn't ruin anything and we are a couple now for almost three years.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being with an fwb is the relationship.

Is she worthy? Why would you ask such a thing?

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By *oxychicWoman over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi and as to say is she worthy ? Of course everyone is worthy , I know exactly what I want from a meet , and if it sounds like it's not for me I wont meet ,

Do u have a low opinion of yourself to say that ? Or not get what you want out of meets ?

This thread is not about people being nosey and asking me about my situation. If you please answer my original question. Thank you. "
I wasnt being nosey you actually put it in your thread just why would u think is she worthy ? Just sprang to mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't know sensual sex is reserved for the worthy ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Bollocks!

Bang her brains out, I haven't all day to be a blooming '90's' man.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Why does sensual sex have to be something someone is "worthy" of regardless of their gender or how the relationship is defined?

In fact I'd go one further than that and ask why the type of sex has to be defined?

Sometimes sex will be slow and sensual, sometimes it will be needy and animalistic, sometimes it will be exploratory, sometimes it will be other things entirely - usually, and at it's best, it defines itself in a given moment as the flow is followed, naturally and instinctively, by all involved rather than being a pre-ordained "style" dictated by one of the people concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, all sex should be sensual.

Doesn't need to be romantic to be sensual.

I'm not into mindless pounding.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi and as to say is she worthy ? Of course everyone is worthy , I know exactly what I want from a meet , and if it sounds like it's not for me I wont meet ,

Do u have a low opinion of yourself to say that ? Or not get what you want out of meets ?

This thread is not about people being nosey and asking me about my situation. If you please answer my original question. Thank you. I wasnt being nosey you actually put it in your thread just why would u think is she worthy ? Just sprang to mind

My reasoning is this. Is sensual sex connected to having feelings for another? It’s a fwb so not in a proper relationship. ‘Worthy’ meaning is it worth letting these feelings happen if there is no future relationship. Could it give confusing signals to the lady? This is just me wondering about it. It’s nothing to do with my situation.

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

"My reasoning is this. Is sensual sex connected to having feelings for another?"

Gotcha.

Then, no. It just feels good sometimes.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"My reasoning is this. Is sensual sex connected to having feelings for another?

Gotcha.

Then, no. It just feels good sometimes.

Yep, exactly that - sex can be sensual without "feelings" in the traditional sense - I've been to clubs where I've had sex with people within minutes of "meeting" them but it's still been anything but "pounding away" in fact the very notion of that kind of sex leaves me quite cold personally.

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

So what makes sensual sex romantic then? If not the sensuality then what?

You may feel romantically towards that person, but how do you display that differently (the sensuality) to someone you love than to someone you’re just boffing?

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By *hubaysi OP Woman over a year ago

Leeds

"So what makes sensual sex romantic then? If not the sensuality then what?

You may feel romantically towards that person, but how do you display that differently (the sensuality) to someone you love than to someone you’re just boffing?

I’ve no idea but it’s a good question for the thread.

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By *hat BlokeMan over a year ago

Harrogate

I think sensual sex does not necessarily mean romantic attachment. But at the end of the day, there must be some sort of bond between a couple before they get down to getting naked with each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I'm with an fwb, I thought it was short term, but we're here 10 years on.

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By *affeine DuskMan over a year ago

Caerphilly

"So what makes sensual sex romantic then? If not the sensuality then what?

You may feel romantically towards that person, but how do you display that differently (the sensuality) to someone you love than to someone you’re just boffing?

There is no distinction, for me. Sensuality can be a romantic thing, or purely a physical pleasure.

The difference is in the open communication between the two people.

And maybe some breakfast in bed with a rose, I dunno, romance is a lost concept on me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can be a bit of both depending on the mood at the time, I would say very large majority of the time is more sensual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what makes sensual sex romantic then? If not the sensuality then what?

You may feel romantically towards that person, but how do you display that differently (the sensuality) to someone you love than to someone you’re just boffing?

I’ve no idea but it’s a good question for the thread. "

I always view it as I am allowed to love them for the time I am with them, and them me and show that in how we have sex and then we are free to leave. It does work with the one off type of meets, but can still leave a little of the come down a day or so later that is just natural I think.

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By *ustme34Man over a year ago

Bingley

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi "
of course she is worthy of sensual . Every time we meet its different in a good way sometimes its a quick shag sometimes an overnight stay or a long weekend away . Plenty of hard pounding and plenty of sensual sex

How about you OP which do you prefer from a fwb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what makes sensual sex romantic then? If not the sensuality then what?

You may feel romantically towards that person, but how do you display that differently (the sensuality) to someone you love than to someone you’re just boffing?

For the time I'm with the person it is just me and them in a romantic bubble. The sensuality is within the bond I have for that moment of time we are together.

Outside of that time I get on with my life and they do the same. We may meet again, we may not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So what makes sensual sex romantic then? If not the sensuality then what?

You may feel romantically towards that person, but how do you display that differently (the sensuality) to someone you love than to someone you’re just boffing?

I’ve no idea but it’s a good question for the thread.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Worthy of it?

The fuck? Everyone is 'worthy' of good sex whether it's a one night stand or your nearest and dearest or someone in between.

Whether good sex is rough sex or sensual sex or even a stand up quickie depends on the circumstances.

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By *urygent1Man over a year ago

North West

"This is a question for the guys.

If you have a FWB do you prefer sensual sex or hard pounding sex?

What I’m trying to say is she worthy of sensual sex if you are not in a proper relationship?

Take no assumption from this thread. I’m just wondering

Bhubaysi "

I like both sensual and good and hard. Doesn't matter about the relationship but more what both want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had a fwb a few years back and the sex was always different depending on the scenario, a weekend away at a spa is always different to a bang behind a pub

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