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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I ask myself the same question  "
I've been asking myself this tonight and the obvious answer I thought of was for sex, but there's no chance of that lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to talk rubbish on the forum's,as well as meeting strangers very night of the week for sex of course. "
You look too classy for every night of the week 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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something different to the normal sites i guess and abit more exciting tje actual thought or seeing xxx pics or vids or evening arranging a quick you no what or what ever floats peopls boats?maybe im wrong and people come on here looking for relationships i dont no |
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"I got chucked out of embroidery club
So did I, they embroidery clubs are so stuck up these days "
You missed SO many possible puns there. You got needled by the members of the embroidery club? Hooked on crochet?
Jeez, where's the quality on this site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To see what others are up to.. exciting is to know there’s more people like you.. thinking sex, fuck .. random fun...
Dirty sticky sweaty fun!! ?????
Or am I only one ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To let lose find it easier on hear for that kinky dirty sex that so dirty you can’t tell anyone if I wanted vanilla sex I would be on a dateing site but in my experience you don’t get that wild dirty sex from them and when you ask people on vanilla dateing sites they seems to shy away xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got chucked out of embroidery club
So did I, they embroidery clubs are so stuck up these days
You missed SO many possible puns there. You got needled by the members of the embroidery club? Hooked on crochet?
Jeez, where's the quality on this site"
Now that I think about it they did stitch me up! |
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"I got chucked out of embroidery club
So did I, they embroidery clubs are so stuck up these days
You missed SO many possible puns there. You got needled by the members of the embroidery club? Hooked on crochet?
Jeez, where's the quality on this site
Now that I think about it they did stitch me up! "
That's more like it  |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"I got chucked out of embroidery club
So did I, they embroidery clubs are so stuck up these days
You missed SO many possible puns there. You got needled by the members of the embroidery club? Hooked on crochet?
Jeez, where's the quality on this site
Now that I think about it they did stitch me up! "
Brilliant   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Strangely enough it's not for sex. I gave up on that ages ago. I've learned my limitations and accept I'm not anybody's cup of tea. Now I just post nonsense on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hahaha I just love being here to be rejected lol ...but in whole honesty I've no idea why I'm still on here as it's not good for your self confidence lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe I'm just an optimist and one day that dream girl will arrange to meet and be the best fuck I've ever had! ...but in reality it never happens on here lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe I'm just an optimist and one day that dream girl will arrange to meet and be the best fuck I've ever had! ...but in reality it never happens on here lol"
Mate I’ve realised you actually pull more often on Facebook or in general day to day life than you do on here! Can’t imagine you’ll meet your dream woman on here though, but good luck to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose 
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger! 
Why hello sexy lady "
Good to see you back |
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back "
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too "
There is indeed  you have to stay and help with the tripe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chat to like minded people, meet kinky ones & get to experience new things (without much judgement).
Chat to nutty, crazy ones too
Hey! I'm sane, just a little merry onna school night "
You are, I'm a different story |
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe "
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders) "
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)
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Well, totally succeeded in grossing myself out now |
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"Chat to like minded people, meet kinky ones & get to experience new things (without much judgement).
Chat to nutty, crazy ones too
Hey! I'm sane, just a little merry onna school night
You are, I'm a different story "
Loud music, ciders, gin down the drain as its friggin yukky and a night off work....yep, I like today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)
Well, totally succeeded in grossing myself out now "
And me, quick work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chat to like minded people, meet kinky ones & get to experience new things (without much judgement).
Chat to nutty, crazy ones too
Hey! I'm sane, just a little merry onna school night
You are, I'm a different story
Loud music, ciders, gin down the drain as its friggin yukky and a night off work....yep, I like today "
Sounds perfect  |
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)
Well, totally succeeded in grossing myself out now
And me, quick work "
Why, thank you. I take payment in the form of debit card, credit card, PayPal and travellers cheques |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)
Well, totally succeeded in grossing myself out now
And me, quick work
Why, thank you. I take payment in the form of debit card, credit card, PayPal and travellers cheques "
How about boobs? |
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)
Well, totally succeeded in grossing myself out now
And me, quick work
Why, thank you. I take payment in the form of debit card, credit card, PayPal and travellers cheques
How about boobs? "
I might be able to accept payment in kind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Habit
And there are a few people that are alright I suppose
This
People in habits? Quite a kink there
Hey stranger!
Why hello sexy lady
Good to see you back
We dip in and out (pun optional)! Nice to see some friendly avatars but crumbs, there is a lot of utter tripe too
There is indeed you have to stay and help with the tripe
As long as the tripe is not in milk (shudders)
Well, totally succeeded in grossing myself out now
And me, quick work
Why, thank you. I take payment in the form of debit card, credit card, PayPal and travellers cheques
How about boobs?
I might be able to accept payment in kind "
Done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chat to like minded people, meet kinky ones & get to experience new things (without much judgement).
Chat to nutty, crazy ones too
The best kind "
Definitely! |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I ask myself the same question
I've been asking myself this tonight and the obvious answer I thought of was for sex, but there's no chance of that lol."
OP..you joined during lockdown, when meeting was not advised. What did you expect? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mainly for forums and the odd chat, not meeting due to virus etc however i feel that some men make it hard for genuine ones by the behaviour they show towards others so we get burdened with it too, so i just go with the flow from now on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Certainly isn’t for the meeting aspect anymore - for me fabs been getting worse over time. So i spend my time in the forum - seems to be more ‘relaxed’ people hiding here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do I use fab? Good question
I'm trying to find people to get to know and share experiences with. Being a single male, it's extremely difficult but I've met a few gems out there. The socials are great too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think one of the reasons why I use fab is just to try and get my confidence back up sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't "
I know what you mean. Sometimes you get a lovely message from someone that really lifts your day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You do sometimes you get a nice message from someone that will actually boost your confidence up and then the next day you will get a negative message sometimes you feel like you're on a dating website back in the day some good feedback some not so good feedback  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity. |
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"This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity."
Pretty much this...I have a lot of boring conference calls at work, so I tend to sit and flick idly through the forums while I'm half listening to those |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity."
Do you honestly think that about the hidden agenda stuff. I think there actually a LOT LOT less of that now and less cliquish stuff, but maybe I don't see it these days because I'm kinda outside if it all? Personally I think it depends on whether you look for it or not it hope unnecessary grudges. If you're look for something here then you can usually find it pretty quickly especially if you're lurking and not contributing because it's one way text mostly. I do agree there's not a great deal of late to challenge or develop my mind, which is disappointing as that's my main reason to be here, but I think a lot of ppl have lost the appetite for that in these tough times, they often just want to literally eat a nice cake or have a glass of wine and feel good. I kinda understand and respect that though, even if it gives me less to contribute. When I start a thread they're much slower because less folk are bothered to get involved these days unless you accidentally stroke them the wrong way and then it seems they often feel the need to fight rather than talk it out and that's where the only higher volume threads occurr, with the exception of the "rate my mate fancies your pic challenge" threads - but they have a place I think in introducing new folk and making new connections and keeping things positive and light.....
I've seen a lot of ppl seeming to be upset about losing their place or status and I guesse it's more difficult and ppl actually have the work for it these days. Complaining that nobody fancies you on a my mate fancies you thread for example though - why do that? Why not just join in and send a few messages or say you're happy to take messages and people will include you eventually, much more positive approach and maybe we could take some joy in giving others joy and in a way that's spreading more joy isn't it....?
In summary for me - It's fab, it's alright when you get involved, it's always changing and if it didn't we'd be complaining that it didn't....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often wonder the same thing. I’m not a swinger in my opinion (more poly)
But I’ve been here so long (11yrs on and off) that it’s a habit. I miss the forums when I’m gone and I miss the social side. I have found life long friends through fab too. I have found and lost love, I’ve had some of my highest points and my lowest. But despite that I still keep coming back for another dose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity.
Do you honestly think that about the hidden agenda stuff. I think there actually a LOT LOT less of that now and less cliquish stuff, but maybe I don't see it these days because I'm kinda outside if it all? Personally I think it depends on whether you look for it or not it hope unnecessary grudges. If you're look for something here then you can usually find it pretty quickly especially if you're lurking and not contributing because it's one way text mostly. I do agree there's not a great deal of late to challenge or develop my mind, which is disappointing as that's my main reason to be here, but I think a lot of ppl have lost the appetite for that in these tough times, they often just want to literally eat a nice cake or have a glass of wine and feel good. I kinda understand and respect that though, even if it gives me less to contribute. When I start a thread they're much slower because less folk are bothered to get involved these days unless you accidentally stroke them the wrong way and then it seems they often feel the need to fight rather than talk it out and that's where the only higher volume threads occurr, with the exception of the "rate my mate fancies your pic challenge" threads - but they have a place I think in introducing new folk and making new connections and keeping things positive and light.....
I've seen a lot of ppl seeming to be upset about losing their place or status and I guesse it's more difficult and ppl actually have the work for it these days. Complaining that nobody fancies you on a my mate fancies you thread for example though - why do that? Why not just join in and send a few messages or say you're happy to take messages and people will include you eventually, much more positive approach and maybe we could take some joy in giving others joy and in a way that's spreading more joy isn't it....?
In summary for me - It's fab, it's alright when you get involved, it's always changing and if it didn't we'd be complaining that it didn't.... "
I'll just post a thread if one pops into my head. Sometimes it gets noticed. Other times not. I'm happy if I get replies into double figures. It also allows me to exercise my imagination.
Just throw it out there and see what happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity.
Do you honestly think that about the hidden agenda stuff. I think there actually a LOT LOT less of that now and less cliquish stuff, but maybe I don't see it these days because I'm kinda outside if it all? Personally I think it depends on whether you look for it or not it hope unnecessary grudges. If you're look for something here then you can usually find it pretty quickly especially if you're lurking and not contributing because it's one way text mostly. I do agree there's not a great deal of late to challenge or develop my mind, which is disappointing as that's my main reason to be here, but I think a lot of ppl have lost the appetite for that in these tough times, they often just want to literally eat a nice cake or have a glass of wine and feel good. I kinda understand and respect that though, even if it gives me less to contribute. When I start a thread they're much slower because less folk are bothered to get involved these days unless you accidentally stroke them the wrong way and then it seems they often feel the need to fight rather than talk it out and that's where the only higher volume threads occurr, with the exception of the "rate my mate fancies your pic challenge" threads - but they have a place I think in introducing new folk and making new connections and keeping things positive and light.....
I've seen a lot of ppl seeming to be upset about losing their place or status and I guesse it's more difficult and ppl actually have the work for it these days. Complaining that nobody fancies you on a my mate fancies you thread for example though - why do that? Why not just join in and send a few messages or say you're happy to take messages and people will include you eventually, much more positive approach and maybe we could take some joy in giving others joy and in a way that's spreading more joy isn't it....?
In summary for me - It's fab, it's alright when you get involved, it's always changing and if it didn't we'd be complaining that it didn't....
I'll just post a thread if one pops into my head. Sometimes it gets noticed. Other times not. I'm happy if I get replies into double figures. It also allows me to exercise my imagination.
Just throw it out there and see what happens "
Absolutely! Your stuff is always good and open..... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"In summary for me - It's fab, it's alright when you get involved, it's always changing and if it didn't we'd be complaining that it didn't.... "
All that is very true and Fab has always been peaks and troughs and that's the nature of the site, just lately it's been in a particularly long period of trough from my own personal perspective, and that may well be partly down to the current climate and circumstances.
I'm not bothered in the slightest by it or any kind of "popularity" contest or even my own apathy towards things - as I said, I have enough of a circle of people I know and think enough of to not let it be a concern either way. I do my own thing anyway and always have done.
My last post was merely answering the question posed by the OP about my personal perspective currently |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity.
Do you honestly think that about the hidden agenda stuff. I think there actually a LOT LOT less of that now and less cliquish stuff, but maybe I don't see it these days because I'm kinda outside if it all? Personally I think it depends on whether you look for it or not it hope unnecessary grudges. If you're look for something here then you can usually find it pretty quickly especially if you're lurking and not contributing because it's one way text mostly. I do agree there's not a great deal of late to challenge or develop my mind, which is disappointing as that's my main reason to be here, but I think a lot of ppl have lost the appetite for that in these tough times, they often just want to literally eat a nice cake or have a glass of wine and feel good. I kinda understand and respect that though, even if it gives me less to contribute. When I start a thread they're much slower because less folk are bothered to get involved these days unless you accidentally stroke them the wrong way and then it seems they often feel the need to fight rather than talk it out and that's where the only higher volume threads occurr, with the exception of the "rate my mate fancies your pic challenge" threads - but they have a place I think in introducing new folk and making new connections and keeping things positive and light.....
I've seen a lot of ppl seeming to be upset about losing their place or status and I guesse it's more difficult and ppl actually have the work for it these days. Complaining that nobody fancies you on a my mate fancies you thread for example though - why do that? Why not just join in and send a few messages or say you're happy to take messages and people will include you eventually, much more positive approach and maybe we could take some joy in giving others joy and in a way that's spreading more joy isn't it....?
In summary for me - It's fab, it's alright when you get involved, it's always changing and if it didn't we'd be complaining that it didn't....
I'll just post a thread if one pops into my head. Sometimes it gets noticed. Other times not. I'm happy if I get replies into double figures. It also allows me to exercise my imagination.
Just throw it out there and see what happens
Absolutely! Your stuff is always good and open..... "
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"This is something I have been asking myself more and more lately - the answer used to be that I enjoyed using the forums and finding likeminded people to chat to and potentially meet.
More and more recently though I find little of interest in the forums, it seems to be mainly either trite meaningless threads or contentious ones, with hidden agendas being played out and behind the scenes shenanigans going on that I have no interest in getting involved in - now some of that was always there to a degree, but just lately it seems to be more prevalent and I find less and less I am interested in posting on.
I'm also lucky enough to have a wide enough circle of people I know to not be overly bothered about making new connections (although occasionally these still happen).
So all that has led me to wonder exactly what the OP is asking and I think if anything Fab has become a "time filler" for me that I dip in and out of rather than being somewhere I immediately head to at every given opportunity.
Do you honestly think that about the hidden agenda stuff. I think there actually a LOT LOT less of that now and less cliquish stuff, but maybe I don't see it these days because I'm kinda outside if it all? Personally I think it depends on whether you look for it or not it hope unnecessary grudges. If you're look for something here then you can usually find it pretty quickly especially if you're lurking and not contributing because it's one way text mostly. I do agree there's not a great deal of late to challenge or develop my mind, which is disappointing as that's my main reason to be here, but I think a lot of ppl have lost the appetite for that in these tough times, they often just want to literally eat a nice cake or have a glass of wine and feel good. I kinda understand and respect that though, even if it gives me less to contribute. When I start a thread they're much slower because less folk are bothered to get involved these days unless you accidentally stroke them the wrong way and then it seems they often feel the need to fight rather than talk it out and that's where the only higher volume threads occurr, with the exception of the "rate my mate fancies your pic challenge" threads - but they have a place I think in introducing new folk and making new connections and keeping things positive and light.....
I've seen a lot of ppl seeming to be upset about losing their place or status and I guesse it's more difficult and ppl actually have the work for it these days. Complaining that nobody fancies you on a my mate fancies you thread for example though - why do that? Why not just join in and send a few messages or say you're happy to take messages and people will include you eventually, much more positive approach and maybe we could take some joy in giving others joy and in a way that's spreading more joy isn't it....?
In summary for me - It's fab, it's alright when you get involved, it's always changing and if it didn't we'd be complaining that it didn't....
I'll just post a thread if one pops into my head. Sometimes it gets noticed. Other times not. I'm happy if I get replies into double figures. It also allows me to exercise my imagination.
Just throw it out there and see what happens
Absolutely! Your stuff is always good and open.....
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Absolutely! Your stuff is always good and open.....
Why thank you sir, you doth embarrass me with your kind words
That thread you just started is actually quite beautiful "
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It's like a naughty f*cebook which keeps drawing me back and you never know it might even result in sex someday
I like the forums, I've never come across an app like that before.
I also nose through profiles and I read verifications.. It's nice to know how much fun people are having.
I imagine this would be a better experience if I knew some of you in real life. So the social side is appealing to me.
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