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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I feel like being a bi male is a no go zone for women on here the amount of women that don’t want to meet me because I’m bi has anyone had this problem or any women want to speak on the topic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't worry about the people that don't want to meet I'm sure there's enough women out there that will meet because you're bi."
don’t know anymore been on the site for ages now
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"Don't worry about the people that don't want to meet I'm sure there's enough women out there that will meet because you're bi. don’t know anymore been on the site for ages now "
Maybe putting more details on your profile will help. |
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"Don't worry about the people that don't want to meet I'm sure there's enough women out there that will meet because you're bi. don’t know anymore been on the site for ages now
Maybe putting more details on your profile will help."
I can't see his profile, I think he's blocked me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't worry about the people that don't want to meet I'm sure there's enough women out there that will meet because you're bi. don’t know anymore been on the site for ages now
Maybe putting more details on your profile will help."
I’m not very good at these things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't worry about the people that don't want to meet I'm sure there's enough women out there that will meet because you're bi. don’t know anymore been on the site for ages now
Maybe putting more details on your profile will help.
I can't see his profile, I think he's blocked me "
no sorry I haven’t blocked you it’s saying the same for me as well website is being werid sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi mate I'd say there are a few red flags that women would notice on your profile. You are only looking for women but only have verifications from men. You don't have and public pictures. You can't travel or accommodate and saying people don't want to talk in your bio is going to make people think you're a real negative thinker.
I'd recommend looking at the advice thread of the forums and seeing how others are writing their profiles. A lot of women aren't that concerned about us being bi especially on here. It's your profile that's making them avoid. Good luck  |
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"Don't worry about the people that don't want to meet I'm sure there's enough women out there that will meet because you're bi. don’t know anymore been on the site for ages now
Maybe putting more details on your profile will help.
I can't see his profile, I think he's blocked me no sorry I haven’t blocked you it’s saying the same for me as well website is being werid sorry "
No worries matey, obviously I'm openly bi on here, but I don't go shouting it from the rooftops in real life. Some ladies will be repulsed by it, and othters will be turned on. It's just a numbers game when all is said and done and I wish you every success in what you are looking for x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Funny little story I can go though quite a lot off profiles and pick out guys form lots off woman’s verification and I have been with the guys they meet way before them just
Messagerd a woman one time she sed she didn’t meet bi guys I looked and I had meet 90% off her verification before her in fact one guy rolled out my bed on a moring meet and rolled in to her in a afternoon meet still to this day wonder if he went home and washed first or went straight form my bed to hers |
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"I feel like being a bi male is a no go zone for women on here the amount of women that don’t want to meet me because I’m bi has anyone had this problem or any women want to speak on the topic "
I think you'll find, over time, that you get as many positive responses as negative for being bi.
For example, we *only* meet with bi guys, even when we're hot-wifing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice"
My message list would say very different it would shock you the amount off “ straight guys message me “ or look at my profile multiple times a day real eye opener to the fab straight |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice"
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Admittedly, it's a hard slog being a bi chap on Fab. I've played with a handful of ladies with my current/previous profile.
I read re_iews to see if they've ever met up with Bi guy's before, if so I'll message - otherwise I won't bother.
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Think people need to stop worrying about the reasons people don't want to meet and merely accept that they don't.
Yes, being bi will put some women off, but so will being dark haired, light haired, bald, tall, short... you name it, there's gonna be people that won't meet for that specific reason.
Single males will likely struggle, it's just the way it is on here due to many reasons including the ratio of males to females.
Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here. "
Agree.
It's never bothered me and I stay away from anyone flying the NO BI GUYS flag, but I've never seen a valid reason for that 'preference'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think people need to stop worrying about the reasons people don't want to meet and merely accept that they don't.
Yes, being bi will put some women off, but so will being dark haired, light haired, bald, tall, short... you name it, there's gonna be people that won't meet for that specific reason.
Single males will likely struggle, it's just the way it is on here due to many reasons including the ratio of males to females.
Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed
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This^^ |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Agree.
It's never bothered me and I stay away from anyone flying the NO BI GUYS flag, but I've never seen a valid reason for that 'preference'."
I truly believe one of the reasons is this...
When I've been for testing at the clap clinic one of the questions they ask is "do you meet bisexual men?"
If you answer yes, they then inform you that bi men are higher risk in the hepatitis B stakes and offer you a course of hep B injections.
I opted for the jabs and the antibodies wouldn't take due to my age.
I practice safe sex unless in a LTR, but I do believe the hepatitis thing will likely put some off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be for sure but is an attraction supposedly for some and some couples. Many women on the site are bi or bi curious yet far less men state or admit that which is sad |
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Your profile isn't very informative and sounds very negative. You say to ask if you want to know anything but there's nothing to lead one to ask questions. As someone else has suggested, read threads on improving your profile. Have some photos on public and try to be less negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had to block all males cos of bi guys on here. I'm straight, so no I don't need endless messages to suck my cock, absolute pain in the arse. I know how women feel. |
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"I've had to block all males cos of bi guys on here. I'm straight, so no I don't need endless messages to suck my cock, absolute pain in the arse. I know how women feel. "
If it helps make you feel better, I'm a bi guy and I wouldn't suck your cock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had to block all males cos of bi guys on here. I'm straight, so no I don't need endless messages to suck my cock, absolute pain in the arse. I know how women feel.
If it helps make you feel better, I'm a bi guy and I wouldn't suck your cock."
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By *kiolo1Couple
over a year ago
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"Funny little story I can go though quite a lot off profiles and pick out guys form lots off woman’s verification and I have been with the guys they meet way before them just
Messagerd a woman one time she sed she didn’t meet bi guys I looked and I had meet 90% off her verification before her in fact one guy rolled out my bed on a moring meet and rolled in to her in a afternoon meet still to this day wonder if he went home and washed first or went straight form my bed to hers "
I love this story.  |
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"I feel like being a bi male is a no go zone for women on here the amount of women that don’t want to meet me because I’m bi has anyone had this problem or any women want to speak on the topic "
To be honest it’s made no difference. If somebody doesn’t want to meet me because of who I am, that’s there prerogative and fair enough, but also why would I want to meet them.  |
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Each to their own, we only look for bi people, but a well written profile and a few pictures are the way forward.. conversation/connection is most important.
You have to look for the right people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Each to their own, we only look for bi people, but a well written profile and a few pictures are the way forward.. conversation/connection is most important.
You have to look for the right people. "
people just need to be open on their profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some."
it makes the women in couples seem so much more adventurous as so many say they are at least bi curious. Just makes the men seem a little staid perhaps
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel like being a bi male is a no go zone for women on here the amount of women that don’t want to meet me because I’m bi has anyone had this problem or any women want to speak on the topic "
Not really been a problem for me.
I think you might need to rewrite your profile. First thing you say is “don’t know what to write here.” To me that says lazy and can’t be bothered.
Maybe people think there isn’t much to your profile?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry OP
But as others have said you been Bi really has nothing to do with how you are fairing on fab.
I'd open up a new thread asking for profile help if you want to find out all the reason why.
Good luck
KJ x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some."
Yeah and there probably the fab 'straight' profiles on here asking for late night fun with other guys. It's funny and sad how afraid they are to try and be themselves.
I had a friend call me gay because I made a vegan curry  . Apparently it's gay to not have meat in it. |
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By *kiolo1Couple
over a year ago
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some.
Yeah and there probably the fab 'straight' profiles on here asking for late night fun with other guys. It's funny and sad how afraid they are to try and be themselves.
I had a friend call me gay because I made a vegan curry . Apparently it's gay to not have meat in it."
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some.
Yeah and there probably the fab 'straight' profiles on here asking for late night fun with other guys. It's funny and sad how afraid they are to try and be themselves.
I had a friend call me gay because I made a vegan curry . Apparently it's gay to not have meat in it."
I thought it was having extra meat that made you gay  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some.
Yeah and there probably the fab 'straight' profiles on here asking for late night fun with other guys. It's funny and sad how afraid they are to try and be themselves.
I had a friend call me gay because I made a vegan curry . Apparently it's gay to not have meat in it.
I thought it was having extra meat that made you gay . "
More vegan propaganda! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Agree.
It's never bothered me and I stay away from anyone flying the NO BI GUYS flag, but I've never seen a valid reason for that 'preference'.
I truly believe one of the reasons is this...
When I've been for testing at the clap clinic one of the questions they ask is "do you meet bisexual men?"
If you answer yes, they then inform you that bi men are higher risk in the hepatitis B stakes and offer you a course of hep B injections.
I opted for the jabs and the antibodies wouldn't take due to my age.
I practice safe sex unless in a LTR, but I do believe the hepatitis thing will likely put some off."
my main reason. |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Agree.
It's never bothered me and I stay away from anyone flying the NO BI GUYS flag, but I've never seen a valid reason for that 'preference'.
I truly believe one of the reasons is this...
When I've been for testing at the clap clinic one of the questions they ask is "do you meet bisexual men?"
If you answer yes, they then inform you that bi men are higher risk in the hepatitis B stakes and offer you a course of hep B injections.
I opted for the jabs and the antibodies wouldn't take due to my age.
I practice safe sex unless in a LTR, but I do believe the hepatitis thing will likely put some off."
It's daft to exclude a whole sexuality for this reason though. Someone may be bisexual but not had sex with another man for years and had full screening since. They may be bisexual but only had sex with another man in a commited relationship. They may be bisexual but have only engaged in limited sexual activity with other men or maybe even none. Of course sexual promiscuity brings risks and that is something many of us on here have to be aware of. In fact, active swingers probably have a similar risk profile to MSM. If someone seems reckless with their sexual health it will put me off but it's unfair to generalise an entire sexuality. People are individuals and I assess my risk on a case by case basis. Yes I once decided not to engage with a bisexual man as he admitted to having unprotected sex when he had no condoms because "its not like I can get him pregnant". However I had a year long relationship with a bisexual man who used condoms for every single sexual encounter with no exceptions. He had never had unprotected sex with anyone. My risk with him would have been lower than with some heterosexual men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We only meet single bi guys. Straight guys do nothing for us, although we can and do play straight couple to couple, nothing turns me on more than seeing hubby and another guy together |
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Maybe we should start posting the names of all the men who have straight on their profiles yet tell us they are bi and have profiles and verifications on fabguys.
We value our health, sexual and general and I (A) won't engage with anyone unprotected or, that I question their hygiene or how careful they are.
A lot of straight men seem to struggle with reading our profile and stringing even one sentence together. However, I wouldn't then say ALL straight men can't read or write. Do people lack common sense more so nowadays? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe we should start posting the names of all the men who have straight on their profiles yet tell us they are bi and have profiles and verifications on fabguys.
We value our health, sexual and general and I (A) won't engage with anyone unprotected or, that I question their hygiene or how careful they are.
A lot of straight men seem to struggle with reading our profile and stringing even one sentence together. However, I wouldn't then say ALL straight men can't read or write. Do people lack common sense more so nowadays?"
We need about 30 threads as they capped at 175 comments a thread and I at least my self get over 100 message a day from so called straight guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some.
Yeah and there probably the fab 'straight' profiles on here asking for late night fun with other guys. It's funny and sad how afraid they are to try and be themselves.
I had a friend call me gay because I made a vegan curry . Apparently it's gay to not have meat in it.
I thought it was having extra meat that made you gay . "
Only if you enjoy it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ha ha fear of the gay! Cracking up, that's so true of some.
Yeah and there probably the fab 'straight' profiles on here asking for late night fun with other guys. It's funny and sad how afraid they are to try and be themselves.
I had a friend call me gay because I made a vegan curry . Apparently it's gay to not have meat in it.
I thought it was having extra meat that made you gay .
More vegan propaganda! "
Haha well I'm not vegan so make of that what you will  |
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Would I ever actively seek out a bi guy? Probably not, but if I liked a guy who was bi then it wouldn't alter me liking him. I do find a bi or bi curious guy owning their sexuality much much sexier than a straight guy who likes to suck cock though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel like being a bi male is a no go zone for women on here the amount of women that don’t want to meet me because I’m bi has anyone had this problem or any women want to speak on the topic "
I think there are a few Bi haters for sure but there’s plenty who aren’t. In truth I think perhaps your profile may be more of a barrier than your sexuality x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here. "
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl? |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?"
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We should all have the freedom to partake in sexual activities with whom ever we choose. Without discrimination or labelling.
I'm certainly not put off by anyones preference. |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality. "
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....? 
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that....  |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality.
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....?
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that.... "
It seems your missing the point of the other person. They are a couple who want to meet bi people because then they can all play together.
It would be awkward if the man of the couple wanted to play with you and you weren't even slightly interested (maybe even repulsed) at the thought.
If they were talking about a one to one meet I'd agree with you but that isn't the case. The fact you think it's discrimination that they would tell people that they would want to play all together is bizarre when you think of the type of site we're on.
The main difference here is a bi person can play straight but a straight person can't play in a bi scenario so when it comes to a couple why would they want someone who doesn't want to play with them both?
The fact that many bi couples/ppl have contacted you is because there are a lot of fab 'straight' on here so it's worth asking. |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality.
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....?
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that....
It seems your missing the point of the other person. They are a couple who want to meet bi people because then they can all play together.
It would be awkward if the man of the couple wanted to play with you and you weren't even slightly interested (maybe even repulsed) at the thought.
If they were talking about a one to one meet I'd agree with you but that isn't the case. The fact you think it's discrimination that they would tell people that they would want to play all together is bizarre when you think of the type of site we're on.
The main difference here is a bi person can play straight but a straight person can't play in a bi scenario so when it comes to a couple why would they want someone who doesn't want to play with them both?
The fact that many bi couples/ppl have contacted you is because there are a lot of fab 'straight' on here so it's worth asking. "
I'm really not missing the point at all.... |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality.
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....?
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that....
It seems your missing the point of the other person. They are a couple who want to meet bi people because then they can all play together.
It would be awkward if the man of the couple wanted to play with you and you weren't even slightly interested (maybe even repulsed) at the thought.
If they were talking about a one to one meet I'd agree with you but that isn't the case. The fact you think it's discrimination that they would tell people that they would want to play all together is bizarre when you think of the type of site we're on.
The main difference here is a bi person can play straight but a straight person can't play in a bi scenario so when it comes to a couple why would they want someone who doesn't want to play with them both?
The fact that many bi couples/ppl have contacted you is because there are a lot of fab 'straight' on here so it's worth asking.
I'm really not missing the point at all.... "
And bi couples do play with "genuinely straight" straight fella's too.
It's like saying sex isn't sex without penetration. Personal choice is great, just don't complain when ppl excercise it against any person unless for example they openly advertise it and then it CAN then become discrimination. Discrimination has been thrashed lately in the racism threads, this is no different, it's ok not the want sex with any type of person for any reason, it's not cool however to shout about it and make them feel inferior.... |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality.
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....?
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that....
It seems your missing the point of the other person. They are a couple who want to meet bi people because then they can all play together.
It would be awkward if the man of the couple wanted to play with you and you weren't even slightly interested (maybe even repulsed) at the thought.
If they were talking about a one to one meet I'd agree with you but that isn't the case. The fact you think it's discrimination that they would tell people that they would want to play all together is bizarre when you think of the type of site we're on.
The main difference here is a bi person can play straight but a straight person can't play in a bi scenario so when it comes to a couple why would they want someone who doesn't want to play with them both?
The fact that many bi couples/ppl have contacted you is because there are a lot of fab 'straight' on here so it's worth asking.
I'm really not missing the point at all....
And bi couples do play with "genuinely straight" straight fella's too.
It's like saying sex isn't sex without penetration. Personal choice is great, just don't complain when ppl excercise it against any person unless for example they openly advertise it and then it CAN then become discrimination. Discrimination has been thrashed lately in the racism threads, this is no different, it's ok not the want sex with any type of person for any reason, it's not cool however to shout about it and make them feel inferior.... "
I agree with you overall but talking about the couple who posted is different. It's a mutual choice between them as they would both want to play with people of the same sex. Is it discrimination if they know it would be uncomfortable for the other person?
That's where we differ here. Sexuality is different from race as people's sexuality can change. The difference being is it something you can change or something you have to live with (like race). If you think that straight people feel any sort of inferiority then remember how big the pool of people there are in the world for you compared to other sexualities. It seems you want to be included in one of the only groups that aren't interested |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality.
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....?
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that....
It seems your missing the point of the other person. They are a couple who want to meet bi people because then they can all play together.
It would be awkward if the man of the couple wanted to play with you and you weren't even slightly interested (maybe even repulsed) at the thought.
If they were talking about a one to one meet I'd agree with you but that isn't the case. The fact you think it's discrimination that they would tell people that they would want to play all together is bizarre when you think of the type of site we're on.
The main difference here is a bi person can play straight but a straight person can't play in a bi scenario so when it comes to a couple why would they want someone who doesn't want to play with them both?
The fact that many bi couples/ppl have contacted you is because there are a lot of fab 'straight' on here so it's worth asking.
I'm really not missing the point at all....
And bi couples do play with "genuinely straight" straight fella's too.
It's like saying sex isn't sex without penetration. Personal choice is great, just don't complain when ppl excercise it against any person unless for example they openly advertise it and then it CAN then become discrimination. Discrimination has been thrashed lately in the racism threads, this is no different, it's ok not the want sex with any type of person for any reason, it's not cool however to shout about it and make them feel inferior....
I agree with you overall but talking about the couple who posted is different. It's a mutual choice between them as they would both want to play with people of the same sex. Is it discrimination if they know it would be uncomfortable for the other person?
That's where we differ here. Sexuality is different from race as people's sexuality can change. The difference being is it something you can change or something you have to live with (like race). If you think that straight people feel any sort of inferiority then remember how big the pool of people there are in the world for you compared to other sexualities. It seems you want to be included in one of the only groups that aren't interested "
So only minorities can suffer discrimination then, clearly, that's my only point. I'm quite happy being me and I don't believe in sexual privilege. I was making a point to challenge that someone was saying they are discriminated against for being bi but then in the same sentence they said openly they would only ever play with bi ppl, which to me is discrimination. What are you missing fella? You've tried this with me on other threads. I suggest a mutual block from now on and respect that please, I'm not interested. Starts now.... |
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
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As a bi male on this site, I get more messages from straight men than anyone else. I have noticed that some single women and married couples state they won't meet bi males, and that is perfectly ok, and their right to do so.
At least you're being honest in stating your sexuality, some on here obviously aren't. |
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"Some people are srtaight, and like to meet with straight people, just because its a preference doesnt make it prejudice
I completely disagree. How can my level of attractiveness to someone else be affected by who I find attractive?
I don't look any different because I'm bi. So, the ONLY reason someone would dismiss me (because I'm bi) is because of prejudice.
The preference excuse doesn't work here.
Didn't you just say you only meet bi ppl?
Yes, but if you think about the logistics of 4 people, they are not equivalent scenarios.
If 4 people are all bi, you can do certain things.
However, not meeting someone *because they are bi* is different. It doesn't mean more or less things can happen. It just means you are rejecting someone because of their sexuality.
I've thought about it and what's wrong with less happening? You're still discriminating, or is it greed, or is it just personal choice the same as not meeting anyone you don't feel you'd like to meet including a bi person....?
I think personal choice is fine, we need choice, but stating such things in advance is discrimination. The same as profiles who say they don't meet black/white/small/hung guys etc, it's fine to choose not to but it's poor form to put it on your profile or shout about it and make the person feel bad or inadequate for simply being themselves.
If you're correct in what you say then simply saying you're bi in your profile should be enough to let people know, surely. Yet plenty of bi ppl and bi couples have requested to meet me, and I'm a straight guy. Funny that....
It seems your missing the point of the other person. They are a couple who want to meet bi people because then they can all play together.
It would be awkward if the man of the couple wanted to play with you and you weren't even slightly interested (maybe even repulsed) at the thought.
If they were talking about a one to one meet I'd agree with you but that isn't the case. The fact you think it's discrimination that they would tell people that they would want to play all together is bizarre when you think of the type of site we're on.
The main difference here is a bi person can play straight but a straight person can't play in a bi scenario so when it comes to a couple why would they want someone who doesn't want to play with them both?
The fact that many bi couples/ppl have contacted you is because there are a lot of fab 'straight' on here so it's worth asking.
I'm really not missing the point at all....
And bi couples do play with "genuinely straight" straight fella's too.
It's like saying sex isn't sex without penetration. Personal choice is great, just don't complain when ppl excercise it against any person unless for example they openly advertise it and then it CAN then become discrimination. Discrimination has been thrashed lately in the racism threads, this is no different, it's ok not the want sex with any type of person for any reason, it's not cool however to shout about it and make them feel inferior....
I agree with you overall but talking about the couple who posted is different. It's a mutual choice between them as they would both want to play with people of the same sex. Is it discrimination if they know it would be uncomfortable for the other person?
That's where we differ here. Sexuality is different from race as people's sexuality can change. The difference being is it something you can change or something you have to live with (like race). If you think that straight people feel any sort of inferiority then remember how big the pool of people there are in the world for you compared to other sexualities. It seems you want to be included in one of the only groups that aren't interested
So only minorities can suffer discrimination then, clearly, that's my only point. I'm quite happy being me and I don't believe in sexual privilege. I was making a point to challenge that someone was saying they are discriminated against for being bi but then in the same sentence they said openly they would only ever play with bi ppl, which to me is discrimination. What are you missing fella? You've tried this with me on other threads. I suggest a mutual block from now on and respect that please, I'm not interested. Starts now.... "
I don't have any personal issue with you but playing the victim when you are in the majority is something I won't ignore. I didn't suggest that only minorities get discriminated against but when they are the minority is when it can become dangerous for them.
Sexual privilege is a legitimate thing when non straight people have to be careful not to approach a straight person and be chastised.
Just to be clear I haven't been hunting you down on other threads as your suggesting. I think we've talked one before? Anyway I'm replying because you asked me a question lol. I can't guarantee that I won't reply to something you might say on a different thread but I don't know you and so have no reason to hold and grudge or resentment towards you |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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As a bi male on the site I have done extremely well at getting meets and having a lot of fun.
I have always just focused my attention on females and couples who meet bi guys and left the ones who declare they don't meet bi guys, to have their own fun with others.
I never took exception to that, as that is their choice. I have always declared as bisexual.
If they are ranty about it in their profile, I just think I wouldn't have wanted to meet them anyway.
That being said, on a very few occasions I have met the husband of the ranty ones in a sauna or cruising areas. |
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I like people in general so there sexual preferences are not relevant to me .but I do prefer men more than women I would say I am bisexual as I do meet women .in my experience most people like me are bisexual it's just who we are .I dont think it puts people off |
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