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Been chatting with someone who wants a massage, chatting for a few days and told her where I live..not the address but which appartment block. (There are only 15 appartments in my block and only 4 with a rooftop area)
Then she sends me a random photo of her outside my place saying is this the appartment?
We had not arranged to meet as I told her I was away in london? Is it a bit strange? |
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"Been chatting with someone who wants a massage, chatting for a few days and told her where I live..not the address but which appartment block. (There are only 15 appartments in my block and only 4 with a rooftop area)
Then she sends me a random photo of her outside my place saying is this the appartment?
We had not arranged to meet as I told her I was away in london? Is it a bit strange?"
Do you really not know the answer to that? |
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over a year ago
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"Creepy. Are you sure it is a female?. More fool you for disclosing too much info. And now they know your place is empty."
Jeez...no sympathy from you then?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unless she also lives there and was trying (and failing) to be amusing...yeah, I'd say that was pretty creepy.
Don't ever give your location to a stranger...never worth it. |
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over a year ago
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"Creepy. Are you sure it is a female?. More fool you for disclosing too much info. And now they know your place is empty.
Jeez...no sympathy from you then?
No not at all. You have been foolish."
I have been foolish? 
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"Creepy. Are you sure it is a female?. More fool you for disclosing too much info. And now they know your place is empty.
Jeez...no sympathy from you then?
No not at all. You have been foolish.
I have been foolish?
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It is actually more frightening than weird. I would be panicing if that happened to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Creepy. Are you sure it is a female?. More fool you for disclosing too much info. And now they know your place is empty.
Jeez...no sympathy from you then?
No not at all. You have been foolish.
I have been foolish?
It is actually more frightening than weird. I would be panicing if that happened to me."
Ah...but you wouldn't have been so foolish  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Only you can really be the judge of that from what level of interaction you've had with her OP - if it was a fleeting contact that you've only swapped a couple of messages with then yes I'd say it was creepy, but would also question why you'd told her the block you live in.
If it's someone you've built a connection and chemistry, and with it a level of trust, and had talked genuinely with about meeting when you are back - then maybe not so much - might have been done as she happened to be passing that block and did it for a laugh, or to check she had the right place for when you do meet.
Although the fact you're questioning it would lead me to suspect it's the former. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup, inappropriate but maybe if she was passing by she thought it might be funny to show you? I don't know. I wouldn't do it after only a few days of speaking. I wonder if she walked there just to take the photo? Now that would be very weird. I can't believe you told her where you live though.  |
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Ooh...should I hide my pet rabbit?
The building is a iconic building in the centre of york and she could of just been passing?
She seemed excited about seeing the appartment.
So maybe a fixation on having a look in the appartment more than boiling my rabbit? |
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"Ooh...should I hide my pet rabbit?
The building is a iconic building in the centre of york and she could of just been passing?
She seemed excited about seeing the appartment.
So maybe a fixation on having a look in the appartment more than boiling my rabbit?"
Iconic in what sense ? |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
Is where you live central or would she have had to travel out of her way? It may just be a really badly judged joke.
But if you are going to tell people so early on where you live, it's a high risk and be thankful a picture is all that has happened |
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"Ooh...should I hide my pet rabbit?
The building is a iconic building in the centre of york and she could of just been passing?
She seemed excited about seeing the appartment.
So maybe a fixation on having a look in the appartment more than boiling my rabbit?
Iconic in what sense ?"
I hope He lives in the tower of the minster like Quasimodo.
The bellllllsssssss.....  |
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"Ooh...should I hide my pet rabbit?
The building is a iconic building in the centre of york and she could of just been passing?
She seemed excited about seeing the appartment.
So maybe a fixation on having a look in the appartment more than boiling my rabbit?"
So all of us can narrow it down to just a few buildings with 15 apartments in then. |
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over a year ago
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"Ooh...should I hide my pet rabbit?
The building is a iconic building in the centre of york and she could of just been passing?
She seemed excited about seeing the appartment.
So maybe a fixation on having a look in the appartment more than boiling my rabbit?"
You're giving away a lot of information to the public... As I now know where you live . |
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"Iconic due to been voted the biggest eye store in york!
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You're going to have half fab posing outside now.
Seriously though you should consider that the forums are open for all to read, even non members and you have just basically given the location of an empty apartment |
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"Iconic due to been voted the biggest eye store in york!
You're going to have half fab posing outside now.
Seriously though you should consider that the forums are open for all to read, even non members and you have just basically given the location of an empty apartment"
Like even those without knowledge of York could do a quick Google and it comes up. And you inferred you had a balcony...so 1/4 apartments are yours.
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Do people really read these forums and travel to york and then have to guess which building then pick one of 15 appartments to rob?
Would they scale the 5 floors? Or maybe kill the permanent security man in the lobby?
Then when they get to my door get past the alarm and security system if they do maybe I could watch them online through the nest?
I am away but when am I back?
I'm fine with it ...honest
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"Do people really read these forums and travel to york and then have to guess which building then pick one of 15 appartments to rob?
Would they scale the 5 floors? Or maybe kill the permanent security man in the lobby?
Then when they get to my door get past the alarm and security system if they do maybe I could watch them online through the nest?
I am away but when am I back?
I'm fine with it ...honest
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People do live in York... And you've basically given the building name. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"I practice massage from the appartment so it's not a secret from the ads I put online with my buisness address been the appartment "
I reckon a quick Google would now give me your name address and telephone number |
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I'd be home by the time you drive from Herefordshire?
Think I better get tooled up for the attack tonight?
It is a very secure building, one lift and secured staircase. Ok they break in what they hung to steal? Massage couch? Oil? Could anybody be arsed? |
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over a year ago
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"I'd be home by the time you drive from Herefordshire?
Think I better get tooled up for the attack tonight?
It is a very secure building, one lift and secured staircase. Ok they break in what they hung to steal? Massage couch? Oil? Could anybody be arsed?"
All of your stuff?. |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
North West, Outer Letterkenny area |
"If a man had done this to a woman people would be outraged. It's creepy as and I'd be telling her in no uncertain terms especially since you've said you're away.
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Exactly this OP . If this was a man that did this he would be absolutely ruined. There would be talk of stalking, being creepy, scary, etc. So why should it be any different. Just put it in your mind a role reversal you send her a photo outside her apartment. She would freak out and be onto the police. It wasn't arranged its odd. And not in a good way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you really offering just massage? 
I'd massage you
All over....?
With your vagina....? 
Be a bit weird rubbing it on your leg Nip "
I actually find that quite sexy, just like in Superbad....   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you really offering just massage?
I'd massage you
All over....?
With your vagina....?
Be a bit weird rubbing it on your leg Nip
I actually find that quite sexy, just like in Superbad.... "
As long as theres coconut oil. Try anything once and then again to double check. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you really offering just massage?
I'd massage you
All over....?
With your vagina....?
Be a bit weird rubbing it on your leg Nip
I actually find that quite sexy, just like in Superbad....
As long as theres coconut oil. Try anything once and then again to double check. "
Infact OP has given his address out so we can go do it there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you really offering just massage?
I'd massage you
All over....?
With your vagina....?
Be a bit weird rubbing it on your leg Nip
I actually find that quite sexy, just like in Superbad....
As long as theres coconut oil. Try anything once and then again to double check.
Infact OP has given his address out so we can go do it there "
Just vag massage though, right, no funny business.... |
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"Iconic due to been voted the biggest eye store in york!
You're going to have half fab posing outside now.
Seriously though you should consider that the forums are open for all to read, even non members and you have just basically given the location of an empty apartment"
wouldn't it be possible and sensible of the site to remove the posts on this thread that reveals where his empty apartment is ?? |
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I think york is a bit different from other places in the UK?
Does anybody keep their front door locked?
I travel around the uk and if I go to a clients house with work some cities/towns people just open the door, in other cities you knock on door and it's a 5 min unbolting and unlocking the door and when they let you in it's the same lock the door and all bolts are put on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you really offering just massage?
I'd massage you
All over....?
With your vagina....?
Be a bit weird rubbing it on your leg Nip
I actually find that quite sexy, just like in Superbad....
As long as theres coconut oil. Try anything once and then again to double check.
Infact OP has given his address out so we can go do it there
Just vag massage though, right, no funny business.... "
What do you class as funny business? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Been chatting with someone who wants a massage, chatting for a few days and told her where I live..not the address but which appartment block. (There are only 15 appartments in my block and only 4 with a rooftop area)
Then she sends me a random photo of her outside my place saying is this the appartment?
We had not arranged to meet as I told her I was away in london? Is it a bit strange?"
Yep, that's weird as fuck |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"I'd be home by the time you drive from Herefordshire?
Think I better get tooled up for the attack tonight?
It is a very secure building, one lift and secured staircase. Ok they break in what they hung to steal? Massage couch? Oil? Could anybody be arsed?"
I fund it interesting and naive thstvyi seem to think the only repercussion is theft.
Your profile may worry somebody your clients, thecscope for malice is significant |
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over a year ago
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"I think york is a bit different from other places in the UK?
Does anybody keep their front door locked?
I travel around the uk and if I go to a clients house with work some cities/towns people just open the door, in other cities you knock on door and it's a 5 min unbolting and unlocking the door and when they let you in it's the same lock the door and all bolts are put on?"
Only close my door at night got a good alarm system called a Min Pin  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think york is a bit different from other places in the UK?
Does anybody keep their front door locked?
I travel around the uk and if I go to a clients house with work some cities/towns people just open the door, in other cities you knock on door and it's a 5 min unbolting and unlocking the door and when they let you in it's the same lock the door and all bolts are put on?
Only close my door at night got a good alarm system called a Min Pin "
We keep guns in our homes in America, but I keep a King Charles Spaniel and a Bichon Frise as back up.... |
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"I think york is a bit different from other places in the UK?
Does anybody keep their front door locked?
I travel around the uk and if I go to a clients house with work some cities/towns people just open the door, in other cities you knock on door and it's a 5 min unbolting and unlocking the door and when they let you in it's the same lock the door and all bolts are put on?
Only close my door at night got a good alarm system called a Min Pin
We keep guns in our homes in America, but I keep a King Charles Spaniel and a Bichon Frise as back up...."
Just my luck I’d do all that to get in and get eaten by a fluff ball. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think york is a bit different from other places in the UK?
Does anybody keep their front door locked?
I travel around the uk and if I go to a clients house with work some cities/towns people just open the door, in other cities you knock on door and it's a 5 min unbolting and unlocking the door and when they let you in it's the same lock the door and all bolts are put on?
Only close my door at night got a good alarm system called a Min Pin
We keep guns in our homes in America, but I keep a King Charles Spaniel and a Bichon Frise as back up....
Just my luck I’d do all that to get in and get eaten by a fluff ball. "
I haven’t cut her hair , so she looks like a white Rastaman . I’m crazy , I like the look of Bichon’s with long hair.... |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I want to know, we’re you in London or at home? "
He wasn't at home. I checked before I let myself in.
You need more milk, OP. Actually more coffee as well.... |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I want to know, we’re you in London or at home?
He wasn't at home. I checked before I let myself in.
You need more milk, OP. Actually more coffee as well.... "
Please note. Kidding. I'm to lazy to be a stalker |
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"I want to know, we’re you in London or at home?
He wasn't at home. I checked before I let myself in.
You need more milk, OP. Actually more coffee as well....
Please note. Kidding. I'm to lazy to be a stalker "
Your curtains are lovely btw  |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I want to know, we’re you in London or at home?
He wasn't at home. I checked before I let myself in.
You need more milk, OP. Actually more coffee as well....
Please note. Kidding. I'm to lazy to be a stalker
Your curtains are lovely btw "
That's next door. I took all mine down. |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind "
how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right "
You mean non subscribers? |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers? "
Nah non members can as well. Unless you’ve changed your settings, non members can see your profile as eell |
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If you'd mentioned your iconic building and given half as much info in messages as you have here, she may just have been excited when she walked past and guessed it maybe. It is possibly something I would have done, in a slightly ill thought out excitable moment and regretted it forever, or she could be a stalker. Either way you dont seem too bothered and at least there is no excuse for her not to turn up if you meet |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers? "
As i said further up non members can read the fora. Log out and look without signing in. |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers?
As i said further up non members can read the fora. Log out and look without signing in."
how come fab is allowing this to happen ? I thought it was only viewable by the fab swingers community , so anyone anywhere can read the forums ,meets, profiles verifications etc ? |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers?
As i said further up non members can read the fora. Log out and look without signing in.how come fab is allowing this to happen ? I thought it was only viewable by the fab swingers community , so anyone anywhere can read the forums ,meets, profiles verifications etc ? "
what
No, only the forum. You need to go in to privacy settings on your account and make sure you've ticked the box to.stop you showing up in search engines and to non registered users though. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers?
As i said further up non members can read the fora. Log out and look without signing in.how come fab is allowing this to happen ? I thought it was only viewable by the fab swingers community , so anyone anywhere can read the forums ,meets, profiles verifications etc ? what
No, only the forum. You need to go in to privacy settings on your account and make sure you've ticked the box to.stop you showing up in search engines and to non registered users though. "
Plus you'd have to be searching for a forum topic by name to stumble across the forums via a Google search and even then all avatars are blurred out and usernames partially *'d unless you're signed in.
And it say "why does Fab allow it" is pretty naive given anyone can sign up for a profile and then view a lot more than just forum posts |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers?
As i said further up non members can read the fora. Log out and look without signing in.how come fab is allowing this to happen ? I thought it was only viewable by the fab swingers community , so anyone anywhere can read the forums ,meets, profiles verifications etc ? what
No, only the forum. You need to go in to privacy settings on your account and make sure you've ticked the box to.stop you showing up in search engines and to non registered users though. "
done thanks for the info |
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"Just thought i should point out that the forums can be read by non members, so please try to not post your actual address on here you have come pretty close mind how come non members are able to view the forums ? This don't seem right
You mean non subscribers?
As i said further up non members can read the fora. Log out and look without signing in.how come fab is allowing this to happen ? I thought it was only viewable by the fab swingers community , so anyone anywhere can read the forums ,meets, profiles verifications etc ? what
No, only the forum. You need to go in to privacy settings on your account and make sure you've ticked the box to.stop you showing up in search engines and to non registered users though.
Plus you'd have to be searching for a forum topic by name to stumble across the forums via a Google search and even then all avatars are blurred out and usernames partially *'d unless you're signed in.
And it say "why does Fab allow it" is pretty naive given anyone can sign up for a profile and then view a lot more than just forum posts"
thanks , we are all not as worldly wise as yourself ya know but thanks for your input |
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