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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

that you’re really happy with?

For me it’s finally learning to control my temper and to walk away (well sometimes, it’s a work in progress)

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By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

my attitude and outlook on life...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my attitude and outlook on life...

Awww. You a fun guy then?

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By *ouanna JoWoman over a year ago

A little village

Determination, ambition, empathy, and willingness to learn and adapt.

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By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

"my attitude and outlook on life...

Awww. You a fun guy then?

definitely

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By *erces LetiferMan over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

My open-mindedness and enthusiasm for life and adventure.

Although, this can be a double-edged sword at times and even feel like a curse.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm good at putting people at ease in my company, so I was told. I'm a good listener and have a , mainly, positive outlook on things. I see solutions not yet found, rather than problems x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a huge capacity to give and to help others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Several years of therapy means that I'm now a lot better at controlling my BPD and recognising and controlling my emotions. I still have other conditions to work on, but progress is progress.

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By *ilth500Man over a year ago

Merseyside

"Several years of therapy means that I'm now a lot better at controlling my BPD and recognising and controlling my emotions. I still have other conditions to work on, but progress is progress. "

1000%

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By *ily WhiteWoman over a year ago

My inner strength and resilience - to date, no matter what life has thrown at me, I pick myself up, dust myself down, and come back stronger.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS over a year ago

Stockport

That i have compassion and concern for others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like to think I’m empathetic, I’m caring, try not to be judgemental and I’m totally loyal to those who matter to me. I’m also stronger than a lot of people think, myself included at times. Viv xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My open-mindedness and enthusiasm for life and adventure.

Although, this can be a double-edged sword at times and even feel like a curse."

I’d take that sword any day

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm good at putting people at ease in my company, so I was told. I'm a good listener and have a , mainly, positive outlook on things. I see solutions not yet found, rather than problems x"

I like this and I bet those close to you do too

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By *willfindyouWoman over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

I was told yesterday that I moan to much about health concerns and that's why people dont like me. was a blow to the chest but I understand. feeling low now but I have taken it on board and will get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely my compassion and willingness to be there for others

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a huge capacity to give and to help others. "

Then all I can say is that we need more people like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Several years of therapy means that I'm now a lot better at controlling my BPD and recognising and controlling my emotions. I still have other conditions to work on, but progress is progress. "

How true. Baby steps mean long lasting results. Go you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ability to unpick problems and put things back together...at least helping others to do this!

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

"I'm good at putting people at ease in my company, so I was told. I'm a good listener and have a , mainly, positive outlook on things. I see solutions not yet found, rather than problems x"

I like this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My inner strength and resilience - to date, no matter what life has thrown at me, I pick myself up, dust myself down, and come back stronger. "

I knew it! You’re one of life’s weebles

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That i have compassion and concern for others."

You do indeed and that shines even brighter than your hair

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like to think I’m empathetic, I’m caring, try not to be judgemental and I’m totally loyal to those who matter to me. I’m also stronger than a lot of people think, myself included at times. Viv xx"

The last one is important. Go you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I was told yesterday that I moan to much about health concerns and that's why people dont like me. was a blow to the chest but I understand. feeling low now but I have taken it on board and will get over it. "

Ah so taking on criticism? Tell us something else good that you like about you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Definitely my compassion and willingness to be there for others "

Great skills to have

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My ability to unpick problems and put things back together...at least helping others to do this!

I bet your closest really appreciate this. Hope you have someone who can do it for you too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The last one is important. Go you

Thank you

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Mine has to be my hair, I admire its resilience & commitment to staying put when the amount of chemicals & dyes I've used it probably should have fallen out & never grown back

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I really like my capacity to love. I feel things quite deeply and have reached a point where I can be open with others and share my love.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I like to think I'm compassionate and caring. Plus I like to make people smile

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Mine is the whole package, I've worked extremely hard to loose weight and am finally happy with myself as I am. It's been a long road, 7 1/2 stone and has improved my confidence more than anything...am I perfect? HELL NO, but am I happy.. OH yes! Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Mine has to be my hair, I admire its resilience & commitment to staying put when the amount of chemicals & dyes I've used it probably should have fallen out & never grown back

Love this and yes, I am jealous

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I really like my capacity to love. I feel things quite deeply and have reached a point where I can be open with others and share my love."

Yes but it doesn’t mean you’re a walkover though and woe betide anyone who thinks that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like to think I'm compassionate and caring. Plus I like to make people smile "

Very valuable skills to have today

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Mine is the whole package, I've worked extremely hard to loose weight and am finally happy with myself as I am. It's been a long road, 7 1/2 stone and has improved my confidence more than anything...am I perfect? HELL NO, but am I happy.. OH yes! Mrs xx"

This made me smile. Good for you and stay happy

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By *willfindyouWoman over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

Ah so taking on criticism? Tell us something else good that you like about you.

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lol I love the banter and adore the crack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman over a year ago

Club Meets Only

well done you! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ah so taking on criticism? Tell us something else good that you like about you.

lol I love the banter and adore the crack

Much better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ability to be put the past behind me and not allow it to cloud the present or my future.

Live it, learn it. Let it go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My humour and ability to problem solve.

Quite like my hair at the moment as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The ability to find peace and be calm amongst complete chaos and mayhem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My ability to be put the past behind me and not allow it to cloud the present or my future.

Live it, learn it. Let it go."

I’d like to learn how to do this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My humour and ability to problem solve.

Quite like my hair at the moment as well

Don’t forget your organisational skills. Quite outstanding. And your ability to persuade others

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" The ability to find peace and be calm amongst complete chaos and mayhem.

Please teach me.

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say i’ve learnt never to take Life to seriously and it’s always important to laugh

And a smile can go a really long way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would say i’ve learnt never to take Life to seriously and it’s always important to laugh

And a smile can go a really long way"

The world needs optimists

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

This is quite hard to answer. Whilst I could say I like my eyebrows (because I do), when it comes to my personality it’s hard to pin it down. Mostly because I don’t think there is anything exceptional, I’m just a nice lass.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

thanks xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Physically I like my eyes and my legs.

My mindset and mentality would be that I can stand up for myself and will not let anyone walk over me.

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By *orraine999Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

I’m empathetic and compassionate. When someone is hurting, I’ll be there to listen and help in any way I can. Whether it be a shoulder to cry on or a meal and friendly chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is quite hard to answer. Whilst I could say I like my eyebrows (because I do), when it comes to my personality it’s hard to pin it down. Mostly because I don’t think there is anything exceptional, I’m just a nice lass.

Well looking at the current craze for the perfect brow, if you’ve got them, flaunt them

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

At the moment, the ability to keep my temper and sanity with the current situation. M

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Physically I like my eyes and my legs.

My mindset and mentality would be that I can stand up for myself and will not let anyone walk over me. "

Really? Stand up for yourself? I’ve never noticed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m empathetic and compassionate. When someone is hurting, I’ll be there to listen and help in any way I can. Whether it be a shoulder to cry on or a meal and friendly chat.

You are just too beautiful

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"At the moment, the ability to keep my temper and sanity with the current situation. M"

Feeling ya... feeling ya.

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By *orraine999Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

"I’m empathetic and compassionate. When someone is hurting, I’ll be there to listen and help in any way I can. Whether it be a shoulder to cry on or a meal and friendly chat.

You are just too beautiful

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS over a year ago

horsham

I would say that I wasent a pushover , but you can push me over and have your way with me quite easy ,

I would say that I’m not a doormat , but put those heels on and you can trample all over me ..

I would say that I am totally understanding , but I could never understand how she mistook chilli oil for lube during that last pegging session

I would say that I’m an unjudgenental type , but when she boiled the love eggs for 3 minutes , before insertion I did actually start to judge her sanity .

I would say that I have knack of finding the crazier people in life .. then I suppose it takes one to know one ..

I can though look a cockhead in the eye and let them know they are a cockhead without saying a single word ..

Oh and I have nice nipples

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would say that I wasent a pushover , but you can push me over and have your way with me quite easy ,

I would say that I’m not a doormat , but put those heels on and you can trample all over me ..

I would say that I am totally understanding , but I could never understand how she mistook chilli oil for lube during that last pegging session

I would say that I’m an unjudgenental type , but when she boiled the love eggs for 3 minutes , before insertion I did actually start to judge her sanity .

I would say that I have knack of finding the crazier people in life .. then I suppose it takes one to know one ..

I can though look a cockhead in the eye and let them know they are a cockhead without saying a single word ..

Oh and I have nice nipples "

I am liking you a lot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm just a work in progress....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m pretty sure that I’m a good person. I’m proud of that. X

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

My determination to never let the molehills become mountains.

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS over a year ago

horsham

"I would say that I wasent a pushover , but you can push me over and have your way with me quite easy ,

I would say that I’m not a doormat , but put those heels on and you can trample all over me ..

I would say that I am totally understanding , but I could never understand how she mistook chilli oil for lube during that last pegging session

I would say that I’m an unjudgenental type , but when she boiled the love eggs for 3 minutes , before insertion I did actually start to judge her sanity .

I would say that I have knack of finding the crazier people in life .. then I suppose it takes one to know one ..

I can though look a cockhead in the eye and let them know they are a cockhead without saying a single word ..

Oh and I have nice nipples

I am liking you a lot

I ve just looked at your pictures and I’m liking you too , and kinda trembling at the same time ,, but that’s a good thing , yeah ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My ability to be put the past behind me and not allow it to cloud the present or my future.

Live it, learn it. Let it go.

I’d like to learn how to do this

Not sure it it can be taught, it's about reflection, self asseesment and slowly changing mindsets.

Mindfulness helped me a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm just a work in progress...."

Aren’t we all? Now answer the question

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m pretty sure that I’m a good person. I’m proud of that. X"

As you should be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My determination to never let the molehills become mountains. "

A very canny talent indeed and much needed today.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ability to spot a fake and my inner strength to not give a fuck when it matters.

I am a good listener and good company.

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By *ljamMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

Intelligence and creativity for me, although can be a double edged sword...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As for physical appearance, my eyes, tits and hair for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds strange but my hair!!

Tried a new look during lockdown, and think it looks pretty good!! ????

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My ability to spot a fake and my inner strength to not give a fuck when it matters.

I am a good listener and good company.

Sounds good. I think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Intelligence and creativity for me, although can be a double edged sword..."

What kind of intelligence?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As for physical appearance, my eyes, tits and hair for sure

I’ve heard rumours about those perfect boobs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sounds strange but my hair!!

Tried a new look during lockdown, and think it looks pretty good!! ????"

Although normally evidence would be required, good for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everything lately! No seriously I mean it - I feel quite proud of how I can hold it together and not let shit get to me when everyone else seems to be losing it.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm just a work in progress....

Aren’t we all? Now answer the question

I'm not sure I know how too....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Acceptance of my introversion and not trying to fit in anymore. My imagination. Not particularly happy or unhappy body wise - never really bothered me one way or another.

Still get angry but not as bad as it was

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By *evil-AngelWoman over a year ago

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I like that I generally stay level headed when things go wrong. Although this sometimes means people don't notice when I'm struggling.

I sometimes wish I could rant and rage and throw my toys out of the pram because then others would notice my pain more.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Personality wise, I'd say it's an ability to be positive and always try and look for the good in situations, and offering balance and reasoning with opinions I hold.

Physically, my bum and legs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kindness and the lending of strength I don't really have spare to friends who need it, I have mentally been through the ringer the last few years, however the bounce back is making me more determined to help others in the same boat I was 18 months ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everything lately! No seriously I mean it - I feel quite proud of how I can hold it together and not let shit get to me when everyone else seems to be losing it.....

Perception is a powerful tool

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Acceptance of my introversion and not trying to fit in anymore. My imagination. Not particularly happy or unhappy body wise - never really bothered me one way or another.

Still get angry but not as bad as it was

A vivid imagination can really be an amazing thing

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By *aitonelMan over a year ago

Travelling

Everything, I'm just an awesome badass.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like that I generally stay level headed when things go wrong. Although this sometimes means people don't notice when I'm struggling.

I sometimes wish I could rant and rage and throw my toys out of the pram because then others would notice my pain more. "

That’s such a required skill but I hope you have a way to show those close to you when you’re not doing too well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Personality wise, I'd say it's an ability to be positive and always try and look for the good in situations, and offering balance and reasoning with opinions I hold.

Physically, my bum and legs

A pretty good mixture then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Kindness and the lending of strength I don't really have spare to friends who need it, I have mentally been through the ringer the last few years, however the bounce back is making me more determined to help others in the same boat I was 18 months ago."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Everything, I'm just an awesome badass.

Aren’t you just...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"that you’re really happy with?

For me it’s finally learning to control my temper and to walk away (well sometimes, it’s a work in progress)

To not care about silly things and to not try too hard at work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My inner strength and resilience - to date, no matter what life has thrown at me, I pick myself up, dust myself down, and come back stronger. "

That's the only way to be!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Letting shit from the past go. No point in letting if affect your future. Literally like a weight being lifted from my shoulders.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like about myself ability to let go of thoughts and acts and people which no longer 'serve' me in a positive way. Moving on in other words I guess.

A touch of mad spirit too. Nothing worse than being boring. To me at least.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm building my confidence up day by day and moving away from my past and the negativity that enveloped me.

It's not easy and I've never been truly comfortable with my looks, but as I get older I don't want that to define my later years in life.

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By *imon_hydeMan over a year ago

Stockport

I'm more chilled and laid back than I was when I was younger. Physically it's all going to pot though lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like that I more content than ever with who I am now and don’t have one Thing that I would single out. Everything about me is what makes me me.

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By *omtom7Man over a year ago

Tralee

I'm young at heart, despite being 44. Probably helps that I look younger than my age

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"that you’re really happy with?

For me it’s finally learning to control my temper and to walk away (well sometimes, it’s a work in progress)

To not care about silly things and to not try too hard at work."

You know I’m slowly realising the truth of your second point too...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Letting shit from the past go. No point in letting if affect your future. Literally like a weight being lifted from my shoulders."

Good for you. Any tips on how to do this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like about myself ability to let go of thoughts and acts and people which no longer 'serve' me in a positive way. Moving on in other words I guess.

A touch of mad spirit too. Nothing worse than being boring. To me at least. "

As long as it’s just a touch I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm building my confidence up day by day and moving away from my past and the negativity that enveloped me.

It's not easy and I've never been truly comfortable with my looks, but as I get older I don't want that to define my later years in life. "

You’ve obviously thought about this and well done to you for deciding that. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm more chilled and laid back than I was when I was younger. Physically it's all going to pot though lol"

Chilled is good and if/when you’re ready to, there are ways of stopping that physical change

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like that I more content than ever with who I am now and don’t have one Thing that I would single out. Everything about me is what makes me me."

I’m so curious about you, you know...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm young at heart, despite being 44. Probably helps that I look younger than my age"

Why is this so important to you?

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I have an enquiring mind and my sense of humour amuses me, if none else

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

To not let irrelevant people effect my life.

Learn from mistakes and not to trust so freely.

Finally believe someone can actually love me for me.

Also to let my guard down and love back without panicking about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have an enquiring mind and my sense of humour amuses me, if none else

A great duo to have

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I really “got” forgiveness about 20 years ago , in a selfish way really , it stops me holding onto negative shit and being stuck in a place mentally. It’s great, highly recommend if you want to grow and develop

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To not let irrelevant people effect my life.

Learn from mistakes and not to trust so freely.

Finally believe someone can actually love me for me.

Also to let my guard down and love back without panicking about it. "

There’s some brilliant lessons to be learnt there. I’m glad you’ve mastered them Lexi

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By *entakuruMan over a year ago

Exeter

Well i dropped a load of extra weight that was making me miserable, and have got a better grip on my neurodiverse traits lately (lot of growth in last two years) but I feel a bit isolated due to pandemic so I feel like I can't take full advantage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I really “got” forgiveness about 20 years ago , in a selfish way really , it stops me holding onto negative shit and being stuck in a place mentally. It’s great, highly recommend if you want to grow and develop

Any tips? I think this is something that negatively affects many of us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well i dropped a load of extra weight that was making me miserable, and have got a better grip on my neurodiverse traits lately (lot of growth in last two years) but I feel a bit isolated due to pandemic so I feel like I can't take full advantage. "

Brilliant and congrats! Your time will come soon Baron

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like that I more content than ever with who I am now and don’t have one Thing that I would single out. Everything about me is what makes me me.

I’m so curious about you, you know...

No I didn’t know. Now I’m curious too

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like that I more content than ever with who I am now and don’t have one Thing that I would single out. Everything about me is what makes me me.

I’m so curious about you, you know...

No I didn’t know. Now I’m curious too

Why? You seem to know you already so why are you curious?

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By *rAitchMan over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I'm fiercely loyal to my close friends and am pretty good at entertaining people.

And I make cake!

goes to check on the carrot & walnut cake that's currently cooking in the oven!

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

Our positive outlook on life and our humour. It can get us through anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm fiercely loyal to my close friends and am pretty good at entertaining people.

And I make cake!

goes to check on the carrot & walnut cake that's currently cooking in the oven!"

You realise wars have been fought and lost over .... cake.

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By *rAitchMan over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

"I'm fiercely loyal to my close friends and am pretty good at entertaining people.

And I make cake!

goes to check on the carrot & walnut cake that's currently cooking in the oven!

You realise wars have been fought and lost over .... cake.

To paraphrase what the philosopher Homer (Simpson) said about alcohol:

Cake is the cause of, and the cure to, all of the world's problems.

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Any tips? I think this is something that negatively affects many of us.

Not really ! You get certain things when you are ready for them , they are massive mind-shift steps rather than gradual learning. I was open minded , I think that helped I’d done Buddhist and Hindi retreats , then someone just explained forgiveness how it frees you and I thought yep that makes a lot of semse I’ll have that thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im adventurous, there wouldnt be a lot I would say no too. Not talking sex stuff here but lifes adventures.

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By * Lexi xWoman over a year ago

stockport

"To not let irrelevant people effect my life.

Learn from mistakes and not to trust so freely.

Finally believe someone can actually love me for me.

Also to let my guard down and love back without panicking about it.

There’s some brilliant lessons to be learnt there. I’m glad you’ve mastered them Lexi

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not much bothers me - pretty much chill 24/7

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Personality wise, I'd say it's an ability to be positive and always try and look for the good in situations, and offering balance and reasoning with opinions I hold.

Physically, my bum and legs

A pretty good mixture then

That part is not for me to say but if people like it as a mixture then that works for me

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By *quaman87Man over a year ago

Colchester

"that you’re really happy with?

For me it’s finally learning to control my temper and to walk away (well sometimes, it’s a work in progress)

"
teach me this lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Our positive outlook on life and our humour. It can get us through anything."

An unbeatable duo

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im adventurous, there wouldnt be a lot I would say no too. Not talking sex stuff here but lifes adventures. "
Go out and discover the world then? Or your limits?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not much bothers me - pretty much chill 24/7"

Why is this good?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"that you’re really happy with?

For me it’s finally learning to control my temper and to walk away (well sometimes, it’s a work in progress)

teach me this lol"

Would you be a good student? Last thing we need is if we both lost our tempers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not much bothers me - pretty much chill 24/7

Why is this good?"

Because people often get over emotional on smaller issues - carefree life which allows me to live a happy life

What’s the point of unnecessary stress..

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By *ohn KanakaMan over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I like my broken and battered mind. I'm glad I learnt to embrace it rather than fear or fight it

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Just my general awesomeness

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not much bothers me - pretty much chill 24/7

Why is this good?

Because people often get over emotional on smaller issues - carefree life which allows me to live a happy life

What’s the point of unnecessary stress.."

Ok. If it works it works

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I like my broken and battered mind. I'm glad I learnt to embrace it rather than fear or fight it"

I like this one. You told you it was broken and battered?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just my general awesomeness

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By *BBWWoman over a year ago

Brighton

The fact I stopped worrying about what other thought of me

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

My ability to see other’s projections.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The fact I stopped worrying about what other thought of me

Good one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 19/07/20 19:54:30]"

Bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My ability to see other’s projections.

So you’ll be a millionaire one day or are you referring to astral projections?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 19/07/20 19:54:30]

Bollocks."

Right back at ya

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

"My ability to see other’s projections.

So you’ll be a millionaire one day or are you referring to astral projections?"

Neither. I meant the psychology angle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My ability to see other’s projections.

So you’ll be a millionaire one day or are you referring to astral projections?

Neither. I meant the psychology angle."

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm pretty content with everything these days.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

If I had to pick one...

It wouldn't be my chiselled good looks, or my incredibly high iq, not my Greek godlike physique, not my charm, not my staunch diligence, not my unrelenting drive for success, not my perfect teeth and million dollar smile...

....i would have to say its my modesty!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm pretty content with everything these days. "

The perfect place to be then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I had to pick one...

....i would have to say its my modesty!

Love it

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

"At the moment, the ability to keep my temper and sanity with the current situation. M

Feeling ya... feeling ya.

"
thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 19/07/20 19:54:30]

Bollocks."

If I could choose for you Jim I would say your kindness? Inclusiveness and your bum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m pretty sure that I’m a good person. I’m proud of that. X

As you should be.

HUGS!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like that I more content than ever with who I am now and don’t have one Thing that I would single out. Everything about me is what makes me me.

I’m so curious about you, you know...

No I didn’t know. Now I’m curious too

Why? You seem to know you already so why are you curious?

I meant I’m curious about you being curious about me and why that would be the case.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My ability to see other’s projections.

You’re so insightful

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By *blasiansCouple over a year ago

Wakefield

We consider ourselves caring and helpful, occasionally naughty.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Apparently I've got nice blue eyes so I'll go with them.

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By *uge G RectionMan over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

Happy with.... my work ethic (work hard, play harder)

But thing ive had to get used to.... being friend zoned all the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll help anyone out too, even if it puts me at a disadvantage.

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

Being generally decent. Always aim to treat everyone with compassion, even if they're being a cunt. I go out of my way for friends. Not often reciprocated but that's not why you do good things.

Oh, and I have a nice dick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are both kind caring people and will always help anyone out x

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

Animals like me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We consider ourselves caring and helpful, occasionally naughty."

A perfect trio

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Happy with.... my work ethic (work hard, play harder)

But thing ive had to get used to.... being friend zoned all the time "

Well we all need to have goals. How does someone get out of being friend zoned all the time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'll help anyone out too, even if it puts me at a disadvantage."

Hmmm. Not always good for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Being generally decent. Always aim to treat everyone with compassion, even if they're being a cunt. I go out of my way for friends. Not often reciprocated but that's not why you do good things.

Oh, and I have a nice dick.

You hit the nail on the head there I think with your comment about reciprocation. A nice dick is always a beautiful advantage to have

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We are both kind caring people and will always help anyone out x"

We need more like you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Animals like me. "

Not just animals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll help anyone out too, even if it puts me at a disadvantage.

Hmmm. Not always good for you?"

Sometimes. I think it's a good trait to have, I just need to put myself first a bit more. Learn when to say no. I think I overcompensate because I've always been told I'm useless and selfish, so I try to do more for people to make up for it.

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By *xmfrvnMan over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Happy with.... my work ethic (work hard, play harder)

But thing ive had to get used to.... being friend zoned all the time

Well we all need to have goals. How does someone get out of being friend zoned all the time?"

Often 'let's be friends' is a way of saying 'let's never see each other again.' More obnoxiously, the 'friend zone' is used to suggest that the 'friend' should reciprocate.

Just work through it, work on yourself & remember you're not entitled to anyone's feelings. Being 'just friends' with someone isn't a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'll help anyone out too, even if it puts me at a disadvantage.

Hmmm. Not always good for you?

Upwards and onwards then

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By *uge G RectionMan over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

"Happy with.... my work ethic (work hard, play harder)

But thing ive had to get used to.... being friend zoned all the time

Well we all need to have goals. How does someone get out of being friend zoned all the time?"

If you find out please let me know!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My cock, it's still working.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 19/07/20 19:54:30]

Bollocks.

Right back at ya

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My cock, it's still working.....

Make the most of it then eh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've learned to cope with some situations, thanks to a certain woman in London.

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple over a year ago

Rugby

Sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've learned to cope with some situations, thanks to a certain woman in London."

Well hallelujah for women. We’re a godsend for you menfolk

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