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It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?   |
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over a year ago
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I think lockdown has turned the sex chat guys up to eleven for the most part, especially the ones living alone. I'd like to think that when lockdown is finally over they'll just fizzle out and disappear.
How are you getting to message them OP are they approaching you or are you approaching you? And do you try to steer the conversation away from sex or just let it ride?  |
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Good morning,
I’m sorry you feel this way, there a few of us out there that are able to have a normal conversation and stimulate the mind with good vibes rather than vulgar messages and one-word replies.
We are just outnumbered by the vulgar fab Duracell bunnies that think with only one head ...
Keep on spreading the positivity like it's Nutella!!
Benji
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"Good morning,
I’m sorry you feel this way, there a few of us out there that are able to have a normal conversation and stimulate the mind with good vibes rather than vulgar messages and one-word replies.
We are just outnumbered by the vulgar fab Duracell bunnies that think with only one head ...
Keep on spreading the positivity like it's Nutella!!
Benji
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I completely agree with benji, we're really not all as bad as the collective! I've had some quite nice conversations with women ( and couples) on here, sometimes in regard to meets/ playing sometimes just about things in there lives in general. Theres so much more to people than may first appear, dont give up pet you'll find someone worth your valuable time and effort xx |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?"
Defeats the whole purpose
Would you approach someone you like and attempt to gains their interest by saying how you'd like to be balls deep in them blah blah blah without even introducing yourself ?
A foundation has to be made right ... Chemistry |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?"
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker  |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker "
Take all the sex chat off the table then |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker "
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Defeats the whole purpose
Would you approach someone you like and attempt to gains their interest by saying how you'd like to be balls deep in them blah blah blah without even introducing yourself ?
A foundation has to be made right ... Chemistry "
Balls deep is one of the politest intro... there's definitely way worse messages. it's the copy and paste novel extracts I really don't know how theu think it's going to impress me  I try the strategy of only opening messages where I like the look of their profile.. but then those guys turn into a walking hard on and just want to talk about sex. I occasionally respond to it. But generally a happy medium I would prefer. Maybe this is why women join but leave quickly, too much a sausage fest as maybe we just wired up differently. I get horny when the guy charming and sound sincere. |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon "
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
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"Have you thought of blocking messages from all guys and then cherry picking those that catch your eye with a wink or a message of your own?"
I sometimes do that but I realised a guy was going to find info for me the other day. Afew of the men on forums say normal nice things to me so I duno whether to keep it open for them... but as I say even the ones who i pick, sound nice from the beginning end up just wanting a booty call. |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Defeats the whole purpose
Would you approach someone you like and attempt to gains their interest by saying how you'd like to be balls deep in them blah blah blah without even introducing yourself ?
A foundation has to be made right ... Chemistry
Balls deep is one of the politest intro... there's definitely way worse messages. it's the copy and paste novel extracts I really don't know how theu think it's going to impress me I try the strategy of only opening messages where I like the look of their profile.. but then those guys turn into a walking hard on and just want to talk about sex. I occasionally respond to it. But generally a happy medium I would prefer. Maybe this is why women join but leave quickly, too much a sausage fest as maybe we just wired up differently. I get horny when the guy charming and sound sincere. "
A sexually deprived man can aways find a way to let his horn get the best of him. Self control is something a lot of them need to learn |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
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100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies! |
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"Have you thought of blocking messages from all guys and then cherry picking those that catch your eye with a wink or a message of your own?
I sometimes do that but I realised a guy was going to find info for me the other day. Afew of the men on forums say normal nice things to me so I duno whether to keep it open for them... but as I say even the ones who i pick, sound nice from the beginning end up just wanting a booty call. "
I know I've fallen into the category of your deleted messages, as much as a message may be nice, if theres no attraction then it makes no difference |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!"
Grow a pussy and then watch the messages fill up you inbox . May not be the messages you want though |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!
Grow a pussy and then watch the messages fill up you inbox . May not be the messages you want though "
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!
Grow a pussy and then watch the messages fill up you inbox . May not be the messages you want though
Haha I'm fine with being Benji in that case "
Wise choice  |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? "
To be fair duck when you read your profile and check your status you do come across like your well up for it ! Maybe if your looking for something different you should maybe change your profile x also while there’s a 1% chance you still may find that someone x good lucky in your search and never give up ! Hang on is that a song title ??? |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!
Grow a pussy and then watch the messages fill up you inbox . May not be the messages you want though
Haha I'm fine with being Benji in that case
Wise choice "
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!
Grow a pussy and then watch the messages fill up you inbox . May not be the messages you want though
Haha I'm fine with being Benji in that case
Wise choice
I'm feeling some positive energy drifting from your direction!! Brownie points have been sent via recorded delivery "
That’s only good if it delivers actual brownies |
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I remember getting a message off a guy once saying he had 15 minutes before he had to leave for work and he could drive over and we could fit in a quickie.
Never spoken to him before, no pictures or profile text. He just assumed that I would be up for his very stupid suggestion.
Most guys that message me don’t even say hello |
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!
Grow a pussy and then watch the messages fill up you inbox . May not be the messages you want though
Haha I'm fine with being Benji in that case
Wise choice
I'm feeling some positive energy drifting from your direction!! Brownie points have been sent via recorded delivery
That’s only good if it delivers actual brownies "
Pffttt you didn't know that I bake  milk and white chocolate protein brownies! |
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"I remember getting a message off a guy once saying he had 15 minutes before he had to leave for work and he could drive over and we could fit in a quickie.
Never spoken to him before, no pictures or profile text. He just assumed that I would be up for his very stupid suggestion.
Most guys that message me don’t even say hello "
See that's another deprived fab bunny who got lost in your galley. Tut tut , how do they keep on getting out of their cage. |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? "
I totally get this,it's not just you. A bit of respect goes a long way xxx |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?
I totally get this,it's not just you. A bit of respect goes a long way xxx"
Build chemistry , stimulate the mind and all will be well! |
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"Have you thought of blocking messages from all guys and then cherry picking those that catch your eye with a wink or a message of your own?"
I do this occassionally, then I get too trusting in men again, open my inbox and boom....knobheads everywhere.
OP I agree mostly but do also realise posting provactive pictures will result in some degree of mindless men who cannot read, it is just the sheer volume that is gross.
I personally love to share pictures and want a club buddy, but when a man cannot read 5 lines to see that, and that I will not meet just for a quick fuck, it is frustrating x |
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How about you have a search around and find a guy you would like to talk to, then message them, I am sure a lot of the messages people receive are just people chancing it, others are the creeps and a few are genuine
Go find what YOU want, you are worth it
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Can I politely suggest you rewrite your profile to reflect that stance. Yout current one is very highly sexual. And this site is geared to casual sex. So you shouldnt be surprised that guys want to fuck you rather than wine and dine you first. |
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"Message filters wouldn’t be a bad place to start ! "
Shouldn't have to do this.
Men should learn to read and not harrass in general.
Alas it appears we have too much faith in the male race to be decent humans. |
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over a year ago
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"Can I politely suggest you rewrite your profile to reflect that stance. Yout current one is very highly sexual. And this site is geared to casual sex. So you shouldnt be surprised that guys want to fuck you rather than wine and dine you first. "
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker
You just want to be spoken to respectfully and have your brain tickled a bit. Not much you're asking for to be honest.
You'll find a gem soon
Nearly a year, on average 100 messages a day.. I keep saying to myself "one day afew nice ones come along" but I litterly just delete 99% of messages now without reading them. It's pretty deflating to do that.
100 messages a day!! I've only received 20 since i've been on fab Maybe you can offer online 1 on 1 courses on how to build up the queue of fab bunnies!"
women rarely write the initial message to men. For first 3 months of being on fab for me, I got 300 plus messages a day |
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"Message filters wouldn’t be a bad place to start !
Shouldn't have to do this.
Men should learn to read and not harrass in general.
Alas it appears we have too much faith in the male race to be decent humans."
Depends how you define harassment - if a woman writes on her profile she wants to fuck a cock (for example), you can't blame 'the cocks' applying for the job. |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? "
I agree with most of the things you’re saying jasmine
It’s hard to find convos on here that stimulate your mind, finding someone who’s after know more about you than just your body.
I delete most of me message and a reply really does depend on their opening message.
When you do sieve out the good from the bad it is totally worth it.
I’ve had some really nice convos which wasn’t about sex lol it’s taking time to build on it that’s what will hopefully get you what you’re after.
Don’t give up hope, sometimes these things hit you when you least expect it.
I’d rather be on here chatting on the forums and those I speak to generally for the time being until this comes along for me to, patience can definitely pay off. Whether it’s a year or more, I’d rather wait for that connection |
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"Message filters wouldn’t be a bad place to start !
Shouldn't have to do this.
Men should learn to read and not harrass in general.
Alas it appears we have too much faith in the male race to be decent humans."
Yes your right ! Why should you ? Sometimes messages can be taken the wrong way or what a guy actually wants can be misinterpreted ! Some just like to chat and look at photo’s and show there appreciation ! I’ll hold my hands up and say I’ve made mistakes or said the wrong things but personally am terrible at misreading texts ! |
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"Have you thought of blocking messages from all guys and then cherry picking those that catch your eye with a wink or a message of your own?"
This is what I do and how I've met nearly all my meets. I got a bit disillusioned in my first year. I met one person in the beginning and it didn't go well then I just became increasingly depressed with my interactions with people. My experience has improved dramatically since I blocked messages and started looking myself. |
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I agree your profile and username maybe set the tone for how guys feel like you want to be contacted
Would be an interesting experiment for you to show off the real you and see if it makes a difference |
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If you're looking for connection first, I'd calm down the profile text. We also use a message title word. If they use that, we know they've at least read the profile first. Makes sorting through messages much easier.
Vulgar/effortless messages to us simply get deleted and extreme disrespectful cases, deleted.
We've had really positive experience on Fab so far, really looking forward to meeting some lovely, down to earth people who we've genuinely spent time getting to know better through lockdown.
Forums are a great place to suss people out, find out who takes themselves too seriously, or has an attitude or respect issues.
You're allowed to be fussy. The Fab filter, block and messaging tools make that filter process easy. |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? To be fair duck when you read your profile and check your status you do come across like your well up for it ! Maybe if your looking for something different you should maybe change your profile x also while there’s a 1% chance you still may find that someone x good lucky in your search and never give up ! Hang on is that a song title ???"
Oh right so I can't be sexually adventurous without sounding like a whore? |
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"If you're looking for connection first, I'd calm down the profile text. We also use a message title word. If they use that, we know they've at least read the profile first. Makes sorting through messages much easier.
Vulgar/effortless messages to us simply get deleted and extreme disrespectful cases, deleted.
We've had really positive experience on Fab so far, really looking forward to meeting some lovely, down to earth people who we've genuinely spent time getting to know better through lockdown.
Forums are a great place to suss people out, find out who takes themselves too seriously, or has an attitude or respect issues.
You're allowed to be fussy. The Fab filter, block and messaging tools make that filter process easy. "
I was suggested that and people who totally incompatible, skim read my bio to find the code word. Doesn't work I am afraid. I actually really shortened my profile to afew sentences. The rest of it is my fantasies. Why can't I have them? I hid all my photos and deleted my bio once and got even weirder messages. They thought if I'm that anonymous, I am really up for crazy kinky weird stuff. Trust me, over the months being on fab, I tried all sorts of tactics |
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On your profile you have a sexual bucket list, No 1 states "Fuck 19 -21 year old muscle stud with big cock" We respectfully suggest that profile content of that nature will solicit the sort of messages you have been receiving. |
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Block men and couples and just message who you want. If something isn't working for you change it.
You've complained on a few threads so perhaps take some of the advice you've been given and you will have a better experience |
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It does appear it is only a small majority of men that have the ability to send a good first message with face pic either attached or on profile and to also have a profile that contains enough information to pique my interest. As a result I reply to a very small percentage of the messages I actually receive.
It is disheartening when men treat you like you are able to drop your knickers 24/7. Even though my profile says 'All meets are organised in advance' obv post Lockdown, the amount that ignore it is unreal.  |
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Have to say 95% of the messages I get are respectful and I have a few people I chat with almost daily, we talk about all sorts. I've found lockdown has made the conversations turn quite meaningful, we have a great laugh also. I get flirty messages and I flirt back, it's fun.
The odd rubbish I do get, I ignore.
Have to agree with comments re profile content, you get back what you put out.
People have suggested you might want to consider this, why not try, you've nothing to lose. |
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"Have to say 95% of the messages I get are respectful and I have a few people I chat with almost daily, we talk about all sorts. I've found lockdown has made the conversations turn quite meaningful, we have a great laugh also. I get flirty messages and I flirt back, it's fun.
The odd rubbish I do get, I ignore.
Have to agree with comments re profile content, you get back what you put out.
People have suggested you might want to consider this, why not try, you've nothing to lose. "
my profile isn't much different from yours but ultimately I shouldn't have to suppress my sensuality because men can't behave in the right manner or is that just fab manner? |
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Manners cost nothing.......sadly a mantra not adopted by everyone........ using the filters might be an option for you, and rewording your text, some great advice on here from seasoned forumites........ good luck |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"Have to say 95% of the messages I get are respectful and I have a few people I chat with almost daily, we talk about all sorts. I've found lockdown has made the conversations turn quite meaningful, we have a great laugh also. I get flirty messages and I flirt back, it's fun.
The odd rubbish I do get, I ignore.
Have to agree with comments re profile content, you get back what you put out.
People have suggested you might want to consider this, why not try, you've nothing to lose.
my profile isn't much different from yours but ultimately I shouldn't have to suppress my sensuality because men can't behave in the right manner or is that just fab manner? "
If you treat men as pieces of meat then you can't really expect any different back. |
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"Have to say 95% of the messages I get are respectful and I have a few people I chat with almost daily, we talk about all sorts. I've found lockdown has made the conversations turn quite meaningful, we have a great laugh also. I get flirty messages and I flirt back, it's fun.
The odd rubbish I do get, I ignore.
Have to agree with comments re profile content, you get back what you put out.
People have suggested you might want to consider this, why not try, you've nothing to lose.
my profile isn't much different from yours but ultimately I shouldn't have to suppress my sensuality because men can't behave in the right manner or is that just fab manner? "
Of course you don't have to do anything. Though sadly the choices are either to do so or don't and put up with the extra wankers and gross messages it attracts. |
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"Have to say 95% of the messages I get are respectful and I have a few people I chat with almost daily, we talk about all sorts. I've found lockdown has made the conversations turn quite meaningful, we have a great laugh also. I get flirty messages and I flirt back, it's fun.
The odd rubbish I do get, I ignore.
Have to agree with comments re profile content, you get back what you put out.
People have suggested you might want to consider this, why not try, you've nothing to lose.
my profile isn't much different from yours but ultimately I shouldn't have to suppress my sensuality because men can't behave in the right manner or is that just fab manner? "
Your profiles both read very differently.
One sets distinct boundaries and preferences.
The other invites certain fantasies.
OP my advice is save the sexual fantasies for private messages. Set out what kind of guy you're after in your profile. The looking for section gives a general gist of what you do/do not want.
You're being given the same advice from nearly all the replies here and yet still... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have to say 95% of the messages I get are respectful and I have a few people I chat with almost daily, we talk about all sorts. I've found lockdown has made the conversations turn quite meaningful, we have a great laugh also. I get flirty messages and I flirt back, it's fun.
The odd rubbish I do get, I ignore.
Have to agree with comments re profile content, you get back what you put out.
People have suggested you might want to consider this, why not try, you've nothing to lose.
my profile isn't much different from yours but ultimately I shouldn't have to suppress my sensuality because men can't behave in the right manner or is that just fab manner?
Your profiles both read very differently.
One sets distinct boundaries and preferences.
The other invites certain fantasies.
OP my advice is save the sexual fantasies for private messages. Set out what kind of guy you're after in your profile. The looking for section gives a general gist of what you do/do not want.
You're being given the same advice from nearly all the replies here and yet still... "
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I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is. |
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"I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is. "
Agreed there is a lot of guys who join fab and think they will find an easy ride without trying to hard and think becauase we swing we are fair game and easy meat ,these are the guys we dont want on fab but there is a lot who will attend socials ,clubs etc and are happy to meet socialy with no expectations to see how things go , then again there are woman and couples that wont entertain you unlesss they know they are going to get a fuck , each individual is differant but at the end of the day we are all here for the same thing just some of us are more choosey and have more subbtle ways of going about it xx |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? "
Maybe your just connecting with the wrong people. Not all are the same but i understand if you get loads of similar messages it dont help  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is.
Agreed there is a lot of guys who join fab and think they will find an easy ride without trying to hard and think becauase we swing we are fair game and easy meat ,these are the guys we dont want on fab but there is a lot who will attend socials ,clubs etc and are happy to meet socialy with no expectations to see how things go , then again there are woman and couples that wont entertain you unlesss they know they are going to get a fuck , each individual is differant but at the end of the day we are all here for the same thing just some of us are more choosey and have more subbtle ways of going about it xx"
I'm a big believer of you getting out what you put in. If you just want to use it as a way of getting laid X amount of times then you can't complain when others do the same even if it's directed at you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have just read your profile, well all apart from the links to stories. My simple personal perspective is that it's a shopping list of experiences you require, with little of what you may actually bring to any form of relationship. Each item in the trolly will no doubt appeal to different men or women on fab and they will respond accordingly to what she see read or wish to experience in their own lives. That's human nature at its most basic and superficial level. And I know from bitter experience just how superficial people can be on here, women just as much as men.
Often what we all put out on fab is not what we get back because others perceptions of us all are dictated by what they want or seek, and over those perceptions we have no influence whatsoever.
In short people will always do what they want to do, chase what they want for themselves, and often when they have had that experience will just move on to the next shiney thing (person) that grabs their fleeting attention.
Its probably the reason for so much dissatisfaction with the experience of many on fab, and may explain why so often people become disappointed disenchanted and demoralised by their fab experience. Its certainly made me feel that way on occasion.
I have no magic bullet solution, sorry, but managing expectations is a key to making fab work for you the way you want it to. Even then trusting your own judgement can fail us all dismally at times. Some people will do or say what they want to get what they want then after they have had it decide it wasn't what they wanted at all.
You are responsible only for you and not for the actions of others. Where those others actions cause you hurt or distress or even anger and rage its easy to address. Simply avoid the foolish and vexatious, they eventually drain your soul. Just do what works for you.
I hope you find what your looking for, and that they may be looking for the same as you.....
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is. "
“Quick Bunk-up” ......... oooo matron! ..... how can you not read that and carry on springs to mind  |
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"Oh, and no, I don't wanna "meet now"
I'm not just here to "take your load"
I have no desire to for you to tell me what you want to do to me.
Please don't call me babe. That's for people who are special to me, and as I recall Babe was a pig in the city... I don't live in the city.
I'd prefer it if you didn't fill my inbox with requests because you've just got back from the pub and your penis is filled with alcohol fuelled horn.
I'm a person first and really would respond better to being treated as such"
That's a snippet from my profile text.
It's quite easy to tell who has read it and who hasn't.
Probably 1 out if 15 read it. Unless a message is in response to a forum thread which is easy to spot as it has the thread title as the message title, I'll only open messages that have clearly read my profile.
So yes, plenty won't message appropriately, but, just because those arrogant twats don't think I deserve respect, I know I do, so treat myself with the respect I deserve and they deserve by leaving them unread. |
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By *lkmajikMan
over a year ago
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? "
Reading the text in your profile are you actually that surprised by the kind of responses you get back?
It's like going out with a mini skirt and wondering why guys are looking at your arse |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?
Reading the text in your profile are you actually that surprised by the kind of responses you get back?
It's like going out with a mini skirt and wondering why guys are looking at your arse "
Agreed. You have nothing about you other than sex related stuff, so what else are they going to think you want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is.
“Quick Bunk-up” ......... oooo matron! ..... how can you not read that and carry on springs to mind "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is.
“Quick Bunk-up” ......... oooo matron! ..... how can you not read that and carry on springs to mind
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Couldn’t resist, simple sense of humour |
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I used to get this a lot until I changed my profile - it doesn't mention sex, and I find that I now tend to get more "normal" messages. Obviously I still get the copy and paste numpty messages, but they're easy to spot and ignore. |
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Do "wanna fuck now" messages ever get results? If so I'd be genuinely interested to hear from men who have sent them with success or women who have responded to them.
Not being at all judgemental here - if it floats both people's boat, that's fine. |
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"Yeah I don't feel like I fit in here. No idea why people put next to nothing in their profile- I have no idea what to talk about or ask you if ye give me nothing to go on! "
I been told to reduce my profile... can't win, right? lol |
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"I used to get this a lot until I changed my profile - it doesn't mention sex, and I find that I now tend to get more "normal" messages. Obviously I still get the copy and paste numpty messages, but they're easy to spot and ignore. "
Same |
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"I've just noticed your username...girth lover lol
Come on...you know what you're doing - you come across pretty smart - just seems like you're attention seeking "
seriously... I chose that name because i love girth. If you using that theory then isn't everyone attention seeking on fab? How does that justify sleazy chat? I know who to definitely avoid |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?
Reading the text in your profile are you actually that surprised by the kind of responses you get back?
It's like going out with a mini skirt and wondering why guys are looking at your arse
Agreed. You have nothing about you other than sex related stuff, so what else are they going to think you want? "
not me... obviously didn't read my bio properly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?
Reading the text in your profile are you actually that surprised by the kind of responses you get back?
It's like going out with a mini skirt and wondering why guys are looking at your arse
Agreed. You have nothing about you other than sex related stuff, so what else are they going to think you want? "
just another look at me post methinks |
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"Come on we all know what fabs about and what to expect from it , there is a lot of respectable guys on here . I just dont understand why anyone would join fab with your attitude and furthermore post provocative pics if you know they are going to create unwanted attention???  . Its a swinging site at the end of the day for people in a swinging lifestyle looking to have un complicated fun with other people. Sometimes my mind just boggles in these forums.
Sorry if i sounded a little harsh hun your pics are lovely but reading your peofile it does come across like you are up for much more and it is bound to attract the attention of single guys who will want to help you with your bucket list xxx maybe have a think and re write it "
Personally having read the OP in a number of forums I think she seems intelligent interesting and adventurous (not in a sexual way)
However I find the profile overwhelmingly sexual esp the young muscle stud and needing huge cock . This would put me off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to get bombarded with messages from total randoms until I rewrote my bio and applied strict message filters. Unfortunately as a woman on here I quickly learned that we are seriously outnumbered by men, some of which just use this as a way to get their leg over quickly and have absolutely no idea how the lifestyle works. Having suggestive profile headers and a suggestive bio only feeds those who just want a quick bunk up regardless of who it is.
“Quick Bunk-up” ......... oooo matron! ..... how can you not read that and carry on springs to mind
Couldn’t resist, simple sense of humour "
Nothing wrong with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm thinking that once you advertise on here (regardless of gender or preference) you're seen as a commodity for someone else's pleasure first and foremost? How many people contact someone thinking "I wonder how I can offer them what they want".
That doesn't mean we shouldn't have expectations of respect, but having folk contact you on a sex site when they're horny shouldn't really be a surprise?
I like to generally chat for awhile before any real talk of sex gets brought up. There are always exceptions of course. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
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"So basically it's the woman's fault for men's behaviour? "
It's really not about anyone's fault - you feel you are entitled to be very clear and blunt about what you desire sexually (which of course you are) but you complain about men's clear and blunt sexual needs (which they are also entitled to) when they don't exactly match yours. |
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"So basically it's the woman's fault for men's behaviour? "
Nobody has said that. All I have seen is hints and tips to help you avoid the sort of behaviour that you've been attracting. There are people who use this site as a way of getting sex while putting in as little effort as possible. Think of your bio and profile as your advertisement, what you put on there is how others will see you. If you market yourself to be appearing overly sexual then that is how others will perceive you to be. Tone it down to include more information about you as a person then people will see that you're more than just a set of holes to be used. Rightly or wrongly your profile is what people will judge you on. |
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"So basically it's the woman's fault for men's behaviour?
It's really not about anyone's fault - you feel you are entitled to be very clear and blunt about what you desire sexually (which of course you are) but you complain about men's clear and blunt sexual needs (which they are also entitled to) when they don't exactly match yours. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think we can all feel a bit too precious on here sometimes. I can momentarily be offended by some messages offering exactly what I have been seeking, but crikey they didnt even try and get into my mind first! It is what it is, and we are lucky enough to just be able to ignore what isnt for us |
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By *lkmajikMan
over a year ago
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"I've just noticed your username...girth lover lol
Come on...you know what you're doing - you come across pretty smart - just seems like you're attention seeking
seriously... I chose that name because i love girth. If you using that theory then isn't everyone attention seeking on fab? How does that justify sleazy chat? I know who to definitely avoid "
Yeah but people aren't complaining about their messages, unlike you lol
Just seems too obvious that if you talk dirty publicly on a sex site then you're going to attract all sorts. |
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I agree OP. I've been on and off on here for five years now. In that time I've met four men and had sexual contact with them, but three of them liked and appreciated me for the whole package and not just the physical bits. I also have a truly lovely platonic male friend who I've known for nearly as long as I've been on fab. And I messaged all of them first because of the forums. |
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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago
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"Do you go to a Vegan restaurant and order Steak?
Being a meat eater, it would be hypocritical for me to be in a vegan restaurant. It not like I don't love sex or hate talking about it. I just want to be considered as a normal human being, rather than a sex toy/free sex worker "
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" I'm thinking that once you advertise on here (regardless of gender or preference) you're seen as a commodity for someone else's pleasure first and foremost? How many people contact someone thinking "I wonder how I can offer them what they want".
That doesn't mean we shouldn't have expectations of respect, but having folk contact you on a sex site when they're horny shouldn't really be a surprise?
I like to generally chat for awhile before any real talk of sex gets brought up. There are always exceptions of course."
I don't think I am asking too much for others to be respectful to eachother. instead people are quick to blame the woman who expressing her desires. I actually have way more information about me as a whole person than many profiles I seen and people aren't complaining as they too shy. Just because a woman voices her discontent, judgemental people are quick to point the finger at the woman. People say don't write essays as most people only read first three lines of a bio. I kept mine short and afew photos in public. I done what I can do, I just think some men who send these unwanted messages should think twice before sending rather thinking all women want to hear it... ask first if she's interested in sex chat? Or people forgotten their manners these days just because they hide behind a screen? |
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"Come on we all know what fabs about and what to expect from it , there is a lot of respectable guys on here . I just dont understand why anyone would join fab with your attitude and furthermore post provocative pics if you know they are going to create unwanted attention??? . Its a swinging site at the end of the day for people in a swinging lifestyle looking to have un complicated fun with other people. Sometimes my mind just boggles in these forums.
Sorry if i sounded a little harsh hun your pics are lovely but reading your peofile it does come across like you are up for much more and it is bound to attract the attention of single guys who will want to help you with your bucket list xxx maybe have a think and re write it
Personally having read the OP in a number of forums I think she seems intelligent interesting and adventurous (not in a sexual way)
However I find the profile overwhelmingly sexual esp the young muscle stud and needing huge cock . This would put me off "
It's my sexual preference though, why should I be judged. I don't judge others for having preference? The thing I'm trying to convey is why should i put on with the constant messages of treating me like sex worker? |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?
Reading the text in your profile are you actually that surprised by the kind of responses you get back?
It's like going out with a mini skirt and wondering why guys are looking at your arse
Agreed. You have nothing about you other than sex related stuff, so what else are they going to think you want?
just another look at me post methinks"
i have way more than most about me as a person without sounding like I'm writing a cv. pot calling the kettle back springs to mind here |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging? "
There are women who just want that: uncomplicated, no strings, no frills sex.
Not everyone wants to get to know you, the trick is finding like minded people. |
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"It has taken me nearly a year on FAB to realise why I never going to really meet anyone off it. 99% of Men here seem to use FAB when they really horny and talk to you like their booty call. I love sex but just not interested in someone who just interested in me spreading my legs with click of a finger. Little effort made. Just endless messages of sex only conversations, not caring who I am as a person, are we compatible in any way or even what my face looks like. As long as I'm horny 24/7 to answer their sex messages (some get very impatient and demanding). I just don't get turned on by any of this tbh. It's just too much, too soon, too demanding
and demoralising. I thought lockdown would help people to form better online connections but I personally just think things have got worse.
I will stick to vanilla sites again and use FAB to chat to female friends and read forums.
Any other women like this or is it just me? I'm not cut out for FAB or swinging?
There are women who just want that: uncomplicated, no strings, no frills sex.
Not everyone wants to get to know you, the trick is finding like minded people. "
Yes thank you. Definitely a needle in a haystack. |
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Your right op, short messages saying let's fuck, you free now, I've spent the last 2 weeks talki g to someone who's really struggling with life, not once have mentioned about sex, not wanting to try and meet, sometimes we just need to talk to a stranger |
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I like the profile OP.
Im pretty clear and blunt in my own about what im looking for, and what im not. I always thought that was why I did get a lot of crass messages, but I don't think it matters what a women's profile says that will always happen as there will always been men like that. Its all swings and round abouts. I do sometimes find the messages a great source of entertainment at times. Some nights I like to reply full of self righteous indignation. Other times it will be the comical on liners that I only send back. I did once go the length of googling and pasting a mathematic equations in reply all one guys messages as all he said in his were stuff like ..wuu2 wbb fu2 xoxo sukmecok.
Other times just block and delete.
Im never rude but nothing wrong with being assertive.
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I find it difficult to find a connection with folk because I am a single guy and I probably do get seen as all the others.
But what I would like is a chance to get to know people. I am new to fab and new to embracing the Swinger lifestyle. I don't ask people for a f***, I always read profiles and I always make an effort in my messages.
I'm finding it hard because people don't want to make a connection yet those very very few that have can attest that I am not smut!
Connection first, social next and then see what's decided after that!
It doesn't help that I'm moving, that is very true and I wouldn't mind some NSA fun right now. But NOT straight away... Hopefully the Scottish lovelies will allow me a chance to prove that I'm the real deal. Not here to screw all of fab, just want a FB for fun and games |
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Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
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Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch..... |
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It's my sexual preference though, why should I be judged. I don't judge others for having preference? The thing I'm trying to convey is why should i put on with the constant messages of treating me like sex worker? "
Nobody should have to put up with some of the nonsense that happens on here.
But just not wanting it to happen won't make it stop.
There's very little you post about in regards to any positive experiences on here, yet you seem very resistant to taking control of what you can as a means of at least cutting down on some of the nonsense that comes your way.
This is always something I'll never understand on here. |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
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Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch....."
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste" |
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In the time we’ve been on here I don’t think we’ve ever really ever had a message that has been full on or sex related so we can’t have just been lucky and flukey. Lots of people just open with conversation .... not hey wanna be my sex slave? Lol |
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It's my sexual preference though, why should I be judged. I don't judge others for having preference? The thing I'm trying to convey is why should i put on with the constant messages of treating me like sex worker?
Nobody should have to put up with some of the nonsense that happens on here.
But just not wanting it to happen won't make it stop.
There's very little you post about in regards to any positive experiences on here, yet you seem very resistant to taking control of what you can as a means of at least cutting down on some of the nonsense that comes your way.
This is always something I'll never understand on here. "
sorry i totally disagree with i have done nothing i can take control in... i edited my profile, i put up filters, i ignore messages, i block and delete, i search for profiles. I really don't know what else I can do. My complaint is why we condoning such behaviour? |
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"In the time we’ve been on here I don’t think we’ve ever really ever had a message that has been full on or sex related so we can’t have just been lucky and flukey. Lots of people just open with conversation .... not hey wanna be my sex slave? Lol"
so you're proving from your profile, any photos or text can be liberal without encouraging poor behaviour? I think couple profiles generally have a better deal than single women. I know for a fact I'm not the only woman who gets sleazy messages. And I definitely won't completely accept that women on fab can't express their sexuality without being the reason why some men behave badly. |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
Or
Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste" "
Now you see why single men put in no effort , when messaging women/couples....
The first message acknowledges her username and relates to what she is looking for in her profile... with face and cock pics added to the message...
The second message is not sexual at all , offers social media links ...so she can see I’m not a serial killer, and I offered to meet in the daytime for brunch/lunch...
And your honest answer is “ This must be a copy and paste message “ I’ll not answer...
Now you see why some single men are clueless.... |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
Or
Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste"
Now you see why single men put in no effort , when messaging women/couples....
The first message acknowledges her username and relates to what she is looking for in her profile... with face and cock pics added to the message...
The second message is not sexual at all , offers social media links ...so she can see I’m not a serial killer, and I offered to meet in the daytime for brunch/lunch...
And your honest answer is “ This must be a copy and paste message “ I’ll not answer...
Now you see why some single men are clueless...."
just keep it real and simple like you're talking to someone in the pub. compliment about her profile and ask her what is she interested in... personally i don't see it complicated. treat her with respect and she be the same with you |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
Or
Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste" "
its too much too soon in an intro message. I litterly just send one personal question about the guys profile. |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
Or
Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste"
its too much too soon in an intro message. I litterly just send one personal question about the guys profile. "
Thank you for being honest.... I hope any single men that read this thread.... Now has a better idea on how to approach you... |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
Or
Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste"
its too much too soon in an intro message. I litterly just send one personal question about the guys profile.
Thank you for being honest.... I hope any single men that read this thread.... Now has a better idea on how to approach you..."
You're welcome. I just don't think we should condone poor behaviour and women feel cheap and self guilt because they enjoy casual sex. |
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Not read through the thread. But the initial post by op has spelt out exactly what infuriates me most about fab. Sick of the booty call, only message when their dick is in their hand. It’s gross and degrading.
I’ve made a couple of real good friends from here,both I truly respect. They ring and message when they want a chat, to check in on me. They’ve been there for me and I have them. Shame others from here cannot manage the same and understand a person’s worth. Karma |
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"Not read through the thread. But the initial post by op has spelt out exactly what infuriates me most about fab. Sick of the booty call, only message when their dick is in their hand. It’s gross and degrading.
I’ve made a couple of real good friends from here,both I truly respect. They ring and message when they want a chat, to check in on me. They’ve been there for me and I have them. Shame others from here cannot manage the same and understand a person’s worth. Karma "
But others on here says it's THE WOMAN'S fault for being over sexy, not men..so to not have this inappropriate behaviour, women need to cover up not express our sexual needs?? ...nothing to do with those men who need to be more respectful, it's the women's fault... |
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"Not read through the thread. But the initial post by op has spelt out exactly what infuriates me most about fab. Sick of the booty call, only message when their dick is in their hand. It’s gross and degrading.
I’ve made a couple of real good friends from here,both I truly respect. They ring and message when they want a chat, to check in on me. They’ve been there for me and I have them. Shame others from here cannot manage the same and understand a person’s worth. Karma
But others on here says it's THE WOMAN'S fault for being over sexy, not men..so to not have this inappropriate behaviour, women need to cover up not express our sexual needs?? ...nothing to do with those men who need to be more respectful, it's the women's fault... "
This is what is so annoying. You are being told to tone down your profile because you are looking for someone right for you and won’t accept all the rest.
Same with people saying block all single men.
Well you shouldn’t have to block single men or hide what your after just to stop getting disrespected by those who are just too crude to want to talk with
Saying that maybe some woman like the crude messages and they sometimes work for those guys.
This is why I pick and choose which messages I read and ignore the rest. I use fab my way and let others use it there way. Hopefully I cross paths with a few people on my wave length
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"Not read through the thread. But the initial post by op has spelt out exactly what infuriates me most about fab. Sick of the booty call, only message when their dick is in their hand. It’s gross and degrading.
I’ve made a couple of real good friends from here,both I truly respect. They ring and message when they want a chat, to check in on me. They’ve been there for me and I have them. Shame others from here cannot manage the same and understand a person’s worth. Karma
But others on here says it's THE WOMAN'S fault for being over sexy, not men..so to not have this inappropriate behaviour, women need to cover up not express our sexual needs?? ...nothing to do with those men who need to be more respectful, it's the women's fault... "
No...some are saying that it is within the woman's control to take measures that might lead to a more positive fab experience |
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"Not read through the thread. But the initial post by op has spelt out exactly what infuriates me most about fab. Sick of the booty call, only message when their dick is in their hand. It’s gross and degrading.
I’ve made a couple of real good friends from here,both I truly respect. They ring and message when they want a chat, to check in on me. They’ve been there for me and I have them. Shame others from here cannot manage the same and understand a person’s worth. Karma
But others on here says it's THE WOMAN'S fault for being over sexy, not men..so to not have this inappropriate behaviour, women need to cover up not express our sexual needs?? ...nothing to do with those men who need to be more respectful, it's the women's fault... "
It's not about it being your fault. Of course in an ideal world the men would be more respectful but we have no way of making that happen. Clearly the disrespectful messages are upsetting you so people are suggesting ways to minimise them. You don't have to change anything if you don't want to but it's the only way to change your experience. That choice is totally yours. If you want to continue to sexually express yourself because you enjoy doing so and are happy to just ignore the dickheads it will attract and concentrate on the decent ones then fantastic. |
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Just for the record.... Heterosexual men who post any cock pics on any sex/swinging site will get messages from bi/gay men offering sex....
It’s usually starts off “ I know I’m not what you’re looking for , BUT “ ....
Now as men we have two options.... block all men from messaging or keep our inbox open to men messaging and except the fact gay/bi will message us for sex....
Now , can you please suggest another option?
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"Just for the record.... Heterosexual men who post any cock pics on any sex/swinging site will get messages from bi/gay men offering sex....
It’s usually starts off “ I know I’m not what you’re looking for , BUT “ ....
Now as men we have two options.... block all men from messaging or keep our inbox open to men messaging and except the fact gay/bi will message us for sex....
Now , can you please suggest another option?
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there ya go, even straight men get poor behaviour/chancers in their inbox. Litterly that seems all you can do. block men. I can block men and be the only one who can initiate the conversation... |
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"Not read through the thread. But the initial post by op has spelt out exactly what infuriates me most about fab. Sick of the booty call, only message when their dick is in their hand. It’s gross and degrading.
I’ve made a couple of real good friends from here,both I truly respect. They ring and message when they want a chat, to check in on me. They’ve been there for me and I have them. Shame others from here cannot manage the same and understand a person’s worth. Karma
But others on here says it's THE WOMAN'S fault for being over sexy, not men..so to not have this inappropriate behaviour, women need to cover up not express our sexual needs?? ...nothing to do with those men who need to be more respectful, it's the women's fault...
This is what is so annoying. You are being told to tone down your profile because you are looking for someone right for you and won’t accept all the rest.
Same with people saying block all single men.
Well you shouldn’t have to block single men or hide what your after just to stop getting disrespected by those who are just too crude to want to talk with
Saying that maybe some woman like the crude messages and they sometimes work for those guys.
This is why I pick and choose which messages I read and ignore the rest. I use fab my way and let others use it there way. Hopefully I cross paths with a few people on my wave length
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"Just for the record.... Heterosexual men who post any cock pics on any sex/swinging site will get messages from bi/gay men offering sex....
It’s usually starts off “ I know I’m not what you’re looking for , BUT “ ....
Now as men we have two options.... block all men from messaging or keep our inbox open to men messaging and except the fact gay/bi will message us for sex....
Now , can you please suggest another option?
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Why do you need another option? |
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"Just for the record.... Heterosexual men who post any cock pics on any sex/swinging site will get messages from bi/gay men offering sex....
It’s usually starts off “ I know I’m not what you’re looking for , BUT “ ....
Now as men we have two options.... block all men from messaging or keep our inbox open to men messaging and except the fact gay/bi will message us for sex....
Now , can you please suggest another option?
Why do you need another option?"
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
Or
Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste"
Now you see why single men put in no effort , when messaging women/couples....
The first message acknowledges her username and relates to what she is looking for in her profile... with face and cock pics added to the message...
The second message is not sexual at all , offers social media links ...so she can see I’m not a serial killer, and I offered to meet in the daytime for brunch/lunch...
And your honest answer is “ This must be a copy and paste message “ I’ll not answer...
Now you see why some single men are clueless...."
I didn't see where you mentioned her user name, but it dosnt feel personal at all. Dosnt read like a taylor made message. And if a man sent links to all his social media in a first message id find it a bit..strange. |
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"Honest question Op......
After reading your username and profile.
What be a appropriate message from a single guy?
Hey , Great profile.... I’m not the muscular stud I used to be after months of Quarantine.... But I still have the girth and athletic body you’re looking for.... I have sent over a few face and cock pics to pique your interest... If you’re interested please reply back with a face pic and let’s chat... If not thank you for your time and please enjoy your Fab experience....
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Hello, I hope they day is treating you kindly... My name is rudeboybull from London... I’m 32 , never married, no children, 6”3, 210 pds , gainfully employed , and Solvent... I believe we could be a match because I love the outdoors. I enjoy international travel and I’m the most friendly person you could meet... I’ve sent over a few pics of myself in my everyday life , plus a link to my Facebook, LinkedIn, Snapchat, and instagram accounts... If anything you have read or seen has piqued your interest... please reply with a face pic and let’s try to meet for Brunch or Lunch.....
Neither as they both scream " copy and paste"
Now you see why single men put in no effort , when messaging women/couples....
The first message acknowledges her username and relates to what she is looking for in her profile... with face and cock pics added to the message...
The second message is not sexual at all , offers social media links ...so she can see I’m not a serial killer, and I offered to meet in the daytime for brunch/lunch...
And your honest answer is “ This must be a copy and paste message “ I’ll not answer...
Now you see why some single men are clueless....
I didn't see where you mentioned her user name, but it dosnt feel personal at all. Dosnt read like a taylor made message. And if a man sent links to all his social media in a first message id find it a bit..strange."
There isn’t a right or wrong way approach to this... you gave your honest opinion and I respect that...
Sending my social media links to a person in a first message in my opinion is good faith... just To show I’m a real person outside of this swinging world...
I have read on the forums for years that men put no effort into their initial messages... So I decided to give it a try.... I have never sent a first message and I never will.... it’s too confusing... |
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