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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
Very. I'm not looking for a life partner 
I need to have a connection too.
I'd hate to think that someone would fuck me without fancying me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very. I'm not going to sleep with someone that I don't find attractive, as I wouldn't expect anyone to play with me if I wasn't their cup of tea 
I get men I am not attracted to either saying can I do it if I get paid or they highly skilled in xyz or got a great personality....   "
Oh yeah, that'll definitely change your opinion on them... From bad to worse |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
I forgot to add about importance of face and body"
They go hand in hand with attraction i'd assume? |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
Very. I'm not looking for a life partner
I need to have a connection too.
I'd hate to think that someone would fuck me without fancying me."
Totally agree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
For me that is important but unfortunately we do tend to go by the cover of the book... in my experience there have been people I have met in real life that have not thought any more of but as I have got to know them have actually thought I do fancy them... it is all about connection but there has to be some form of Physical Attraction as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting question. And a bit chicken and egg for me.
I've been to bed with women I find attractive but they've been disappointing thus diminishing attraction and women I didn't find attractive but have been fantastic thus adding to attraction.
I would have to say it is connection which makes someone attractive to me even if it's just for the one night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab (like tinder too) is all about attraction and physical and that is the way of the world now. Better physical aspects are seen as important rather than anything.
But its a culture as society we are breading, young people are coming into adulthood watching love island etc and they want that life style!
Its not all bad, as people are being more health conscious for better physicality but obviously we have more people looking at joey essex than steven hawkin as role models.
Fab is about sex, so i have no issue with people judging 'the cover' rather than the book.
Personally, i like personality and that for me will always win but again, there has to be something i like about the person physically. |
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It’s the nature of the place and a reason I don’t do as well as others. However as soon as I find a website where popularity is judged by knowing about old cars or ‘80s pop music I’ll be basted in moist clunge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
What a ridiculous question-Why not stop to ask yourself the question before posting these threads? |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I have to fancy someone but my idea of attractive is not the conventionally good looking types. And i have to fancy their personality. I have never had sex with someone based on their looks. Personality has always been a key factor.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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There has to be attraction across the board, both physically and personality wise, for me to want to have sex with someone, without it it would be cold, clinical and meaningless and therefore unsatisfactory.
It's actually the attraction of personality and the connection and chemistry that is strongest for me - if they're not there, someone could be very physically attractive but would still not be someone I would want to sleep with |
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To me it is important although until you meet someone face to face it is difficult to tell. I have said "no thank you" to men who message then later bumped into them at a club or party and saw them in a different light. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
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For me, quite important - physical attraction is part of the wanting, longing and desiring to be with that person. |
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"I believe someone who you may not find particularly attractive, can still be sexy and turn you on."
Agree with this. Some people have a presence or a way about them that is sexy or is attractive in person but not be what you normally go for looks wise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me? Extremely important. "
Course it is, it's what initiates interest. Yes, personality, intellect etc all come into play but it's how a person looks that catches the eye and makes me want to find out more.
Shallow? I don't think so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very. I'm not going to sleep with someone that I don't find attractive, as I wouldn't expect anyone to play with me if I wasn't their cup of tea
I get men I am not attracted to either saying can I do it if I get paid or they highly skilled in xyz or got a great personality.... "
Oh I get this all the time!! It’s just annoying and I ignore it. |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
Most guys on here will shag anything that moves "
True, the woman has no public photos, no bio or face pic and men are all over her like bees and honey |
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"Not at all. I only talk to people I'm not physically attracted to to see if I can fancy their personality  "
Does it work when it comes to sex? I never really experienced it myself so just curious... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s the whole package...someone can have a hot body and so nothing for me, someone else more average and turn me on like hell.
It’s connection and chemistry wherever that comes from. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly , I have never fucked anyone because they had a great personality....
But I tend to more shallow when I’m vanilla dating compared to swinging........ |
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"Depends how horny I am  
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window "
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feeling a mental and erotic connection are the things that would cause me to want to meet someone for more than just a social If it isn’t mutual the urge goes away fast. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me the mental connection is more important than physical looks... I think height is probably my only requirement.. Oh and that they are strong... I like to wriggle /wrestle |
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"Physical and mental. Without both it would be like trying to light a wet match, there’s no spark. Xx"
Just don't see that from the fab men that message me. As long as I'm horny, they don't need to know if I'm kind, funny, friendly.. just have my legs open 24/7...they be happy |
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By *odd4funnMan
over a year ago
Walthamstow Leyton |
personally i do believe there has to be a connection The problem on any site a personality dosnt show through messaging
Looks are a good start body etc You just sometimes have to meet and hope Works most times as we are all on the site looking for different scenarios so we all try and find the connection that way
Meeting is by far the best way to find if you click Chat and see
Rod
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
It's very important for me , plus a personality and chemistry is a big bonus!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Physical and mental. Without both it would be like trying to light a wet match, there’s no spark. Xx
Just don't see that from the fab men that message me. As long as I'm horny, they don't need to know if I'm kind, funny, friendly.. just have my legs open 24/7...they be happy "
That's absolutely their loss in the long run! I guess they kinda rule themselves out fairly quickly on that basis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man "
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
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So men are only gentlemen to life partners?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
So men are only gentlemen to life partners? "
No I’m not saying that at all. I’m compassionate - I care about people, but I don’t really want to get close mentally because that would turn a primarily sexual relationship into something more, which I don’t come on here for. And I suspect most others don’t either. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
"Feeling a mental and erotic connection are the things that would cause me to want to meet someone for more than just a social If it isn’t mutual the urge goes away fast."
I really like that..an erotic connection. Can be caused by any number of things...looks, personality, manner...I think you’ve nailed it there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
So men are only gentlemen to life partners? "
Men can be gentlemen to one and all. Common courtesy costs nothing regardless of where the interaction ends up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
Most guys on here will shag anything that moves
True, the woman has no public photos, no bio or face pic and men are all over her like bees and honey "
It is true. I get ridiculous amounts of messages asking for a fuck, even though I only have 1 crap pic and rubbish text.
It's put me off meeting anyone on here!!  |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
I can only speak for us, but without physical attraction then we wouldn't want to get our hands on somebody's body. It's essential, but it isn't the only or most important thing. How we get on is also an essential factor. We wouldn't get it on with somebody just because of how they look. |
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
So men are only gentlemen to life partners? "
So I guessing men's attitude is treat the women who enjoy casual sex like a a piece of rubbish and the ones they want to fall in love with and marry like princesses... I'm definitely in the wrong place then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
So men are only gentlemen to life partners?
So I guessing men's attitude is treat the women who enjoy casual sex like a a piece of rubbish and the ones they want to fall in love with and marry like princesses... I'm definitely in the wrong place then! "
I'll marry you. I don't mind sharing either  |
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
So men are only gentlemen to life partners?
So I guessing men's attitude is treat the women who enjoy casual sex like a a piece of rubbish and the ones they want to fall in love with and marry like princesses... I'm definitely in the wrong place then! "
I've never found that |
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"Depends how horny I am
Same here, sometimes I’m so horny pretty much all reasoning goes out the window
With that mentality, I stay clear of 99.9% of fab men. I think I only met one guy on here that's been such a gentleman. We been chatting ever since start of lockdown and he's a youngster but with a mind and attitude of a wize man
I’m not looking for a lifetime partner on here, surely if you wanted that, you’d go to a normal dating site, not a swinging one. I think some people forget why the place actually exists.
So men are only gentlemen to life partners?
So I guessing men's attitude is treat the women who enjoy casual sex like a a piece of rubbish and the ones they want to fall in love with and marry like princesses... I'm definitely in the wrong place then! "
I've not found it to be the case and the men who think this and generalise their own attitude to all do their gender a disservice. |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
It’s vital - as is a mental connection.
When I first joined fab I focused on the physical attraction part and had a lot of reasonably good (sometimes fantastic) sex with some stunningly attractive men - because I could.
Several years later I look for a combination of both. The men may not be ‘stunning’ now but they’re attractive to me - and they have great personalities so I can spend hours with them NOT shagging too.
Generally - but still not always (no guarantees unfortunately) - the sex is fucking amazing! |
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very important as without the attraction my junk won't work.
I've had endless chats with women on this site, get on really well and then the prospect of a meet comes to an ubrupt end when the face or body pics come through.
Does this make me shallow? I need physical attraction to be aroused xx |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
Erm isn’t that the whole point? why would you want to have sex if there is no attraction  "
duno according to some "any hole is a goal" |
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"very important as without the attraction my junk won't work.
I've had endless chats with women on this site, get on really well and then the prospect of a meet comes to an ubrupt end when the face or body pics come through.
Does this make me shallow? I need physical attraction to be aroused xx"
respectful question, how did you get attracted to them and get a great rapport when you saw no photos? |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
Erm isn’t that the whole point? why would you want to have sex if there is no attraction
duno according to some "any hole is a goal" "
I find this as a very shallow approach and I don’t think I would ever able to understand that view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"very important as without the attraction my junk won't work.
I've had endless chats with women on this site, get on really well and then the prospect of a meet comes to an ubrupt end when the face or body pics come through.
Does this make me shallow? I need physical attraction to be aroused xx"
You go off them or they go off you when the pics are sent? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s important, but if they don’t have an attractive personality then they’re merely something nice to look at, and that’s where it ends- won’t take it any further. Viv xx |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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The fact that a womans profile with no pictures get flooded with messages probably answers the question.
I dont have a fab criteria any different from real life.
Yep I need that wow factor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do go a lot by a face, but it's the glint in the eye and the cheeky smile that can win me over.
Personality is a big there for me too, so I guess that's the need for a connection too |
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Attitude is (almost) everything.
Some people might look like models, but have an attitude of detachment and entitlement.
Other people might not be models but have filthy minds, vivid imaginations and healthy appetites for all the pleasures of the flesh. |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
It’s of the highest importance to me - It’s just sex and I want to feel attracted to and turned on with someone
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Definitely so when you see face pic too late, your heart sinks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab? "
I'd say about 40% important for me to engage in conversation and consider taking it further. I find physical attraction growing with a tick in every other box. Having said so, there have to be a fair few boxes ticket for me to drop my knickers. |
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
It’s of the highest importance to me - It’s just sex and I want to feel attracted to and turned on with someone
Definitely so when you see face pic too late, your heart sinks. "
Doesn’t it just !
Tbh face is more important than body to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How really important is physical attraction when it comes to sex and on fab?
It’s of the highest importance to me - It’s just sex and I want to feel attracted to and turned on with someone
Definitely so when you see face pic too late, your heart sinks.
Doesn’t it just !
Tbh face is more important than body to me "
Get it out there first so there’s no facial disappointments later on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, physical attraction is important. I can generally tell straight away if I'm attracted to you. But it also helps if we can have an easy flow of conversation on the 1st meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can generally tell straight away if I'm attracted to him. It helps if we can have an easy flow of conversation on the 1st meet. A man with a quick, clever wit gets my interest too. There's so much more to attraction than just physical....although that is very important too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me essential. But it comes in different forms. There could be someone who I would think is ok looks wise but the chemistry is intense, they then become the most handsome person in the world to me. |
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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Of course, looks can gain attention. It's more than eye candy for me. If they don't engage my mind, I don't care how drop dead gorgeous they may look, it's not an attractive package and therefore not happening. |
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"Of course, looks can gain attention. It's more than eye candy for me. If they don't engage my mind, I don't care how drop dead gorgeous they may look, it's not an attractive package and therefore not happening."
yeah get that... I can really find the guy super hot, but terrible attitude and personality turns me completely off... if i just went for looks, if the sexual experience went wrong then I saw the tale tale signs and ignored it |
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