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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you feeling today? And why?
It is a beautiful day and driving to work I saw one fluffy solitary cloud "oh" I thought, that cloud looks a little lonely and sad.
Made me feel rather discombobulated if truth be told, thinking about how many people might feel like that cloud
So if you are feeling a bit discombobulated like me, or a bit low or if you just want to say something kind to someone else then please feel free to write your thoughts down
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is lovely
I'm tired and I have a slight sore head from one too many beers but I actually feel okay because I sobbed my heart out for two hours last night and it was just what I needed xx |
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I have to admit I'm still stunned and shocked by the death of a good friend at just 38 years old .
Not sure I'm even at the sad stage , I cant quite comprehend the reality of it yet .
Truth be told I'm not even sure how I feel still  |
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I feel rather chilled as I'm starting work late today, I've walked my dog in the woods, and I'm enjoying a slow paced coffee start to the day in the forums.
Op you have made me smile with your combobulate word and manner of post. Great word.
You made me smile so thanks.  |
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over a year ago
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Having a cup of tea and toasted tomato sandwich in bed. Working 2-12 today so a relaxed lazy morning. Back to keeping my gratitude journal this week. Hugs to all. |
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I'm feeling bothered by things I know shouldn't be bothering me so I feel the need to shake it off.
I could really do with a long walk to clear the cobwebs but I have a busy day ahead so not sure if I'll get it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to admit I'm still stunned and shocked by the death of a good friend at just 38 years old .
Not sure I'm even at the sad stage , I cant quite comprehend the reality of it yet .
Truth be told I'm not even sure how I feel still "
Sorry to hear this. It's a slow process sometimes for loss to emotionally sink in. Don't shy away from thinking about them though x |
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Funnily enough someone sign-posted me to this Feature on a website in a conversation this morning ......
Every time someone asks me this question lately, I feel a sense of confusion, occasionally followed by a rising frustration. I’m fine. I have food, a job, a support network, and even toilet paper. Nothing has changed since the last time I was asked this question.
Was something wrong? No. But was I really OK? I’m….not sure.
I’m not fine. But my rational brain couldn’t latch on to a good enough reason why I am not fine at this very moment, so I tell others (and myself) that I am fine.
But I have an underlying unease that I can’t fully shake. I have days where I feel completely unmotivated or unfocused, and even small acts of productivity seem like a Herculean effort. Then there are other days where I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude and joy at the sight of flowers blooming. The problem was, I never knew when my feelings would switch.
There were parts of this that were easy to understand. The external triggers small and large that remind us that life has changed— the empty shelves in the supermarket, the irate jogger who yells at us to move, the continuous predictions of economic doom, and the friends who have lost their jobs.
But then there were the days when I would just wake up and feel different. What was that about? The answer is — I don’t know.
What I do know is that our collective understanding of what “normal” is has completely shifted yet we don’t have the corresponding vocabulary to talk about it. The new definition of “normal” needs to encapsulate fluid shifts in emotions — from extreme optimism and productivity to inexplicable malaise. It also needs to contain an element of confusion and uncertainty — “I’m OK now, but if this keeps going…”
Finally, it needs to be blanketed by collective grief — because we’ve all lost something to COVID-19.
So, if we are going to get through this together, we are going to need to be able to talk about this new “normal” and well….normalize it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Funnily enough someone sign-posted me to this Feature on a website in a conversation this morning ......
Every time someone asks me this question lately, I feel a sense of confusion, occasionally followed by a rising frustration. I’m fine. I have food, a job, a support network, and even toilet paper. Nothing has changed since the last time I was asked this question.
Was something wrong? No. But was I really OK? I’m….not sure.
I’m not fine. But my rational brain couldn’t latch on to a good enough reason why I am not fine at this very moment, so I tell others (and myself) that I am fine.
But I have an underlying unease that I can’t fully shake. I have days where I feel completely unmotivated or unfocused, and even small acts of productivity seem like a Herculean effort. Then there are other days where I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude and joy at the sight of flowers blooming. The problem was, I never knew when my feelings would switch.
There were parts of this that were easy to understand. The external triggers small and large that remind us that life has changed— the empty shelves in the supermarket, the irate jogger who yells at us to move, the continuous predictions of economic doom, and the friends who have lost their jobs.
But then there were the days when I would just wake up and feel different. What was that about? The answer is — I don’t know.
What I do know is that our collective understanding of what “normal” is has completely shifted yet we don’t have the corresponding vocabulary to talk about it. The new definition of “normal” needs to encapsulate fluid shifts in emotions — from extreme optimism and productivity to inexplicable malaise. It also needs to contain an element of confusion and uncertainty — “I’m OK now, but if this keeps going…”
Finally, it needs to be blanketed by collective grief — because we’ve all lost something to COVID-19.
So, if we are going to get through this together, we are going to need to be able to talk about this new “normal” and well….normalize it."
I love this . Especially the bit about grief. I read something about this, that we’re all grieving.
For a loss of way of life, because we don’t know how to be or what to do, because we can’t just go and do what we normally do and be with people etc...
We’re all going through ups and downs, one minute I’m fine, the next I’m all over the place, but I’m trying to keep plodding on, and be positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is lovely
I'm tired and I have a slight sore head from one too many beers but I actually feel okay because I sobbed my heart out for two hours last night and it was just what I needed xx"
I can relate, minus the beer. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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I'm feeling superbobulated; I only do a 3 day week so this is day 2 of my 4 day weekend, the sun is shinning, I'm having a relaxed breakfast and listening to 6 music; feeling happy and content.
So, if your bobulations have become disconned, I'm here to chat and share my joy with you - I've got loads enough for everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Funnily enough someone sign-posted me to this Feature on a website in a conversation this morning ......
Every time someone asks me this question lately, I feel a sense of confusion, occasionally followed by a rising frustration. I’m fine. I have food, a job, a support network, and even toilet paper. Nothing has changed since the last time I was asked this question.
Was something wrong? No. But was I really OK? I’m….not sure.
I’m not fine. But my rational brain couldn’t latch on to a good enough reason why I am not fine at this very moment, so I tell others (and myself) that I am fine.
But I have an underlying unease that I can’t fully shake. I have days where I feel completely unmotivated or unfocused, and even small acts of productivity seem like a Herculean effort. Then there are other days where I feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude and joy at the sight of flowers blooming. The problem was, I never knew when my feelings would switch.
There were parts of this that were easy to understand. The external triggers small and large that remind us that life has changed— the empty shelves in the supermarket, the irate jogger who yells at us to move, the continuous predictions of economic doom, and the friends who have lost their jobs.
But then there were the days when I would just wake up and feel different. What was that about? The answer is — I don’t know.
What I do know is that our collective understanding of what “normal” is has completely shifted yet we don’t have the corresponding vocabulary to talk about it. The new definition of “normal” needs to encapsulate fluid shifts in emotions — from extreme optimism and productivity to inexplicable malaise. It also needs to contain an element of confusion and uncertainty — “I’m OK now, but if this keeps going…”
Finally, it needs to be blanketed by collective grief — because we’ve all lost something to COVID-19.
So, if we are going to get through this together, we are going to need to be able to talk about this new “normal” and well….normalize it.
I love this . Especially the bit about grief. I read something about this, that we’re all grieving.
For a loss of way of life, because we don’t know how to be or what to do, because we can’t just go and do what we normally do and be with people etc...
We’re all going through ups and downs, one minute I’m fine, the next I’m all over the place, but I’m trying to keep plodding on, and be positive. "
Brene brown and David Kessler discussed grief and the pandemic in a podcast lately, and the loss of what has been our "normal".
Thankfully I have been working all along but at end of February I had a panic attack in a hotel while away for a weekend and came to realise a few things I had been just parking in the corner and not dealing with. And as soon as I said ok I'm not ok over here. Lockdown kicked in. I think our new "normal" is going to be different hopefully a good different. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Sending hugs OP That lonely cloud will give way to beautiful sunshine soon.
I feel happy but I've also woken up a bit sad, that's to be expected though. Missing people is really tough isn't it? I think I'd feel better if I knew they missed me as much as I do them but I'm limiting my neediness.  |
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"Sending hugs OP That lonely cloud will give way to beautiful sunshine soon.
I feel happy but I've also woken up a bit sad, that's to be expected though. Missing people is really tough isn't it? I think I'd feel better if I knew they missed me as much as I do them but I'm limiting my neediness. "
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I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Aside from the occasional pang over the lack of wee adventures in the offing, I'm doing okay
I can still find some joy in the ordinary most days and am careful to avoid navel gazing |
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"I have to admit I'm still stunned and shocked by the death of a good friend at just 38 years old .
Not sure I'm even at the sad stage , I cant quite comprehend the reality of it yet .
Truth be told I'm not even sure how I feel still
Sorry to hear this. It's a slow process sometimes for loss to emotionally sink in. Don't shy away from thinking about them though x "
I do , I looked at her pic again earlier .
Its difficult to comprehend shes gone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feeling fairly chilled and relaxed at the moment. I haven't found it that tough to adjust to lockdown or 'new normal'.
Quieter with less people around is how I like it.
Found time to re-discover how much I love reading. Gardening, walking dogs, cooking - more time for all that.
Some people will find it harder to adjust but it always helps to talk about what problems and difficulties you are facing - sometimes its easier on a web forum like this. It's better to share and get others perspectives.  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Haven't had time to feel anything much this week - work has been crazy and I currently have a splitting headache - there's been some bemusement at the actions of others, but nothing that will phase me beyond a momentary roll of the eyes.
Then I'm lucky enough to take a glass half full view of life and don't often stay down for long.
To those in genuine need of it though I send smiles and warmth and hope that the discombobulation doesn't last long |
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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago
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Well I'm not feeling too good today. I'm thinking it may just be an age thing, but whenever I speak to my doctor he just find me off. Wish I could find that magic pill that makes everything good. No matter what I will carry on with a smile on my face |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm very quiet today
.... Work is manic, but i don't feel productive
Just getting over a bug that left me feeling foggy and like a truck had run me over (not covid... Test was negative)
And last night i split up with my Dom, who I've been involved with for over a year |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water."
I feel the same.. Shall we run away together? |
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"I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water.
I feel the same.. Shall we run away together? "
Just say the word! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water.
I feel the same.. Shall we run away together?
Just say the word!"
Honestly right now i could pack a small bag and never look back |
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"I'm very quiet today
.... Work is manic, but i don't feel productive
Just getting over a bug that left me feeling foggy and like a truck had run me over (not covid... Test was negative)
And last night i split up with my Dom, who I've been involved with for over a year"
Oh huni...sometimes it just feels like when you're getting over one thing something else hits.
Sorry to hear about you and your dom...a year is a long time!
I really hope that you feel back to being strong.
Sending loads of good vibes to you x
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"I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water.
I feel the same.. Shall we run away together?
Just say the word!
Honestly right now i could pack a small bag and never look back "
I've just read your post .I get it x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Struggling. It's been a foggy and frustrating few days.
Gonna turn it around, though. Wr can do that if we like, eh? "
Baby we can do anything you wish too! Get outside and get some sun on your face for starters, deeo breath and know you got it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have to admit I'm still stunned and shocked by the death of a good friend at just 38 years old .
Not sure I'm even at the sad stage , I cant quite comprehend the reality of it yet .
Truth be told I'm not even sure how I feel still "
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, what a shock for you.
Hope you are being kind to yourself....Just run with your thoughts and feelings.
Sending you love and strength |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Sending hugs OP That lonely cloud will give way to beautiful sunshine soon.
I feel happy but I've also woken up a bit sad, that's to be expected though. Missing people is really tough isn't it? I think I'd feel better if I knew they missed me as much as I do them but I'm limiting my neediness.
I can promise they miss you km even more than you could Imagine _eli. Xxxx"
I think they miss the glorified chicken goujon more. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I feel rather chilled as I'm starting work late today, I've walked my dog in the woods, and I'm enjoying a slow paced coffee start to the day in the forums.
Op you have made me smile with your combobulate word and manner of post. Great word.
You made me smile so thanks. "
You are more than welcome, glad to hear that made you smile |
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"Sending hugs OP That lonely cloud will give way to beautiful sunshine soon.
I feel happy but I've also woken up a bit sad, that's to be expected though. Missing people is really tough isn't it? I think I'd feel better if I knew they missed me as much as I do them but I'm limiting my neediness. "
Sending you lots of love my darling xx |
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"I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water."
Maybe it is time to take stock of life. Sending you love xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you feeling today? And why?
It is a beautiful day and driving to work I saw one fluffy solitary cloud "oh" I thought, that cloud looks a little lonely and sad.
Made me feel rather discombobulated if truth be told, thinking about how many people might feel like that cloud
So if you are feeling a bit discombobulated like me, or a bit low or if you just want to say something kind to someone else then please feel free to write your thoughts down
Much love to you all "
right back at you...we’re very fortunate to have each other and sympathy goes out to all the singles who’ve been struggling with loneliness through these weird days xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well I'm not feeling too good today. I'm thinking it may just be an age thing, but whenever I speak to my doctor he just find me off. Wish I could find that magic pill that makes everything good. No matter what I will carry on with a smile on my face "
Oh bless you, here is hoping that feeling passes xx |
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"I feel like I need more and I'm not even sure what that looks like! I just feel restless, unsatisfied a little empty. I have a great family, I'm surrounded by lots of love and feel lucky in many respects. But,I can't suppress a yearning for something different. A need to feel alive and not just treading water.
Maybe it is time to take stock of life. Sending you love xx"
Thanks MissD...I think you could be right there..love back to you xx |
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Honestly... I'm tired.
Genuinely tired.
Tired of life and tired of trying. This week has been incredibly hard and I've spent a fair amount of it in tears wondering why I'm here.
But, I won't stop trying, I'll continue to try to get people to see there is always a bigger picture than the one they're looking at. |
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I'm off work and feeling chilled today. I won't say that I haven't had wobbles throughout all this, but I have some wonderful friends who have given me virtual kicks up the arse and set my head straight again. And I currently have an underlying sense of sadness because I'm not able to see someone who I'm missing a great deal.
But, I'm grateful that I have worked throughout and have some amazing people in my life - I'll get to spend time with those I'm missing soon enough, it's just a temporary separation. And I was never really one for going to the pub very often anyway, so that bit doesn't bother me.
I've got a lot of good in my life...and the not so good bits are not permanent |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My world is moving a little too fast today and I feel like I need to jump off for a rest. TFI weekend tbh....
Maybe the solitary cloud was actually two clouds shagging....? |
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What a lovely thread.
We're feeling good today thankyou.
If anyone is feeling down, drop us a message. We've had friends in the past who haven't spoken out and made the worst possible decision.
XxX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Feeling really good. Went to Reiki healing on monday for the first time. If anyone wants to know about it send me a DM. but only about that x "
Great stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Today has been one of the better days, but I still wouldn't call it a good day. I'm having a bbq with a friend tomorrow so I hope I can forget about my loneliness for a day. |
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"Honestly... I'm tired.
Genuinely tired.
Tired of life and tired of trying. This week has been incredibly hard and I've spent a fair amount of it in tears wondering why I'm here.
But, I won't stop trying, I'll continue to try to get people to see there is always a bigger picture than the one they're looking at."
You are here because you have every right to be. I know how tough things have been for and god knows you deserve so much more than what you have and the crappy times
You are a beautiful lady with a beautiful soul, you give lots without getting much back and you're ok with that because seeing others happy makes you happy and tbh it is to your detriment.
Start putting yourself first now.... you need this, you need to reflect and heal..
You got this.
Sending you all the love, beautiful inside and out
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"I'm off work and feeling chilled today. I won't say that I haven't had wobbles throughout all this, but I have some wonderful friends who have given me virtual kicks up the arse and set my head straight again. And I currently have an underlying sense of sadness because I'm not able to see someone who I'm missing a great deal.
But, I'm grateful that I have worked throughout and have some amazing people in my life - I'll get to spend time with those I'm missing soon enough, it's just a temporary separation. And I was never really one for going to the pub very often anyway, so that bit doesn't bother me.
I've got a lot of good in my life...and the not so good bits are not permanent "
Oh lovely! I'm glad you are surrounded by amazing people, treasure that and the rest follows |
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By *r.HMan
over a year ago
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Feeling like I need to purchase one of those coats where the arms do up round the back, found out my furlough leave had been extended until the end of September which means I would have been on furlough for 6 whole months come then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've had 5 days off in the last 75, I now have a week off, I may just hibernate as I've gone into shut down mode"
You are going through emotional and physical burnout. Stop before you hit break point....
You need to be selfish now. That's hard when you are a giver but you must x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My world is moving a little too fast today and I feel like I need to jump off for a rest. TFI weekend tbh....
Maybe the solitary cloud was actually two clouds shagging....? "
Nippy the clouds weren't shagging. It was one cloud.
Rest, chill time the weekend please and no, no wanking it depletes your energy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What a lovely thread.
We're feeling good today thankyou.
If anyone is feeling down, drop us a message. We've had friends in the past who haven't spoken out and made the worst possible decision.
XxX"
I am glad you do! Have some love anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Today has been one of the better days, but I still wouldn't call it a good day. I'm having a bbq with a friend tomorrow so I hope I can forget about my loneliness for a day."
Honey, sorry you feel lonely. You find it hard to reach out but please do, people do care about you.
Have a great time tomorrow and please do me a favour and arrange something else so you always have something to look forward too |
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"Feeling like I need to purchase one of those coats where the arms do up round the back, found out my furlough leave had been extended until the end of September which means I would have been on furlough for 6 whole months come then "
Oh no! How have you been occupying your time? Use this time wisely, rest take stock and be kind to yourself x |
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By *r.HMan
over a year ago
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"Feeling like I need to purchase one of those coats where the arms do up round the back, found out my furlough leave had been extended until the end of September which means I would have been on furlough for 6 whole months come then
Oh no! How have you been occupying your time? Use this time wisely, rest take stock and be kind to yourself x"
Buying random things from Amazon, working out up to 3hrs a day, skipping (harder than it looks), binging boxsets, feels like I've completed netflix now  |
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