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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever made a bold statement, then had to eat your words?
Perhaps told the whole of Fab youre leaving, after all of your hotlist deleted your messages of passion. Then decided you fancy staying anyway?
How do you recover ? Hide and lay low for awhile? Tell everyone you were just joking? Or ride out the inevitable flak? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone who announces publicly they are leaving any social media forum is a cock. Just leave quietly, it's more embarrassing announcing it in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone who announces publicly they are leaving any social media forum is a cock. Just leave quietly, it's more embarrassing announcing it in the first place. "
The thread isn't exclusively aimed at going unlos statements...but that's a little harsh 
We all have moments, where the following day we cringe at our behaviour? |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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" Have you ever made a bold statement, then had to eat your words?
Perhaps told the whole of Fab youre leaving, after all of your hotlist deleted your messages of passion. Then decided you fancy staying anyway?
How do you recover ? Hide and lay low for awhile? Tell everyone you were just joking? Or ride out the inevitable flak?"
I don't make impulsive decisions i'll then walk back on. |
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"Anyone who announces publicly they are leaving any social media forum is a cock. Just leave quietly, it's more embarrassing announcing it in the first place.
The thread isn't exclusively aimed at going unlos statements...but that's a little harsh
We all have moments, where the following day we cringe at our behaviour?"
I am those moments often. I think bloody hell Belle, what was you thinking! |
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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
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"Told my brother that I could polish seven pints of coffee in one hour once, no problem.
Ate my words, ate the wallpaper and ate the shirt off my back. Would not recommend.  "
That must have been a good cleanse to the system  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Told my brother that I could polish seven pints of coffee in one hour once, no problem.
Ate my words, ate the wallpaper and ate the shirt off my back. Would not recommend. "
 Ouch! |
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" Have you ever made a bold statement, then had to eat your words?
Perhaps told the whole of Fab youre leaving, after all of your hotlist deleted your messages of passion. Then decided you fancy staying anyway?
How do you recover ? Hide and lay low for awhile? Tell everyone you were just joking? Or ride out the inevitable flak?"
Anyone who makes a bold statement on a public forum takes their integrity in their own hands. I’m sure everyone can, at times. display impetuous and irrational behaviour due to circumstances at the time but... to announce your leaving in such a flounce and then return ...
Well, perhaps a little too much drama and maybe consideration if this site is actually for you? It’s happens all the time ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Told my brother that I could polish seven pints of coffee in one hour once, no problem.
Ate my words, ate the wallpaper and ate the shirt off my back. Would not recommend. "
This has made me howl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah usually dating related. I eventually announce to family i’m dating (After keeping it quiet for months). Few days later....”False alarm everyone!”..."
oh no! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m like a yo-yo on here .
I won’t go unlos again as last time I did someone half inched my original username 
I'll believe it when I see it "
...5 times now Chill |
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" Have you ever made a bold statement, then had to eat your words?
Perhaps told the whole of Fab youre leaving, after all of your hotlist deleted your messages of passion. Then decided you fancy staying anyway?
How do you recover ? Hide and lay low for awhile? Tell everyone you were just joking? Or ride out the inevitable flak?"
I wouldn’t put myself in that position |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m like a yo-yo on here .
I won’t go unlos again as last time I did someone half inched my original username "
They stole "Iluvjaffacakesupmybum" ? Wow |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I make a statement, bold or otherwise, I'm prepared to have it challenged, back it up, and con_ede it was wrong if necessary."
This. Never be afraid to con_ede and admit you changed your perspective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m like a yo-yo on here .
I won’t go unlos again as last time I did someone half inched my original username
They stole "Iluvjaffacakesupmybum" ? Wow "
Yes they did and I’m so very cross about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah usually dating related. I eventually announce to family i’m dating (After keeping it quiet for months). Few days later....”False alarm everyone!”..."
I know it's wrong that this made me laugh, but only because it's the kind of thing that would happen to me!
And I'd be thinking "if only I'd of kept my mouth shut"!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did a leaving thread. It made the hell hole I was in a little more bearable at the time. Had no intention of ever returning but then some stupid virus fucked up my world even worse than it was.  |
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"If I make a statement, bold or otherwise, I'm prepared to have it challenged, back it up, and con_ede it was wrong if necessary."
Which is exactly how it should be. So many people here operate the ‘ press button first - engage brain later’ .. |
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yeah, kinda the entire last 2 years on here as part of a couple.
That was pretty bold and now I'm eating my words.
Well I am and I ain't.
I was mugged off yes, but... I don't believe it was intentional as such. People can't tell the truth when they don't know what the truth is.
But, they fucking owe it to themselves and others to find out BEFORE embarking on a new chapter of their lives and dragging someone else's heart into somewhere it has no business being. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yeah, kinda the entire last 2 years on here as part of a couple.
That was pretty bold and now I'm eating my words.
Well I am and I ain't.
I was mugged off yes, but... I don't believe it was intentional as such. People can't tell the truth when they don't know what the truth is.
But, they fucking owe it to themselves and others to find out BEFORE embarking on a new chapter of their lives and dragging someone else's heart into somewhere it has no business being."
Thats a tough one and I relate. Some folk don't truly think of the impact of their statements, and ill make that sweeping generalisation, but more often than not I think its us guys. Maybe myself on occasions too.
Maybe its upbringing, experiences or difficulty with intimacy, but sometimes people are afraid of the truth because of anticipation of others reaction? But that approach just ends up in a world of hidden feelings and suppression of the truth.
Bold statements are great, even in the moment as long as that's how you truly felt at the time?
Don't let it eat you. You'll waste so much opportunity. |
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I'm not generally one for being rash or impulsive, and any statement I make will always be true to my beliefs and researched/deeply thought through - I'm always prepared to have my views challenged, as long as whoever is doing so is prepared for me to challenge their view in return, and I never think that I'm above conceding to be wrong or to agree to disagree.
With regards to leaving here, I'd just go - I already have the contact details for the people that I'd want to stay in contact with, and I'm not here to win a popularity contest so I'd never dream of announcing it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Bold statement thread coming up."
Not sure who that was, and I hope they didn't feel the need to act based on this thread.
There's a lot of folk departing, and we need to remember how much of an impact world events are having on people's emotional health.
I admit I've eye rolled and tutted at peoples status and posts about leaving in the past. But sometimes there's a lot going on behind that bold statement and if it is attention seeking, it may be for a reason? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm not generally one for being rash or impulsive, and any statement I make will always be true to my beliefs and researched/deeply thought through - I'm always prepared to have my views challenged, as long as whoever is doing so is prepared for me to challenge their view in return, and I never think that I'm above conceding to be wrong or to agree to disagree.
With regards to leaving here, I'd just go - I already have the contact details for the people that I'd want to stay in contact with, and I'm not here to win a popularity contest so I'd never dream of announcing it. "
I think most do just depart quietly, but don't forget some people want to say goodbye? |
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"yeah, kinda the entire last 2 years on here as part of a couple.
That was pretty bold and now I'm eating my words.
Well I am and I ain't.
I was mugged off yes, but... I don't believe it was intentional as such. People can't tell the truth when they don't know what the truth is.
But, they fucking owe it to themselves and others to find out BEFORE embarking on a new chapter of their lives and dragging someone else's heart into somewhere it has no business being.
Thats a tough one and I relate. Some folk don't truly think of the impact of their statements, and ill make that sweeping generalisation, but more often than not I think its us guys. Maybe myself on occasions too.
Maybe its upbringing, experiences or difficulty with intimacy, but sometimes people are afraid of the truth because of anticipation of others reaction? But that approach just ends up in a world of hidden feelings and suppression of the truth.
Bold statements are great, even in the moment as long as that's how you truly felt at the time?
Don't let it eat you. You'll waste so much opportunity. "
Very true.
I can't help but feel like a complete hypocrite though. For someone who's so anti-cheating and having that deception as the trigger for a mental breakdown in years gone by, I very almost unwittingly could have caused that for another and had to make the decision to tear my own heart into pieces to save someone else and do the right thing, all because another was too blind and I do hate to say it, but too selfish to see what was right in front of them.
Hidden feelings and suppression of truth is absolutely right I feel, because it's easier to make excuses than it is to self analyse and to have awkward conversations.
I wouldn't say it's eating me up as such, but has certainly made me realise that even with the best will in the world, you can get caught up in someone else's web of deceit, even if the person they aren't being honest with is themself.
Should have realised when non smoker meant 20 plus a day smoker unless I'm meeting non smokers in which case I'll hide all and any evidence and scrub myself within an inch of my life so they don't know.
I'm so dumb. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"yeah, kinda the entire last 2 years on here as part of a couple.
That was pretty bold and now I'm eating my words.
Well I am and I ain't.
I was mugged off yes, but... I don't believe it was intentional as such. People can't tell the truth when they don't know what the truth is.
But, they fucking owe it to themselves and others to find out BEFORE embarking on a new chapter of their lives and dragging someone else's heart into somewhere it has no business being.
Thats a tough one and I relate. Some folk don't truly think of the impact of their statements, and ill make that sweeping generalisation, but more often than not I think its us guys. Maybe myself on occasions too.
Maybe its upbringing, experiences or difficulty with intimacy, but sometimes people are afraid of the truth because of anticipation of others reaction? But that approach just ends up in a world of hidden feelings and suppression of the truth.
Bold statements are great, even in the moment as long as that's how you truly felt at the time?
Don't let it eat you. You'll waste so much opportunity.
Very true.
I can't help but feel like a complete hypocrite though. For someone who's so anti-cheating and having that deception as the trigger for a mental breakdown in years gone by, I very almost unwittingly could have caused that for another and had to make the decision to tear my own heart into pieces to save someone else and do the right thing, all because another was too blind and I do hate to say it, but too selfish to see what was right in front of them.
Hidden feelings and suppression of truth is absolutely right I feel, because it's easier to make excuses than it is to self analyse and to have awkward conversations.
I wouldn't say it's eating me up as such, but has certainly made me realise that even with the best will in the world, you can get caught up in someone else's web of deceit, even if the person they aren't being honest with is themself.
Should have realised when non smoker meant 20 plus a day smoker unless I'm meeting non smokers in which case I'll hide all and any evidence and scrub myself within an inch of my life so they don't know.
I'm so dumb."
Nah, you're human not dumb. Positive affirmation.
And were all hypocrites and assholes sometime in life, exam first and lesson after?
But you can identify to all of it. That's a sign of growth and a direction. You're a fighter..can see it in posts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m like a yo-yo on here .
I won’t go unlos again as last time I did someone half inched my original username
They stole "Iluvjaffacakesupmybum" ? Wow
Yes they did and I’m so very cross about it "
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"yeah, kinda the entire last 2 years on here as part of a couple.
That was pretty bold and now I'm eating my words.
Well I am and I ain't.
I was mugged off yes, but... I don't believe it was intentional as such. People can't tell the truth when they don't know what the truth is.
But, they fucking owe it to themselves and others to find out BEFORE embarking on a new chapter of their lives and dragging someone else's heart into somewhere it has no business being.
Thats a tough one and I relate. Some folk don't truly think of the impact of their statements, and ill make that sweeping generalisation, but more often than not I think its us guys. Maybe myself on occasions too.
Maybe its upbringing, experiences or difficulty with intimacy, but sometimes people are afraid of the truth because of anticipation of others reaction? But that approach just ends up in a world of hidden feelings and suppression of the truth.
Bold statements are great, even in the moment as long as that's how you truly felt at the time?
Don't let it eat you. You'll waste so much opportunity.
Very true.
I can't help but feel like a complete hypocrite though. For someone who's so anti-cheating and having that deception as the trigger for a mental breakdown in years gone by, I very almost unwittingly could have caused that for another and had to make the decision to tear my own heart into pieces to save someone else and do the right thing, all because another was too blind and I do hate to say it, but too selfish to see what was right in front of them.
Hidden feelings and suppression of truth is absolutely right I feel, because it's easier to make excuses than it is to self analyse and to have awkward conversations.
I wouldn't say it's eating me up as such, but has certainly made me realise that even with the best will in the world, you can get caught up in someone else's web of deceit, even if the person they aren't being honest with is themself.
Should have realised when non smoker meant 20 plus a day smoker unless I'm meeting non smokers in which case I'll hide all and any evidence and scrub myself within an inch of my life so they don't know.
I'm so dumb.
Nah, you're human not dumb. Positive affirmation.
And were all hypocrites and assholes sometime in life, exam first and lesson after?
But you can identify to all of it. That's a sign of growth and a direction. You're a fighter..can see it in posts. "
I am angry though, I'm angry that in sorting someone else's life out there's every chance it was the final nail in my coffin as far as a "happy ever after" goes. I swore after the breakdown I'd never let another man that close. I broke my own promise to myself and look where it got me, I may have saved someone else's soul but now I'm even more confused about whether I should allow myself to open up in the future or get a tattoo on my wrist that says "forever alone" to remind myself not to be tempted in the future! |
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"yeah, kinda the entire last 2 years on here as part of a couple.
That was pretty bold and now I'm eating my words.
Well I am and I ain't.
I was mugged off yes, but... I don't believe it was intentional as such. People can't tell the truth when they don't know what the truth is.
But, they fucking owe it to themselves and others to find out BEFORE embarking on a new chapter of their lives and dragging someone else's heart into somewhere it has no business being.
Thats a tough one and I relate. Some folk don't truly think of the impact of their statements, and ill make that sweeping generalisation, but more often than not I think its us guys. Maybe myself on occasions too.
Maybe its upbringing, experiences or difficulty with intimacy, but sometimes people are afraid of the truth because of anticipation of others reaction? But that approach just ends up in a world of hidden feelings and suppression of the truth.
Bold statements are great, even in the moment as long as that's how you truly felt at the time?
Don't let it eat you. You'll waste so much opportunity.
Very true.
I can't help but feel like a complete hypocrite though. For someone who's so anti-cheating and having that deception as the trigger for a mental breakdown in years gone by, I very almost unwittingly could have caused that for another and had to make the decision to tear my own heart into pieces to save someone else and do the right thing, all because another was too blind and I do hate to say it, but too selfish to see what was right in front of them.
Hidden feelings and suppression of truth is absolutely right I feel, because it's easier to make excuses than it is to self analyse and to have awkward conversations.
I wouldn't say it's eating me up as such, but has certainly made me realise that even with the best will in the world, you can get caught up in someone else's web of deceit, even if the person they aren't being honest with is themself.
Should have realised when non smoker meant 20 plus a day smoker unless I'm meeting non smokers in which case I'll hide all and any evidence and scrub myself within an inch of my life so they don't know.
I'm so dumb.
Nah, you're human not dumb. Positive affirmation.
And were all hypocrites and assholes sometime in life, exam first and lesson after?
But you can identify to all of it. That's a sign of growth and a direction. You're a fighter..can see it in posts.
I am angry though, I'm angry that in sorting someone else's life out there's every chance it was the final nail in my coffin as far as a "happy ever after" goes. I swore after the breakdown I'd never let another man that close. I broke my own promise to myself and look where it got me, I may have saved someone else's soul but now I'm even more confused about whether I should allow myself to open up in the future or get a tattoo on my wrist that says "forever alone" to remind myself not to be tempted in the future!"
Dumb is one thing you are not!! Don’t just hate it when someone portrays a picture of single life and turns out to be married I’m not sure who they are trying to convince the most - you or themselves.
I know you’re hurting but hopefully someone will pull your hearts strings again enough for the current hurt to disappear. Have faith chick!!
I’m the meantime - have some fun! Xx |
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Dumb is one thing you are not!! Don’t just hate it when someone portrays a picture of single life and turns out to be married I’m not sure who they are trying to convince the most - you or themselves.
I know you’re hurting but hopefully someone will pull your hearts strings again enough for the current hurt to disappear. Have faith chick!!
I’m the meantime - have some fun! Xx"
It's incredibly cruel.
It takes away peoples right to make an informed decision when the truth isn't out in the open. The choice of the person getting sucked in and the choice of the spouse to stay with someone who's making up lies and excuses all taken away.
It wasn't so clear cut in my case. He believed what he was telling me, that was his truth.... because he had his eyes wide shut.
I don't hate him but I'm mad, frustrated and angry that I effectively wasted 2 years. Yes I learnt lessons, I've learnt that I gave too much credit to the abusive ex. I thought he was the reason my gut instinct was screaming at times and that it was leftover residue that I was unsure how to deal with, when in fact my gut is spot on and detects things that other people can't even see, that he couldn't see, until lockdown forced him to look.
I don't believe he is a bad person, was just very lost, misguided and lacked the courage to look in the mirror.
Self analysis can be excruciating, especially when you've got things so wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bold statement thread coming up.
Not sure who that was, and I hope they didn't feel the need to act based on this thread.
There's a lot of folk departing, and we need to remember how much of an impact world events are having on people's emotional health.
I admit I've eye rolled and tutted at peoples status and posts about leaving in the past. But sometimes there's a lot going on behind that bold statement and if it is attention seeking, it may be for a reason? "
Truth is, nobody knows the reason, but usually nobody ever ASKS the ppl really suffering..... I've seen so much unthoughtful bollocks on here lately, which in turn leads to ppl going unlos. For some folk it's just as hard to go unlos as it is to stay, but it's a joke to the folk who remain here looking for fabs and attention and asking if their bum looks big please fab it etc.... First world problems I guess....  |
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"In other news, always be bold, but don't avoid your own truth.... "
My truth is..yes my arse does look big in this!
My bold statement... is I wish people were nicer to each other but some don't make it easy...But I do try to give the benefit of any doubt...as I would hope others would extend to me
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Dumb is one thing you are not!! Don’t just hate it when someone portrays a picture of single life and turns out to be married I’m not sure who they are trying to convince the most - you or themselves.
I know you’re hurting but hopefully someone will pull your hearts strings again enough for the current hurt to disappear. Have faith chick!!
I’m the meantime - have some fun! Xx
It's incredibly cruel.
It takes away peoples right to make an informed decision when the truth isn't out in the open. The choice of the person getting sucked in and the choice of the spouse to stay with someone who's making up lies and excuses all taken away.
It wasn't so clear cut in my case. He believed what he was telling me, that was his truth.... because he had his eyes wide shut.
I don't hate him but I'm mad, frustrated and angry that I effectively wasted 2 years. Yes I learnt lessons, I've learnt that I gave too much credit to the abusive ex. I thought he was the reason my gut instinct was screaming at times and that it was leftover residue that I was unsure how to deal with, when in fact my gut is spot on and detects things that other people can't even see, that he couldn't see, until lockdown forced him to look.
I don't believe he is a bad person, was just very lost, misguided and lacked the courage to look in the mirror.
Self analysis can be excruciating, especially when you've got things so wrong.
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You’re a beautiful soul Peach. Even when you’re going through a tough time you still shine like the star you are, throwing your light and making the world shine brighter for others.
That’s a brilliant gift to have.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In other news, always be bold, but don't avoid your own truth....
My truth is..yes my arse does look big in this!
My bold statement... is I wish people were nicer to each other but some don't make it easy...But I do try to give the benefit of any doubt...as I would hope others would extend to me
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"In other news, always be bold, but don't avoid your own truth....
My truth is..yes my arse does look big in this!
My bold statement... is I wish people were nicer to each other but some don't make it easy...But I do try to give the benefit of any doubt...as I would hope others would extend to me
Beautiful arse! "
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