Hi fabbers
Seeking some help and advice. Been on a few dates with a girl and she told me her fantasy is to be tied up but hasn't done it before. Im no boy scout so know nothing about knots haha.
I did ask her if she prefers rope or tape and she said she doesnt mind.
Are there any starter kits to consider buying?
Also are there any tutorial videos or sites that are worth looking at?
Both novices to this. Any help or support would be amazing.
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Be very, very careful - and always have some safety scissors on hand for emergencies. Check her breathing and comfort regularly.
I'm sure you will find tutorials online, but I'd advise going to workshops once social distancing is no longer in place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it is rope you choose then safety safety safety!!!!
Make sure you have something to hand to cut that rope if something goes wrong!!
Learn your knots, non-slip ones. You do not want a slip knot binding and cutting off her air or blood supply!!!
Practice easy ones first (plenty to try on you-tube)
Talk about if she has any medical issues (joint pains etc)
Enjoy
Oh and did I mention safety!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cuffs or bed restraints that fit under and over the bed may be the best way to go at first.
There are tutorials on rope play online but you need to make sure you have the right items to follow the instruction. I am interested in rope play too but not done it yet. I'm just seeing if I can get the gyst of it to start off with |
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Highly recommend underbed restraints. You can pick them up for £20-£25, easy to put on (they slide under the mattress) and take off the bed afterwards.
You can have them as tight or loose as you like.
The set I bought have a safety release I can use if anything goes wrong when I'm tied up, but otherwise they are strong enough to cope with all the thrashing around I have done in them. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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If you're going with rope, have a pair of EMT scissors to hand, do not hesitate to cut rope if needed.
Keep an eye on the colour, temperature and how quickly blood (and colour) returns to the surface after you've pressed on an area... (Discolouration, going cold and slowly are bad... Cut the rope)
Most shibari is done with very few knots, there are loads of great tutorials on YouTube but I highly recommend the book 'bondage for sex' by chanta rose.
It's great for beginners, but also focuses on ties that still enable, or enhance sex |
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Thank you everyone. Some great advice.
So I bought an under bed restraints and rope.
Think I'll try with the former first and build up to the rope play as I don't feel confident enough to use it. Will watch tutorials to get more experience and feel comfortable enough that I know what I'm doing. Not the sort of thing I want to mess around with, without fully knowing what I'm doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Take a look at the Two knotty boys on YouTube.
Top 6 rules for tying someone up safely before you begin, acquaint yourself with the location of nerve centres on the body and establish whether your partner is on any medication or has any past injuries that need to be taken into consideration.
Keep the rope loose enough that you can work two fingers between the rope and your partner’s skin, so you don’t cut off circulation.
Stay alert for skin discolorations, tingling sensations or a drop in temperature, signalling circulatory problems. If any of these symptoms occur in you or your partner, stop immediately.
Never restrict breathing or leave someone tied up unattended.
When tying, make sure coils are side by side; never cross the rope.
Take the time for aftercare. The intensity of restraint takes a toll on the body and the mind and it’s crucial for you and your partner to recalibrate and take care of each other’s physical and emotional needs.
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"Be very careful. After one bondage experience I was left with a really numb and tingly hand for several weeks, put me off tbh and Ive always loved the idea of ropeplay "
One of the myths of kink is that it can be 100% safe, it is not. There is an element of risk in most activities. We can only strive to be as safe as possible in the situation.That requires the top and the bottom to educate themselves of the risks of what they do.
However the top should have alerted to you the potential risks before you played. I have whilst practising accidentally hit my own nerve at the V between thumb and finger and paralysed the top half of my hand for two weeks. It can happen without malice or negligence.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Has anyone mentioned bondage tape? It sticks on itself and not skin."
It’s great, feels nice and silky on the skin too. if you search for electrostatic rather than bondage tape it costs a fraction. Start with 6” strips to make ankle and wrist cuffs to anchor the main work onto |
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