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Frist the most important rule is On here or at a swingers club you must never assume anything as yes folk are swingers not sex workers and its not a free for all as some would make you think
Second you need to make freinds frist and see where it leads never assmume anything again let it form it self it happens has it happens that way your get the best out of it
Third remember some on this site and other sites dont swing all have their own reasons for being in the swinging world some are just living their life style in a place where by they can
Now you find on this site that for every one woman your get about 100plus single men why that is half of the single men get lead here and to sites like this cos they have the wring idea if what swining is
forth is this out of those ten women your get about 1 to 2 who are just looking or not sure 2 to 3 like me who will want a spark before anything happenes 2 to the 3 who are looking for some thing pathic you only get out about 2 to the 3 who will just go with anything and they tend not to be the best looking think it amzing they are getting all this attention they are just beeing very much used. or have mental health issuse or very vulnerable.
Firth now most out there think we all at it like rabbits with everyone we meet this is a myth for most havint the time to be that full on with it folk have family work freinds in their main stream world neghbours community stuff they do
Sixth they only a small number who have that must time to give to this who are at it lkie rabbits I say and cos them most of us in the swinging world are having are having a time of it
Seventh how to find your feet is never assume anything that your talking to some one dont mean your going to end up in bed with them remmeber folk on here and the swinging world are not pices of meat
If you just take time make freinds and let it find it self your get there with it
As for swingers clubs not everyone who gos to them swing for my addvice is just talk to folk in them and just see where it gos
But most of all it isnt all going to happen over night there not time scale with it could be months even years before you even meet the a person your taking to
for this to happen lost of things need to fall into place one your dairys have to match
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"Frist the most important rule is On here or at a swingers club you must never assume anything as yes folk are swingers not sex workers and its not a free for all as some would make you think
Second you need to make freinds frist and see where it leads never assmume anything again let it form it self it happens has it happens that way your get the best out of it
Third remember some on this site and other sites dont swing all have their own reasons for being in the swinging world some are just living their life style in a place where by they can
Now you find on this site that for every one woman your get about 100plus single men why that is half of the single men get lead here and to sites like this cos they have the wring idea if what swining is
forth is this out of those ten women your get about 1 to 2 who are just looking or not sure 2 to 3 like me who will want a spark before anything happenes 2 to the 3 who are looking for some thing pathic you only get out about 2 to the 3 who will just go with anything and they tend not to be the best looking think it amzing they are getting all this attention they are just beeing very much used. or have mental health issuse or very vulnerable.
Firth now most out there think we all at it like rabbits with everyone we meet this is a myth for most havint the time to be that full on with it folk have family work freinds in their main stream world neghbours community stuff they do
Sixth they only a small number who have that must time to give to this who are at it lkie rabbits I say and cos them most of us in the swinging world are having are having a time of it
Seventh how to find your feet is never assume anything that your talking to some one dont mean your going to end up in bed with them remmeber folk on here and the swinging world are not pices of meat
If you just take time make freinds and let it find it self your get there with it
As for swingers clubs not everyone who gos to them swing for my addvice is just talk to folk in them and just see where it gos
But most of all it isnt all going to happen over night there not time scale with it could be months even years before you even meet the a person your taking to
for this to happen lost of things need to fall into place one your dairys have to match
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After read the 4th i just thought let me read it again !!!
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That may be all true for some people on here but not all!
I have had one off meets after very messaged, I have chatted for months before a meet, I’ve never spoken to some after a meet, I have made great friends with others.
Different approaches work for different people.
Just read their profiles, and gauge them when chatting.
There is no definite answer to the age old question of how to get to the meeting stage. |
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"You say 20% of women on this site have mental health issues or are very vulnerable ?"
Based on a straw poll of regular forum users, I'd guesstimate that the percentage is a bit higher than that |
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"You say 20% of women on this site have mental health issues or are very vulnerable ?
Based on a straw poll of regular forum users, I'd guesstimate that the percentage is a bit higher than that "
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"You say 20% of women on this site have mental health issues or are very vulnerable ?
Based on a straw poll of regular forum users, I'd guesstimate that the percentage is a bit higher than that "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You say 20% of women on this site have mental health issues or are very vulnerable ?
Based on a straw poll of regular forum users, I'd guesstimate that the percentage is a bit higher than that "
And not just the women |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Been in the swinigng world a long time and it what ive found to be true"
no.... you can only talk for you and only you....
swinging encompasses such a wide spectrum in that i gave up making assumptions and generalisations a long long time ago...
some people like stranger sex, don't want to know a thing... its merely just body parts bumping!!
others like friendships and really getting to know people before they make moves as they believe that makes for better sex....
no one is right.... no one is wrong.....
the one thing i have found is that whatever the thing is... people will find people who suit them! if not... move on! simple as!
people are forever trying to mould and make people generic to suit them.... but individuality is the greatest thing we can bring to this..... |
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"Been in the swinigng world a long time and it what ive found to be true
no.... you can only talk for you and only you....
swinging encompasses such a wide spectrum in that i gave up making assumptions and generalisations a long long time ago...
some people like stranger sex, don't want to know a thing... its merely just body parts bumping!!
others like friendships and really getting to know people before they make moves as they believe that makes for better sex....
no one is right.... no one is wrong.....
the one thing i have found is that whatever the thing is... people will find people who suit them! if not... move on! simple as!
people are forever trying to mould and make people generic to suit them.... but individuality is the greatest thing we can bring to this....."
This. ^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been in the swinigng world a long time and it what ive found to be true
no.... you can only talk for you and only you....
swinging encompasses such a wide spectrum in that i gave up making assumptions and generalisations a long long time ago...
some people like stranger sex, don't want to know a thing... its merely just body parts bumping!!
others like friendships and really getting to know people before they make moves as they believe that makes for better sex....
no one is right.... no one is wrong.....
the one thing i have found is that whatever the thing is... people will find people who suit them! if not... move on! simple as!
people are forever trying to mould and make people generic to suit them.... but individuality is the greatest thing we can bring to this....."
Thats far to sensible Fabio what were you thinking??
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