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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you a sensitive person that takes every derogatory comment about you - or what you think is about you to heart?
Do you feel the need to be offended for others?
Is it easier to believe the negative than the positive?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not these days, I'm quite mellow....
....why do you ask OP...?"
I've come to a point in life where I listen to people's opinions but they rarely affect me. |
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"Are you a sensitive person that takes every derogatory comment about you - or what you think is about you to heart?
Do you feel the need to be offended for others?
Is it easier to believe the negative than the positive?
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No. No. No....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult "
You should try being mixed race, chubby with frizzy hair through school in the 80's  |
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Depends who's said what and my mood too.
I can be extremely sensitive but I can also be zero fucks given and find things laughable.
I generally don't like to upset or offend people, and I do worry at times that I may have done unintentionally and that bothers me. There are times though, and yeah, I'll be honest, I DO say things that I hope will sting but that's only if there is personal history there. I make no bones about shit like that.
I wouldn't say I get offended for other people as such, but if I see something shitty I've no problem in pointing it out. Not always in a scalding way, but an explaining *how* something could be offensive way. Some people just can't see it until it's pointed out and then it's all "ohhhhh bollocks, I didn't think"
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Not at all - there are very few people in the world whose opinions actually matter to me, I couldn't give a flying monkey what anyone else thinks about me, therefore their opinion could never offend me.
As for being offended on behalf of someone else - I just don’t get that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
You should try being mixed race, chubby with frizzy hair through school in the 80's "
I was the shy, quiet kid at school who didn't fit (the weirdo). No bullying as such but constant needling and being picked on.
Didn't help that my voice seemed to take an age to break whereas all the other boys seemed to have it overnight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
I’m still a heart on my sleeve kinda girl  "
Haha I'm sure you've always been hot |
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"Are you a sensitive person that takes every derogatory comment about you - or what you think is about you to heart? "
No I'm not but I have my weak spots like everyone
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Do you feel the need to be offended for others? "
Yes, sometimes I do. If see bullying or similar I reserve the right to feel offended enough to speak up
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Is it easier to believe the negative than the positive?
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For me no. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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No, not easily offended at all. I just don't take most things that seriously, it's words, faux outrage, grandstanding etc etc.
I prefer to just get on with my life with no impact and leave them to it. |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
I’m still a heart on my sleeve kinda girl
Haha I'm sure you've always been hot "
No I got called a ginger witch at primary school it was legs in secondary school to be fair  |
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
I’m still a heart on my sleeve kinda girl
Haha I'm sure you've always been hot
No I got called a ginger witch at primary school it was legs in secondary school to be fair "
I got called the ring in high school |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are times I have taken offence, but they have been very direct, very personal insults or attacks. I have however been known to counter attack with quite the venom and if they are not crying when I'm done male or female I've not finished. 
I'm not however offended by comedy, that I may or may not find funny or others opinions. I just move on. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"No, not easily offended at all. I just don't take most things that seriously, it's words, faux outrage, grandstanding etc etc.
I prefer to just get on with my life with no impact and leave them to it."
and I grew up in the early 70's, an art student and being beaten up an awful lot for being gay, I developed a teflon coating of not listening to the insults hurled at me when I came home to a small Scottish town to see my family.
Over the years, there is nothing anyone could say that would upset me. I won't give them that power. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not these days, I'm quite mellow....
....why do you ask OP...?
I've come to a point in life where I listen to people's opinions but they rarely affect me."
That’s good because people’s opinions are just that their own personal opinions.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am easily offended and easily hurt. I wish I wasn't. I use to have fighting spirit but over the last few years I've not got any left. Every hurts so much easier now and its drained me x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult "
My ex had such a chip on his shoulder because he was ginger.
I can't remember the last time I was offended personally. |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
Doire Theas |
"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
I’m still a heart on my sleeve kinda girl
Haha I'm sure you've always been hot
No I got called a ginger witch at primary school it was legs in secondary school to be fair
I got called the ring in high school "
Jebus |
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By *ouanna JoWoman
over a year ago
A little village |
It depends what’s being said, by whom, and in what context (my mood, other stressors at the time etc). It’s not a static thing for me. But I think we’re naturally programmed as humans to “hear” the negative more so than the positive... maybe? |
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"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
I’m still a heart on my sleeve kinda girl
Haha I'm sure you've always been hot
No I got called a ginger witch at primary school it was legs in secondary school to be fair
I got called the ring in high school
Jebus "
My dad's ginger and I inherited his skin but my mums dark hair |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I voted brexit so I'm used to being called a racist and every other name under the sun! But I have rhino hide and it just bounces off.  "
Bring back Brexit they were fun times indeed!!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most the time I just ignore people and get on my day...it’s their problem not mine.
I know me and i’m good with who I am
Though there are the odd times i’m more sensitive where something little can really get to me and can take me a while to shake off.
Thankfully not often |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Depends who it is, someone I care about then I'll listen and sometimes cogitate on it if it's been a difficult thing to take on board.
Random people on an internet site not at all - I offer opinions, stand by them and am prepared to have them challenged and may take it on board if I think it's valid, but I'm certainly not going to let it get me down, especially when it's playground level.
As for being offended on behalf of others, again it depends but if I am it'll be because I have good reason to be, not just for the sake of it - I'll also try and consider both sides of a story rather than taking someones opinion at face value as part of that. |
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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago
Doire Theas |
"Being ginger after you've made it through school nothing bothers you much as an adult
I’m still a heart on my sleeve kinda girl
Haha I'm sure you've always been hot
No I got called a ginger witch at primary school it was legs in secondary school to be fair
I got called the ring in high school
Jebus
My dad's ginger and I inherited his skin but my mums dark hair "
Aww  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not these days, I'm quite mellow....
....why do you ask OP...?
I've come to a point in life where I listen to people's opinions but they rarely affect me.
That’s good because people’s opinions are just that their own personal opinions.
T"
I've recently been offended by something my niece said.
About hosting Christmas this year of all things 
It hurts not to matter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally couldn’t give a shit what people think or say about me. 
Id give anything in the world to be like you xx"
The thing is, you can be.
Why should you care about why joe bloggs off the street is pointing at you, or why Mrs Smith talks behind your back about you. It’s as simple as that. The only comments you really care about are from loved ones. |
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"It hurts not to matter "
I understand this.
I don't get offended by things people say or their opinions of me, everyone is different and I celebrate that.
If I've put effort into developing a connection with someone and they then behave as though I don't matter, I do get upset.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It hurts not to matter
I understand this.
I don't get offended by things people say or their opinions of me, everyone is different and I celebrate that.
If I've put effort into developing a connection with someone and they then behave as though I don't matter, I do get upset.
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Exactly.
Thankyou for noticing my comment x |
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I don't take offence on my own behalf. Those I love will be trying to be helpful the best way they know how, they won't have set out to wound. Those I don't love don't matter to me enough to offend me.
I do get offended more on behalf of other people. I hate when people are excluded or othered, when their opinions or beliefs are belittled to score points. I will always stand up if I see someone being bullied. It has led me into some hugely awkward situations but I can't bring myself to ignore it. |
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"Not these days, I'm quite mellow....
....why do you ask OP...?
I've come to a point in life where I listen to people's opinions but they rarely affect me.
That’s good because people’s opinions are just that their own personal opinions.
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I've recently been offended by something my niece said.
About hosting Christmas this year of all things
It hurts not to matter "
I hope you get it sorted |
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"Are you a sensitive person that takes every derogatory comment about you - or what you think is about you to heart?
Do you feel the need to be offended for others?
Is it easier to believe the negative than the positive?
X"
Any comments are directed to the persons profile, not the person.
So not really reality. In real life, its different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally couldn’t give a shit what people think or say about me.
Id give anything in the world to be like you xx
The thing is, you can be.
Why should you care about why joe bloggs off the street is pointing at you, or why Mrs Smith talks behind your back about you. It’s as simple as that. The only comments you really care about are from loved ones. "
If you suffer mental health it can get to you do easily. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a sensitive person that takes every derogatory comment about you - or what you think is about you to heart?
Do you feel the need to be offended for others?
Is it easier to believe the negative than the positive?
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Not at alllll!!!!
People Can think and say what they like about me really not bothered!!!
Id rather them say it to my face tho!! Be straight an we all no wer we stand
And always take a positive from a negative get me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on my mood. 98% of the time I’m pretty laid back and take no notice. The other 2% I’m a total flannel
Sexy flannel  "
This is the kind of thing that brings me back to fab.
This is in the top three compliments I’ve ever received |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope.
Doesnt mean someone can just be nasty though or I will shut that down. Jokes and jibes though, won't phase me at all.
I am my biggest critic so you can't say anything I havn't already seen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you've been battered your whole life you learn that every word is just another opinion. And opinions are just someone else's perspective. If it doesn't match your own perspective then it doesn't mean a thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone means to cause offence then I'll be offended but if not then it foesnt bother me, though sometimes it can take a little while before I beleive that |
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"Are you a sensitive person that takes every derogatory comment about you - or what you think is about you to heart?
Do you feel the need to be offended for others?
Is it easier to believe the negative than the positive?
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I’m offended that you would even ask me this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say so. If I'm ever offended it's usually because something has been said that really isn't ok. I don't pick at small things to be offended over. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I think there's a difference between online comments and the ones out in the real world. People in the virtual world are emboldened by hiding behind a screen and tend to be more vicious and aggressive in general.
I've a Gator's hide online and any comments here have zero effect on me. I also don't get offended by other comments I see not directed at me. I may call them out if I consider them vile though.
In my day to day life i'm not usually offended but that would depend on the content and just how close that person is to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think there's a difference between online comments and the ones out in the real world. People in the virtual world are emboldened by hiding behind a screen and tend to be more vicious and aggressive in general.
I've a Gator's hide online and any comments here have zero effect on me. I also don't get offended by other comments I see not directed at me. I may call them out if I consider them vile though.
In my day to day life i'm not usually offended but that would depend on the content and just how close that person is to me."
Pretty much the same for me. I dance to my own tune and have my own path so what online strangers say or do is not something that even bothers me the slightest. I don't get why people get so wound up and offended over minor things.
Real serious things going on in reality to be concerned about rather than online trolls etc |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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You have to be going some to offend me lol. If you manage too you never get another chance as it’s done.
My rules are the first time you do it that’s your fault the second is my fault so we never get to the second. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think there's a difference between online comments and the ones out in the real world. People in the virtual world are emboldened by hiding behind a screen and tend to be more vicious and aggressive in general.
I've a Gator's hide online and any comments here have zero effect on me. I also don't get offended by other comments I see not directed at me. I may call them out if I consider them vile though.
In my day to day life i'm not usually offended but that would depend on the content and just how close that person is to me."
You speak the truth there |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I think there's a difference between online comments and the ones out in the real world. People in the virtual world are emboldened by hiding behind a screen and tend to be more vicious and aggressive in general.
I've a Gator's hide online and any comments here have zero effect on me. I also don't get offended by other comments I see not directed at me. I may call them out if I consider them vile though.
In my day to day life i'm not usually offended but that would depend on the content and just how close that person is to me.
You speak the truth there "
I have my moments |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No not usually I’m far more insulting to myself than others are to me. However I do choose to confront behaviour that I think is in conflict with my core values if I feel strongly enough. However awareness of my own hypocrisy also tempers how and when I do that. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Offended, no or at least it is very difficult to offended me.
I will however speak up if I don't agree or if I think something said or done was uncalled for.
I think very few people actually are offended when they say they are. Especially in the case of minor things. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Online, I'm a lot less likely to be offended as I don't feel the person really can know me, or would necessarily would say the same thing if they saw me in person.
If it's a friend who says something, I will try not to take things the wrong way but I'm a lot more likely to get offended. It's only people close to me that opinion matters and can offend me (I think).
At least for more than 5 minutes anyway. |
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