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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep.
All friends and family. I am not embarrassed or ashamed just because it is different to their ideals.....well....not all as im not the only swinger I know in personal life lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, most friends know, my husbands parents know I think haha. No one has been negative about it. Not to our faces anyway. We aren't bothered to be honest  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads of my friends are swingers and kinksters  . But yes other friends do know. Not everyone though.
OK what's a kinkster?
People on the kink scene. "
And that's a thing, oh what a sheltered life I have lived |
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By *orkizCouple
over a year ago
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Told a friend a few years ago on a d*unken night out thought he'd forgotten about it until Sunday afternoon in the pub he said what was all that about swinging you were telling me last night |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually told one of my friends the other day, they are the only person who knows. I also told him that I like trans women, funnily enough he told me he does too  |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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My family (brother and wife) don't know. I know he'd not he inclined to follow this scene, as 10 years ago, when they moved into their house, he informed me they were invited to one of the neighbours homes to a "Welcome Party".
It started innocently enough, but after a couple of hours or so, it was hinted by the Hosts to place their house keys in a bowl on a table.
A few questions later, revealed this was more than a Welcome party, & they left, very sharpish!
As my brother said, "it was disgusting!"
So, it's better he does not know!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Loads of my friends are swingers and kinksters . But yes other friends do know. Not everyone though. "
More people know of our kinks than the swinging, but I’m collared so people often ask about it. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep our three kids know , most of our friends and work colleagues and a few family members . Non are judgemental in fact a few friends (especially the male ones) are very envious and a few fem ones curious .  |
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I recently told my friend, he had a couple of questions and hasn’t really said much else since to be honest. But he’s VERY vanilla.
My uncle also knows I’m a swinger, because he’s one too. Again not much is said generally, he’ll occasionally ask me if I still swing.
But other than that, no one knows.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My family (brother and wife) don't know. I know he'd not he inclined to follow this scene, as 10 years ago, when they moved into their house, he informed me they were invited to one of the neighbours homes to a "Welcome Party".
It started innocently enough, but after a couple of hours or so, it was hinted by the Hosts to place their house keys in a bowl on a table.
A few questions later, revealed this was more than a Welcome party, & they left, very sharpish!
As my brother said, "it was disgusting!"
So, it's better he does not know! "
That's a disgusting thing to spring on them! Exactly why Swingers have a bad reputation.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The boss and I were discussing this last night, a few of our closest friends know, but that’s about it.
Curious to see other people’s opinions... "
A few very select friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x"
You have public face pics. It's not a secret. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m not a swinger but does anyone know I’m on here other than people on fab? Just one lady I met on here years ago who became a really good friend who is no longer on here. I don’t mix fab and real life and never will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret."
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx"
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a swinger, just someone that doesn't necessarily follow society's idea of "normal relationships" do my friends and family know that? Yeah, probably by now especially my mum, she's not daft There are handful of people that know I'm on here. I don't feel the need to announce it , it's not anyone else business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx"
You shouldn't feel the need to explain yourself lovely. People should still show respect for boundaries and privacy xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx"
Privacy and public face pics? Oxymoron.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx
You shouldn't feel the need to explain yourself lovely. People should still show respect for boundaries and privacy xx "
Thank you. Probably over sensitive, but I’ve never understood why people think it’s ok to try to cross boundaries just because you’re on certain sites. To go onto another site to do so, I’ve never found acceptable xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
Privacy and public face pics? Oxymoron.
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If you’re blocked on a site, respect that and take it as a sign that someone doesn’t want to discuss something with you.
Right to decide who you discuss your sex life with, regardless of what images you share, should be a given. Or am I missing something? xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx"
Absolutely, such a shame he couldn't be respectful and professional. I'm sorry it happened to you, lovely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx
Absolutely, such a shame he couldn't be respectful and professional. I'm sorry it happened to you, lovely."
Thank you. Shouldn’t matter what I show on a private site, it shouldn’t mean I shouldn’t expect the same respect of my privacy as people who don’t show their faces etc. Adults should respect boundaries. People can obviously recognise me, but keep it to themselves, just as I do with people I know xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
Privacy and public face pics? Oxymoron.
If you’re blocked on a site, respect that and take it as a sign that someone doesn’t want to discuss something with you.
Right to decide who you discuss your sex life with, regardless of what images you share, should be a given. Or am I missing something? xx"
Completely agree |
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
Privacy and public face pics? Oxymoron.
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there is a time and place for the swinging conversations not everywhere, people should respect the different levels of privacy, you dont talk about a swinging life style on a site someone doesnt want people to know about it on |
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx
Absolutely, such a shame he couldn't be respectful and professional. I'm sorry it happened to you, lovely.
Thank you. Shouldn’t matter what I show on a private site, it shouldn’t mean I shouldn’t expect the same respect of my privacy as people who don’t show their faces etc. Adults should respect boundaries. People can obviously recognise me, but keep it to themselves, just as I do with people I know xx"
exactly its not hard to be discrete |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx
Absolutely, such a shame he couldn't be respectful and professional. I'm sorry it happened to you, lovely.
Thank you. Shouldn’t matter what I show on a private site, it shouldn’t mean I shouldn’t expect the same respect of my privacy as people who don’t show their faces etc. Adults should respect boundaries. People can obviously recognise me, but keep it to themselves, just as I do with people I know xx exactly its not hard to be discrete"
That’s my point. Just because someone shows their face it shouldn’t mean they give up their rights to the privacy and discretion that those who don’t receive xx |
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
They didn’t see my face on the other site btw, but recognised my tattoos- a fet site. I’m sure they’d appreciate me hinting on their public profile that they call themselves a Dom, are on a fet site, and cross the line with inappropriate messages and request upping levels that people don’t do, especially as they are messaging people asking them to do erotic shoots. Professionalism is all in photography and if people suspect you’re not it could affect your reputation and business. Viv xx
Absolutely, such a shame he couldn't be respectful and professional. I'm sorry it happened to you, lovely.
Thank you. Shouldn’t matter what I show on a private site, it shouldn’t mean I shouldn’t expect the same respect of my privacy as people who don’t show their faces etc. Adults should respect boundaries. People can obviously recognise me, but keep it to themselves, just as I do with people I know xx exactly its not hard to be discrete
That’s my point. Just because someone shows their face it shouldn’t mean they give up their rights to the privacy and discretion that those who don’t receive xx"
Absolutely a guy tried to ‘out’ me on the other site with guys. I beat him to it, but I shouldn’t have had to. |
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
Privacy and public face pics? Oxymoron.
there is a time and place for the swinging conversations not everywhere, people should respect the different levels of privacy, you dont talk about a swinging life style on a site someone doesnt want people to know about it on"
People don't respect the right to privacy. Assuming they will be respectful and discreet is incredibly naïve. |
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"My best friend told me join! Only a couple of very close friends know. My family don’t, they’d be far too judgemental. They’d also lack any acceptance of my bisexuality.
One casual friend I know saw me on another site and started messaging me inappropriately and making comments on my public profile hinting at my sexuality. Told them to stop, as if I wanted them to know I’d have told them myself, and that my private life is just that. He’s a photographer who I will never shoot with again as I no longer trust him to respect boundaries x
Viv x
You have public face pics. It's not a secret.
Just because I have public face pics it doesn’t mean that I want people I know messaging me and talking to me inappropriately when I’ve told them that I’ve blocked them on a site as I don’t want to converse with them in a sexual light. People should still respect other people’s right to privacy.
I know a few people on here but don’t try to discuss it with them on a site not affiliated with this lifestyle, or make hints on their public profiles, as they wouldn’t appreciate it. Viv xx
Privacy and public face pics? Oxymoron.
If you’re blocked on a site, respect that and take it as a sign that someone doesn’t want to discuss something with you.
Right to decide who you discuss your sex life with, regardless of what images you share, should be a given. Or am I missing something? xx"
Of course it should be a given, I totally agree with you. But people don't. X |
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over a year ago
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Nope.
When I first joined five years ago, I told my best friend and she got the wrong idea about it. As far as she knows whenever I meet someone I've met them off a dating site.
The ex who introduced me to fab knew I was on fab way back when. He's left fab behind.
The guy I'm sleeping with away from fab knows and knows I'm only casually meeting one person off here. He's known since we got involved, he's not bothered I'm in here but he thinks the site's creepy. He also thinks the site's full of single and cheating men looking to get their end away. He came up with that idea on his own. |
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"Nope.
When I first joined five years ago, I told my best friend and she got the wrong idea about it. As far as she knows whenever I meet someone I've met them off a dating site.
The ex who introduced me to fab knew I was on fab way back when. He's left fab behind.
The guy I'm sleeping with away from fab knows and knows I'm only casually meeting one person off here. He's known since we got involved, he's not bothered I'm in here but he thinks the site's creepy. He also thinks the site's full of single and cheating men looking to get their end away. He came up with that idea on his own."
not full of them im on here to have a laugh lol |
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In my opinion i beat anyone to talking about me and being called anything. People that know me know im a big flirt and think i go further with everyone so boom i win. But i dont even let on to other swingers on the street i might say hi but only like a vanilla person why cant everyone be like that |
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over a year ago
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Generally no. My best friend knows I'm on here (as was he) but he doesn't ask questions about the ins and outs. There are also some previous tinder dates or men I've come across in real life who know I'm on here too. |
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Outside of people who are on the scene, I can think of two people we've told openly and another couple of people who have had a hint of it. In general we wouldn't talk about our sex lives with anybody anyway, let alone swinging. |
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over a year ago
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Even though l'm here and it's the called the joint it is l couldn't really say l'm a swinger because l'm not ,l only joined here because a female l was chatting to on another adult site recommended it as the other site was pretty boring and a waste of time ,l'm only here to meet single ladies if l can ,l know it's not the general idea of the site but it's the only reason l'm here is to meet single ladies with the same outlook on things as me . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"None of our family know about this but some friends do. They’re sometimes quite interested too that could be fun ....."
There are a couple of possibilities but generally there isn’t much crossover. Except this one time, at band camp... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Appart from my wife & one friend who used to be my wifes fuck buddy no one knows I'm a swinger,I've got two grown up daughters & I think they'd be horified if they found out. |
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over a year ago
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For single people is it easier as I don't suppose it's any different to having a 1 night stand? Probably safer and better organising it on here than a random person from a nightclub
Its more of an issue for husband & wife to admit they share their loved one, lots of people don't understand how we do it  |
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"For single people is it easier as I don't suppose it's any different to having a 1 night stand? Probably safer and better organising it on here than a random person from a nightclub
Its more of an issue for husband & wife to admit they share their loved one, lots of people don't understand how we do it "
I’ve found that as the third group ‘fab single’ with a (totally aware) man at home people find it weirder still that some faux single/couples have separate meets, not even swapping.... always followed up with a ‘why not just split up with him if you’re not happy’
You’re right, I’m not happy.... I’m ECSTATIC |
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"For single people is it easier as I don't suppose it's any different to having a 1 night stand? Probably safer and better organising it on here than a random person from a nightclub
Its more of an issue for husband & wife to admit they share their loved one, lots of people don't understand how we do it
I’ve found that as the third group ‘fab single’ with a (totally aware) man at home people find it weirder still that some faux single/couples have separate meets, not even swapping.... always followed up with a ‘why not just split up with him if you’re not happy’
You’re right, I’m not happy.... I’m ECSTATIC "
We know that feeling! I don’t think that people outside of this life can begin to guess the sheer excitement of sharing one another and how that builds desire for one another. |
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over a year ago
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It's a no an no for me and other half. Not sure about other half, but I'd probably be mortified if family and or friends found out what we get up to, but I'm sure the feeling would subside. |
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over a year ago
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I don't really make it a thing to tell people because I don't want to field the questions that follow , however my next door neighbour told me that she's also a swinger and to make things worse, she's a nudist. Too close for comfort so I've been looking elsewhere when I step out on my adjacent balcony  |
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We have some close friends who know and Louise's sister who is also into a similar scene, but we try and keep it well away from work and family. It's nice having at least a couple of friends you can discuss it with, share tips and experiences etc. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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Hubby's best friend is on here, we knew each other were naughty it was just a case of when we'd find out. A couple of other friends know about Fab, and one who is on here from work we're waiting to 'out' us.  |
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I’d be sent to the nuns 
