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over a year ago
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"Vanilla. My relationship pretty much is vanilla, seeing as I haven’t had sex with anyone except my husband for two years now 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Vanilla. My relationship pretty much is vanilla, seeing as I haven’t had sex with anyone except my husband for two years now "
Practically a vanilla couple on a swingers site  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It would take a lot for me to go back to monogamy.
Like what do you think?
I can't even think of anything that would make me do that. I just think never is a strong claim to make. "
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I used to think that it wasn't possible to love someone and be sleeping with other people. |
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"It would take a lot for me to go back to monogamy.
Like what do you think?
I can't even think of anything that would make me do that. I just think never is a strong claim to make.
Gotcha
I used to think that it wasn't possible to love someone and be sleeping with other people. "
See I think you can love multiple people! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It would take a lot for me to go back to monogamy.
Like what do you think?
I can't even think of anything that would make me do that. I just think never is a strong claim to make.
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I used to think that it wasn't possible to love someone and be sleeping with other people.
See I think you can love multiple people! "
Hmm maybe. I find it all intriguing. |
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What do you mean by vanilla? Not swinging? Because some of the things we get up to between us two wouldn't really count as vanilla.
If you mean could we live without having sex with other people, then yes, we could |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would take a lot for me to go back to monogamy.
Like what do you think?
I can't even think of anything that would make me do that. I just think never is a strong claim to make.
Gotcha
I used to think that it wasn't possible to love someone and be sleeping with other people.
See I think you can love multiple people! "
We are basically poly and strongly believe in this. Think it's natural to love more than one.. Well for C to love more than one lol
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Without a doubt.
I would need the monogamy side first to build the trust and feel completely settled and secure before heading back down the swinging couple route and would step out at any time for the right person.
It should in my eyes be an addition to an already flourishing and stable relationship, rather than the core |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What do you mean by vanilla? Not swinging? Because some of the things we get up to between us two wouldn't really count as vanilla.
If you mean could we live without having sex with other people, then yes, we could "
Yes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Without a doubt.
I would need the monogamy side first to build the trust and feel completely settled and secure before heading back down the swinging couple route and would step out at any time for the right person.
It should in my eyes be an addition to an already flourishing and stable relationship, rather than the core "
good Vid I haven't heard that before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We could happily go back to vanilla.
Though it depends on your version of it.... we would still mess around and try new boundaries.
I suppose at some point mfm, mmmmmf, and everything else that involves other people will get boring.
The only thing that doesn't get boring, is us. |
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"Without a doubt.
I would need the monogamy side first to build the trust and feel completely settled and secure before heading back down the swinging couple route and would step out at any time for the right person.
It should in my eyes be an addition to an already flourishing and stable relationship, rather than the core "
This, absolutely this - I started out in this lifestyle as part of a couple many moons ago, and it's an incredibly exciting addition if you're stable together to begin with. But, I have unfortunately seen so many couples split over the years, usually when they were using swinging to try and paper over existing cracks in the relationship.
As for now...for the right person I would give it up and be monogamous in a heartbeat if that's what they really wanted. At the very least we'd talk and alter the way we do things if we deemed it necessary...for instance, I am happy to share physically but not emotionally, so anyone I was in a relationship with would need to be happy to just have one off encounters with anyone else, no FB's or longer term arrangements.
We all work differently, and communication is vital. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We could happily go back to vanilla.
Though it depends on your version of it.... we would still mess around and try new boundaries.
I suppose at some point mfm, mmmmmf, and everything else that involves other people will get boring.
The only thing that doesn't get boring, is us. "
That's nice
Some people say that couples swing because they're not happy with with each other.. but this isn't the case |
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"Without a doubt.
I would need the monogamy side first to build the trust and feel completely settled and secure before heading back down the swinging couple route and would step out at any time for the right person.
It should in my eyes be an addition to an already flourishing and stable relationship, rather than the core
This, absolutely this - I started out in this lifestyle as part of a couple many moons ago, and it's an incredibly exciting addition if you're stable together to begin with. But, I have unfortunately seen so many couples split over the years, usually when they were using swinging to try and paper over existing cracks in the relationship.
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Yeah non-monogamy doesn't fix a failing relationship any more than monogamy does. I've never understood why people think it will. |
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