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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Male to female ratio. More single men than single women. So women can afford to be picky. Imagine a room of a hundred men and 10 women get to pick who they want to go off with. What will make you stand out?
You could try starting a thread with what you use as your usual starting message and ask for criticism - but it could get brutal  |
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"I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!"
He means there are things on your profile that are concerning or could put people off.
But you haven't asked for profile feedback so we can't really say |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Feel free to give me a feedback!
"I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!
He means there are things on your profile that are concerning or could put people off.
But you haven't asked for profile feedback so we can't really say "
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"I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!"
me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.
are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am messaging various people, it’s more the chat than the looking for me.
"I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!
me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.
are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc? "
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"I am messaging various people, it’s more the chat than the looking for me.
I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!
me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.
are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc? "
Do you make that clear to the reciever? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Probably not!
"I am messaging various people, it’s more the chat than the looking for me.
I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!
me neither... just i prefer more photos of you. you come across abit secretive about your appearance so people may assume the worse.
are you just messaging the people who fit your desires like red heads etc?
Do you make that clear to the reciever? "
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?"
accommodation isn't an issue for me as I live in a shared house and rather not host people... but discretion usually indicates a person is cheating? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?
accommodation isn't an issue for me as I live in a shared house and rather not host people... but discretion usually indicates a person is cheating? "
That's why I'm asking OP to explain his situation. I know what it usually means.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?
accommodation isn't an issue for me as I live in a shared house and rather not host people... but discretion usually indicates a person is cheating?
That's why I'm asking OP to explain his situation. I know what it usually means.."
This OP cant accommodation coupled with discretion is a must = highly likely to be on fab to cheat on a wife / partner at home.
If you cant accommodate for genuine reasons then its better to say so in your profile. Also if your are cheating then be honest about it so potential meets can decide if they still want to meet you or not.
Thats 2 red flags covered above and im guessing the 3rd was your comments about not wanting men TV/TS come across as a little bit agressive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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His profile is no 'worse' at outlining what he does and doesn't want compared to female profiles I've seen.
But not everyone has time to chat, and females on here are, shall we say, in high demand. |
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I can see 2 red flags myself with a quick scan - also lots of people aren't here to chat, I'm one of them! I have plenty of friends and a good social life so am not here for chats - this is me and i'm sure there are loads of people who are here to chat and make friends - we all use Fab in different ways xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Male to female ratio. More single men than single women. So women can afford to be picky. Imagine a room of a hundred men and 10 women get to pick who they want to go off with. What will make you stand out?
You could try starting a thread with what you use as your usual starting message and ask for criticism - but it could get brutal "
True, very true. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?"
Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can see 2 red flags myself with a quick scan - also lots of people aren't here to chat, I'm one of them! I have plenty of friends and a good social life so am not here for chats - this is me and i'm sure there are loads of people who are here to chat and make friends - we all use Fab in different ways xx"
Totally correct, but how comes no one is willing to chat with me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?
Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?"
Then mention that in your bio that you share you're apartment. I can't accom. and explain why on my bio. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couple of red flags in your bio. I’d suggest updating that and see how you go  "
What he said^
Way too over thought and second guessy, and a bit butt hurt tbh.... Stay positive and light with your humour, avoid the dark for now.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?
Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?
Then mention that in your bio that you share you're apartment. I can't accom. and explain why on my bio."
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"OP, why can't you accommodate and ask for a discretion?
Because I share them apartment so not easy to accommodate and because I want to keep it discreet... is it bad?"
Ignore the ignorance and accusations of the those that conspire and have no respect for discretion. That’s a more than a little misguided. You stick to what you and your professional/personal life allows.
Maybe just tone down the bio slightly here n there as it may come across as potentially aggressive in places. That’s all. Then just be patient, be kind, be cool. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couple of red flags in your bio. I’d suggest updating that and see how you go
What he said^
Way too over thought and second guessy, and a bit butt hurt tbh.... Stay positive and light with your humour, avoid the dark for now.... "
Removed the dark |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!
Yeah what flags
Bog rolls hanging the wrong way.
Huge no-no........ "
Bog roll should always be hanging out not in! Good spot.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t do anything!
What are the red flags?
I don’t see any flag!
Yeah what flags
Bog rolls hanging the wrong way.
Huge no-no........
Bog roll should always be hanging out not in! Good spot. "
I’ll quickly go to turn them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not everyone has the time to swap endless messages. The fact is there are a hell of a lot more single guys than girls. Initial messages count for a lot too. If it looks like a generic copy and paste then we women are less likely to respond. Take the time to read people's bio, pick out a couple of things that you can include in your first message as it shows you've taken the time to read it which in turn means you're more likely to treat us as actual people and not just something to get your rocks off to. I know personally, I do a weeks worth of message exchange and then ask for a social, you can tell a lot in them few days. |
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