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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
Now, this post has not been promoted by anything here so much, other than at first, not quite realising my appeal to anyone. However, I’ve since realised that with that new found confidence, I was kinda attractive to people in the real world too. There’s never a shortage of men wanting a fuck, but where is all the eagerness when I’ve been looking to date!
I have a theory that a huge majority of men in the real world, not fab, have a ‘secret’ BBW fantasy, which many carry through with. However, they never want their friends to know they find it hot. Am I right?! |
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over a year ago
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"Now, this post has not been promoted by anything here so much, other than at first, not quite realising my appeal to anyone. However, I’ve since realised that with that new found confidence, I was kinda attractive to people in the real world too. There’s never a shortage of men wanting a fuck, but where is all the eagerness when I’ve been looking to date!
I have a theory that a huge majority of men in the real world, not fab, have a ‘secret’ BBW fantasy, which many carry through with. However, they never want their friends to know they find it hot. Am I right?! "
My FWB is a Bi BBW.. really sexy.. really pretty too.. and my friends know she is a size 20.
But.. I do find BBW very sexy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't know but you could be right. They might see it as 'socially unacceptable' and not want to be seen with a BBW. I for one do not harbour such fantasies as it's more about the person, and I'm more attracted to faces rather than body type, for me. But some people only look at the surface. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am on 2 dating sites as well as this. I get very little interest on both. The few times I did meet someone nice, I was let go and told I wasn't GF material sadly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It kinda works in reverse to though, i have a friend who girls like to hang with cos he is an unreal guy is a big guy, but dont like their friends to know.
But in answer to your question, yes for some its like that, but not us all x |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"It kinda works in reverse to though, i have a friend who girls like to hang with cos he is an unreal guy is a big guy, but dont like their friends to know.
But in answer to your question, yes for some its like that, but not us all x"
Hopefully you’re in my side. OOFT. hiya  |
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Yes definitely.
I've had the piss taken, been called a chubby chaser etc by 'lad banter'. But I don't care they can say what they want, I like what I like.
However there are many men who do cave to the peer pressure and don't follow their natural desires. Especially younger men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now, this post has not been promoted by anything here so much, other than at first, not quite realising my appeal to anyone. However, I’ve since realised that with that new found confidence, I was kinda attractive to people in the real world too. There’s never a shortage of men wanting a fuck, but where is all the eagerness when I’ve been looking to date!
I have a theory that a huge majority of men in the real world, not fab, have a ‘secret’ BBW fantasy, which many carry through with. However, they never want their friends to know they find it hot. Am I right?! "
Spot on! In clubs men are all over the BBWs but in “real life” it’s a different story for some. That’s some men not all but yes totally agreed In general with your comment x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Now, this post has not been promoted by anything here so much, other than at first, not quite realising my appeal to anyone. However, I’ve since realised that with that new found confidence, I was kinda attractive to people in the real world too. There’s never a shortage of men wanting a fuck, but where is all the eagerness when I’ve been looking to date!
I have a theory that a huge majority of men in the real world, not fab, have a ‘secret’ BBW fantasy, which many carry through with. However, they never want their friends to know they find it hot. Am I right?! "
Mine is no secret I adore the curvier woman. With regard to being seen in public,well I don't give a flying fuck what people think. Their opinion of me or the woman I'm with means fuck all to me . Someone's opinion if me is none of my business. |
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"Yes definitely.
I've had the piss taken, been called a chubby chaser etc by 'lad banter'. But I don't care they can say what they want, I like what I like.
However there are many men who do cave to the peer pressure and don't follow their natural desires. Especially younger men. "
As a younger man myself I would definitely agree with this. During my school days a lot of my friends would ridicule for me for my attraction towards larger ladies... I definitely did not let it deter me and never gave into peer pressure.
Most of the women I’ve dated outside of the fab world have been what you would class as “BBW”. I love everything about this body type but the personality of an individual holds just as much weight.
I’d never be ashamed to be seen out in public with a larger lady  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends what men go for. Some like pretty girls no matter their body weight! There are some very pretty women who carry extra weight! It just depends on people’s preference!
Some very handsome men carry extra weight too so it goes both ways! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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agree with the guys above, i wouldnt go as far as saying i only meet/date BBW's but about 99% of any women I have met/dated have been BBW. There is NOTHING on earth sexier than a confident BBW.  |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
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I’ll never forget reading a post in here by a guy saying in real life, he was a 10 and he’d only ever go with a 10, but because there were so many women here, he’d accept a 3/4 for a fuck. He added that most women here were on that rating. It really hurt my feelings reading that.
I remember shortly after that being propositioned by a 20yr old boy at a (non sexual) house party and I actually said to him he was only flirting with me cos I was one of few women. He said ‘I’ll be fuckin you later’ and I loved his bravado so when he walked in the kitchen behind me and shut the door and told me to get in my knees, I obliged 
That was me kinda over that comment hahhh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I experienced this in my early twenties, guy was even honest with me about it. He was ‘gutted’ I wasn’t smaller as he couldn’t introduce me to his mates... he was insanely insecure and protective of his image and how others saw him.
It was a very hurtful and negative time but thankfully I’ve never experienced this Since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can say i have experienced this for myself in real life...lots of guys are happy to be friends..but would never be seen to date a bigger lady.
It does knock your confidence..but i seem to have guys who appreciate my curves..hubby obviously to start |
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"I’ll never forget reading a post in here by a guy saying in real life, he was a 10 and he’d only ever go with a 10, but because there were so many women here, he’d accept a 3/4 for a fuck. He added that most women here were on that rating"
Anyone who says that is really not a 10.
They are a twat |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
I also remember being in a nightclub with an ex who was a breakdancer, Graf artist, DJ all round ‘cool guy’ and a girl came up to me and said I should be grateful to be going out with him cos I ‘was a big bit of lassie’
Little did she know at home he was beating me and mentally degrading me. But hey, I should be grateful eh. |
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When I date I always date BBWs or full figured women as I find them more attractive. I don't understand why some would want to date a person who's not really their type just to be "fit in". Be real and do what really makes you happy. BBWs we do love and appreciate you even outside Fab |
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I've never felt this in dating or relationships luckily. If I did I would be absolutely horrified that I put myself in that position to be honest.
I guess my opinion is that if a person isn't confident to be seen in public with another then they can't like them all that much.
Ladies and gents we deserve more. Have the confidence to accept yourself and accept nothing less than common decency. |
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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago
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My FwB is a bbw but size is not the thing to me, the first time we meet we got on well and things went from there. She could have been built like a racing snake and it would not have made any difference to me as long as we get on well together.
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By *ndy64hMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
My first true love was BBW, we got married, we had kids, we divorced, she is still my best friend. I never thought about her size, although she always did, she was local slimmer of the year at one time, I was proud of her efforts, and supported her throughout, but her size never made a difference to me.
If your personality can't win you that date alone, then that person isn't worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like women of all shapes, but there is something about a BBW that just feels so good... I have no qualms about being with, sleeping with or dating a BBW. Their skin is so soft, their lips so luscious to kiss and a body I enjoy exploring with my hands and mouth
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I adore women of all sizes, Curves or no curves it's about the "person" not the shell they are wearing. I have met "bigger" women and I have met "smaller" women and both were great meets and more importantly really nice people. My ex wife was "bigger" she was verging 26" and the only fault (for want of a better more appropriate word) was her self confidence, no matter how much I reassured her that she was gorgeous she just didn't acknowledge it, I think women of all sizes have to realise you are all gorgeous and when "genuine" men and women tell you these sort of things that they actually mean it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I 100% agree OP.
I'm never short of people to fuck, or a FWB situation, but when it comes to being GF material its a different story.
I too, like other posters, have given up dating for exactly this reason. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
In my younger days, when I was escorting, I was quite a bit smaller than I am now.
You'd get groups of leads come in and they'd all 'laugh' about there being a fat bird. But without fail, every single one of them would come back, apologise for the banter and book in to see me at a later date. Some guys the very same day.
As I've got older I have not only got more confident in who I am, wobbles and all, I am also aware that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (oh and anyone that judges someone on an arbitrary numberical scale is a cwunt of the highest order) |
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"I experienced this in my early twenties, guy was even honest with me about it. He was ‘gutted’ I wasn’t smaller as he couldn’t introduce me to his mates... he was insanely insecure and protective of his image and how others saw him.
It was a very hurtful and negative time but thankfully I’ve never experienced this Since. "
Wow that's so shitty... What a knob head...
Firstly re the OP, no... Its not a secret fantasy of mine... But I'd like to think if I was having sex with someone, then I wouldn't be embarrassed... Not that it really has anything to do with my mates anyway.
But I do wonder if this only happens in one direction... And I hate labels... Such as BBC and BBW..... I mean we don't have them for slim beautiful women... SBW (not to be confused with sonny bill Williams) or ABC (average black cock).. And even more BBM big beautiful man... Even if there were such a thing.. Or BHP (big hairy pussy).. I suppose it all started with the AWB (average white band)... I'll leave you to pick up the pieces of this thread... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm opposite to that. I only go with BBWs. The curves and fuller figure really drives me crazy. All my mates know this as well. Kinda obvious when the smallest I've ever been with was a size 16  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gotta say if any woman is dating someone who is more concerned with what his friends think of her body image,she needs to stop dating "boys" that shit is for the school ground |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"In my younger days, when I was escorting, I was quite a bit smaller than I am now.
You'd get groups of leads come in and they'd all 'laugh' about there being a fat bird. But without fail, every single one of them would come back, apologise for the banter and book in to see me at a later date. Some guys the very same day.
As I've got older I have not only got more confident in who I am, wobbles and all, I am also aware that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (oh and anyone that judges someone on an arbitrary numberical scale is a cwunt of the highest order)"
Oh I totally agree with you! Every guy I meet wants a repeat meet. I have guys I’ve met once and chatted about the possibility of, but never get round to, then 3yrs later they pop up saying how they still remember our meet etc etc. Similarly, I have an ex FB from 15yrs who that contacted me out the blue a few years back and we occasionally meet up. He said he wants to fuck me forever. Yet I was never good enough when we were both single. Cannot win hahah!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In my younger days, when I was escorting, I was quite a bit smaller than I am now.
You'd get groups of leads come in and they'd all 'laugh' about there being a fat bird. But without fail, every single one of them would come back, apologise for the banter and book in to see me at a later date. Some guys the very same day.
As I've got older I have not only got more confident in who I am, wobbles and all, I am also aware that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (oh and anyone that judges someone on an arbitrary numberical scale is a cwunt of the highest order)"
So when profiles state a male MUST be gym fit body, over 6', VWE.... they aren't just stating their preferences after all ... they're all just cwunts? |
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I have a similar theory concerning older women and younger men. Fine to fuck but no way would they take you to the pub to meet their mates. That's fine by me as long as they don't try and dress it up as something it isn't. |
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By *reeMan
over a year ago
Paisley |
"Now, this post has not been promoted by anything here so much, other than at first, not quite realising my appeal to anyone. However, I’ve since realised that with that new found confidence, I was kinda attractive to people in the real world too. There’s never a shortage of men wanting a fuck, but where is all the eagerness when I’ve been looking to date!
I have a theory that a huge majority of men in the real world, not fab, have a ‘secret’ BBW fantasy, which many carry through with. However, they never want their friends to know they find it hot. Am I right?! "
I've dated very thin women, average women and BBW women. I can honestly say,that at the end of the day, it all comes down to personality with me and whether we get on, of course! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bbw are super amazing. Love having a look at these threads and finding more sexy ladies. "
Can we really say that everyone with some arbitrary trait are super amazing? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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life partner preference is always going to be different to swinging preference no matter what size clothes you wear ... swinging for alot of people is just a tick box experiment to say they've tried something or done something ... i dont think some men are even bothered what size you are as long as they get there way ...
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"life partner preference is always going to be different to swinging preference no matter what size clothes you wear ... swinging for alot of people is just a tick box experiment to say they've tried something or done something ... i dont think some men are even bothered what size you are as long as they get there way ...
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I agree. The same applies to any fetishised trait. There will be people who genuinely see past physicality at one end of the scale so you can be short, tall, green, purple or any other combination of physical traits and they will go for your personality and at the other people only want to have sex with people who possess the particular trait they're interested in. Then there's the huge range in between |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All I understand casual sex and looking for a life partner are essential two different things...I completely agree OP.
In my mind I am Little Miss Average, not ugly but nothing super attractive either. On a dating site, I get very little interest.
Now on Fab, it's like suddenly I'm Kelly Brook's twin sister and get offers left, right and centre and I'm often complimented on my figure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was advised by a female fab friend not to put BBW as a preference on my profile. She said that it appeared like a man was not fussy or could not get a slim woman!
Make of that what you will. |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
"I was advised by a female fab friend not to put BBW as a preference on my profile. She said that it appeared like a man was not fussy or could not get a slim woman!
Make of that what you will."
See, as a BBW myself, I DETEST profiles or usernames using things like BBW hunter or admirer or worshipper. I’ve found a lot of guys who specifically home in on BBWs to be a little well, odd. |
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I always get asked why I'm single and my answer is " noone wants the fat bird" and its true.
Real life just proves what a shallow place fab is, it might temporarily boost your confidence but go out into the big world and you're soon put back on your arse. |
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over a year ago
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"100% good enough to fuck but not to date. Rejoined POF three weeks ago deleted it this morning.
Given up on meeting anyone. "
finding someone on here will be a better option x |
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"100% good enough to fuck but not to date. Rejoined POF three weeks ago deleted it this morning.
Given up on meeting anyone. finding someone on here will be a better option x"
You might be right there x |
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I think it's down to two things; beauty standards and "lad banter".
Young men are judged by the attractiveness of their partners. And that attractiveness has to match the standards of whichever society they live in.
I'm sure women are under pressure to find a tall, handsome and wealthy man so it goes both ways.
Have you seen that episode of The Inbetweeners where he gets ribbed for going out with a very tall girl? |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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"So when profiles state a male MUST be gym fit body, over 6', VWE.... they aren't just stating their preferences after all ... they're all just cwunts? "
No. They are people stating their preferences.
When someone says they are an "8" or other such number and will only see/date/fuck people who are "x"...
They are cwunts.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ll never forget reading a post in here by a guy saying in real life, he was a 10 and he’d only ever go with a 10, but because there were so many women here, he’d accept a 3/4 for a fuck. He added that most women here were on that rating
Anyone who says that is really not a 10.
They are a twat"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I experienced this in my early twenties, guy was even honest with me about it. He was ‘gutted’ I wasn’t smaller as he couldn’t introduce me to his mates... he was insanely insecure and protective of his image and how others saw him.
It was a very hurtful and negative time but thankfully I’ve never experienced this Since.
Wow that's so shitty... What a knob head...
Firstly re the OP, no... Its not a secret fantasy of mine... But I'd like to think if I was having sex with someone, then I wouldn't be embarrassed... Not that it really has anything to do with my mates anyway.
But I do wonder if this only happens in one direction... And I hate labels... Such as BBC and BBW..... I mean we don't have them for slim beautiful women... SBW (not to be confused with sonny bill Williams) or ABC (average black cock).. And even more BBM big beautiful man... Even if there were such a thing.. Or BHP (big hairy pussy).. I suppose it all started with the AWB (average white band)... I'll leave you to pick up the pieces of this thread... "
I don’t know, I guess it depends on the circles you frequent as to what acronyms you come across.
I’ve recently come across BHM for “big handsome men”, there’s the W/E man, BWC (big white cock) and in the past I’ve come across one I’ve not seen since which is the IBT girl (Itty Bitty Titty). Non of which were meant with any malice when created at all, but could very easily be taken as such.
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I don't think its a fantasy anymore.
When I was in my teens you wouldn't be seen dead with a big girl.
At 18 I was "seduced" by a fuller figured woman in her mid 30s. What an experience
Nowadays you see it often. Young lads with so called Boy band looks and often clining to his hand or arm a pretty girl and often not slim.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All females are sexy in their own way and body size or shape is irrelevant"
Pity men don't think that way. I have been out on nights out where guys have told me straight out they don't fuck fat girls. Or some try to be polite your not my type. |
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"All females are sexy in their own way and body size or shape is irrelevant
Pity men don't think that way. I have been out on nights out where guys have told me straight out they don't fuck fat girls. Or some try to be polite your not my type. "
Similar ... if I’ve politely turned down a guys advances before now their retort has been “you’re too big for me anyway”. 9/10 I laugh because I know it’s their hurt ego that even the “bigger bird” has turned them down but every now and again it does get to you and is upsetting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bbw are super amazing. Love having a look at these threads and finding more sexy ladies.
Can we really say that everyone with some arbitrary trait are super amazing?"
I can yes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All females are sexy in their own way and body size or shape is irrelevant
Pity men don't think that way. I have been out on nights out where guys have told me straight out they don't fuck fat girls. Or some try to be polite your not my type.
Similar ... if I’ve politely turned down a guys advances before now their retort has been “you’re too big for me anyway”. 9/10 I laugh because I know it’s their hurt ego that even the “bigger bird” has turned them down but every now and again it does get to you and is upsetting. "
Only once has someone called me a fat fuck because I rejected them.  |
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Some men and I stress the word ‘some’ believe that they are offering a service to the larger women in this world. They feel that they are easy prey and will succumb to their male prowess a lot easier by stating how they absolutely adore ‘BBWs’ blah blah blah. Remember the word ‘some’ before shooting me.
In their mind, fat girls are easy and this isn’t a dating site so what the hell. But no way would they ever show you off to their mates, as this shows weakness and the fear of being ridiculed is too great. Any hole’s a goal etc
What the men fail to remember is that the women on here can afford to be choosy, as male numbers easily outweigh female. So when a ‘BBW’ lets down a bloke on here, how many of these ‘BBW admirers’ suddenly turn bitter and nasty? I bet it happens quite a lot.
I’ll stop rambling now.
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My ex (size 32) and I used to step out all the time. We got some looks, and even some public criticisms from idiots in street (and we both were known to challenge them!). But my friends totally thought she was great because she was. Any man not willing to step out with a woman because of her size is not boyfriend material. |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Only once has someone called me a fat fuck because I rejected them. "
I’ve had that on here MULTIPLE times!!! I’ve also had just randoms message me to tell me I’m fat. 5 points for observation.
I think I’ve missed out on several advances because I used to be convinced any guy who spoke to me was betting with his mates. Since learning some self-love after some years here, I’ve responded to some of such advances and actually landed myself some top class males outside fab. Still, they’re boys that want an ‘experience’ away from their pals. Even tho I know a fair percentage of their pals would do it too. And I know that cos a few of them have  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only once has someone called me a fat fuck because I rejected them.
I’ve had that on here MULTIPLE times!!! I’ve also had just randoms message me to tell me I’m fat. 5 points for observation.
I think I’ve missed out on several advances because I used to be convinced any guy who spoke to me was betting with his mates. Since learning some self-love after some years here, I’ve responded to some of such advances and actually landed myself some top class males outside fab. Still, they’re boys that want an ‘experience’ away from their pals. Even tho I know a fair percentage of their pals would do it too. And I know that cos a few of them have "
Good on you!
I've had great meets with guys that probably wouldn't give me a second look on a dating site because of Fab. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I used to chat to a younger fella who was a proper dish and very muscular. The kind of guy you’d see on Love Island.
He asked me out on a date once and i refused because i was a bit insecure after splitting with an ex and feeling bleurgh. In my head i thought he would be more suited to a lithe petite blonde stunner (the type you see on Love Island). I told him this and he laughed. He then quickly reeled off his favourite porn actresses. I googled. They were all BBW’s.
He said to me “never judge a book by it’s cover”.
He was right! I still never went on the date though.
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I couldn't agree more to the points brought up here.
I have a couple of attributes I'm noticeably attracted to but they aren't a body type. I'd never judge someone on their body shape. If I find a face attractive I'm happy to chat and see if we click no matter their shape or size, personality wins.
I've actually had "and to make it worse you're short and fat" - observation 10/10 from a random who had never even messaged me before! I get one of these charmers at least once every couple of weeks.
Personally I am more picky than.. well.. I guess I should be, I generally can get a feel of the person just from messaging as I don't meet straight away and always do a social.. but I've got it wrong many times and each time it puts me back a few steps...
It's not only single guys though, couples and females are just as bad sadly.. so many females want to play with another female.. but only if she's athletic or slim..
I know, I'm ranting, I'll stop! Lol |
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By *attooBBW OP Woman
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" It's not only single guys though, couples and females are just as bad sadly.. so many females want to play with another female.. but only if she's athletic or slim.. "
I’ve found that too! I’m actually even more scared of meeting women than I am of men as I’m more paranoid about how another woman perceived my body.
Like you, I feel I’ve zero right to be so fussy about what guys I look for and o get several rude messages from guys saying I should be grateful etc etc. But, if I CAN get tall, handsome fuck boys to play with, then that’s exactly what I’m going for!!!
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""I’m actually even more scared of meeting women than I am of men as I’m more paranoid about how another woman perceived my body.
Like you, I feel I’ve zero right to be so fussy about what guys I look for and o get several rude messages from guys saying I should be grateful etc etc. But, if I CAN get tall, handsome fuck boys to play with, then that’s exactly what I’m going for!!!"
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I'm glad it's not just me that finds the same with couples and females.. if I'm going to rant all sex's are going to be thrown in!
Oh absolutely, if I find a guy who ticks all the fantasy boxes then why not!! - but then I'm poly so I'll still be meeting the others. Difference is I'll be openly boasting about all of them equally, not just the fantasy one!! |
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By *andk123Woman
over a year ago
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I have been with my hubby since I was 20 he was 17. He has always been proud to be with me even tho all his friends girlfriends were skinny. Its never bothered him that I'm a bbw, he loves all my lumps n bumps lol xx |
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"Oh yes, men who wouldn't give me a first look (let alone a second) in 'real life', think I'm "the most beautiful woman they've ever seen*" in Fab world.
*should've gone to Specsavers "
This is so true!!! LMFAO! |
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My ex wife was from a size 10 to a 20 through our marriage I can honestly say it never bothered me at all or any if my friends not that it would have mattered but I think she always looked healthier and happier when she was a little larger and sex always seemed amazing whatever
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Being a larger man I've experienced it from women, it happens to both men and women.
there's nothing more painful and demeaning being shunned away,laughed at, bullied, made to feel ashamed,not wanted, not given a chance and ignored because you're slightly larger it feels like today's society has been taught that larger men don't count anymore that they're bottom of the list.
I've never been ashamed to be seen with a larger woman, I've shown affection to a larger woman I knew a few year ago in public by cuddling and kissing her while we were waiting for an uber driver the looks we got ... I just thought fuck them, I liked and loved this woman and I wanted to show that I do. |
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" It's not only single guys though, couples and females are just as bad sadly.. so many females want to play with another female.. but only if she's athletic or slim..
I’ve found that too! I’m actually even more scared of meeting women than I am of men as I’m more paranoid about how another woman perceived my body.
Like you, I feel I’ve zero right to be so fussy about what guys I look for and o get several rude messages from guys saying I should be grateful etc etc. But, if I CAN get tall, handsome fuck boys to play with, then that’s exactly what I’m going for!!!
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There was a lovely lady on here many moons ago. She said if a hot sexy man wanted to fuck her (and she fancied him) then she went for it.
It didn't matter if secretly in his mind he thought she was horrible. She was fucking a super hot bloke- she was the winner!! He was just an idiot loser fucking someone he found unattractive.
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I don't think that men don't want to be seen with a fat bird. I think if they love you they don't feel shame.
I DO think that men will shag women of all sizes but that doesn't mean they want them as a life partner.
It's pretty unfortunate that people confuse sex , love and friendship;especially on a site like this.
I'd shag an ugly bloke or a mean bloke but im not going to date them .......
Works all ways not just men and bbw's. |
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"What they don’t understand is when they get with their slimmer gf that people may approve of. they only gonna be fantasising about some curvy female.
Be an individual not a follower "
Are men really that shallow? |
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"What they don’t understand is when they get with their slimmer gf that people may approve of. they only gonna be fantasising about some curvy female.
Be an individual not a follower
Are men really that shallow? "
I think people in general are that shallow.
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"What they don’t understand is when they get with their slimmer gf that people may approve of. they only gonna be fantasising about some curvy female.
Be an individual not a follower
Are men really that shallow?
I think people in general are that shallow.
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Yeah, you're probably right.
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"I get it too. Many people are quite repressed due to social influence or not having the balls to live their life out of the shadows "
Exactly.
People care deeply what other people think.
So people remain in the closet and pretend to be "normal"
Or to follow the same path as all the other sheep - and secretly fill their boots which usually involves deceit.
It's a crazy world. |
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"I get it too. Many people are quite repressed due to social influence or not having the balls to live their life out of the shadows
Exactly.
People care deeply what other people think.
So people remain in the closet and pretend to be "normal"
Or to follow the same path as all the other sheep - and secretly fill their boots which usually involves deceit.
It's a crazy world."
I see a lot of people in relationships with larger people though. Are we saying that a significant number of the population are dating people they aren't really attracted to due to peer pressure? |
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"I think there's loads of men on here that would happily fuck women that they wouldn't normally want to be seen with. "
True - but that’s not just guys. I’ve met a lot of guys in my 6+ years on fab - but wouldn’t ‘date’ the vast majority of them.
Most of us have a list of requirements for those we’ll meet - and a far longer/very different list for those we’d date/have a relationship with.
The vast majority of guys I’ve met have been lovely - but I wouldn’t look to date them! X |
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"I think there's loads of men on here that would happily fuck women that they wouldn't normally want to be seen with.
True - but that’s not just guys. I’ve met a lot of guys in my 6+ years on fab - but wouldn’t ‘date’ the vast majority of them.
Most of us have a list of requirements for those we’ll meet - and a far longer/very different list for those we’d date/have a relationship with.
The vast majority of guys I’ve met have been lovely - but I wouldn’t look to date them! X"
Same and I'd say that 99% of the men who contact us wouldn't date me, especially the younger ones. |
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"I get it too. Many people are quite repressed due to social influence or not having the balls to live their life out of the shadows
Exactly.
People care deeply what other people think.
So people remain in the closet and pretend to be "normal"
Or to follow the same path as all the other sheep - and secretly fill their boots which usually involves deceit.
It's a crazy world.
I see a lot of people in relationships with larger people though. Are we saying that a significant number of the population are dating people they aren't really attracted to due to peer pressure? "
No - I think like everything there are exceptions.
Also weight gain after kids, or age etc.. needs to be accounted for.
Were they overweight when they started out and how old were they?
I think a lot of people are in relationships for the wrong reasons - usually because of money - I'm sure having a trophy partner is amongst them.
But I do believe there is someone for everyone fat or thin or somewhere in between
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"I get it too. Many people are quite repressed due to social influence or not having the balls to live their life out of the shadows
Exactly.
People care deeply what other people think.
So people remain in the closet and pretend to be "normal"
Or to follow the same path as all the other sheep - and secretly fill their boots which usually involves deceit.
It's a crazy world.
I see a lot of people in relationships with larger people though. Are we saying that a significant number of the population are dating people they aren't really attracted to due to peer pressure?
No - I think like everything there are exceptions.
Also weight gain after kids, or age etc.. needs to be accounted for.
Were they overweight when they started out and how old were they?
I think a lot of people are in relationships for the wrong reasons - usually because of money - I'm sure having a trophy partner is amongst them.
But I do believe there is someone for everyone fat or thin or somewhere in between
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I'm living proof of that lol. We often say it's a good job we got together because nobody else would have us.
I really hope our kids are with their partners because it's what they really want |
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"With men it’s their egos and egos of others.
I wouldn’t say all men cause that wouldn’t be right "
When I was an adolescent I wanted to be seen with the most popular and best looking people but after that I didn’t.
I understand peer pressure when you're younger it can be very difficult to resist. |
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Clearly different men will have an array of preferences, all valid. I'm reasonably big and have never had a problem in the vanilla or swinging worlds for dates or sex. My hubby prefers big women, slim women don't interest him much (a little) but he loves BBWs and SSBBWs. |
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"Clearly different men will have an array of preferences, all valid. I'm reasonably big and have never had a problem in the vanilla or swinging worlds for dates or sex. My hubby prefers big women, slim women don't interest him much (a little) but he loves BBWs and SSBBWs."
I can imagine you haven’t had problems - you’re extremely pretty!
I think people often forget that, for many people, it’s the face we’re attracted to first - and the body type is often secondary. Tbh that’s why I find it so frustrating (but understandable) that most people on here don’t have public face pics.
Many of us have a minimum or maximum size when it comes to body type - but equally it’s a pretty broad range for a lot of us, I imagine! |
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"Now, this post has not been promoted by anything here so much, other than at first, not quite realising my appeal to anyone. However, I’ve since realised that with that new found confidence, I was kinda attractive to people in the real world too. There’s never a shortage of men wanting a fuck, but where is all the eagerness when I’ve been looking to date!
I have a theory that a huge majority of men in the real world, not fab, have a ‘secret’ BBW fantasy, which many carry through with. However, they never want their friends to know they find it hot. Am I right?! "
I haven't read the whole thread but I 100% agree op.
Last week I was on the forums of another site. A more serious debating site than this,not a swingers or relationship site, and someone asked 'is dating a fat women equivalent to dating a short man?' 270 posts later and around 95% of posters said absolutely. The general consensus was that neither were attractive or desirable.
I would like to think I'm not that shallow, however in truth I probably am. |
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Wow this thread made me think.
I've never dated much (through personal choice) but I've also never felt like I'd be rejected as girlfriend material based on size either. It's really sad many of you have given up looking for relationships for this reason  |
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"I’ll never forget reading a post in here by a guy saying in real life, he was a 10 and he’d only ever go with a 10, but because there were so many women here, he’d accept a 3/4 for a fuck. He added that most women here were on that rating
Anyone who says that is really not a 10.
They are a twat"
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Oh my word, this thread makes me so sad. Yes I have experienced it, but not since my late teens/early 20s, when I had zero confidence and didn't know any better.
There is one guy I met last year where I felt like he was settling for me (one of the reasons we'll *never* be meeting again). I'm fat, I'm not particularly attractive, but I've no need to be with anyone who doesn't want to be with me, I'd rather stay home and give my rabbit a workout.
Otherwise when I've been on dating sites or dating in real life I've not had this issue.
I once dated a ballet dancer, one of the most beautiful men I've ever seen and someone who was surrounded by lovely, graceful women all day every day. We were out with his friends one night when a woman literally pushed me out of the way to get closer to him. He wasn't aggressive about it, but he moved so he could put his arm around me and explained we were there together, then steered me away from her and towards his friends. That's set my expectation of how I'll be treated when dating and I'll be single forever before I accept less.
With a fuck-buddy it's different, I've no real interest in dates or meeting friends, but no more would I introduce him to my friends. That's not what it's about. I'm not going to put up with someone who thinks I'm beneath him though, that's just horseshit. |
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