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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Things that have, or would deflate your ego. Fragile and over inflated ones too!
Being picked last for the sports team in school.
Some guy adding twice as much weight on the smith machine in the gym after you've finished your PB.
You? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was working for a small web startup years ago and we were doing video stuff in the early days.
There were two of us having to encode video - I liked the Microsoft format wmv while she liked the Real format.
The boss walked in and I was telling him how good wmv was and why it was better than Real.
The girl who liked Real then turned round and shouted 'What the fuck do you know?'.
I deflated very quickly. |
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I was the only substituted player when I played football with a works team. They even had me in goal and I flunked that 
The nerve of me shouting at Ronaldo once, that he couldn’t play from the stands  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being told I'm boring or mundane. Happens fairly often, but does batter the old ego.
What about you op? "
I guess thats a deliberate insult? I guess for me, it would be to find out that someone I was really fond of, actually disliked me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I broke up with my ex (three times, no less), she would say all kinds of things to get under my skin. It was hard to avoid because we lived together. Usually I managed to ignore her but the one thing she would say that triggered my ego included telling me how bad the sex was and how much better she got fucked by this one older married man she had an affair with before meeting me.
She knew making me jealous that way would hurt me, but she also knew it turned me on, and I fell for it every time. Revenge sex was great though. 10/10. Would get feelings hurt again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I broke up with my ex (three times, no less), she would say all kinds of things to get under my skin. It was hard to avoid because we lived together. Usually I managed to ignore her but the one thing she would say that triggered my ego included telling me how bad the sex was and how much better she got fucked by this one older married man she had an affair with before meeting me.
She knew making me jealous that way would hurt me, but she also knew it turned me on, and I fell for it every time. Revenge sex was great though. 10/10. Would get feelings hurt again. "
hope your not in that situation now |
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My ex would always tell me "the only reason I won't leave her is because I'm too ugly to find anyone else" ..granted in hindsight its easy to see it for the method of control it was but it was still not nice to hear every other day  And still stuck with me |
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"My ex would always tell me "the only reason I won't leave her is because I'm too ugly to find anyone else" ..granted in hindsight its easy to see it for the method of control it was but it was still not nice to hear every other day And still stuck with me "
That is awful and sounds like you are better off without her x |
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"My ex would always tell me "the only reason I won't leave her is because I'm too ugly to find anyone else" ..granted in hindsight its easy to see it for the method of control it was but it was still not nice to hear every other day And still stuck with me
That is awful and sounds like you are better off without her x"
that was actually when she was in a good mood...and thanks i am a lot better off without her but it doesn't change how I see myself unfortunately x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ego is well and truely in check but if anything would dent my ego it would be in a professional capacity.... I'm Mary Poppins, practically perfect in every way  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Someone once told me i had abandonment issues because my mum had the audacity to leave a physically abusive relationship when i was a tiddler.
Hah!
Mind you, I still had a google to see what abandonment issues were and if i had them 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I broke up with my ex (three times, no less), she would say all kinds of things to get under my skin. It was hard to avoid because we lived together. Usually I managed to ignore her but the one thing she would say that triggered my ego included telling me how bad the sex was and how much better she got fucked by this one older married man she had an affair with before meeting me."
Oh I’m not, thank god. It took a lot of introspection to come to terms with that I wasn’t happy in that relationship and that her behaviour wasn’t right. I kept thinking I could “convert” her, be a good influence on her, but that was never going to happen. Once I realised that, I finally let go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I broke up with my ex (three times, no less), she would say all kinds of things to get under my skin. It was hard to avoid because we lived together. Usually I managed to ignore her but the one thing she would say that triggered my ego included telling me how bad the sex was and how much better she got fucked by this one older married man she had an affair with before meeting me.
Oh I’m not, thank god. It took a lot of introspection to come to terms with that I wasn’t happy in that relationship and that her behaviour wasn’t right. I kept thinking I could “convert” her, be a good influence on her, but that was never going to happen. Once I realised that, I finally let go. "
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I know that there have been things in the past which have upset me so much that I've largely blanked them from my memory. I think that now I've mostly learned that if someone says something that is true and justified, to take it and use it to help improve myself. And if someone says something that is untrue or unjustified, then fuck 'em! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn’t say there is a direct one and at the same time I would say my ego would more be hurt by the person who has said it. If it’s a friend and it’s constructive then they are welcome and free to say what they want. More often someone random I will ignore and just move on but the odd one creeps in and does hit me.
Things like lifting more, running faster etc don’t bother me so long as I know I’m pushing myself. Even then the biggest detractor to my own ego is my self for believing I can always do more. |
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where to start?
My mum telling me if she had me first, I'd have never had a sister as I put her off kids for life.
Her telling me I was never gonna amount to anything.
Never being allowed emotion or an opinion as a child.
My sons dad not letting me get a job after my son was born, then "joking" about any money I needed having to be paid back to him in kind.
When I was proud of the NVQs I was undertaking and got them signed off, the abusive ex took great pleasure in telling me they were just as worthless as I was, and that NVQ stood for "nearly very qualified" and not worth the paper they were written on.
Being dragged around the pub car park by my hair, shoved into the car and physically pulled back out and onto the pavement outside our house by the abusive ex because I went looking for him at the pub when my gut insctint was screaming he was cheating on me. Which he was. With the woman he was talking to at the pub as I walked in. Got too close for comfort that night didn't I and needed teaching a lesson.
One minute being the love of someone's life and the person they want to make plans with, then discovering that yes, he loves you but you're nothing more than a mistress and that's never gonna change because he wasn't just lying to me, he was lying to himself and his wife.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"where to start?
My mum telling me if she had me first, I'd have never had a sister as I put her off kids for life.
Her telling me I was never gonna amount to anything.
Never being allowed emotion or an opinion as a child.
My sons dad not letting me get a job after my son was born, then "joking" about any money I needed having to be paid back to him in kind.
When I was proud of the NVQs I was undertaking and got them signed off, the abusive ex took great pleasure in telling me they were just as worthless as I was, and that NVQ stood for "nearly very qualified" and not worth the paper they were written on.
Being dragged around the pub car park by my hair, shoved into the car and physically pulled back out and onto the pavement outside our house by the abusive ex because I went looking for him at the pub when my gut insctint was screaming he was cheating on me. Which he was. With the woman he was talking to at the pub as I walked in. Got too close for comfort that night didn't I and needed teaching a lesson.
One minute being the love of someone's life and the person they want to make plans with, then discovering that yes, he loves you but you're nothing more than a mistress and that's never gonna change because he wasn't just lying to me, he was lying to himself and his wife.
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You already know how fucking awesome and strong I think you are lady.  you xxx |
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"where to start?
My mum telling me if she had me first, I'd have never had a sister as I put her off kids for life.
Her telling me I was never gonna amount to anything.
Never being allowed emotion or an opinion as a child.
My sons dad not letting me get a job after my son was born, then "joking" about any money I needed having to be paid back to him in kind.
When I was proud of the NVQs I was undertaking and got them signed off, the abusive ex took great pleasure in telling me they were just as worthless as I was, and that NVQ stood for "nearly very qualified" and not worth the paper they were written on.
Being dragged around the pub car park by my hair, shoved into the car and physically pulled back out and onto the pavement outside our house by the abusive ex because I went looking for him at the pub when my gut insctint was screaming he was cheating on me. Which he was. With the woman he was talking to at the pub as I walked in. Got too close for comfort that night didn't I and needed teaching a lesson.
One minute being the love of someone's life and the person they want to make plans with, then discovering that yes, he loves you but you're nothing more than a mistress and that's never gonna change because he wasn't just lying to me, he was lying to himself and his wife.
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ya Peachy xx |
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"where to start?
My mum telling me if she had me first, I'd have never had a sister as I put her off kids for life.
Her telling me I was never gonna amount to anything.
Never being allowed emotion or an opinion as a child.
My sons dad not letting me get a job after my son was born, then "joking" about any money I needed having to be paid back to him in kind.
When I was proud of the NVQs I was undertaking and got them signed off, the abusive ex took great pleasure in telling me they were just as worthless as I was, and that NVQ stood for "nearly very qualified" and not worth the paper they were written on.
Being dragged around the pub car park by my hair, shoved into the car and physically pulled back out and onto the pavement outside our house by the abusive ex because I went looking for him at the pub when my gut insctint was screaming he was cheating on me. Which he was. With the woman he was talking to at the pub as I walked in. Got too close for comfort that night didn't I and needed teaching a lesson.
One minute being the love of someone's life and the person they want to make plans with, then discovering that yes, he loves you but you're nothing more than a mistress and that's never gonna change because he wasn't just lying to me, he was lying to himself and his wife.
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Takes someone with a pretty awesome constitution to have overcome all of those things and still be able to laugh |
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