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Finding my confidence is taking a real hit being on here, do struggle with conversation at first but do loosen up after a while. Always doubted myself and my looks but thats part of the world we live in now. Maybe i was born 30 years to late!!!!! Lockdown and risk of job lose also affecting my mood but Fab is making me feel ugly and a social outcast |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do t mean this in a nasty way or anything against you, but if Fab is making you feel that way then leave or hide your profile and return when your in a better place mentally.
If something is making you feel negative and you can remove that negativity, even if just temporarily, then it should help.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Finding my confidence is taking a real hit being on here, do struggle with conversation at first but do loosen up after a while. Always doubted myself and my looks but thats part of the world we live in now. Maybe i was born 30 years to late!!!!! Lockdown and risk of job lose also affecting my mood but Fab is making me feel ugly and a social outcast"
Mate don’t judge urself on wat goes on here on this site ! This is a dating site that’s all it means nothing in the scheme of wats really important !!!
try take it less serious and trust me you will enjoy it far more !  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hide your profile, take a break for a wee while. Not everyone will like not everyone will be attracted to you. But we are all beautiful in our own way.
As the saying goes "can't be everyone's cup of tea but you will be someone's".
Sending you hugs  |
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This site is meant to be about fun. If it's making you have negative feelings then perhaps don't log on for a while and see how you feel.
Good luck on the job front and hope your overall mood lifts soon.
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Fab makes a lot of us feel like that at times. Sometimes I have to step away from it for a while. On the other side though once you do make connections with a few people it is a much better place and can build your confidence up.
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jump into the forums (partixipate in Torso Tuesday) more and post on threads - it's great fun if you don't take it too seriously.
Change some of your photos - you in your Calvin Klein tighty whities is more the style (too many cock shots will attract in the men more than the women).
But if it's really getting you down then hide your profile and stop. If you're stuck at home then get out and go for a walk to help lift you're mood.
Good luck
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"Finding my confidence is taking a real hit being on here, do struggle with conversation at first but do loosen up after a while. Always doubted myself and my looks but thats part of the world we live in now. Maybe i was born 30 years to late!!!!! Lockdown and risk of job lose also affecting my mood but Fab is making me feel ugly and a social outcast"
Hi I know the feeling buddy. Like others have said. If this site is feeding your anxieties and low esteem issues, drop it like a hot potato even if it's just taking a break for a month.... Find another site to play on for a bit.. Or better still pick up a book. I'm going to follow my own advice for similar reasons too. I wish you well with it and see you back here in a couple of months in a happier place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding my confidence is taking a real hit being on here, do struggle with conversation at first but do loosen up after a while. Always doubted myself and my looks but thats part of the world we live in now. Maybe i was born 30 years to late!!!!! Lockdown and risk of job lose also affecting my mood but Fab is making me feel ugly and a social outcast"
Me too. It can also get quite depressing, especially when you've had a really bad day! |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Some great advice on here already OP.
Remember, Fab is choc full of men and women not so much, so there is always going to be a bit of a clamour to stand out. That DOES NOT mean there is owt wrong with you or anyone else. It’s just a numbers game.
If it’s not fun, step away. It’s really not worth it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some great advice on here already OP.
Remember, Fab is choc full of men and women not so much, so there is always going to be a bit of a clamour to stand out. That DOES NOT mean there is owt wrong with you or anyone else. It’s just a numbers game.
If it’s not fun, step away. It’s really not worth it.
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Come away and build yourself up. In life, we often find ourselves in situations which point us towards what needs attention in ourselves .. In your case, your confidence and self worth. So it's a good thing to identify what needs to come in and what needs to go in order to look after your well being xxx
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"This site is meant to be about fun. If it's making you have negative feelings then perhaps don't log on for a while and see how you feel.
Good luck on the job front and hope your overall mood lifts soon.
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This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some great advice on here but if your mood is really not lifting and/or getting worse then you need to talk to a GP.
I've been in that downward spiral and, until you can learn to cope with it, you need to talk to a professional. And they are there to help - now more than ever  |
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Sorry to hear that OP.
FAB isn't the best place if you have low self esteem.
There are plenty pf great people on here but it can be a hard place if you are feeling fragile.
Maybe consider one of the social groups like Meet Up,they have groups across the country .
Something like that might be a better fit.
Good luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a brutal place to be a single guy, as you are outnumbered vastly.
Don't take it personally and maybe take a break if it's getting to you.
Looks dont have much to do with it (for us), I've fucked guys I dont find attractive but it's to do with scenario and roleplay.
Hope you have a more positive experience after a breather. |
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By *avinaNWTV/TS
over a year ago
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I have had similar feelings at times with FAB too sometimes it just gets too much. Good advice to take a break reevaluate what you want just pop on briefly when you feel like it or hide your profile dont delete it until you are sure you want to make the break hopefully you will feel better or refreshed soon or as long as it takes...good luck. |
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Oh OP this makes me feel so sad reading this. As everyone else has said it’s all to do with your mood sometimes too when you come on here, if you are feeling rubbish to begin with and then you don’t have a great time talking or browsing on occasion then you might feel worse. So taking a little break is probably the best thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Stop using fab for a couple of weeks. You're choosing to use something that is making you feel bad. "
I would not normally tell anyone to stop using Fab because can be used to turn things around... but reading the OP, this time I have to agree with above poster. Hide profile for a bit if possible. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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If fab is making you feel this way then I'd definitely step away for a bit. Or if you feel you need it from a social interaction point of _iew then maybe forget about messaging for now & just focus on hanging out and chatting in the forums. |
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o/p sorry you are experiencing this. Quite the opposite with me. I've made some great friends on here and have such a good time in the cam rooms and forum chat. Hope you turn this around. Don't get too disheartened. All single guys have difficulty making a connection beyond just friendly chat (if that's what you are looking for) as there are so many of us! Good luck and stay positive. |
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Men coming to fab need to be prepared to be in it for the long haul, whenever they join and to sustain their self esteem and confidence. I don't think it's an environment that can suit everybody, nor for all of the time for them.
Development of self awareness and strategies that support you are important, so you can understand how you are and how to manage things. Unless you have future fixed plans with anyone, keep away at the times when it's too much for you to maintain your wellbeing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding my confidence is taking a real hit being on here, do struggle with conversation at first but do loosen up after a while. Always doubted myself and my looks but thats part of the world we live in now. Maybe i was born 30 years to late!!!!! Lockdown and risk of job lose also affecting my mood but Fab is making me feel ugly and a social outcast"
Take a break and reassess your own fab adventure and maybe approach fab differently as it can be hard if you expect too much from it.!!
As for being ugly I point you towards our photos and I’m the one without the half decent tits and if I was a single bloke on here then I’d get no interest but I’d still enjoy being here as it’s funny crazy sad and frustrating in equal measures.
Chill
Enjoy
Live your best life but most of all stay frosty out there!!!!
Good luck op.
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By (user no longer on site)
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May be try a Fab and Social Media Detox for a couple of weeks?
We all care what people think of us and we all want to feel accepted and liked. I think social media multiplies those thoughts and feelings without us even realising it! It's not healthy to always be under the knife of criticism and negativity and sometimes it's good to take a break from having our lives judged and commented on by complete strangers whom we don’t align with. I've done it and it definitely helps.
P.S. I don't know what you look like but your bod is great x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"May be try a Fab and Social Media Detox for a couple of weeks?
We all care what people think of us and we all want to feel accepted and liked. I think social media multiplies those thoughts and feelings without us even realising it! It's not healthy to always be under the knife of criticism and negativity and sometimes it's good to take a break from having our lives judged and commented on by complete strangers whom we don’t align with. I've done it and it definitely helps.
P.S. I don't know what you look like but your bod is great x"
Wow! What an informative post D. Hope G logs in to read that. "Social Media Detox" x |
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"Its a brutal place to be a single guy"
Fundamentally, this. If you're in a place where you can take it, great, stick around. If you're in a place where you can't... bail. Save yourself. You can always come back another time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"May be try a Fab and Social Media Detox for a couple of weeks?
We all care what people think of us and we all want to feel accepted and liked. I think social media multiplies those thoughts and feelings without us even realising it! It's not healthy to always be under the knife of criticism and negativity and sometimes it's good to take a break from having our lives judged and commented on by complete strangers whom we don’t align with. I've done it and it definitely helps.
P.S. I don't know what you look like but your bod is great x
Wow! What an informative post D. Hope G logs in to read that. "Social Media Detox" x"
I hope he reads it too and he's okay. |
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"Finding my confidence is taking a real hit being on here, do struggle with conversation at first but do loosen up after a while. Always doubted myself and my looks but thats part of the world we live in now. Maybe i was born 30 years to late!!!!! Lockdown and risk of job lose also affecting my mood but Fab is making me feel ugly and a social outcast"
Being more popular on here doesn't necessarily make you feel any better... |
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Thankyou for good advice everyone, think i knew thats what was needed so will step back for a bit. The world seems like a shit place sometimes but lovely to know there people that dont know me but still care. Thanks all and happy swinging. Much love |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve hidden my profile for a while because I feel like that, plus just sick of the constant amount of mails and “certain people” constantly having a go because I haven’t had the chance to mail them back before going off their rocker because I’d been online 5 minutes previously!! It’s made this site a bit “uncomfortable” for me right now.
Hide profile and try and lighten it by either getting in some of the more fun threads or stepping away completely for a while xx |
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Have some of my diamonds for breakfast and then sparkle all day long.
Be gentle on yourself from one nylon lover to another...............
There is always a lid for every pot. It just takes time to find a compatible fit.
You look great by the way........ 
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