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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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I've seen a few threads like this popping up over the last couple of weeks and I was wondering; what do you do when you're feeling low and alone? Do you have a favourite film you like to watch or do you exercise to get those endorphins going etc? |
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It depends on how bad I'm feeling. If it's really bad I'll call the Samaritans or try to sleep it off. Otherwise I'll try to reach out to friends or work on my self help techniques (why I'm ok as I am combined with some sort of distraction usually) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get out, get busy and hug my dog. Even those surrounded by people can be lonely? Some of us live too much in our heads and not enough in the real world. I know that's easier said than done for some though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go out for a ride on my bike, that usually works. I’m still learning and adjusting to living alone, I don’t mind my own company, it just is lonely sometimes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sleep, I sleep a lot when I'm down. It's the depression, so rather than sit up alone every evening I just go to sleep 
I work 9-5 then I'm in bed by 7:30pm same time as the 5 year old, I try not to stay awake because my mind wanders to bad places. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I put my all time favourite romcom - "About Last Nite" (1986, Rob Lowe, Demi Moore), crack open a bottle (or two) of Champagne, ( whatever Sainsbury's has on discount ), and sigh, lots of sighing ... because big boys don't cry.
Oh and Walking at Night like after midnight has become a huge habit lately... |
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Weirdly I feel the most lonely when surrounded by lots of people. So my normal coping mechanism is to head off to the hills for fresh air, all the better if it isn't raining and I can take a book to read on my trek too. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more. "
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you"."
100% . At stage in my life I'm fed up been the one that reaches out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you"."
Never be afraid to reach out, people are incredibly responsive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you"."
Ah, this.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who lives on their own, with no housemates, pets, partners, kids. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I put my all time favourite romcom - "About Last Nite" (1986, Rob Lowe, Demi Moore), crack open a bottle (or two) of Champagne, ( whatever Sainsbury's has on discount ), and sigh, lots of sighing ... because big boys don't cry.
Oh and Walking at Night like after midnight has become a huge habit lately..."
Rob Lowe is amazing so I'm fully behind this coping. 
P.S Every one can cry. It's okay to as well. |
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"Usually turn the music up and get lost in singing like no one is listening, pretty much what I’m doing now,  music
What music is on atm?"
Right this second it’s George Michael version of somebody to love, great for singing too, before that was - one republic |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I sleep, I sleep a lot when I'm down. It's the depression, so rather than sit up alone every evening I just go to sleep
I work 9-5 then I'm in bed by 7:30pm same time as the 5 year old, I try not to stay awake because my mind wanders to bad places. "
Sending you hugs, I get the sleeping coping. x |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you".
Ah, this.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who lives on their own, with no housemates, pets, partners, kids."
Even with the aforementioned things you can still be alone. You can always message me if you feel like that, you know that Lily x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I put my all time favourite romcom - "About Last Nite" (1986, Rob Lowe, Demi Moore), crack open a bottle (or two) of Champagne, ( whatever Sainsbury's has on discount ), and sigh, lots of sighing ... because big boys don't cry.
Oh and Walking at Night like after midnight has become a huge habit lately...
Rob Lowe is amazing so I'm fully behind this coping.
P.S Every one can cry. It's okay to as well."
Sure, I have on occasion let a tear or two flow - but it quickly turns into THAT scene from Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs 2 - where the Earl cries -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sc2o1AiJx6E
hee ... also laughing does make me feel a lot better too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you".
Ah, this.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person who lives on their own, with no housemates, pets, partners, kids.
Even with the aforementioned things you can still be alone. You can always message me if you feel like that, you know that Lily x"
I will bear that in mind chickie xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you"."
I would always rather be 'burdened' than not if ever anyone ever needed to talk. I can listen till the cows come home. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I sleep, I sleep a lot when I'm down. It's the depression, so rather than sit up alone every evening I just go to sleep
I work 9-5 then I'm in bed by 7:30pm same time as the 5 year old, I try not to stay awake because my mind wanders to bad places. "
I also do the sleeping thing , finish work straight to bed and sleep , then your mind can’t play games and make you worse , I think of a good time in my life like a holiday and then I go off to sleep , depression is the bane of my life |
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Sleep or watch something brainless on Netflix. Wish I had more productive coping mechanisms! :D
Just given up on OLD so I'll be Netflix-ing sons of anarchy tonight and feeling glum, hoping the feeling has passed by tomorrow :/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bike ride, walk, cook, eat, wine, read YouTube, Forum, Netflix.
I'm used to being alone as I don't have any friends nearby - only a couple of flakey family members I'm not close with.
I've made my peace with it.
Now I'm not working I do feel like I'm in Groundhog Day - and I can no longer shop because I'm broke 
But at least my soul is intact and isn't being destroyed daily by a toxic environment!
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm lucky in that I'm quite happy to be alone a lot of the time and do have friends locally for film nights and the like but there have been moments over the lockdown where I've missed company. Usually I watch a favourite film of TV show, binge something new, listen to some records while reading a book - that kind of thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would always withdraw and shut myself away from people but in company put on a brave face, but now I'm older and read around self help books etc and along with my work I've developed better ways to cope when I feel down, lost or lonely. I live alone and am single but i have an amazing daughter who I am blessed to have around. I use walking and exercise to boost my mood, the endorphins definitely help. I find cooking relaxing and takes my mimd off things bothering me. I've met some lovely fab friends who are really supportive and more so than my vanilla friends to be honest. Without them the lockdown would have been difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a very busy house and I also enjoy my own company mostly.
I feel loneliest when I’m happiest, when I have exciting news and no one to share it with or when I’m alone and content in the evening, when some company would make it perfect... I don’t really do anything about it. Just put it to the back of my mind. |
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Being alone is very different to being lonely.
I very much enjoy my own company, there’s always so much to do.
On the rare occasions I feel lonely, my solution is to call a good friend or family member. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Not lonely as such for me, but more generalised low mood, i tend to put my comfort music on (old Fleetwood Mac/Stevie Nicks) and watch films that are reassuringly familiar, like Practical Magic, Sense & Sensibility and just have a bloody good cry as and when i’m alone.
If it’s looking like it will last a few days then the latin dance music comes out and i get walking in nature.
I also scroll endlessly on Pinterest and try to read positive uplifting words, like a positive thoughts mood board kind of thing. I also have different music playlists for my different moods, which helps and like to browse spotify for new inspiration.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sleep, I sleep a lot when I'm down. It's the depression, so rather than sit up alone every evening I just go to sleep
I work 9-5 then I'm in bed by 7:30pm same time as the 5 year old, I try not to stay awake because my mind wanders to bad places.
I also do the sleeping thing , finish work straight to bed and sleep , then your mind can’t play games and make you worse , I think of a good time in my life like a holiday and then I go off to sleep , depression is the bane of my life "
These!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I sleep, I sleep a lot when I'm down. It's the depression, so rather than sit up alone every evening I just go to sleep
I work 9-5 then I'm in bed by 7:30pm same time as the 5 year old, I try not to stay awake because my mind wanders to bad places. "
Feel free to message me if you’re ever in a low place, we can discuss (argue)! as to who really is the best..Turks or Jacks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exercise.I go for a bike ride.I did one today.You feel good connect with nature and get a good night sleep.I also watch early Mel Brooks films ie Blazing sSaddles,Gene wlder/Rihard Pryor films ie Stir Crazy off-kilt!1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sleep.
Forum.
Eat.
Cry.
Listen to an audio book.
Then start getting into healthier options for distraction. "
How funny... pretty much this!  it's what I'm doing now and this made me smile. |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more. "
Go sit elsewhere, listen to music, keep away from others. Check for messages umpteen times a day. Watch a film. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Not lonely as such for me, but more generalised low mood, i tend to put my comfort music on (old Fleetwood Mac/Stevie Nicks) and watch films that are reassuringly familiar, like Practical Magic, Sense & Sensibility and just have a bloody good cry as and when i’m alone.
If it’s looking like it will last a few days then the latin dance music comes out and i get walking in nature.
I also scroll endlessly on Pinterest and try to read positive uplifting words, like a positive thoughts mood board kind of thing. I also have different music playlists for my different moods, which helps and like to browse spotify for new inspiration.
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Oh I can lose time very happily on Pinterest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been 'lonely' until March this year when it felt like my world had come to an end. I've coped through most days by putting on a front with friends, family and customers to the point where I've convinced myself that its alright.
Throwing myself into DIY and helping with other peoples projects has also helped.
Sundays have been the worst, the shops closed, phones are silent, place feels empty, even facebook has stopped sending me notifications 
My heart goes out to any of you that are isolating alone. I only have to deal with it one day a week and it's difficult. I can't imagine what it must be like. Willing to lend an ear or a shoulder if needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've seen a few threads like this popping up over the last couple of weeks and I was wondering; what do you do when you're feeling low and alone? Do you have a favourite film you like to watch or do you exercise to get those endorphins going etc? "
I go swimming with endorphins |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But in all seriousness I haven’t had human contact in 3 months and I’m getting a little bit fucked off with it now, there’s only so much running and cycling you can do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Pour a glass of red, read, and have a bath.
Being lonely sometimes can be a little overwhelming, but I remind myself that nothing is worse than being lonely whilst in a relationship. |
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I don’t often get lonely preferring the company of my own old bones. There are times when I get down and I remind myself that I am blessed, that times have been harder, and that I have more friends today than I have ever had.
These last few months I have made myself more available to those people who I have come to realise are important to me. I genuinely miss the laughter of those friends and thought again about my desires to live a solitary life.
I have to come to realise that for me being lonely is a selfish act and I move forward endeavouring to be a better friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Great thread Meli
I have a habit of going quiet and shutting myself away, get lost in my head, wallow for a bit then pick myself back and crack on. I'm trying to get better at reaching out to my friends. |
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By *B 4099Man
over a year ago
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"I find I hide away which only compounds the loneliness more.
Yeah, I do this as well. And then thoughts spiral and it all seems a lot more. It's not easy reaching out though is it? People have their own lives and you don't want to burden them with your "you".
100% . At stage in my life I'm fed up been the one that reaches out."
yep . Sometimes I don't know when to reach out because don't like to bother people so its weird, I want to help but don't want to bother people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Listen to music think about going back on holiday to see my family in the u.s..,also go for a walk or read or go for a skate.., being on here can kill a lot of time..,not that it’s that constructive lol.,, |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Depends on the level of low. Fab has given me a place where I can find a boost any time by making someone smile.
If it gets bad, I have a fabulous video message from my nephew that always cheers me up. Because he is my best love  |
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A good cry in solitude, or a walk in the countryside usually gets me back on an even keel. It's rare that I'll reach out to anyone as I don't like to be a burden...people have their own stuff going on. |
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I do enjoy my own company and need time to chill from others - even if it's only virtual - as I can get rather wired and 'high' (which can go awry and end up plummetting).
But during lockdown I have found my way into these forums to find a space just for me away from rl.
And in the last few days I've smiled - and even cracked a laugh (out loud even).
So thank you for buoying me up even if I do need a few hours break from everyone to de-wire.
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"I've seen a few threads like this popping up over the last couple of weeks and I was wondering; what do you do when you're feeling low and alone? Do you have a favourite film you like to watch or do you exercise to get those endorphins going etc? "
I bake cookies while listening to happy songs.
Works most of the time. |
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