Nothing. I was blessed. Although I come from what is described as a “broken home” I can honestly say that there was always love, food and shelter. We might not have had much else but I have learnt that those things mean very little. |
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Yes, but only if I could change it for everyone else that grew up with the negative experiences I had too. Otherwise, I'm determined to use them positively. |
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It wasn’t a walk in the park, I certainly wouldn’t have allowed myself to be caught in my Mother’s nightie and the beating I got afterwards, to ‘cure me’ #failed 
But like others have said, I’m the person I am now because of it, I do appreciate silence as much as I enjoy company. My Children now are reaping the benefits of a Dad who won’t put them through some of the crap he had to endure. Just waffle on about it when I’m older  |
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Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.  |
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"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex. "
Oh it's complex. I like who I am.
For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no. |
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"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.
Oh it's complex. I like who I am.
For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no."
Fair enough...everyone deals differently with shit...I have my ways and my thoughts and they work for me.. |
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"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex. "
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"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.
Oh it's complex. I like who I am.
For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no.
Fair enough...everyone deals differently with shit...I have my ways and my thoughts and they work for me.."
Oh I deal. I've overcome a lot. But it's been fucking hard. |
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"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.
Oh it's complex. I like who I am.
For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no.
Fair enough...everyone deals differently with shit...I have my ways and my thoughts and they work for me..
Oh I deal. I've overcome a lot. But it's been fucking hard."
I hear what you re saying..mine will go to the grave folding me in a corner in the night in tears but I can t change it so I ve found ways of dealing with it as have you. Keep dealing but enjoy this life...my greatest respect and best wishes to you and all those struggling with darkness n demons. x |
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Having recently got divorced myself, I guess I wish my parents had divorced and both found individual happiness rather than combined misery. But I don’t think they would have necessarily risen to the challenge!
Maybe to have taken a year out and then done the degree that my heart wanted me to.
I used to think ‘if only’, but I don’t often now because I’m making my own life what I want. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
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"Nothing. I was blessed. Although I come from what is described as a “broken home” I can honestly say that there was always love, food and shelter. We might not have had much else but I have learnt that those things mean very little. "
As a single mum, it’s really good to hear that |
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Nothing.
It wasn't perfect and we had little money when was young.
But I had wonderfully loving, caring and supportive parents.
I lost family members who I loved very much as a teenager. In many ways I was more "adult" than my peers, but that has shaped who I am and I hope am a better person as a result. |
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My lovely Mother pretty much raised us and it was a brilliant childhood full of magic and adventure ànd non conformity. I'd swap out the father figure for someone more suited to the role.  |
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I know it probably sounds cheesy and atypical of a forumite trying to please everyone but I am grateful for my parents and grandparents guidance to make me who I am today. It wasn't all plain sailing like when my biological father decided he wanted additional relationships. He left us with nothing except for a mortgage on 18% interest (80s). But I have a man in my life now who I call dad and he's amazing. I'm lucky. |
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"Technically every millisecond..from being born..I now have ptsd due to those years but why technically? Because if I changed one second then I would not be the person I am now. I ve turned all that bad into doing and writing for good, to help others..so ok 3 years being happy and free and the real me out of 55 years seems a bad deal but on the other hand..its complex.
Oh it's complex. I like who I am.
For me, is it worth what I've been through? Fuck no."
I can totally relate. For the most part I like who I am but I do have my insecurities and def not worth what I went through.
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"If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
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I generally think I had a really good upbringing and I think both parents of alive would be very happy |
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I am the result of all the decisions I have made in my life. Good or bad, therefore I would change nothing as I would not be who I am now :
A person who makes no mistakes in their life .... makes nothing xxx |
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I ,Jason, am who I ame because of my upbringing. Belfast was a hard place but the people in general are good.
I would change the way I treated some of my partners in the past. I wasn't always a good guy. I look back on some of those times with shame |
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I wouldn’t change a thing about my childhood, it wasn’t always sunshine and lollipops but we made the most of what we had. My heart goes out to the people that didn’t and don’t have that, not all people are cut out to be parents unfortunately no one realises that until the children are already here, I know my words won’t mean much to some people but I mean it sincerely   |
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I didn't have a very happy childhood at all but I also wouldn't go back and change anything as my life experiences and my own personal decisions have contributed towards me being the person I am today with my independence, strength, determination intermingled with a kindness toward others, a desire to be loved and a vulnerability that's endearing.
I am just me and I wouldn't change who I have become because of the negativity I have experienced during my childhood.
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Nothing. I had a good childhood. Any problematic aspects I’ve worked through and learned from. I always felt safe, secure, loved and esteemed And my development and enjoyment of my young life was a priority for my parents. I feel blessed and very fortunate. |
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Its fine as it is. I don't think anyone has a perfect childhood. We realise our parents were human and subject to the same troubles and strife we endure.
I suppose my first bike was a bit shit and I had to wear flares with elastic waist, but hey I could have been subjected to all sorts of brain washing by fanatical activist parents. Luckily I was allowed to be me. |
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Two things. My mum did everything in the house and when I left I didn't know how to cook, iron or clean. It was all about of a shock, I made sure my son could do all three.
The second is that my family are emotionally distant, no hugging and very little praise. Quite cold in retrospect, they still are it's just how my mum and dad are, my sister is the same. |
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