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"It's cool with me if their wife is genuinely okay with it. We're not married but it's the type of relationship me and my partner have. "
I think a lot say they do (or not mention being married) but ruin it for the genuine guys! |
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"I met a married man but knew his wife well. They started to play alone and i was his first solo meet. Thought it would be awkward but we had a blast.
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Good to know it can work then! Glad it worked out well  |
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"If permission is given I'm good with that x
Good to know  met any married guys yet?
I have and had wifes approval x"
I'm the same, I've my hubbys permission x |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?"
Yes... and I've been in that position x |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Yes... and I've been in that position x
Work out well? x"
It was a lot of fun!
I considered myself lucky! Great to see a marriage so open and trusting x |
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"If permission is given I'm good with that x
Good to know met any married guys yet?
I have and had wifes approval x
I'm the same, I've my hubbys permission x
So there is hope out there then! x"
Theres always hope  |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Yes... and I've been in that position x
Work out well? x
It was a lot of fun!
I considered myself lucky! Great to see a marriage so open and trusting x"
Rare to find isn’t it, obviously my wife found it easier to find a playmate haha x |
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"Yes, but I dont just take their word for it, I do check with the wife. Usually it has been a couple I have played with together though, & it is the wife who has approached me. "
Guess it makes it easier to believe that way, rather than just take his word for it! |
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"If permission is given I'm good with that x
Good to know met any married guys yet?
I have and had wifes approval x
I'm the same, I've my hubbys permission x
So there is hope out there then! x
Theres always hope "
Fingers crossed!! x |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Yes... and I've been in that position x
Work out well? x
It was a lot of fun!
I considered myself lucky! Great to see a marriage so open and trusting x
Rare to find isn’t it, obviously my wife found it easier to find a playmate haha x"
Well, the wife also had more meets on their account! Tbh I wanted them both, but she was working lol |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Yes... and I've been in that position x
Work out well? x
It was a lot of fun!
I considered myself lucky! Great to see a marriage so open and trusting x
Rare to find isn’t it, obviously my wife found it easier to find a playmate haha x
Well, the wife also had more meets on their account! Tbh I wanted them both, but she was working lol"
Haha hopefully you’ll get another chance! x |
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My personal thing is, I couldn’t and wouldn’t do it. No married or attached here. Just my personal choice. No malice to those that do, just not my choice x |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?"
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this? |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?"
Social meet, phone call, video call etc? |
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"My personal thing is, I couldn’t and wouldn’t do it. No married or attached here. Just my personal choice. No malice to those that do, just not my choice x"
And that’s fair enough, everyone is different x |
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"Yes. I wouldn't meet him. I only meet single men or attached where their partner is not aware.
Outsider, why is it important to you that a guy's OH is not aware? "
Because my sex life is private. I don't want him discussing it with his partner. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?"
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way."
I've become really good friends with one of my partner's play partners. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way."
We have a couples profile on here too, she plays alone with guys/girls as well, but hey where you’re coming from |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way.
I've become really good friends with one of my partner's play partners. "
Nice to find someone with the same outlook! |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"Yes. I wouldn't meet him. I only meet single men or attached where their partner is not aware.
Outsider, why is it important to you that a guy's OH is not aware?
Because my sex life is private. I don't want him discussing it with his partner. "
Huh. Interesting. |
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"Yes. I wouldn't meet him. I only meet single men or attached where their partner is not aware.
Outsider, why is it important to you that a guy's OH is not aware?
Because my sex life is private. I don't want him discussing it with his partner.
Huh. Interesting."
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?"
We have /do meet hitched guys ...with or without permission.....as long as its a no hassle meet /play alls good ..in fact Sue tends to like married guys as they treat her nicely ..
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Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
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Thanks a bunch  .
Partner swapping! On a swingers site! Who'd have thought!? |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
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Well, aren't you just adorable... 
*psst* You might want to take a look at the website header and remember where you are.  |
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I'm part of a couple on here but also have permission to play with women and couples with or without my partner.
It's something we've discussed at length and so far works for us as she's a Cuckquean. |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
Well, aren't you just adorable...
*psst* You might want to take a look at the website header and remember where you are. "
You mean this isn’t an I love monogamy site?? I best leave now |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
Thanks a bunch .
Partner swapping! On a swingers site! Who'd have thought!? "
Maybe we’re approaching this lifestyle all wrong!! |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
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I feel you may be on the wrong site ....  |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
I feel you may be on the wrong site .... "
Maybe it is is that’s wrong |
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We both share together and go solo any new partner can check with either of us if they want to and they have done.
Don't follow the idea of, only do it if the wife doesn't know but hey, not my circus, not my monkeys. I'm not gonna start being all ranty and insulting folks for being different. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way.
I've become really good friends with one of my partner's play partners. "
Of course, I have my own experience of extending social network through partners of partners. But in the specific case of men married to women who are not sexually active I've not seen any who were open to it. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way.
We have a couples profile on here too, she plays alone with guys/girls as well, but hey where you’re coming from "
Oooh that explains! I misunderstood the "out of action" bit on your profile. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way.
We have a couples profile on here too, she plays alone with guys/girls as well, but hey where you’re coming from
Oooh that explains! I misunderstood the "out of action" bit on your profile."
No problem we’re both free to play if we want to, as long as we are both open about it. We don’t want to be going behind each other’s back. More of a turn on knowing what we are getting up to!
Not that I get much solo action haha |
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It is difficult for married men to get meets with single fems and couples even when they have permission to do. We have a couples and single profiles which reference each other, which should give some indication that what is said is true.
As for details the wife likes to know that I'm having a meet, but doesn't want to know details. While I on the other hand want to know details and love to see pictures. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way.
I've become really good friends with one of my partner's play partners.
Of course, I have my own experience of extending social network through partners of partners. But in the specific case of men married to women who are not sexually active I've not seen any who were open to it."
I know poly asexual people who are friendly with partner's other partners |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
Thanks a bunch .
Partner swapping! On a swingers site! Who'd have thought!? "
just wow!
Ok so here's my actual thoughts on this OP. As the unbelievable rant above illustrates - lots of people even on here are invested in monogamy and specifically hold marriage to special esteem. Some don't quite understand the difference between consensual nonmonogamy and cheating, and a few even don't believe there is a difference. Personally I do not talk about my marital status because it trips people up so badly - when I mention my boyfriend most don't bat an eyelid and don't believe he gets a say even though I've been with him for nearly a decade. But when I mention my husband I am suddenly held to a smorgasbord of expectations or obligations that actually have nothing to do with my marriage. So I understand the scrutiny you are experiencing. When I talk to partnered people I drill them to get a feel for their dynamic. Men whose partners are also active are pretty straight-forward, they get it. Men whose partners are inactive are generally very mono-minded and in a cheaters mentality even when they have permission. I would never ask for proof or confirmation, if I have doubts or don't like the sound of it I just pass. Adulterously yours
Oh, and keep on having your cake and eating it everyone! |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
JOOC what kind of proof can be provided in a situation like this?
Social meet, phone call, video call etc?
I am genuinely surprised your wife is happy to socially meet with your potentials, I think it's super rare. Most of the men I've come across who had or claimed to have permission from a sexually inactive partner, it was on condition that the partner wouldn't have to hear about it in any way.
I've become really good friends with one of my partner's play partners.
Of course, I have my own experience of extending social network through partners of partners. But in the specific case of men married to women who are not sexually active I've not seen any who were open to it.
I know poly asexual people who are friendly with partner's other partners "
Again sure but not a common fabs reality! How am I supposed to generalise if you keep bringing up the exceptions |
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"It is difficult for married men to get meets with single fems and couples even when they have permission to do. We have a couples and single profiles which reference each other, which should give some indication that what is said is true.
As for details the wife likes to know that I'm having a meet, but doesn't want to know details. While I on the other hand want to know details and love to see pictures."
Does she ask for their permission to take pics and also let them know you will be looking at them? |
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"It is difficult for married men to get meets with single fems and couples even when they have permission to do. We have a couples and single profiles which reference each other, which should give some indication that what is said is true.
As for details the wife likes to know that I'm having a meet, but doesn't want to know details. While I on the other hand want to know details and love to see pictures.
Does she ask for their permission to take pics and also let them know you will be looking at them?"
Yes generally in the lead up chat it is mentioned that I don't have a problem with her meeting on her own, and that I enjoy seeing pictures while they are together. Quite often it will be the person she is with who will take the pictures. |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
Thanks a bunch .
Partner swapping! On a swingers site! Who'd have thought!?
just wow!
Ok so here's my actual thoughts on this OP. As the unbelievable rant above illustrates - lots of people even on here are invested in monogamy and specifically hold marriage to special esteem. Some don't quite understand the difference between consensual nonmonogamy and cheating, and a few even don't believe there is a difference. Personally I do not talk about my marital status because it trips people up so badly - when I mention my boyfriend most don't bat an eyelid and don't believe he gets a say even though I've been with him for nearly a decade. But when I mention my husband I am suddenly held to a smorgasbord of expectations or obligations that actually have nothing to do with my marriage. So I understand the scrutiny you are experiencing. When I talk to partnered people I drill them to get a feel for their dynamic. Men whose partners are also active are pretty straight-forward, they get it. Men whose partners are inactive are generally very mono-minded and in a cheaters mentality even when they have permission. I would never ask for proof or confirmation, if I have doubts or don't like the sound of it I just pass. Adulterously yours
Oh, and keep on having your cake and eating it everyone! "
Not much cake to be had as a solo guy! 
No judgment on anyone’s situation, if you’re on here keeping secret that you’re married, that’s your business, not for me but it’s your choice.
But the genuine people being open and honest about their situation fair play, and some of us do have partners that understand mainly because they want to play to if they want to!
My wife isn’t currently actively playing, she goes on the couples profile to see if anyone catches her eye, if they do she is free to play
Only have the solo profile because if there was an option between the guy and the girl from a couple I think 99 times out of hundred then girl would be picked!! |
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I have a married fwb. Have met his wife several times in a club we all frequent. He’s lovely - she’s lovely - it works perfectly.
Only difference between him and my other playmates is that I tend to wait for him to contact me rather than vice versa (we chat online every few days) as I wouldn’t want to disturb his wife/family time! Xx |
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"I have a married fwb. Have met his wife several times in a club we all frequent. He’s lovely - she’s lovely - it works perfectly.
Only difference between him and my other playmates is that I tend to wait for him to contact me rather than vice versa (we chat online every few days) as I wouldn’t want to disturb his wife/family time! Xx"
Would be nice if everyone had that outlook, fab life would be so much easier! x |
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"It is difficult for married men to get meets with single fems and couples even when they have permission to do. We have a couples and single profiles which reference each other, which should give some indication that what is said is true.
As for details the wife likes to know that I'm having a meet, but doesn't want to know details. While I on the other hand want to know details and love to see pictures.
Does she ask for their permission to take pics and also let them know you will be looking at them?
Yes generally in the lead up chat it is mentioned that I don't have a problem with her meeting on her own, and that I enjoy seeing pictures while they are together. Quite often it will be the person she is with who will take the pictures."
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?"
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form |
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"I have a married fwb. Have met his wife several times in a club we all frequent. He’s lovely - she’s lovely - it works perfectly.
Only difference between him and my other playmates is that I tend to wait for him to contact me rather than vice versa (we chat online every few days) as I wouldn’t want to disturb his wife/family time! Xx"
lucky. I can only dream of that kind of set up  |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form"
Think this post was first
Some women are happy for their partners to play (my wife being one of them) I appreciate they will be in the minority but they do exist |
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"Why the fuck would u want to fuck other women anywsy if u can fuck ur wife any time
Just a fuckin excuse for all sad desperste men to hav their cake n eat it
Greedy bastards
Wife must b fuckin thick to let him fuck other women
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I thought swinging was to keep the marital sex life alive and interesting? I keep reading couples love 'reclaim sex'. One person can offer everything to another, it's impossible and I wouldn't want to put that pressure on anyone. |
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I tend not to get hung up on the whole permission thing. If the guy is a lousy husband and wants to risk his marriage that’s his problem. I’m not a marriage councillor I’m here to play. So long as there’s no drama.
If he’s playing away I’m probably not the first or last he’s going to do it with?? |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form
Think this post was first
Some women are happy for their partners to play (my wife being one of them) I appreciate they will be in the minority but they do exist "
Yup you're right, sorry.
yes but it's seems a rarity |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form"
My husband plays with other women and I have no involvement. His single meets are his own. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form
My husband plays with other women and I have no involvement. His single meets are his own. "
See they do exist! |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form
My husband plays with other women and I have no involvement. His single meets are his own.
See they do exist! "
yuuuuup |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form
Think this post was first
Some women are happy for their partners to play (my wife being one of them) I appreciate they will be in the minority but they do exist
Yup you're right, sorry.
yes but it's seems a rarity"
No problem
I agree they’re rare but there is the exception to to rule |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form
My husband plays with other women and I have no involvement. His single meets are his own.
See they do exist! yuuuuup "
The kind of attitude we like to see |
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"I tend not to get hung up on the whole permission thing. If the guy is a lousy husband and wants to risk his marriage that’s his problem. I’m not a marriage councillor I’m here to play. So long as there’s no drama.
If he’s playing away I’m probably not the first or last he’s going to do it with??"
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Permission from the partners mouth and that's it.
I'd have to get to know them as a couple first and be 100% sure I wasn't being mugged off by someone posing as the wife/partner.
I don't care if they'll cheat with someone else so why not be me, just no.
Families get destroyed and I don't want a devastated child/partner on my conscience.
I have been cheated on. I wasn't that fussed he cheated, but the thing that sent me into a breakdown was the lying. I didn't know what was real, who I could trust. I ended up off work for 9 months rebuilding my confidence because the world as I saw it was a very different place from the one I had been living.
Could I be part of doing that to someone else knowing what it feels like? Fuck no.
I may not be doing the lying or cheating, but I would be enabling it and that makes me just as guilty. |
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"I have a married fwb. Have met his wife several times in a club we all frequent. He’s lovely - she’s lovely - it works perfectly.
Only difference between him and my other playmates is that I tend to wait for him to contact me rather than vice versa (we chat online every few days) as I wouldn’t want to disturb his wife/family time! Xx"
This is the same for me. Respecting boundaries for family time for both sides is an important part of our relationship |
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"I have a married fwb. Have met his wife several times in a club we all frequent. He’s lovely - she’s lovely - it works perfectly.
Only difference between him and my other playmates is that I tend to wait for him to contact me rather than vice versa (we chat online every few days) as I wouldn’t want to disturb his wife/family time! Xx
lucky. I can only dream of that kind of set up "
Tbh I doubt I’d deliberately seek out an fwb who’s already in a relationship. For me there are no real advantages - and perhaps disadvantages as naturally his wife and family always come first. I just happened to get to know him socially in the club and we got on really well - so things progressed from there. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t |
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"From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t "
I think it’s far easier to start such a friendship with someone you’ve met as a couple in a social setting - as we did. By knowing him socially first I knew their relationship was totally solid and it was far easier to set the parameters of our friendship. That being said, I still wouldn’t have bothered if he wasn’t very hot, bloody good company and fabulous in bed!  |
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My wife knows I come on here and seems to be quite happy for me to find a couple to play with. She's lost interest in the physical side of our relationship so isn't fused if I get my fun elsewhere, in fact I think she's quite keen on it as it's less pressure on her! However she doesn't want to be involved in any way at all and that includes communication with the other couple to give her permission. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t
I think it’s far easier to start such a friendship with someone you’ve met as a couple in a social setting - as we did. By knowing him socially first I knew their relationship was totally solid and it was far easier to set the parameters of our friendship. That being said, I still wouldn’t have bothered if he wasn’t very hot, bloody good company and fabulous in bed! "
I get that and it is common with swinging couples, like the while watching each other and telling each other about sex with others, just not our thing ! |
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We play together and separately.
Finding four people who all click is difficult, it's only happened for us twice. We have had many more threesome or separate encounters.
Why should either of us deny the other fun and experiences? We love each other (cue Nessa from Gavin & Stacey), at the end of the day, when all's said and done. |
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"We play together and separately.
Finding four people who all click is difficult, it's only happened for us twice. We have had many more threesome or separate encounters.
Why should either of us deny the other fun and experiences? We love each other (cue Nessa from Gavin & Stacey), at the end of the day, when all's said and done. "
That’s the way we see it |
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"From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t
I think it’s far easier to start such a friendship with someone you’ve met as a couple in a social setting - as we did. By knowing him socially first I knew their relationship was totally solid and it was far easier to set the parameters of our friendship. That being said, I still wouldn’t have bothered if he wasn’t very hot, bloody good company and fabulous in bed!
I get that and it is common with swinging couples, like the while watching each other and telling each other about sex with others, just not our thing ! "
No idea whether or not he discusses our sexual encounters with his wife - but I’d be surprised if he did. They’re simply in a secure, non monogamous relationship - like many couples on fab who meet separately as well as together! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t
I think it’s far easier to start such a friendship with someone you’ve met as a couple in a social setting - as we did. By knowing him socially first I knew their relationship was totally solid and it was far easier to set the parameters of our friendship. That being said, I still wouldn’t have bothered if he wasn’t very hot, bloody good company and fabulous in bed!
I get that and it is common with swinging couples, like the while watching each other and telling each other about sex with others, just not our thing !
No idea whether or not he discusses our sexual encounters with his wife - but I’d be surprised if he did. They’re simply in a secure, non monogamous relationship - like many couples on fab who meet separately as well as together! "
Exactly - if you are non-monogamous, you have agreed permission and don’t flaunt lovers to your other halves ! |
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"From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t
I think it’s far easier to start such a friendship with someone you’ve met as a couple in a social setting - as we did. By knowing him socially first I knew their relationship was totally solid and it was far easier to set the parameters of our friendship. That being said, I still wouldn’t have bothered if he wasn’t very hot, bloody good company and fabulous in bed!
I get that and it is common with swinging couples, like the while watching each other and telling each other about sex with others, just not our thing !
No idea whether or not he discusses our sexual encounters with his wife - but I’d be surprised if he did. They’re simply in a secure, non monogamous relationship - like many couples on fab who meet separately as well as together!
Exactly - if you are non-monogamous, you have agreed permission and don’t flaunt lovers to your other halves ! "
Agreed. Although I’m aware that for some couples, a large part of their enjoyment comes from chatting about meets later or pics, videos of them.
I definitely wouldn’t be happy for a chap to video a meet to show to his partner later - just not my thing. |
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My other half has a few single women he meets on his own and they know about me I know about them I get on with them and they have been meeting regularly for years so it can happen and work well..I occasionally meet alone to but never have regularly meets on my own because it's not what I want or need I like meeting other ppl with him |
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"I have a married fwb. Have met his wife several times in a club we all frequent. He’s lovely - she’s lovely - it works perfectly.
Only difference between him and my other playmates is that I tend to wait for him to contact me rather than vice versa (we chat online every few days) as I wouldn’t want to disturb his wife/family time! Xx
lucky. I can only dream of that kind of set up
Tbh I doubt I’d deliberately seek out an fwb who’s already in a relationship. For me there are no real advantages - and perhaps disadvantages as naturally his wife and family always come first. I just happened to get to know him socially in the club and we got on really well - so things progressed from there. "
What if the woman just wanted the consented husband for one night only?  |
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"From a guys perspective in a couple, it makes it a bit easier but you get a lot of questions and suspicion. And do you really want to flaunt it or ask your partner to speak to random women to prove you have permission? You either trust someone or you don’t
I think it’s far easier to start such a friendship with someone you’ve met as a couple in a social setting - as we did. By knowing him socially first I knew their relationship was totally solid and it was far easier to set the parameters of our friendship. That being said, I still wouldn’t have bothered if he wasn’t very hot, bloody good company and fabulous in bed!
I get that and it is common with swinging couples, like the while watching each other and telling each other about sex with others, just not our thing !
No idea whether or not he discusses our sexual encounters with his wife - but I’d be surprised if he did. They’re simply in a secure, non monogamous relationship - like many couples on fab who meet separately as well as together! "
Of course every relationship is different but me and my partner personally don't discuss details of sex with other people with each other and I don't discuss sex with him with other people I sleep with either. |
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"Men with genuine permission to play (assuming proof provided if asked for) does that make any difference to women/couples?
Is this a spin off from my post about unicorn hot husbands? from my experience.. virtually zero number of men are allowed to play without their wives being involved physically in some shape or form"
These type of couples do exist |
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Depends on the couple but if the single female is well verified or you all get on well it’s a possibility, it’s all about trust and Maybe a social before hand might put everyone at ease x |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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"A marriage is ment to be fun a part of our fun is time with others alone kept us together for 20 odd years x
Agreed, I think in a sense it helps you appreciate your partner more."
In which way does it help you appreciate your partner more? I’ve had a couple of married guys say this... |
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"A marriage is ment to be fun a part of our fun is time with others alone kept us together for 20 odd years x
Agreed, I think in a sense it helps you appreciate your partner more.
In which way does it help you appreciate your partner more? I’ve had a couple of married guys say this... "
Hard to explain but knowing if she goes out, has her fun elsewhere it’s me she still wants to be with |
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