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As it is quite a niche audience you are looking at, the details like food and drink don't matter as much right now as the people.
Right now, way the world is, focus would be on just building a connection with potential guests and them with each other. The other details work themselves out, that way. Especially with the time you have before you can implement this.
Tl;Dr: I'm just wishing you well and bumping this for suitable people to see. G'luck!  | |||
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"That is a very good point, and thank you Start on the people and let the rest work itself out Appreciate your thoughts" If you press reply +quote we will know who you are replying to x | |||
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"That is a very good point, and thank you Start on the people and let the rest work itself out Appreciate your thoughts If you press reply +quote we will know who you are replying to x" That is sooo helpful, thank you XxX | |||
"Yes there would be a guy present as we are a couple, however he is more interested in the BDSM side, but play can be considered " This sounds more like a male fantasy than a women only event | |||
"I think you'll only need one loaf for the sandwiches " And lose the sausage rolls!  | |||
"I think potentially and in theory it's a good idea - couple of comments though... You say it's a party for ladies only and yet throughout your post you use the term "we" which as a M/F couple would immediately raise concerns, if I were a lady, that the male half would be present or that the potential for his involvement in some way was there - so you probably want to be clear about that. I'd also suggest that setting something like this up and expecting random people you've only interacted with on-line to attend might be a bit of an ask, especially given it's niche - so maybe establish yourselves with existing people you know first and grow from there?" Thank you for pointing that out. Yes we are an M/F couple and he would be the only guy. Our expectation is that he would be generally doing things like rigging etc, with the more sexual side for the women. Although depending on the guests, this could vary Honesty is always the best policy Growing organically is a bit more of a challenge, as we have limited contacts in this part of the country to grow organically, but totally get what you are saying | |||
"I think you'll only need one loaf for the sandwiches And lose the sausage rolls! "What would you suggest | |||
"Yes there would be a guy present as we are a couple, however he is more interested in the BDSM side, but play can be considered This sounds more like a male fantasy than a women only event " Mindful that is how it could be viewed, but more of the female fantasy ?? in this instance. His preference is towards the BDSM than any sex | |||
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"I think you'll only need one loaf for the sandwiches And lose the sausage rolls!
What would you suggest "I suggest you get some guests before you fret about the buffet | |||
"Do it on Halloween or Friday the 13th.." We would certainly be wanting themes | |||
"I think you'll only need one loaf for the sandwiches And lose the sausage rolls!
What would you suggest
I suggest you get some guests before you fret about the buffet"Haha, will do | |||
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"I think potentially and in theory it's a good idea - couple of comments though... You say it's a party for ladies only and yet throughout your post you use the term "we" which as a M/F couple would immediately raise concerns, if I were a lady, that the male half would be present or that the potential for his involvement in some way was there - so you probably want to be clear about that. I'd also suggest that setting something like this up and expecting random people you've only interacted with on-line to attend might be a bit of an ask, especially given it's niche - so maybe establish yourselves with existing people you know first and grow from there? Thank you for pointing that out. Yes we are an M/F couple and he would be the only guy. Our expectation is that he would be generally doing things like rigging etc, with the more sexual side for the women. Although depending on the guests, this could vary Honesty is always the best policy Growing organically is a bit more of a challenge, as we have limited contacts in this part of the country to grow organically, but totally get what you are saying" And being honest - I think those two points are why the idea is probably doomed to fail - a "women only" event with just one male present, regardless of his role, is likely to raise suspicions about the real reasons and motivations for the event, regardless of the fact they may be completely unfounded and people simply won't attend. People will see it as the guy of the couple living out a fantasy of being in a house surrounded by women being sexual with each other and steer clear, no matter how "honest" you are being. Likewise with the not knowing many people thing - the best events tend to rely on word of mouth and the like, know they all had to start somewhere, but they usually have with a group of likeminded friends. Not intending to rain on your parade at all, the idea in principle, is a good one, but for those reasons I expect you won't generate a great deal of interest. | |||
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"To me this looks as if it's fun for the male rather than anyone else. I think you would struggle to get many gay/bi fems to be interested in it. Especially if they were coming alone." We are definitely getting that feedback. Which is a shame as not the intention. I suppose this is why we went out on the forum, as we do value people’s opinions Thank you | |||
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"If you sent him to the pub whilst you hosted a party I think you might get more takers. " Always possible ?? however my confidence as a mistress stems from his presence and support. So a bit of a chicken and egg | |||
"I've been to all female parties and very much enjoyed them. However if it was supposed to be all female I wouldn't be comfortable with the presence of a man. Then again I probably wouldn't attend a private party unless I had previous befriended the hosts elsewhere so I'm not really who you're looking for anyway." We would definitely not be looking for the first meet with a guest to be at the party. We would want to have met each guest previously, even if only socially. | |||
"I think potentially and in theory it's a good idea - couple of comments though... You say it's a party for ladies only and yet throughout your post you use the term "we" which as a M/F couple would immediately raise concerns, if I were a lady, that the male half would be present or that the potential for his involvement in some way was there - so you probably want to be clear about that. I'd also suggest that setting something like this up and expecting random people you've only interacted with on-line to attend might be a bit of an ask, especially given it's niche - so maybe establish yourselves with existing people you know first and grow from there? Thank you for pointing that out. Yes we are an M/F couple and he would be the only guy. Our expectation is that he would be generally doing things like rigging etc, with the more sexual side for the women. Although depending on the guests, this could vary Honesty is always the best policy Growing organically is a bit more of a challenge, as we have limited contacts in this part of the country to grow organically, but totally get what you are saying And being honest - I think those two points are why the idea is probably doomed to fail - a "women only" event with just one male present, regardless of his role, is likely to raise suspicions about the real reasons and motivations for the event, regardless of the fact they may be completely unfounded and people simply won't attend. People will see it as the guy of the couple living out a fantasy of being in a house surrounded by women being sexual with each other and steer clear, no matter how "honest" you are being. Likewise with the not knowing many people thing - the best events tend to rely on word of mouth and the like, know they all had to start somewhere, but they usually have with a group of likeminded friends. Not intending to rain on your parade at all, the idea in principle, is a good one, but for those reasons I expect you won't generate a great deal of interest." We are genuinely not upset by your honest views as we can see that you mean them sincerely. We were somewhat worried about tools making silly comments. We wanted to use the forum to get a better idea of the things we needed to consider, as opposed to just setting up a party and it being a flop for everyone We really do appreciate your thoughts | |||
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"To me this scenario sounds like something that would be better done with an already established group of friends . There's such a huge amount of trust involved in bdsm &, to me, that is earned & built gradually over time, especially when things like rope play are involved. " We think that this will need to be the way forward given the comments so far. Build a group of friends and then go from there Thank you | |||
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"First let me say I'm not gay or bi but my points apply I think. Make sure there's a purely social space, especially as you're rural and it seems transport is an issue. Where would people sleep? Have you considered how you'd handle any situation in which things went wrong? Eg arguments, accidents (especially considering the nature of the event)? Is there room for the number of cars that would be turning up and would your neighbours be happy with that every month? Where food's concerned keep it cheap and cheerful. Cheese, biscuits etc. " Those are some really good points, particularly around the “what if” side. Outer thoughts had been very much towards the optimistic side so far Thank you | |||
"I've done all female parties but that was females only. I wouldn't have ever gone to a party like like with just one couple but the rest are female. Either all inclusive with a mixture of couples and single fems or girls only " Thank you for your input, love the profile name btw | |||
"First let me say I'm not gay or bi but my points apply I think. Make sure there's a purely social space, especially as you're rural and it seems transport is an issue. Where would people sleep? Have you considered how you'd handle any situation in which things went wrong? Eg arguments, accidents (especially considering the nature of the event)? Is there room for the number of cars that would be turning up and would your neighbours be happy with that every month? Where food's concerned keep it cheap and cheerful. Cheese, biscuits etc. Those are some really good points, particularly around the “what if” side. Outer thoughts had been very much towards the optimistic side so far Thank you" We would *love* to find people who want to build trust and friendship in an erotic or bdsm environment. Good luck with your plans. | |||
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" my confidence as a mistress stems from his presence and support" Yet you are expecting your guests to come alone, without support | |||
"First let me say I'm not gay or bi but my points apply I think. Make sure there's a purely social space, especially as you're rural and it seems transport is an issue. Where would people sleep? Have you considered how you'd handle any situation in which things went wrong? Eg arguments, accidents (especially considering the nature of the event)? Is there room for the number of cars that would be turning up and would your neighbours be happy with that every month? Where food's concerned keep it cheap and cheerful. Cheese, biscuits etc. Those are some really good points, particularly around the “what if” side. Outer thoughts had been very much towards the optimistic side so far Thank you We would *love* to find people who want to build trust and friendship in an erotic or bdsm environment. Good luck with your plans. " Thank you | |||
"I dont know of any women that would go to all all women party plus your husband. But we can dream eh.... " Certainly seems to be a challenging thought. Certainly glad that we sought views first | |||
" my confidence as a mistress stems from his presence and support Yet you are expecting your guests to come alone, without support" That is an extremely good point!! | |||
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"To me this scenario sounds like something that would be better done with an already established group of friends . There's such a huge amount of trust involved in bdsm &, to me, that is earned & built gradually over time, especially when things like rope play are involved. We think that this will need to be the way forward given the comments so far. Build a group of friends and then go from there Thank you" It's already been said in different words. But given the type of party, ropes, restraints, bdsm play, no men, a rural house, strangers... Could be a marvelously erotic encounter... But... Be mindful of things that might go wrong. I appreciate the intention is for all to have a great time but Mr fuck up does like to visit unannounced at times. | |||
