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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Semi-serious post from MrMonkey for a change
Over the past week or so I’ve been thinking about a few things off the back of a few nasty comments from threads I posted on.
I’ve seen a number of women who I thought I fancied swoon over certain physical attributes on men, on numerous threads, none of which I have. This is not just about the penis.
This has made me think about whether I still actually fancy them or not. I have read their veris after these posts and it is actually clear the men they meet are very different to me, I don’t possess any of the physical attributes these guys have and it has planted the seed of doubt in all cases.
I know veris should not be taken as full reflection of what people like but it’s hard to ignore, especially when you have had first-hand experience whereby you have been insulted by someone face to face and after checking veris its clear they don’t meet men like me.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has similar thoughts, many will say I’m being stupid and the like but it’s not that easy to forget when it does happen.
I may even have been guilty of this in the past with my own posting in the forum so should know this isn’t the case but it still plants that seed of doubt.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Semi-serious post from MrMonkey for a change
Over the past week or so I’ve been thinking about a few things off the back of a few nasty comments from threads I posted on.
I’ve seen a number of women who I thought I fancied swoon over certain physical attributes on men, on numerous threads, none of which I have. This is not just about the penis.
This has made me think about whether I still actually fancy them or not. I have read their veris after these posts and it is actually clear the men they meet are very different to me, I don’t possess any of the physical attributes these guys have and it has planted the seed of doubt in all cases.
I know veris should not be taken as full reflection of what people like but it’s hard to ignore, especially when you have had first-hand experience whereby you have been insulted by someone face to face and after checking veris its clear they don’t meet men like me.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has similar thoughts, many will say I’m being stupid and the like but it’s not that easy to forget when it does happen.
I may even have been guilty of this in the past with my own posting in the forum so should know this isn’t the case but it still plants that seed of doubt.
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I may be attracted to a certain part of someone (say their abs) but it doesn't mean I only exclusively find guys with abs attractive.
I guess I find lots of different things attractive in men and if I fancy someone then they'll know.
That said... If I see a profile and it says looking for older women or whatever I generally think 'wont be their type' and move on. Even though they haven't said that's exclusively their type I tend to think if they've written it I won't bother.
Also the forums are full of a lot of superficial flirting as well so the compliments may well be out their but are they entirely sincere? Mine always are but just a thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic. "
You don't?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't? "
You’re different  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different "
Can I see both of your penis pictures |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different
Can I see both of your penis pictures "
Only if you ask very, very nicely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different "
Thays what they all say  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah OP, I hear you.
I think it's just one of those things in life. Me personally I couldn't tell you a definitive answer on "what I find attractive" I don't have a check list, but I either do or I don't, it's fluid.
I can understand though if you like someone and check out their veris they are perhaps all from men who don't resemble you at all why you'd be put off.
But I'd say, if they want to meet up, then there must be some sort of attraction there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different
Can I see both of your penis pictures "
Oh hang on, please may I join in ?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different
Can I see both of your penis pictures
Oh hang on, please may I join in ?! "
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I do sometimes look at someone's veris, see they're all from slim, very attractive women and decide that person couldn't possibly be interested in me.
If someone messages me it's a very different scenario. No matter who their veris are from they've obviously found something about me attractive, so I tend to be far less full of self-doubt. |
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"Semi-serious post from MrMonkey for a change
Over the past week or so I’ve been thinking about a few things off the back of a few nasty comments from threads I posted on.
I’ve seen a number of women who I thought I fancied swoon over certain physical attributes on men, on numerous threads, none of which I have. This is not just about the penis.
This has made me think about whether I still actually fancy them or not. I have read their veris after these posts and it is actually clear the men they meet are very different to me, I don’t possess any of the physical attributes these guys have and it has planted the seed of doubt in all cases.
I know veris should not be taken as full reflection of what people like but it’s hard to ignore, especially when you have had first-hand experience whereby you have been insulted by someone face to face and after checking veris its clear they don’t meet men like me.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has similar thoughts, many will say I’m being stupid and the like but it’s not that easy to forget when it does happen.
I may even have been guilty of this in the past with my own posting in the forum so should know this isn’t the case but it still plants that seed of doubt.
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Attraction is a very individual thing. If I admire someone's legs/hair/wit/whatever, it doesn't mean that is an absolute requirement for me to be attracted to someone Rather than counting myself out based on veris - which rarely paint a full or accurate picture - I go by how I get on with people. Don't judge yourself by potentially false standards.
Mrs TMN x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different
Can I see both of your penis pictures
Oh hang on, please may I join in ?! "
I don't have a penis to show you... But I can offer heels and a bum x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So some women like some men and they meet them and you like some women but now you don't?
Isn't that life and evolution?
Lots of threads lately are a little bitter and jealous sounding on the forum. Wish ppl could see some light in the world.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t overthink it.
Most of what’s written on the forum is a right load of bollocks.
If someone wants to meet you then they obviously find you attractive.
I sometimes flirt with men and ask to see penis pictures, I don’t wanna bum, I don’t wanna see the penis but I just like being friendly and having the craic.
You don't?
You’re different
Can I see both of your penis pictures
Oh hang on, please may I join in ?!
I don't have a penis to show you... But I can offer heels and a bum x"
Perfect
On a serious note to the OP ,someone's profile can look good, along with pics etc, but they can just be so unattractive in conversation. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Semi-serious post from MrMonkey for a change
Over the past week or so I’ve been thinking about a few things off the back of a few nasty comments from threads I posted on.
I’ve seen a number of women who I thought I fancied swoon over certain physical attributes on men, on numerous threads, none of which I have. This is not just about the penis.
This has made me think about whether I still actually fancy them or not. I have read their veris after these posts and it is actually clear the men they meet are very different to me, I don’t possess any of the physical attributes these guys have and it has planted the seed of doubt in all cases.
I know veris should not be taken as full reflection of what people like but it’s hard to ignore, especially when you have had first-hand experience whereby you have been insulted by someone face to face and after checking veris its clear they don’t meet men like me.
I’m sure I’m not the only one who has similar thoughts, many will say I’m being stupid and the like but it’s not that easy to forget when it does happen.
I may even have been guilty of this in the past with my own posting in the forum so should know this isn’t the case but it still plants that seed of doubt.
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It’s so worth us remembering how easy it is to scar someone with a comment or similar (even when intending a joke or tease and nothing of malintent) and how that scar can linger for such a long time and impact future interactions for someone.
I’m sorry this has happened to you Mr M, you’ve always struck me as a thoroughly decent chap with oodles of appeal way beyond the hunky aesthetic you have.
I know from personal experience how body worries and historic commentary from others and the hopelessly stupid self sabotaging talk we give ourselves can change one’s own perception of oneself and worse, our worth.
Thank you for reminding us to be mindful.
And can I remind you, you’re uniquely you and that’s thrilling and wonderful and incredibly exciting. And also the thing I remember (or try to) is that people like all kinds of things to eat, the same can be the case with who people like to get intimate with (not everyone, but many do like variety), and it’s a case of not letting your past hurt/s affect your future - a leap of faith that if someone says they’re attracted to you and you feel excited about them - trust them rather than over analyse. And if a situation arises as you state, ask them about it and your concerns and see how they conduct themselves. That will teach you what you need to know - but give people the opportunity to be better than our worst fears. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're just as worthy as the rest of them or the girls you fancy are worthy of you. It's all tongue in cheek, this forum chat. Not every guy has every quality I look for.. one guy will have different qualities to the next and so on, that's what makes each guy different  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fora are a place to relieve tension for many of us. That’s why the number of ‘look at me’, ‘my mate fancies you’, ‘I want your arse’, ‘don’t you just love me’ threads have definitely increased over the last few weeks. Sign of the times...
Having said that, I feel you. Guys I’ve thought, ‘yeah I’d like to meet you’ are suddenly flirting left, right and centre with folks that are nothing like me. Well then again, there is no one like me... and no one like you either Simian...
Get a grip and ask whoever it is you want, You might be happily surprised. |
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I totally understand what you mean. If I see someone with verifications from seemingly perfect, slim women I do think they wouldn't be attracted to me. But then I just have to remember my own attraction. I fancy some slim guys, some stocky guys, some muscley guys, some short guys, some tall guys, etc. Though at the same time, I think I would have more reservations if someone had all verifications from similar looking women that all looked very different to me. |
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My attraction is all over the shop, and is much more about the personality than a lot of other factors.
And as others have said, what people say on the forum, especially flirting, should be taken with a pinch of salt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Best not to take things too seriously on here dear chap . You are a splendid fellow and Forumites.
I've got to know many people on here , we become chums and chat . I know that I'm much older than most would look for and my circumstances, which I am honest about on my profile. Doesn't sit well with lots . That totally understandable .
These days I'm not really looking to meet but just have a splendid chuckle . Best not to over tjink fab , this lifestyle is slightly transient as it is |
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