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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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With bad luck?
I know cursed is a strong word, but I'm pretty cheesed off right now. I have come to believe if anything can go wrong in my life, then that's the route it takes.
I'm flabbergasted and drained. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No I don't believe in curses but some people do have a much worse time of it than others. Life is not fair"
I reckon I'm paying for being Hitler in a previous life  |
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"No I don't believe in curses but some people do have a much worse time of it than others. Life is not fair
I reckon I'm paying for being Hitler in a previous life "
 I hope things change for you soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With bad luck?
I know cursed is a strong word, but I'm pretty cheesed off right now. I have come to believe if anything can go wrong in my life, then that's the route it takes.
I'm flabbergasted and drained. "
Hugs!! Life fucking sucks sometimes. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later"
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab |
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab "
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?"
Right now there are none, or rather I cannot see them. I will sleep a great deal today so I can return to the fight tomorrow.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?
Right now there are none, or rather I cannot see them. I will sleep a great deal today so I can return to the fight tomorrow. "
You can start with the basic “I am breathing”
Or “I have a roof over my head”, the smallest things...
sending you hugs  |
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?
Right now there are none, or rather I cannot see them. I will sleep a great deal today so I can return to the fight tomorrow. "
Big hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am."
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one). |
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am.
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one). "
Have you tried counselling? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?
Right now there are none, or rather I cannot see them. I will sleep a great deal today so I can return to the fight tomorrow.
You can start with the basic “I am breathing”
Or “I have a roof over my head”, the smallest things...
sending you hugs "
The breathing bit isn't always a positive.
My one positive in life, no matter the struggles I have faced once the emotional hardship has eased, has been my brain. But it's my brain that needs the rehab. |
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It’s human nature to see order where there is none. It’s what makes us curse BMW drivers when actually most cars have a percentage of idiots behind the wheel and it means when bad things happen we attribute it to *something* rather than just accepting in this chaotic world, bad stuff can happen for a while.
Short version: I hope things improve but you’re not cursed. Is there a way you can fight your battles differently to help change things? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am.
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one).
Have you tried counselling?"
For rehab? Or cos I need help to overcome the incompetence of others? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s human nature to see order where there is none. It’s what makes us curse BMW drivers when actually most cars have a percentage of idiots behind the wheel and it means when bad things happen we attribute it to *something* rather than just accepting in this chaotic world, bad stuff can happen for a while.
Short version: I hope things improve but you’re not cursed. Is there a way you can fight your battles differently to help change things?"
I'm pragmatic, thankfully. But just how do you fight incompetence? |
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am.
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one). "
Fucking hell. And taking it on for others is an additional burden as well. I salute you. And I'm sorry. |
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am.
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one).
Have you tried counselling?
For rehab? Or cos I need help to overcome the incompetence of others? "
Just talking to someone can often help.
Someone who actually listens. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the hugs, it's appreciated.
For anyone else who is sick to the back teeth of struggles where there should be none, hang on in there and thank fuck our lives are short. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am.
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one).
Fucking hell. And taking it on for others is an additional burden as well. I salute you. And I'm sorry."
The complaint about the hospital took 7 months to compose, it has now reached the stage of involving the parliamentary ombudsman. The CQC have also expressed an interest and are going to do unannounced visit based on my experiences.
It's the least I can do, try to protect other patients. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?
Right now there are none, or rather I cannot see them. I will sleep a great deal today so I can return to the fight tomorrow.
You can start with the basic “I am breathing”
Or “I have a roof over my head”, the smallest things...
sending you hugs
The breathing bit isn't always a positive.
My one positive in life, no matter the struggles I have faced once the emotional hardship has eased, has been my brain. But it's my brain that needs the rehab. "
I’m sorry . Hope you get what you need, and things improve for you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I believe life isn't fair, but sometimes bad experiences early on predispose you to additional problems later
Totally understand that but when you're on the receiving end of a myriad of incompetences that involves many health care professionals, it's unbloody believable. Even more so when you're a professional yourself and go the extra mile for patients. I suppose it's my own fault that the medical team in Malta saved my life whereas here they don't give a damn about my rehab
Shit. Different situation then. (I was thinking bad childhood experiences give you unhealthy coping mechanisms)
I'm so sorry you're going through that. I really am.
I thought you were. I have striven to get the help I am entitled to (and complain so no one else suffers such incompetence) and I have faced hurdles at every poxy avenue. Every referral to another department has gone wrong or simply not happened (that's the latest one).
Have you tried counselling?
For rehab? Or cos I need help to overcome the incompetence of others?
Just talking to someone can often help.
Someone who actually listens."
I listen ha!
Actually I do and I have resolved many a conflict between patient and health care professional/service, because I listen AND advocate complaints as times where the service can learn and improve. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?
Right now there are none, or rather I cannot see them. I will sleep a great deal today so I can return to the fight tomorrow.
You can start with the basic “I am breathing”
Or “I have a roof over my head”, the smallest things...
sending you hugs
The breathing bit isn't always a positive.
My one positive in life, no matter the struggles I have faced once the emotional hardship has eased, has been my brain. But it's my brain that needs the rehab.
I’m sorry . Hope you get what you need, and things improve for you "
Thanks. I will indulge in a pity party today and get on with things tomorrow, especially now the parliamentary ombudsman service is back open as of today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With bad luck?
I know cursed is a strong word, but I'm pretty cheesed off right now. I have come to believe if anything can go wrong in my life, then that's the route it takes.
I'm flabbergasted and drained. "
Yes I am too you're not alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?"
This 
Sending big love and positive vibes xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"With bad luck?
I know cursed is a strong word, but I'm pretty cheesed off right now. I have come to believe if anything can go wrong in my life, then that's the route it takes.
I'm flabbergasted and drained.
Yes I am too you're not alone "
It's good to not be alone and can empathise in your struggles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time .
I try and focus on what’s going right, then even is stuff is going wrong, you can see the positives.
If that makes sense?
This
Sending big love and positive vibes xx "
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No I dont. I think that we all have bad luck but with different percentages of it."
Absolutely.
It is said that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Sadly, we can reach the end of the tether and be afraid to pick ourselves up again when we believe another struggle is around the corner. |
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Firstly big hugs to you.
I know exactly what you mean as at times I feel like I am cursed.
I (Mr CC) have a long term health condition and had been through all the meds and treatments and then had to wait the best part of 5 years to have a surgical procedure of an implant in my chest and wires up into the back of my head and thought yes finally might have an improvement. Had to have an MRI for wire placement and this is when they found I have a brain aneurism. Thought why me, but nothing I can really do about it so just forget it.
Implant has been a good success and improved my quality of life and thought finally my health is on the up but low and behold something else happens and I end up being rushed into hospital to find out I have a pneumothorax (collapsed lung)
Begging to think what is the point of even getting out of bed.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Firstly big hugs to you.
I know exactly what you mean as at times I feel like I am cursed.
I (Mr CC) have a long term health condition and had been through all the meds and treatments and then had to wait the best part of 5 years to have a surgical procedure of an implant in my chest and wires up into the back of my head and thought yes finally might have an improvement. Had to have an MRI for wire placement and this is when they found I have a brain aneurism. Thought why me, but nothing I can really do about it so just forget it.
Implant has been a good success and improved my quality of life and thought finally my health is on the up but low and behold something else happens and I end up being rushed into hospital to find out I have a pneumothorax (collapsed lung)
Begging to think what is the point of even getting out of bed.
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Are they able to do anything about the aneurism? |
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"Are they able to do anything about the aneurism? "
I have to have another die contrast CT scan on new years eve to see if it has increased in size as they can't do anything about it until it reaches a certain size. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With bad luck?
I know cursed is a strong word, but I'm pretty cheesed off right now. I have come to believe if anything can go wrong in my life, then that's the route it takes.
I'm flabbergasted and drained. "
I was cursed by an old lady in the market years ago when I refused her lucky heather she was selling..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I dont. I think that we all have bad luck but with different percentages of it.
Absolutely.
It is said that what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Sadly, we can reach the end of the tether and be afraid to pick ourselves up again when we believe another struggle is around the corner. "
That is right and as well to learn from it it too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Are they able to do anything about the aneurism?
I have to have another die contrast CT scan on new years eve to see if it has increased in size as they can't do anything about it until it reaches a certain size. "
My thoughts are with you. |
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"Are they able to do anything about the aneurism?
I have to have another die contrast CT scan on new years eve to see if it has increased in size as they can't do anything about it until it reaches a certain size.
My thoughts are with you. "
Thank you xx
The way I looked at it was what will be will be and I will just carry on and have fun until something needs doing.
Hope you managed to get some sleep and would just like to say that your words and the smile I can see on your face in your profile pic tell me that there is no way you were Hitler in a previous life as you are far too beautiful and caring.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Are they able to do anything about the aneurism?
I have to have another die contrast CT scan on new years eve to see if it has increased in size as they can't do anything about it until it reaches a certain size.
My thoughts are with you.
Thank you xx
The way I looked at it was what will be will be and I will just carry on and have fun until something needs doing.
Hope you managed to get some sleep and would just like to say that your words and the smile I can see on your face in your profile pic tell me that there is no way you were Hitler in a previous life as you are far too beautiful and caring.
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Indeed I do care  |
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By *al01Man
over a year ago
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"With bad luck?
I know cursed is a strong word, but I'm pretty cheesed off right now. I have come to believe if anything can go wrong in my life, then that's the route it takes.
I'm flabbergasted and drained. "
Know just what you mean. All ive ever known is bad luck |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Nope, if anything I think i’m quite well blessed in the luck department. I fly by the seat of my pants and somehow everything turns out ok, eventually.
I like to think it’s my nan and gramp sat together in “heaven” somewhere watching me over a cup of yorkshire tea and making everything ok whilst tutting and calling me a dickhead 
On the other hand when i first started working i knew a woman who truly had such unbelievable bad luck happen to her and her family, yet she was still positive, still upbeat. I think if what had happened to her, had happened to me, i’d be on my knees. She was an inspiration.
Hugs to you OP x |
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