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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

It's that time of the month, I'm ramping up to the juicy part of my cycle and it's pretty potent!

Women, how aware are you of your cycle and how it affects you in life and sex life? (Age, hormones, pre kids, post birth, contraception etc etc)

Men, how aware are you of women's cycles and how it affects us (please leave those old derogative comments at the door though.. it's been done enough ta)

Trans, share your experience!

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Eurgh my hormones.

Yeah, I think I'm quite aware of them and I'm getting better at knowing my body and the joyous cycles. I know in a couple of weeks I'll be in my slutty Meli phase where even a slight breeze on my skin will have me thinking about fucking. Not making love, fucking. My hair always looks shinier and healthier around then, partners before have commented on me "glowing" at that time because I guess my body is giving off huge "fill me with your seed stud" vibes. I also feel more energised and like I can tackle life.

My period hormones are a dark, horrible mess of neediness and sad and chocolate craving.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Currently mine are all over the shop. But in general I'm pretty much aware of what part of my cycle I am, and can usually tell when I'm ovulating. It can go a bit haywire with stress though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tbh it never bothered me too much, i kind of sailed through my time of the month and then I sailed through the menopause... I know I'm lucky as lots of women have a really hard time with both

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

Time heals all wombs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When things are normal, I generally know my stages of normal, crazed horny raging loon, emotional mess and then all bouncy and Sparkly again. Although it's all wonky at the moment so I'm just a bag of fun

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

I had the forced menopause. Expected the worst but I've been lucky. No mood swings to speak of other than what was normal for me. Only issue I have is hot flushes.

I used to suffer hormone related mood swings really badly in my 20s so I do sympathise x

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

"I had the forced menopause. Expected the worst but I've been lucky. No mood swings to speak of other than what was normal for me. Only issue I have is hot flushes.

I used to suffer hormone related mood swings really badly in my 20s so I do sympathise x"

And an unexpected positive in my sex drive going through the roof but that seems to be a constant rather than fluctuating during the month

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

"Eurgh my hormones.

My period hormones are a dark, horrible mess of neediness and sad and chocolate craving.

Pretty much this too...amazingly described Meli!!

Tho I really value the darker, sadder, quieter times too. The down time, the rest. The rise again!! And the connection to cycles that are greater than we are. Wouldn’t go near hormonal contraceptives again if you paid me.

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I think of my cycle as spring summer, autumn, winter .. speaks for itself. Ive learnt not to say YES to too much during my spring because by Autumn I'm a different creature and by winter it's all about NO fuck that

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

"I think of my cycle as spring summer, autumn, winter .. speaks for itself. Ive learnt not to say YES to too much during my spring because by Autumn I'm a different creature and by winter it's all about NO fuck that

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

I look at my tracker when I’m planning any events...and know when to defer making decisions, having certain conversations, when to go for a run and when to just walk through the woods. Yeah...embrace the seasons & cycles!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ahhh the wifes cycle had a puncture and the hormones when I don't cook her fav dinners x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm quite tuned with my cycle. Especially when I'm not messing with it taking contraceptives. Always knew when I was ovulating etc. Which was handy.

I did the the self care course about Arvigo massage. I havent stuck with it, but some women find it very helpful for settling their hormone related feelings if they do it regularly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm getting more aware of it, however it treats me very gently especially since the kids so I don't think my mood changes are huge, either. It's the changes to my libido I notice most

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By *ensualtouch15Man over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"It's that time of the month, I'm ramping up to the juicy part of my cycle and it's pretty potent!

Women, how aware are you of your cycle and how it affects you in life and sex life? (Age, hormones, pre kids, post birth, contraception etc etc)

Men, how aware are you of women's cycles and how it affects us (please leave those old derogative comments at the door though.. it's been done enough ta)

Trans, share your experience! "

If I'm with a lady for a little while I'm fairly sensitive to their hormonal changes usually by their scent and temperature x

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

Just give me the god dammed chocolate and no-one gets hurt.....

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

This! Why don't they teach this at school.. if I'd known earlier .. all sorts could have been both achieved and avoided

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By *riar BelisseWoman over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Ive settled into peri menopause now and supplements keep my hot flushes at bay. I'm also on the hormone coil so apart from being super horny when I am ovulating I don't have any other period based hormone fluctuations

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Ive settled into peri menopause now and supplements keep my hot flushes at bay. I'm also on the hormone coil so apart from being super horny when I am ovulating I don't have any other period based hormone fluctuations "

I'm peri menopausal too .. it's insane but so far manageable. My libido can be a bit bonkers at times and the heat wakes me up in the night. What supplements are working for you? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm pretty in tune with my cycle, especially 5 years on now nearly 6 from the birth of my son. I can tell when I'm mid cycle and bout to ovulate, any fine specimen of a man peaks my interest, and I start ground sniffing

my rational brain however take over and tells the raging hormonal queen to take a seat.

I can also pretty much feel when my period is due now, I feel exhausted tired, just a bit lethargic and then a day or two later the PMS and Cramps begin. Once it begins just avoid eye contact with me generally

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I’m year 6 into the menopause and sex drive is high but thank god no more periods!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

They taught us about this too!

planning things around cycle.. using different energies to your advantage rather than working against them.

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

This! Why don't they teach this at school.. if I'd known earlier .. all sorts could have been both achieved and avoided

Absolutely. And with that knowledge - for both women and men - there’d be acceptance and respect for the ebbs and flows of energy and mood. Nothing demanded and nothing shamed. After years in the desert, I’m rocking my hormones

Awesome thread...

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Honestly, didn't significantly impact me at all until after having children. Now, lordy mamma I know all about those hormones! Insatiable and energised around ovulation - I literally want to shake my ass in the front window - and irritable, lethargic and craving cats and sugar when my period is due. It's a wild ride!

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

This! Why don't they teach this at school.. if I'd known earlier .. all sorts could have been both achieved and avoided

Awesome thread...

I've only recently started to think more like this. Working with myself, rather than against myself.

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By *orraine999Woman over a year ago

Somewhere

"I had the forced menopause. Expected the worst but I've been lucky. No mood swings to speak of other than what was normal for me. Only issue I have is hot flushes.

I used to suffer hormone related mood swings really badly in my 20s so I do sympathise x

And an unexpected positive in my sex drive going through the roof but that seems to be a constant rather than fluctuating during the month "

I second this. No hormone related mood swings and sex drive off the charts.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahhh the wifes cycle had a puncture and the hormones when I don't cook her fav dinners x

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"It's that time of the month, I'm ramping up to the juicy part of my cycle and it's pretty potent!

Women, how aware are you of your cycle and how it affects you in life and sex life? (Age, hormones, pre kids, post birth, contraception etc etc)

Men, how aware are you of women's cycles and how it affects us (please leave those old derogative comments at the door though.. it's been done enough ta)

Trans, share your experience!

If I'm with a lady for a little while I'm fairly sensitive to their hormonal changes usually by their scent and temperature x"

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By *vcarolTV/TS over a year ago

kilmarnockish

I notice very few guys have posted to say there inner feelings.

So, for me in earlier years, sex was always on my mind. The unwelcome erection at odd times of the day means although there is no cycle as such it beckons to be used to orgasm.

The uncomfortable feeling of full balls, means likewise. It’s very hard to explain to a female, but it’s more an urge to release and the subsequent release of chemicals in the brain.

To confuse my own issue, I’ll tell you about how I’m affected by a increase of my estrogen and the decrease of the testosterone over the next months.

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By *ivianVanDammeWoman over a year ago

West Coast

I have no clue where I am on my cycle at any given time. I have PCOS and my periods stopped all together a good few years back. Had some issues due to that and now manage them medically roughly once every 3 months. That doesn’t always work either, however I had a “proper period” for the first time in over a year in February and it was hellish. It all came flooding back (pardon the pun). The “give me all the food now or I’ll bite someone” to “oh god looking at food makes me feel sick” and the cramps and the back aches... part of me is glad that I don’t have to deal with it every month, the other part not so much because it will make conceiving difficult if not impossible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's that time of the month, I'm ramping up to the juicy part of my cycle and it's pretty potent!

Women, how aware are you of your cycle and how it affects you in life and sex life? (Age, hormones, pre kids, post birth, contraception etc etc) "

I came off the pill 5 years ago, son is 4 and OMG It is so noticeable! I can tell my fertile days, my fantasies just get more lewd and he knows he can push me more then because I get a bit desperate for sex! And yeah, a few days before I’m due I just stop being interested in sex at all. I didn’t notice when I was younger but it’s hard not to notice now!

Glad I’m not the only one ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My body decided to wait until my 40s to actually give me them regularly, due to pcos and a fairly large weight loss. Now they are rarely more than a day late and I know when they are coming one, sometimes 2 weeks before as my boobs get sore... The first time this happened scared the shit out of me as the only time it had happened before was when I was pregnant. I get a bit weepy sometimes a day or so before but apart from that, it's not so bad, first full day is a bit painful but then 2 more better days and I'm done. I know menopause is pretty much here now though

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

"I have no clue where I am on my cycle at any given time. I have PCOS and my periods stopped all together a good few years back. Had some issues due to that and now manage them medically roughly once every 3 months. That doesn’t always work either, however I had a “proper period” for the first time in over a year in February and it was hellish. It all came flooding back (pardon the pun). The “give me all the food now or I’ll bite someone” to “oh god looking at food makes me feel sick” and the cramps and the back aches... part of me is glad that I don’t have to deal with it every month, the other part not so much because it will make conceiving difficult if not impossible. "

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive suffered with my cycle since 19 years old. I'm talking extreme pain then found out 15 yrs later I had polycystic ovaries. Had an op and was great. Now pains worse then ever so ive had to start having an injection that brings on the menopause at a fast rate. I'm boiling sometimes but should settle after 3rd injection. I'm always horny so no different on my cycle lol

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

I love this. I think I'm going to start listening to my body and my hormones a lot more instead of instantly dismissing them as "my time of the month" or negatively attributing them. I know that at certain times I can conquer mountains and at others I might need to rest at base camp and both are okay.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have not read it myself, but the book about menstrual cycle which was recommended to me was: Red Moon by Miranda Gray. (Or Grey?)

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm not sure, I have no womb so things aren't normal anyway.

Jo.Xx

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Now I use hormonal birth control and my cycle is finally vaguely regular after an eternity of torture...

I know what my patterns are but the moods sneak up on me every time. It's just not on my radar until I become extremely sex mad then a few days later my period comes... Oh I've not lost the plot yet, hormones

My other moods around it have mellowed as I've gotten my emotional regulation under control more generally. There are certain times of the month I'm much more sensitive to pain, but fortunately the rollercoaster of raging and weeping seems to have gone away.

Still, roll on menopause (if my family are anything to go by, in about 30 years

)

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm not sure, I have no womb so things aren't normal anyway.

Jo.Xx "

Normal reproductive systems are overrated. Come sit with me

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By * and R cple4Couple over a year ago

swansea

I must be one of the lucky ones as I’ve never suffered with cramps or moods. The only time I have ever suffered was just before Xmas and After having a coil for 19 years and having no issues my doctor suggested to have it removed and try the injection...

.Never again my mood was so low I couldn’t get out of bed for 2 weeks I suffered some sort of hormone imbalance.Had the coil back in and thankfully after a few weeks went back to normal.Feel sorry for the people that suffer every month...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im very aware of any changes in my wee lassie..not just concerning the topic of this thread. I love her so its part of my love her that I notice the tiny details even when sometimes she doesn t notice. Admittedly I was a rescue medic but also having gone through my own major crap its made me very sensitive to changes in people. I love her thetefore I care when I notice differences in her.

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By *attooBBWWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

I have a coil and get very little in the way of a monthly visit other than ‘the scent’ which I find horrible! I do get ridiculously horny though! I don’t like having sex when I’m ‘on’ tho, just doesn’t feel right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im very aware of any changes in my wee lassie..not just concerning the topic of this thread. I love her so its part of my love her that I notice the tiny details even when sometimes she doesn t notice. Admittedly I was a rescue medic but also having gone through my own major crap its made me very sensitive to changes in people. I love her thetefore I care when I notice differences in her.

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m very aware of ‘that’ time approaching and try to be as helpful as I can.

I do have hormones as well though.

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By *stellaWoman over a year ago

London

"I’m very aware of ‘that’ time approaching and try to be as helpful as I can.

I do have hormones as well though.

You have Phwoaaaar Moans.

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By *edHeadedFunWoman over a year ago

Didsbury

I am completely unaware. The only sign I get is full and sore breasts mid cycle but as I am not regular that doesn't mean a thing. Problems of having a damaged pituitary gland is that my hormones do not act normally.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’m very aware of ‘that’ time approaching and try to be as helpful as I can.

I do have hormones as well though.

I thought I read that men have waxing and waning on a monthly basis? But obviously less obvious and less discussed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m very aware of ‘that’ time approaching and try to be as helpful as I can.

I do have hormones as well though.

I thought I read that men have waxing and waning on a monthly basis? But obviously less obvious and less discussed"

That may well be true.

I’ve basically been ignorant to myself for the first 35 years of my life.

Lately I have all these things go on in my head and heart that I can’t explain.

I’m sure it’ll pass when contact sport is reinstated!

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

But it took me until my 40s to really become aware of my cycle and how to use it to advantage.

Sexually, nothing puts me off but i love how differently my body responds to each phase .. it makes for a very varied experience which I wouldn't change for the world!

Ah indeed!!!

We grow up being the brunt of jokes and eyerolling around times in our cycles.. it takes a bit to shake that off and see the power in listening.

I might me a crazy emotional woman at times in my cycle, but things sure do get said and done that perhaps would stay under the radar otherwise. Our subtle and not so subtle shifts are powerful catalysts x

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Oh Lord, my moods, pain, rage etc used to be 2-3 weeks every month, I'd be a walking explosion, ready to savage anyone that so much as looked at me. Not to mention the agonising cramps, extremely heavy flow and light bleeding the rest of the time.

I had a hysterectomy and now everything is better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m very aware of ‘that’ time approaching and try to be as helpful as I can.

I do have hormones as well though.

You have Phwoaaaar Moans."

I wanna get to know your hoe-moans

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m a lucky one and it passes without cramps, mood swings etc. All I get is a short sharp pain, that stops me in my tracks for a couple of minutes, about 10-12 days before; plus constantly tired 2-3 days before.

As for horniness it is at its worst the week leading up, but during is off the scale annoyingly

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'm fortunate that I have never really had mood swings in association with my monthly cycle.

Though I haven't really had a regular cycle for the last 10/15 years and no periods for 18 months.

Hot flushes are a bit of a pain.

Strangely, every time I get my hormones checked they are fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a wee bit uncomfortable that this thread seems to be feeding into the not very helpful stereotype that women are an emotional mess at certain times due to hormones and that we are unable to have any control of this

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I'm a wee bit uncomfortable that this thread seems to be feeding into the not very helpful stereotype that women are an emotional mess at certain times due to hormones and that we are unable to have any control of this"

Or, it's showing people that we are badass mofos that go through all this crap every month and still function.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Or we have issues that are difficult and can have solidarity.

I also talked about bringing mine under control.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I once met a girl in a club once and after chatting and flirting for a while I asked if she wanted to come back to mine but she said 'sorry iam on my menstrual cycle ' so I just said 'it's ok I'll follow you on my moped'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't take hormonal contraception, I just use condoms. I also track my periods and related symptoms on an app and have done for about a year or so. So I'm pretty in tune with it and can usually tell when I'm going to go into my moody, eat all of the chocolate phase etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses. "

All men and women have strengths and weaknesses whatever they may say...my girl saves my ass when Im having night terrors and sleep paralysis and Im there for her when she feels " off"...its how a relationship should be...sometimes it can be just cuddling in and stroking the face or back...we each lean on each other as much as we stand strong together.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Since taking a new combined hormone pill for the last year I’ve found it a lot easier to know where I am and how my body is going to be, moods especially.

I can’t normally take to hormonal contraception as it I become an absolute mess but this one has been really good and it’s helped some much work pain and regularity which were also problematic for me (and those around me)

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I’m very aware of ‘that’ time approaching and try to be as helpful as I can.

I do have hormones as well though.

You have Phwoaaaar Moans."

I like that phrase

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

This is really beautiful Tree, really really lovely and struck a chord with me. Your girlfriend is a lucky woman x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I started tracking my cycle with an app this year and it's really handy. From logging backache, headaches, different moods, energy levels, flow heaviness. I pretty much know where I am each month now and understand my body much more. I don't use chemical contraception so I'm pretty chilled and my periods got shorter and lighter when I started using a menstrual cup 2 years ago! So I'm in a pretty cool place these days

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

Just to add.. I'm quite fierce and I Know a few women on here who are too. Just because we're hormonal doesn't mean we'll not handle our own.

Jo.Xx

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Just to add.. I'm quite fierce and I Know a few women on here who are too. Just because we're hormonal doesn't mean we'll not handle our own.

Jo.Xx "

Yes. It's a crappy stereotype. We have hormonal fluctuations and still kick arse

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By *eoeclipseWoman over a year ago

glasgow

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By *eoeclipseWoman over a year ago

glasgow

Very aware. There are different moods that match my cycle timings including the nasty bitch & alone to get on with things horny beyond belief, quiet leave me & simply leave me alone before cycling again.

I don't have any synthetic hormones but my swings are more exasperated than most with adhd joined in.

Channelling the energies are important.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't notice much of it. In fact more of empowering of taking control of it by recognising changes and making adjustments to make the most of different parts of the cycle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

That's some skillful dance of needs and following into each others steps and swirls. Its very important for all of us I guess to hear from men who are capable of that. That it is possible not to be undermining it or repeating the same worn out phrases with an eye roll.. "oh you must be due soon." Or cracking insensitive jokes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to be in tune with my cycle and hormones.

Knew when it was due, how to cope and who I was...

Now however, after a forced menopause due to surgery...

I feel stripped of my former self, I feel lost, and don't know where the person I once was has gone.

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

Oh...to see and be seen like this x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

Yeah cos guys are perfect right? With man flu and egos....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

That used to drive me mad, retaliate against an insensìtive comment to be met with "oh its that time of the month is it?" No, you're just an arse

(not you)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

That used to drive me mad, retaliate against an insensìtive comment to be met with "oh its that time of the month is it?" No, you're just an arse

(not you) "

Dagger eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I took the pill for many years which sort of kept things regular but I seemed a fairly unemotional blob on them, with hardly any desires. I have much preferred not taking any contraception at all and having my natural ryhthm set in with its horny week, its hungry week, and the steadier times. Pretty much set a clock to 23 days, but the hungry phase always takes me by surprise when a few days later I come on, somehow I always forget. I am very reluctant to ever go on contraception again as the last one I tried invoked a temper in me that was a bit upsetting and Im not keen on anything permanently resident in me. Makes meeting interesting, and I do like the snipped amongst us

I prefer this more natural me though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's lovely when you are so in tune with somebody..

true union of senses.

This is really beautiful Tree, really really lovely and struck a chord with me. Your girlfriend is a lucky woman x"

Maybe but then I wonder sometimes when she s cradling me in her arms after a sleep paralysis nightmare...she deserves better

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I see what you're saying. Perhaps we haven't developed the right language around it all. Like I said earlier, it took me a long time to shake it off. I don't attribute what I say and do during intense times in a dismissive way. I realise now it's a catalyst .. being propelled into whatever is present in a fuller way. Presence has it's power. Lots of us are talking about drawing strength from knowing our subtle shifts and changes. I don't see it as an emotional mess. that one has been done to death, time to change it. I know I'm educating my daughter (and son) in a very different way to how I was.

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"I used to be in tune with my cycle and hormones.

Knew when it was due, how to cope and who I was...

Now however, after a forced menopause due to surgery...

I feel stripped of my former self, I feel lost, and don't know where the person I once was has gone.

Ah, I really hear that must be a kind of grief. Im sorry thats hard. Like your compass has been messed with. Alot of readjusting for you. My friend who had a similar experience said that she found that she needed to know what the moon was doing.. and the tide.. so she could hook into another cycle!

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By *entcouple69Couple over a year ago

London/Kent

I’ve personally got really in tune with it the last couple of years. A week before comes the horrific tiredness and wanting to eat the world. 2/3 days before is where I swear I go into some self destruct cycle and become a complete

...and not the good kind! It’s actually got to the point where my mental health takes a complete nosedive right before I come on. And then once it comes it’s like a huge weight off my shoulders and then I have to go pick up the pieces of everything I’ve destroyed.

I tend to become a tad hornier when I’m on but that might be partially because the mr likes a bit of messy play. That or it’s mother nature’s way of trying to apologise

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By *ivianVanDammeWoman over a year ago

West Coast

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

Thank you. The only support or advice I’ve been given by GP/Gyn is “lose weight”. And the medication to bring on a period. However the losing weight part is needed regardless so hopefully it calms down the hormones a bit

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

Yeah. Lose weight then come back if you want a baby.

What about help for my, you know, medical condition?

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By *ivianVanDammeWoman over a year ago

West Coast

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

Yeah. Lose weight then come back if you want a baby.

What about help for my, you know, medical condition?"

Pretty much what they said verbatim haha I know a lot of larger ladies who’ve carried naturally with no issues. Just because I’m biologically challenged shouldn’t mean I get left to be barren. Hey ho.

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By *urls and DressesWoman over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’m very aware of my cycle, I know when I’m ovulating, when I get hormone surges. I crave chocolate for a couple of days before my period is due. I had an mri last month because of a severe kidney infection, it was noticed that one of ovaries looked like it had a cyst, had further investigation, turned out it was because my ovary was releasing an egg at that point, the exact date I was expecting it to happen. Fascinating

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

Yeah. Lose weight then come back if you want a baby.

What about help for my, you know, medical condition?

I manage my weight most of the time (give or take) and don't want kids but there are other issues. They only care if you want a baby.

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

Yeah. Lose weight then come back if you want a baby.

What about help for my, you know, medical condition?

Absolutely this. They should be supporting you a heck of a lot more than just that. Are you actively trying for a baby now? I suffered from endometriosis for nearly 20 years. All my symptoms - every one! - cleared up 3 months after I spilt with my ex...make of that what you will

But I have a fuck-tonne of knowledge about that, fertility clinics, and lots of treatments. Different condition, but overlaps in treatment. PM if you want xx

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By *abonWoman over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham

That’s beautiful...very much how I see it. I think displaying any emotions that aren’t in the narrow band of ‘strength’ and ‘acceptable’ ones is seen as being a mess. The more we accept the fluidity of emotions - male and female - and that females are affected more because of cycles, the better. Being open to experiencing and witnessing exhaustion, grief, reflection, as well as joy and the RAGING horn, is a gift for everyone.

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By *ivianVanDammeWoman over a year ago

West Coast

There’s some incredible fertility support and treatments out there for PCOS...I wish you well xx

Yeah. Lose weight then come back if you want a baby.

What about help for my, you know, medical condition?

But I have a fuck-tonne of knowledge about that, fertility clinics, and lots of treatments. Different condition, but overlaps in treatment. PM if you want xx"

I tried to pm you but you’ve blocked women lol however any advice/info would be welcomed so please message me if you have the time

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Beautifully put x

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I have a wife, 3 adult daughters, friends in here so I have perfected the art of pretending to understand

it’s not hard just be nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m peri menopausal..... I’m like a weeping bag of hot-flush emotion right now with a craving for prawn cocktail pringles and Chardonnay....

That’s my excuse and I’m sticking to it!!

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have a wife, 3 adult daughters, friends in here so I have perfected the art of pretending to understand

it’s not hard just be nice "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Trans, share your experience! "

Well in my experience it’s the one case where “store bought” is better than “own made”.

I don’t have cycles of ups and downs per se because all my own made ‘mones have basically been suppressed and as such the levels remain pretty constant throughout the month.

As long as I remember to take them I stay pretty steady emotionally but ho boy, if I forget to take them for any number of days everyone around me is going to know it

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