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Male Mentality - Men, which is you? Women, which is sexier to you?
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So, in the mornings, after I wake up. I tend to sit in bed for a bit until my eyes and throat calm down. In this time, I just let me mind wander and I just delve into all sorts of different avenues of thought.
This morning, I was thinking about the way a lot of men are. Let's say there was some sort of disagreement (I had one yesterday), there are common ways in the way in which a man can react;
There's the man who is very very calm, and just accepts whatever shit is dealt and moves on. (Yielding)
There's the man who doesn't necessarily accept any shit, but simply ignores all that he doesn't agree with. (Ignorant)
There's the man who is very calm, very patient and just says his piece and calmly uses his reasoning to the best of his abilities. He might quote laws and reasonably accepted standards, etc. He doesn't overstep the mark, but at the same time, he won't be trodden on. (Self assured)
There's the guy who doesn't accept and states "No, I'm not doing that. Make me!" Or something similar. A bit 'in your face' type thing. (A bit cocky)
There's the man who totally loses control and lashes out, anger, screaming, shouting and possibly violence. Emotions can control him. (Animalistic)
For me, I'm very self assured. Some people label me as arrogant, but I'm not! I just live my life according to my judgement, not anyone else's.
Men, which one are you?
Women, which do you personally find most attractive? |
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over a year ago
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Self assured but sometimes yielding.
Often if I know I am right and the confrontation is with someone who clearly won’t be reasoned with, then what is the use of me trying to argue or debate. Would rather save the headache. Can’t argue/debate with Idiots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, in the mornings, after I wake up. I tend to sit in bed for a bit until my eyes and throat calm down. In this time, I just let me mind wander and I just delve into all sorts of different avenues of thought.
This morning, I was thinking about the way a lot of men are. Let's say there was some sort of disagreement (I had one yesterday), there are common ways in the way in which a man can react;
There's the man who is very very calm, and just accepts whatever shit is dealt and moves on. (Yielding)
There's the man who doesn't necessarily accept any shit, but simply ignores all that he doesn't agree with. (Ignorant)
There's the man who is very calm, very patient and just says his piece and calmly uses his reasoning to the best of his abilities. He might quote laws and reasonably accepted standards, etc. He doesn't overstep the mark, but at the same time, he won't be trodden on. (Self assured)
There's the guy who doesn't accept and states "No, I'm not doing that. Make me!" Or something similar. A bit 'in your face' type thing. (A bit cocky)
There's the man who totally loses control and lashes out, anger, screaming, shouting and possibly violence. Emotions can control him. (Animalistic)
For me, I'm very self assured. Some people label me as arrogant, but I'm not! I just live my life according to my judgement, not anyone else's.
Men, which one are you?
Women, which do you personally find most attractive?"
I would say self assured but sometimes Yielding. It all depends on the circumstance. I won’t be pushed over but at the same time there are things I just think you can’t argue with so I just let them go. Makes life a lot easier |
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"So, in the mornings, after I wake up. I tend to sit in bed for a bit until my eyes and throat calm down. In this time, I just let me mind wander and I just delve into all sorts of different avenues of thought.
This morning, I was thinking about the way a lot of men are. Let's say there was some sort of disagreement (I had one yesterday), there are common ways in the way in which a man can react;
There's the man who is very very calm, and just accepts whatever shit is dealt and moves on. (Yielding)
There's the man who doesn't necessarily accept any shit, but simply ignores all that he doesn't agree with. (Ignorant)
There's the man who is very calm, very patient and just says his piece and calmly uses his reasoning to the best of his abilities. He might quote laws and reasonably accepted standards, etc. He doesn't overstep the mark, but at the same time, he won't be trodden on. (Self assured)
There's the guy who doesn't accept and states "No, I'm not doing that. Make me!" Or something similar. A bit 'in your face' type thing. (A bit cocky)
There's the man who totally loses control and lashes out, anger, screaming, shouting and possibly violence. Emotions can control him. (Animalistic)
For me, I'm very self assured. Some people label me as arrogant, but I'm not! I just live my life according to my judgement, not anyone else's.
Men, which one are you?
Women, which do you personally find most attractive?"
I like a mix of Yielding, ignorant, self assured and cocky in a man
Possibly because I am like this |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Self assured. Someone who doesn't stir shite just for the sake of it but also won't be down trodden. Anyone who can stick up for themselves and not throw a strop when doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (me) am probably a little bit of everything there.
But it also depends on who I'm having the disagreement with, which determines which trait comes forward.
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I’m a self assured yielder
I’ll let most things go. I’m not afraid of confrontation, but I’m not going to invest energy into something negative. If pushed, I’ll put my foot down. I’m not a doormat just because I’m laid back |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham |
When you write it like that, it’s a no brainer...self assured. The epitome of the mature masculine.
But in reality, it’s a lot to do with likes, dislikes, personality, looks, relationship readiness of each party etc.
And I don’t think anyone can stay in their one box all the time, so it’s the quantity of time they spend in which other boxes that’s important too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Self assured with a sprinkling of animalistic in extreme circumstances (thank you mania) .. I can't tolerate abuse of animals, children or people unable to defend themselves |
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"I’m a self assured yielder
I’ll let most things go. I’m not afraid of confrontation, but I’m not going to invest energy into something negative. If pushed, I’ll put my foot down. I’m not a doormat just because I’m laid back "
Oh and I forgot to add, I find laid back guys sexier
Although sometimes, very very very rarely, I don’t mind a blazing row if it clears the air |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say i fall somewhere between yielding and self assured, depending on what is happening, i had someone have a go at me earlier on a thread, i definitely was somewhere in the middle |
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Don't those descriptions fit women too?
I like people who can debate intelligently, listen to other opinions and are open minded enough to accept they aren't always right. I find that attractive in a man and like to be friends with men and women who have those qualities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, in the mornings, after I wake up. I tend to sit in bed for a bit until my eyes and throat calm down. In this time, I just let me mind wander and I just delve into all sorts of different avenues of thought.
This morning, I was thinking about the way a lot of men are. Let's say there was some sort of disagreement (I had one yesterday), there are common ways in the way in which a man can react;
There's the man who is very very calm, and just accepts whatever shit is dealt and moves on. (Yielding)
There's the man who doesn't necessarily accept any shit, but simply ignores all that he doesn't agree with. (Ignorant)
There's the man who is very calm, very patient and just says his piece and calmly uses his reasoning to the best of his abilities. He might quote laws and reasonably accepted standards, etc. He doesn't overstep the mark, but at the same time, he won't be trodden on. (Self assured)
There's the guy who doesn't accept and states "No, I'm not doing that. Make me!" Or something similar. A bit 'in your face' type thing. (A bit cocky)
There's the man who totally loses control and lashes out, anger, screaming, shouting and possibly violence. Emotions can control him. (Animalistic)
For me, I'm very self assured. Some people label me as arrogant, but I'm not! I just live my life according to my judgement, not anyone else's.
Men, which one are you?
Women, which do you personally find most attractive?"
Sometimes, it's the feedback you get from third parties that's the most accurate. After all, it's how you come across to others rather than how you think you do? That's humility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm the self assured chap
Happy in the skin I'm in.
Confident in who I am , but never arrogant.
Calm and relaxed .
Happy to take ideas on board
Happy to follow my own ideas
Always willing to talk and if I'm wrong admit it .
Yes self assured I think that's me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm self assured on the outside, working in my field I have to be as customers sometimes need the reassurance of someone who sounds like he knows his stuff.
I also know I can go either side between yielding and ignorant dependant on circumstances.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Self assured is what I would imagine most would aim to be and it’s certainly the style that appeals to me most but I would also imagine that a lot of people who would identify as self assured actually cross into cocky or more |
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In honesty, it depends which day you catch me on, BUT , I'm working on being a better person. Maybe Mrs. R would be a better judge of how Im doing
Be more kind!
Mr. R |
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"So, in the mornings, after I wake up. I tend to sit in bed for a bit until my eyes and throat calm down. In this time, I just let me mind wander and I just delve into all sorts of different avenues of thought.
This morning, I was thinking about the way a lot of men are. Let's say there was some sort of disagreement (I had one yesterday), there are common ways in the way in which a man can react;
There's the man who is very very calm, and just accepts whatever shit is dealt and moves on. (Yielding)
There's the man who doesn't necessarily accept any shit, but simply ignores all that he doesn't agree with. (Ignorant)
There's the man who is very calm, very patient and just says his piece and calmly uses his reasoning to the best of his abilities. He might quote laws and reasonably accepted standards, etc. He doesn't overstep the mark, but at the same time, he won't be trodden on. (Self assured)
There's the guy who doesn't accept and states "No, I'm not doing that. Make me!" Or something similar. A bit 'in your face' type thing. (A bit cocky)
There's the man who totally loses control and lashes out, anger, screaming, shouting and possibly violence. Emotions can control him. (Animalistic)
For me, I'm very self assured. Some people label me as arrogant, but I'm not! I just live my life according to my judgement, not anyone else's.
Men, which one are you?
Women, which do you personally find most attractive?
I would say self assured but sometimes Yielding. It all depends on the circumstance. I won’t be pushed over but at the same time there are things I just think you can’t argue with so I just let them go. Makes life a lot easier "
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"I’m a self assured yielder
I’ll let most things go. I’m not afraid of confrontation, but I’m not going to invest energy into something negative. If pushed, I’ll put my foot down. I’m not a doormat just because I’m laid back "
If you wrestle with a pig you both get mucky and only the pig gets what they want. |
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"I'm the self assured chap
Happy in the skin I'm in.
Confident in who I am , but never arrogant.
Calm and relaxed .
Happy to take ideas on board
Happy to follow my own ideas
Always willing to talk and if I'm wrong admit it .
Yes self assured I think that's me "
You get the job |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"So, in the mornings, after I wake up. I tend to sit in bed for a bit until my eyes and throat calm down. In this time, I just let me mind wander and I just delve into all sorts of different avenues of thought.
This morning, I was thinking about the way a lot of men are. Let's say there was some sort of disagreement (I had one yesterday), there are common ways in the way in which a man can react;
There's the man who is very very calm, and just accepts whatever shit is dealt and moves on. (Yielding)
There's the man who doesn't necessarily accept any shit, but simply ignores all that he doesn't agree with. (Ignorant)
There's the man who is very calm, very patient and just says his piece and calmly uses his reasoning to the best of his abilities. He might quote laws and reasonably accepted standards, etc. He doesn't overstep the mark, but at the same time, he won't be trodden on. (Self assured)
There's the guy who doesn't accept and states "No, I'm not doing that. Make me!" Or something similar. A bit 'in your face' type thing. (A bit cocky)
There's the man who totally loses control and lashes out, anger, screaming, shouting and possibly violence. Emotions can control him. (Animalistic)
For me, I'm very self assured. Some people label me as arrogant, but I'm not! I just live my life according to my judgement, not anyone else's.
Men, which one are you?
Women, which do you personally find most attractive?
Sometimes, it's the feedback you get from third parties that's the most accurate. After all, it's how you come across to others rather than how you think you do? That's humility. "
Pretty much what I came to say. I find it arrogant that when someone receives feedback that they’re arrogant and they negate it immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self assured but sometimes yielding.
Often if I know I am right and the confrontation is with someone who clearly won’t be reasoned with, then what is the use of me trying to argue or debate. Would rather save the headache. Can’t argue/debate with Idiots. "
+1 for this.
Disagreements will always occur because of perception or lack of understanding on one of both sides, so if it's a learning process for all then good and if not, move on. |
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By *man_4Man
over a year ago
London |
I'd say I'm a mix between self assured and yielding. Changes with the circumstances. I certainly wouldn't just be walked over, but at the same time I don't feel there's a need to argue over some things, and so I feel it's better to just leave it. |
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"I’m a self assured yielder
I’ll let most things go. I’m not afraid of confrontation, but I’m not going to invest energy into something negative. If pushed, I’ll put my foot down. I’m not a doormat just because I’m laid back " this is me done to a tee |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Very Interesting , So if I remember correct the 4 natural reaction styles are acceptance (lose win) , negotiate (win win or mo deal) , collaborate (win win) and confrontation (win lose). My natural is confrontation ( not helped through bad training and role models as a young manager) but retrained to collaborate , under pressure , confrontation comes back sometimes.
Some said it’s wise to mix, sometimes it is. Purposely lose something or choose to confront occasionally , depends on the outcome you want but generally a win win is the best outcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm the self assured chap
Happy in the skin I'm in.
Confident in who I am , but never arrogant.
Calm and relaxed .
Happy to take ideas on board
Happy to follow my own ideas
Always willing to talk and if I'm wrong admit it .
Yes self assured I think that's me
You get the job " diolch |
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