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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was reading this morning an old article about: "12 habits that can make you seem instantly less attractive, according to science". I am not sure if I am allowed to post a link, so if you are interested, just copy title into your search engine.
When it comes to fab meet ups/dating/whatever you chose to call it, what personality traits or behaviours you find off putting?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When the lady you meet spends more time looking at her phone than talking to you. That's a frustrating one!"
Happened only once to me. Maybe because he was younger.. maybe it's a generation thing too?
It's awful though. I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The inability to explore their opinions and ideals...otherwise known as willing to accept they're potentially wrong!
Oh and I'm sure there's many others, but being rude and dismissive. |
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over a year ago
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" The inability to explore their opinions and ideals...otherwise known as willing to accept they're potentially wrong!
Oh and I'm sure there's many others, but being rude and dismissive."
I can be stubborn hearted about my opinions. It's a hard work to challenge yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When they speak badly about other people when you’re on a date. If someone starts moaning about an ex, I instantly lose interest and make an excuse to leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not being able to control their alcohol, can’t stand meets that you end up looking after grown adults. No drama and fun times is all we want.
Another is a couple that bicker in front of you it’s so awkward and unattractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1.) Pushing politics on me at an early stage from any angle (left, right, up or down).... Politics to me is fluid and interchangeable and I never take sides. Tribal shit bores me silly and makes me think "is this person gonna be this unimaginative and uncreative at sex too...?" 
2.) Also any focus on money and financials. It's none of your business, how rude....! Makes my cock all floppy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When they speak badly about other people when you’re on a date. If someone starts moaning about an ex, I instantly lose interest and make an excuse to leave. "
Had that happen. Really is an off put. Got asked if I'd like to see her video of sucking another chap off. Really? At a first meet.  |
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Vagueness is my bugbear on this .
When the are not giving off any clear signals either in conversation or body language. It is too easily interpreted as they are just tolerating your presence as there are no better alternatives available. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wherever I have been I've always try to be that that nice guy but not too nice that friendly guy but not too Friendly you treat me with respect you get respect back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When the lady you meet spends more time looking at her phone than talking to you. That's a frustrating one!
Happened only once to me. Maybe because he was younger.. maybe it's a generation thing too?
It's awful though. I agree. "
This  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Being a grown adult and not ironing or eating vegetables "
This made me giggle !
A man behind ironing board looks actually sexy especially with a steam iron heh. Hot!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"An energy sapping personality.
This would be on my list.
Energy vampires I call them...
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Very apt term. Shame they're not allergic to daylight like respectable vampires. |
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Not having a sense of humour
Being negative / pessimistic
Fakeness
Lack of self-confidence
Bad table manners / etiquette
Lack of manners
Not having some degree of chivalry
Not being able to hold a conversation
Looking at their phone
Being too loud or overbearing
Being puerile
I'll stop there because I'm beginning to sound like a bit of a diva  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not having a sense of humour
Being negative / pessimistic
Fakeness
Lack of self-confidence
Bad table manners / etiquette
Lack of manners
Not having some degree of chivalry
Not being able to hold a conversation
Looking at their phone
Being too loud or overbearing
Being puerile
I'll stop there because I'm beginning to sound like a bit of a diva "
Haha that's a very comprehensive list!
Chivalry is very important to me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was on a social meet once when his phone rang, he looked at it then at me, and proceeded to take the call so I got up and left ...thats one of my pet hates |
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"Not having a sense of humour
Being negative / pessimistic
Fakeness
Lack of self-confidence
Bad table manners / etiquette
Lack of manners
Not having some degree of chivalry
Not being able to hold a conversation
Looking at their phone
Being too loud or overbearing
Being puerile
I'll stop there because I'm beginning to sound like a bit of a diva "
Spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is unattractive to start a thread and not replying to all the comments ! "
I usually do but this one I dont think requires much commenting on. Its just a big ongoing rant which we all need.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like it when they are very self confident online and totally unconfident in real life and won't even look me in the eye and fiddle with stuff or tap feet "
Omg ppl who can't do eye contact! How are you supposed to flirt ffs....   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bad spelling, text speak, and the inability to hold an intelligent conversation. Turns me right off straight away "
Its about meeting people face to face not online.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Accents.
Please elaborate?"
I can't understand people who have really strong accents. It's my fault not theirs. It kills the mood if I'm constantly asking "what did you say?" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Accents.
Please elaborate?
I can't understand people who have really strong accents. It's my fault not theirs. It kills the mood if I'm constantly asking "what did you say?" "
I sympathise.. saying that I'm forever conscious about mine and my man always takes a Mickey of my pronunciation of certain words |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Accents.
Please elaborate?
I can't understand people who have really strong accents. It's my fault not theirs. It kills the mood if I'm constantly asking "what did you say?" "
To be fair that happened to me once with a guy with a seriously strong Glaswegian accent. Gave up asking “sorry what?” By the end. I really tried listening but lordy lord could not make out what he said at all! Total mood killer |
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When you pass a window or mirror and they talk to themselves in it instead if making eye contact with you. It's fine to check your hair or whatnot but if you're talking to me, fucking talk TO me.
When you're looking in the mirror mate, you're trying to convince yourself you're all that and more, not me. |
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt "
Oooops! That’s you fucked ya c**t |
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public."
I love a woman with a potty mouth |
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt
Oooops! That’s you fucked ya c**t "
Not just a little bit fucked but fucking fucked 
I love it when you call me a cunt |
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt
Oooops! That’s you fucked ya c**t
Not just a little bit fucked but fucking fucked
I love it when you call me a cunt "
your a cunt |
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt
Oooops! That’s you fucked ya c**t
Not just a little bit fucked but fucking fucked
I love it when you call me a cunt "
Only because you know it’s sooooo not a word I use |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt
Oooops! That’s you fucked ya c**t
Not just a little bit fucked but fucking fucked
I love it when you call me a cunt
Only because you know it’s sooooo not a word I use "
not even dirty time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt
Oooops! That’s you fucked ya c**t "
You two..
That's a fecking letdown! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been out with a woman and she has said "fuck" as part of the conversation. There is a time and a place but not in public.
That's me fucked, it's my second favourite word after cunt "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Vagueness is my bugbear on this .
When the are not giving off any clear signals either in conversation or body language. It is too easily interpreted as they are just tolerating your presence as there are no better alternatives available. "
Could they be introverts or very shy?
It's a hard work either way. |
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"Vagueness is my bugbear on this .
When the are not giving off any clear signals either in conversation or body language. It is too easily interpreted as they are just tolerating your presence as there are no better alternatives available.
Could they be introverts or very shy?
It's a hard work either way. "
Possibly but makes flirting bloody challenging especially as I'm not actually that good at it in the first place  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Vagueness is my bugbear on this .
When the are not giving off any clear signals either in conversation or body language. It is too easily interpreted as they are just tolerating your presence as there are no better alternatives available.
Could they be introverts or very shy?
It's a hard work either way.
Possibly but makes flirting bloody challenging especially as I'm not actually that good at it in the first place "
It's like the equivalent of one line messages here
I'm sure it's not the case. Its just a matter of the person waking up these skills in us by turning on attraction button. |
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"Over confident people with chips on their shoulders.
Agreed, arrogance disguised as confidence. Uuurrggg. Oh and add to that the lack of good oral hygiene... "
These type of people are me me me so boring! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she hasn't wiped her um right since her last trip for a poo nd I can smell shit, that's a deal breaker "
No way that’s disgusting!!! (Insert sick emoji) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If she hasn't wiped her um right since her last trip for a poo nd I can smell shit, that's a deal breaker
No way that’s disgusting!!! (Insert sick emoji) "
Thankfully it's never happened but to be honest I might not smell it anyway over all the shit I talk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One sided conversations where people talk at you, not too you.
Self appreciation
Narcissistic two faced people, lovely to your face, slag you off to others... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women who shit the bed and roll it out with their foot,like I didn't notice 
S'cusee me and my prolapsed Ahole, thought you were sleeping
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Nothing escapes dash |
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More interest in themselves and the specific acts they must have, rather than mine - selfishness, in essence.
Insensitive pushiness to meet - an extension of their selfishness, sometimes coupled with an aggressive tone.
Inflexibility - often comes with selfishness.
Disconnected - not engaged or engaging.
Disrespectful |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"More interest in themselves and the specific acts they must have, rather than mine - selfishness, in essence.
Insensitive pushiness to meet - an extension of their selfishness, sometimes coupled with an aggressive tone.
Inflexibility - often comes with selfishness.
Disconnected - not engaged or engaging.
Disrespectful "
Inflexible is an interesting call. I recall someone booking a hotel after having a vague convo about possibly meeting on a certain day. Announcing what time I should make there and how long at least we should spend together. Yeah well.. that didnt happen. |
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