FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > What has fab taught you?
What has fab taught you?
Jump to: Newest in thread
My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)
It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.
Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.
I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.
It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.
Sending fab hugs and I need them today too |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I like men commenting on Mrs ass pics - turn on |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS trust your gut.
If he's your dream man..... he's probably already someone else's dream man and husband even though it states single on their profile |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)
It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.
Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.
I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.
It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.
Sending fab hugs and I need them today too "
That I'm uglier than an ugly person... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Resilience, tolerance and respect & love for all people, even the ones I don't particularly agree with. I'm alright at sex stuff now too....  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Today I've learned what ghosting is.
Honestly never heard of it before but can appreciate the anguish it would cause.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That it’s ok to switch off and that you don’t need to explain yourself unless they mean something to you xx |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
To beware of the keyboard warriors and the ones who take it too seriously...
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Also I hope you're feeling better soon OP and hope you managed to save your stuff. You're needed back at the office....   |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I am not normal |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
This place can teach you many things. Behaviour is the no.1 thing ive noticed more.
People can and will get attached to you. As long as you set bounderies what you want and looking for, no one gets hurt.
Yet again the messages women get from here off men are truly disgusting..paints the guys who are actually decent with the same brush..
Respect goes out the window for many here, but being behind a keyboard with fake profiles ect for many are a big thing..pretending..
Keep your chin up OP..(Big virtual bear hug) always be yourself xx |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
1. Many people are full of shit
2. Trust your instincts
3. The 7 P's apply to swinging
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I agree with you OP. I got ghosted completely by a guy I was meeting. We always had a good time together and could talk for hours and hours. He dropped off the face of the earth without telling me what went wrong, we were chatting everyday with the view to see each other again after lockdown  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Trust your gut
Be yourself
Know your strength and your worth
Deep and powerful friendships can be forged from the most unexpected places
Be compassionate, but also be ruthlessly defensive when necessary |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
that no one really gives a shit
life is to short-get on with it an enjoy |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I've learned most people lose interest rapidly when you don't want penetrative sex. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
More than anything, I've learned patience! If it's worth doing, it's worth waiting, and doing well. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Not to get my hopes up lol |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *rre786Man
over a year ago
Reading |
That, while undoubtedly there are some dubious people out there, there are also some wonderful ones. And it's worth trying to maintain the balance of caution for the first and openness to the latter.
Sorry you having a rough day OP, sending virtual hug. {hug} |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've learnt that the biggest fab curse is the distance and that all the men on here are serious competition!
Hope you're well gobby?! Chin up and know that I'd never ghost ya! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Naff all... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Sending hugs and will gladly take one back.
It's taught me not everything us as it seems or as you would hope.
But on a more positive note it's helped me accept my body as it is scars and all. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
^^^ what Mr Bants said really |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago
Nottinghamshire |
"I agree with you OP. I got ghosted completely by a guy I was meeting. We always had a good time together and could talk for hours and hours. He dropped off the face of the earth without telling me what went wrong, we were chatting everyday with the view to see each other again after lockdown "
that's shite , goes to say u will never truly know someone, the only person u ever truly know is yourself , I always say trust your gut instinct  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)
It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.
Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.
I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.
It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.
Sending fab hugs and I need them today too "
That some people like bareback and some people don't and you'll never convince anyone to change their mind.
That guys get so hung up about whether having their ass touched makes them 1. Slightly bisexual 2. 100% bisexual 3. Ever so slightly gay 4. 100% gay 5. Just a normal bloke that enjoys the touch of another human being.
That having 65 different photos of your own cock on your profile just means you are a cock (especially when 53 of the photos are next to 1. The sky remote 2. A very cheap can't of lager
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That a lot of people wear masks.
But also that there are wonderful people to be found in the most unlikely of places. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That our age can be a bonus and not put people off as i imagined ,but again guys think because we are older we will be more desperate and grateful  think skin has been grown .. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Taught me alot about human behaviour, my own personal kinks and enjoying chatting about taboo subjects |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Even when we all share healthy interest in sex but many are judgemental and too quick to judge on the things you said or haven't said. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Taught me alot about human behaviour, my own personal kinks and enjoying chatting about taboo subjects"
Oh, I forgot. It taught me I don't want my arse shagging by a lovely but crazy lady with a pegging fetish.... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
That our age can be a bonus and not put people off as i imagined ,but again guys think because we are older we will be more desperate and grateful think skin has been grown .."
Mad isn't it why people take on those assumptions I get because I am older I must want a young stud and don't know what I am missing  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That im not the only mad one on here |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
A lot of people are up their own arses on here. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *91kMan
over a year ago
Maidstone |
Agree with what most are saying. Ghosting is highly popular on here as are attitudes!
But on the plus side... There are some really nice people too. Tbh I use this more for social engagement than sexual stuff now  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That getting laid is hard. Well I kind of knew that already but fab has compounded it. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That im not the only mad one on here "
This is just one big mental asylum at times!!  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
There are loads of horny fuckers around |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That getting laid is hard. Well I kind of knew that already but fab has compounded it. "
Again....only because of distance!  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
It’s taught me how big my ego was.. so it’s helped me bury my ego and give me a clear mind to want to experience real pleasures of intimacy and sex |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
It's also taught me just how much I have going for me. There's a lot of background noise I ignore and some incredible people who have helped me on my journey of self discovery. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That if you shave your head, men will either find you insanely sexy, or insanely ugly.
There’s no in between. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Have had amazing experiences via this site but sometimes you have to wade through a lot of ego, dishonesty and conceit. Never get hung up on poor behaviour or arrogance. One man said my 8" wasn't big enough for his wife. Good for them. Everyone has an ideal. Basic decency usually wins. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That saying yes leads to some pretty good things
Aside from that, nothing I didn't already know |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I like men commenting on Mrs ass pics - turn on"
. nice Ass hun
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've learned through attending big socials that I can do socialising without anxiety. I've learned through attending swingers clubs that I can wear next to nothing in front of strangers without much anxiety. I've also learned that I can have sex.
None of these would have happened without fab. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I've learned through attending big socials that I can do socialising without anxiety. I've learned through attending swingers clubs that I can wear next to nothing in front of strangers without much anxiety. I've also learned that I can have sex.
None of these would have happened without fab. "
It's been great for my anxiety |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"That if you shave your head, men will either find you insanely sexy, or insanely ugly.
There’s no in between. "
I've got to agree with that tho it's been a long time since. I was so tempted during lockdown but like changing my hair colour too much to loose that |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
As a gentleman, to be honest, I'd rather not say! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've learnt that the real world is way more satisfying than the cyber world |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That there's a lot of fun to be had, but thick skin is needed |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Hey Gobbychick.. sorry to hear about your low mood and hope it isnt fab related.
I need to think more carefully about the answer but it taught me it's ok to feel spontaneous and act as such sometimes..
That it's hard to see through virtual fog of pretending.. so trust should be given sporadically and what people dont know they cannot ruin.
If I think of something else I will add it.
Look after yourself x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Firstly have a big hug from me Gobby, as lord knows after the week I had up until Tuesday, I know how much we all need them at the moment.
Fab has taught me that like in all walks of life you will come across the following
1) people who shine bright who really are beautiful inside.
2) people who have a brilliant window display but when you open the door and enter the shop the lights are set to low ( and I mean that in terms of their mannerisms not to coin the phrase the lights are on but nobody's home)
3) some people are just out to be as mean and horrid as they can.
I think it is extra hard at the moment because of the pressures that people are experiencing that they might never have encountered before.
However, it is not an excuse for poor behaviour that when they reflect upon it they know is wrong.
Finally I guess after 5 years I must figure the place is ok.
So have another big hug again.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I’ve learned that some people are really nice |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
I've learnt more than one thing from being on fab, the one that will surprise most has to be , although I'm a male my appendage doesn't do my thinking for me. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Fab’s proven that distance is a bitch but with patience the payoffs are very satisfying.
I’m more confident in bed, I feel sexy again and that it’s ok to explore your sexual desires. ( I’ve added a couple of things to my sex bucket list)
I’ve also got a great group of friends that support each other thru good and bad times that I wouldn’t have met if Fab hadn’t brought us together.
It’s also taught me to trust my gut.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That some people are users...treat you like a toy then find something better... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Taught me to not taking it seriously  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Trust your instincts.
Remember not everyone will like you, just as you won't like all of them.
Don't rush into things.
Don't let anyone tell you what you're worth.
Mrs TMN x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
People who I thought wouldn't have the time of day for me on here have proved me wrong and been lovely x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)
It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.
Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.
I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.
It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.
Sending fab hugs and I need them today too "
Sending you lots of love gorgeous girl, please look after yourself
Fab has taught me that there are some lovely people around, and through Fab I have met and mafe friends with some amazing people who I would never of met otherwise |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Some sexy stuff and that I can't seem to click with anyone  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That’s ok to be attracted to multiple ladies and not be guilty |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Fab has taught me that there is a few diamonds in the rough
But it's also taught me that I'm nothing special and to be honest it's confirmed my low self worth |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"How to like myself again"
Plus sex is something i enjoy now at last ... happy asf |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS trust your gut.
If he's your dream man..... he's probably already someone else's dream man and husband even though it states single on their profile "
I couldn't agree more with this ^ lady. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Be me. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)
It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.
Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.
I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.
It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.
Sending fab hugs and I need them today too
Sending you lots of love gorgeous girl, please look after yourself
Fab has taught me that there are some lovely people around, and through Fab I have met and mafe friends with some amazing people who I would never of met otherwise "
You’re a wonderful person and I consider myself lucky to have met you. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
To stay positive and have a laugh along the way |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That I’m a bit of a gay icon
And that FAB’s a welcome distraction in these times |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
I've learned that when people post on the 'what would you like to do the the person above' threads they're lying to me. In fact, most just lie, period. But it's OK. It's just Internet. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Hi _obbychick I'm Archie,
I've found fab puts everyone on a level playing field and seems to concentrate on the mind more than charm or look..
And to be honest has made me think in a different way and not rely on what I have done but try and improve on the aspects I dont use so much...
Bond... x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Honesty is the key |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
I have learned that you look damn fine in a towel, Gobby. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It is a low mood day hey. Hope all is cool. Fab has taught me not to judge others. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Some people’s first response is to unleash the dogs.. what does that say about them?! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That a lot of people wear masks.
But also that there are wonderful people to be found in the most unlikely of places. "
This is my fav answer so far!
Still scrolling though
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Don't believe it all. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x"
Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x
Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying. "
Not love. I used to trust what people said was what they meant. Some have ulterior motives. I'm quite a direct person so assumed others were like that too. But, there are some absolute diamonds on here amongst the coal. I've made some lifelong friends from this site x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Trust no one  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
To believe nothing and question everything |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
Reading this thread has been a bit surprising actually. A fair number have posted very candidly about how Fab has brought about some less positive lessons, more than I expected. Glancing roughly, maybe half or a shade under? Well good to know its not just me!
So what is it which makes us persist? Is it the hope of finding something positive at the end of it all? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"To believe nothing and question everything "
Nothing about checking you didn’t forget your undies before heading out? Gorgeous coat! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That it's wise to take appropriate care. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x
Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying.
Not love. I used to trust what people said was what they meant. Some have ulterior motives. I'm quite a direct person so assumed others were like that too. But, there are some absolute diamonds on here amongst the coal. I've made some lifelong friends from this site x"
Ah your must know spurs then |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"To believe nothing and question everything
Nothing about checking you didn’t forget your undies before heading out? Gorgeous coat!"
I thought I could feel a breeze |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"To believe nothing and question everything "
Still working on that one |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Trust your gut
Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers
Men can't handle rejection
Most people are just acquaintances
Life is too short to be nasty |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Trust your gut
Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers
Men can't handle rejection
Most people are just acquaintances
Life is too short to be nasty "
Problem is I tell the truth and it still gets us nowhere. I envy those who can lie. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"To trust my gut instincts. To question more and not take everything at face value x
Love makes us all blind. Only after do we remember what our gut was saying.
Not love. I used to trust what people said was what they meant. Some have ulterior motives. I'm quite a direct person so assumed others were like that too. But, there are some absolute diamonds on here amongst the coal. I've made some lifelong friends from this site x"
Totally agree |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"Trust your gut
Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers
Men can't handle rejection
Most people are just acquaintances
Life is too short to be nasty "
It’s nice to be nice methinks x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That people really can be awful. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy"
Yep pretty much fella |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That I'm even less desirable than I'd feared!
"So what is it which makes us persist?"
Personally speaking, my desire for sex with attractive people. When it does happen, it's worth the absolute beating one's self-esteem takes in the pursuit of it. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy"
You missed that people (mainly males) judge and learn about profiles from pictures only. Writing a profile is meaningless to 90% of them as its rarely read and if it is read they believe they can change your desires and wants.. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Trust your gut
Men will tell you anything to get into your knickers
Men can't handle rejection
Most people are just acquaintances
Life is too short to be nasty
Problem is I tell the truth and it still gets us nowhere. I envy those who can lie. "
St least, you have a clear conscience and not spread bad karma through your lies. You will soon be rewarded greatly for that as you in turn attract the right person. I pray it will
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Over the years Fab has shown me that a lot of swingers aren't actually swingers,that there are some truly genuine and beautiful people out there,that the double standard and stereotyping are alive and strong,that a little effort can go a long way,that lying and deceit is rampant,that kinks I've previously been embarrassed about having are actually shared by many people and are nothing to be ashamed of,that swinging is just as cliquey,judgemental and discriminatory as any other demographic in society despite marketing itself as welcoming to all,that it's possible to have amazing sex with people casually/just as friends,that personal hygiene isn't as widespread as it should be and that polyamory is much much better than monogamy
You missed that people (mainly males) judge and learn about profiles from pictures only. Writing a profile is meaningless to 90% of them as its rarely read and if it is read they believe they can change your desires and wants.."
I must add I still got messages when I had no photos. The fact I was just online gave them excuse to ask for sex. Possibly just picking first 5 people in their area. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Nothing that I didn't already know. People come in all different shapes, sizes and a vast range of varying behavioral traits. Some good some not so. It's life |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Never have any expectations cause if you do and whatever they may be this place will shatter them for sure |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
There are people just as interested in nsa sex as I am. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Never judge a book by its cover |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
You can't please all the people all the time.
Don't even try...just do you.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Have a thick skin... dont waste time on people who show no interest... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That the cliche and innuendo is seriously overused |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's a rollercoaster, and you're not the centre of the world despite you thinking you are whilst logged on.
Not responding, logging off and avoiding trolling will greatly enhance your enjoyment.
Theres some amazingly interesting and positive people amongst the non compatibles! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That people on here will show me parts of their personality that they want me to see, not necessarily parts that I want to see |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Just to be yourself, don’t play up for the crowd. Also, step away when it all gets a bit meh, it’ll still be here if you want it.
Sending (polar)bear hugs OP |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Hasn’t taught us anything really, just backed up the fact that life has its fair share of dicks, even more so on social media.
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
Swindon |
From these sites in general I've learnt.
* how to handle rejection
* patience wins the day
* just be yourself, be nice and you'll get there. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
It’s been so lovely reading what you all have learnt from the site.
I definitely have learnt to accept me more for myself and it’s either something that someone likes or isn’t fond of.
Like most of you have said. It’s taking care of one self and the rest just follows |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Sending hugs and will gladly take one back.
It's taught me not everything us as it seems or as you would hope.
But on a more positive note it's helped me accept my body as it is scars and all. "
Big hugs to you hun |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Just to be yourself, don’t play up for the crowd. Also, step away when it all gets a bit meh, it’ll still be here if you want it.
Sending (polar)bear hugs OP "
Awww I like fluffy polar hugs. Thank you hun |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That some people just aren’t what they seem  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Reading this thread has been a bit surprising actually. A fair number have posted very candidly about how Fab has brought about some less positive lessons, more than I expected. Glancing roughly, maybe half or a shade under? Well good to know its not just me!
So what is it which makes us persist? Is it the hope of finding something positive at the end of it all? "
Even if there’s less positive lessons I believe that you should always stay hopeful.
There is a lot more good on this site than bad.
Patience really does pay off in my eyes |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"I have learned that you look damn fine in a towel, Gobby. "
Now that’s just made me smile. Thank you very much you sexy pair x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That I am very good with both hands
Jo x |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"My low mood today has got me thinking about the things you feel like you’ve learnt or experienced since joining fab? (could even say other sites)
It could be finding new kinks/fetishes, or even just understanding people and their views more.
Mine would have to be experiencing ghosting from my old profile.
I just didn’t think someone could be so heartless.
It’s definitely taught me a lot and hopefully makes me 10x more vigilant when I do find interest in someone.
Sending fab hugs and I need them today too
Sending you lots of love gorgeous girl, please look after yourself
Fab has taught me that there are some lovely people around, and through Fab I have met and mafe friends with some amazing people who I would never of met otherwise "
Awww thank you my beautiful lady
I definitely agree with you and have come across some lovelies who have made this experience such a positive one. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"This place can teach you many things. Behaviour is the no.1 thing ive noticed more.
People can and will get attached to you. As long as you set bounderies what you want and looking for, no one gets hurt.
Yet again the messages women get from here off men are truly disgusting..paints the guys who are actually decent with the same brush..
Respect goes out the window for many here, but being behind a keyboard with fake profiles ect for many are a big thing..pretending..
Keep your chin up OP..(Big virtual bear hug) always be yourself xx"
Awww that’s lovely. Big hugs back to you |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Taught me confidence to say no. That's it's not going to be the end of the world if I do, which is liberating |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *eliWoman
over a year ago
. |
I'm going to focus on the positives because the weather is rather dreary and it'll cheer me up.
I can love and am deserving of love.
Opening up can make you vulnerable but the connections I make make my life far richer for it.
I'm poly, not just ethically non-monogamous.
Friendships, the real friendships where you can be who you are, where they are there for you as much as you are for them and you can laugh and cry together are truly incredible and should be cherished for what they are.
There are some wonderful people in all walks of life, if you take the time to truly listen to them and let them be themselves.
I really love Playful Promises. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Firstly have a big hug from me Gobby, as lord knows after the week I had up until Tuesday, I know how much we all need them at the moment.
Fab has taught me that like in all walks of life you will come across the following
1) people who shine bright who really are beautiful inside.
2) people who have a brilliant window display but when you open the door and enter the shop the lights are set to low ( and I mean that in terms of their mannerisms not to coin the phrase the lights are on but nobody's home)
3) some people are just out to be as mean and horrid as they can.
I think it is extra hard at the moment because of the pressures that people are experiencing that they might never have encountered before.
However, it is not an excuse for poor behaviour that when they reflect upon it they know is wrong.
Finally I guess after 5 years I must figure the place is ok.
So have another big hug again.
"
Aww even bigger hugs for you Lois, you’ve been the reason for a lot of smiles on fab recently and you are always trying to make others feel the warmth with doing lovely threads.
I think it’s due to people like you who have so much going on in life yet still have the strength to make others happy or feel good about themselves.
Lots and lots of hugs for you |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Big hugs chick x
I've learned good and bad from this site in all the years i've been on and off it. Learned to spot a keyboard bully from a mile off..... but I have also gained 2 lovely good best friends from here, in real life.
Hope you have an awesome friday xx |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's taught me the there's been a sharp rise and narcissistic behaviour in society.
And often feels like the worst thing a person can be is a middle-aged man.
 |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Taught me a few things, how to wear a thicker skin, and not take myself to serious, i also thought i was quite experienced in sex and all that goes with it, but i certainly have learnt new things here, none i have tried, but certainly hope to before i pop my clogs, |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"Taught me alot about human behaviour, my own personal kinks and enjoying chatting about taboo subjects
Oh, I forgot. It taught me I don't want my arse shagging by a lovely but crazy lady with a pegging fetish...."
That sounds like a painful lesson! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
to be thick skinned and not let others get to me when they feel they are entitled to be spiteful |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That way too men have completely the wrong idea of how the site works. An expectancy that women on here sit around all day in their stockings and heels just waiting for anyone to message saying "where are you, am just passing through Notts so I can pop in and give you a seeing to" or words to that effect (often with not one single photo to be seen) and then when you delete or say no thanks you get abusive name calling from them!
I am always tempted for entertainment to reply with "yes sure, it's £500 per half hour" just to see what they say |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Well if I have been taught anything it's never trust a man with an eye each side of his nose |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That way too men have completely the wrong idea of how the site works. An expectancy that women on here sit around all day in their stockings and heels just waiting for anyone to message saying "where are you, am just passing through Notts so I can pop in and give you a seeing to" or words to that effect (often with not one single photo to be seen) and then when you delete or say no thanks you get abusive name calling from them!
I am always tempted for entertainment to reply with "yes sure, it's £500 per half hour" just to see what they say "
Keep the messages, I guarantee most of those profiles will vanish within three weeks of being made.
The guys who understand that the chase and flirt is part of the fun will stick around and have no problem provin who they are.
But yeah there are some chancers out there |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"That way too men have completely the wrong idea of how the site works. An expectancy that women on here sit around all day in their stockings and heels just waiting for anyone to message saying "where are you, am just passing through Notts so I can pop in and give you a seeing to" or words to that effect (often with not one single photo to be seen) and then when you delete or say no thanks you get abusive name calling from them!
I am always tempted for entertainment to reply with "yes sure, it's £500 per half hour" just to see what they say
Keep the messages, I guarantee most of those profiles will vanish within three weeks of being made.
The guys who understand that the chase and flirt is part of the fun will stick around and have no problem provin who they are.
But yeah there are some chancers out there"
Oh yes, they usually vanish. Many are probably cheating on partners and just think they can grab a quick shag on the way home from work lol |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That semen are cubes are liked by some. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
That I really am a swinger..albeit a single one |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"That semen are cubes are liked by some."
Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen  |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
Deepest darkest Peru |
"That semen are cubes are liked by some.
Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen "
Yes. Just recently |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"That semen are cubes are liked by some.
Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen "
It sure was..I'll have a vodka, c*ke, slice and semen ice cubes and one for yourself |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Chin up Gobby you’ve got so much going for you lassie xx
Fab had taught us that not everyone loves Star Wars...7-1200 profile views a day during the week but no fabs |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
People in cities sometimes don't realise that too people in small towns 10/20 miles away is certainly a viable and often necessary travelling distance ...
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Today - how to get the last word (IF I wanted it)... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It has taught me that they are too many married men here who are looking for free prostitutes and quick boring sex in cars or vans wtf..but the forums are good by the way. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If it seems to good to be true..it probably is |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If it seems to good to be true..it probably is "
Lolol there is no truth, just opinion.... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If it seems to good to be true..it probably is
Lolol there is no truth, just opinion.... "
Opinions are like arseholes..everyone has one |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
sorry to be dramatic but I’ve learn that I am highly undesirable, unattractive and generally awful. I always suspected it but time after time fab confirms it for me. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If it seems to good to be true..it probably is
Lolol there is no truth, just opinion....
Opinions are like arseholes..everyone has one "
Bumholes! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"sorry to be dramatic but I’ve learn that I am highly undesirable, unattractive and generally awful. I always suspected it but time after time fab confirms it for me. "
Why do you think that? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"sorry to be dramatic but I’ve learn that I am highly undesirable, unattractive and generally awful. I always suspected it but time after time fab confirms it for me. "
2 verifications say otherwise |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"That semen are cubes are liked by some.
Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen
It sure was..I'll have a vodka, c*ke, slice and semen ice cubes and one for yourself "
Blurghhhh ! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"That semen are cubes are liked by some.
Oh! Was that out of a thread where someone had ice cubes of semen
It sure was..I'll have a vodka, c*ke, slice and semen ice cubes and one for yourself
Blurghhhh !"
|
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
Fab has taught me that i'm pretty good at this sex business and that i'm more desirable that I would have previously thought. It's shown me I have a talent for erotic writing and helped me rediscover how good I am at drawing.
Most importantly it's helped me purge feelings of jealousy and possessiveness from my system. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
So many people have less maturity than primary school kids. The bitching, bullying. Open threats. Really nasty people. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
People lie |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
Here has taught me on one hand to trust no one!!! Lol
Also that you dont have to necessarily have too much in common with someone to click and naturally get on with each other, embrace your differences. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That I’m only seen as a “nice guy” |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling "
I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That I’m only seen as a “nice guy” "
Swapsies plz? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
To be more open-minded |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling
I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting "
If the conversation is flowing and with a good vibe, why not continue it outside of fab so that doesn't happen? |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling
I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting "
If I’m honest I don’t buy this, if you were genuinely interested you would find his message, that’s just my opinion not trying to cause upset for anyone |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling
I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting
If the conversation is flowing and with a good vibe, why not continue it outside of fab so that doesn't happen?"
Because sometimes it's just a nice conversation. Which, perhaps due to location, I know won't go anywhere further. I'm very open with my profile on here, so hence very strict with who I chat with outside of fab. I only move things off this site if there's a real connection or I'm planning a meet. Otherwise I just get swamped! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Fab has taught me to appreciate ladies of all shapes and sizes! They are all sexy in different ways!! |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've been ghosted twice by the same person, needles to say if she comes back there's no 3rd chance. It's a shit feeling
I worry that I've accidentally done this a lot. I'll be messaging a new guy back and forth a few times, nothing too serious, and then suddenly 80 messages will come in and I've lost any hope of finding the conversation I was having. So to that person, it'll probably feel like I've just suddenly stopped chatting
If the conversation is flowing and with a good vibe, why not continue it outside of fab so that doesn't happen?
Because sometimes it's just a nice conversation. Which, perhaps due to location, I know won't go anywhere further. I'm very open with my profile on here, so hence very strict with who I chat with outside of fab. I only move things off this site if there's a real connection or I'm planning a meet. Otherwise I just get swamped!"
You're right to keep things on fab for as long as is comfortable for you. I've been way to easy offering ourt my other details in the past and then you end up with stalkers who see you online and won't leave you alone asking who you're talking to and why their ticks are still grey when you've been online for ten minutes etc. Keep the outside for outside ppl or the really special ones.... |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
"So many people have less maturity than primary school kids. The bitching, bullying. Open threats. Really nasty people. "
This too. |
Reply privately (closed, thread got too big) | |
