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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe..or have children at home
Plenty of single dads out there who have children living with them too"
Well i for one wouldnt want a meet in my home I share with my sons |
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"women are more cautious perhaps "
My point is there is a big assumption that if a guy can not accommodate he must be married... I also read this on another thread.. the guy asked what’s wrong with my profile and a women replied that you have cannot accommodate so assuming your married |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the users explains in their profile why they cannot accommodate then nobody has to assume anything. Some just don't read the profile."
Then there's no help then  |
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I don’t assume I just ask them out right, the ones I found to be married playing away are ones with pics taken in the bathroom, don’t get me wrong not all bathroom pics mean that they are hiding, it’s just something I’ve noticed, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"or they dont want strangers too know where they live
But it okay for them to know where the man lives?  "
The op is assuming as much as a woman would...
Never assume ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"or they dont want strangers too know where they live
But it okay for them to know where the man lives?
There are hotels or clubs for meets as well."
Isn't that equal got women too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"or they dont want strangers too know where they live
But it okay for them to know where the man lives?
There are hotels or clubs for meets as well.
Isn't that equal got women too? "
I didn't get you there..
If neither of party wants to know where the other lives, they can meet elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly most I've chatted to on here have turned out to be married. They gave many reasons at first as to why they couldn't accommodate. They didnt suggest a hotel either
Just wanted quickies in a car  |
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Just state in your profile why you can't/won't accommodate. There are crazies everywhere, if you don't want people to know where you live, that's valid, whether you're a man or a woman.
I know few who invite anyone into their home, anyway. There are so many other options, even if you have nothing to hide.
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"I don’t assume I just ask them out right, the ones I found to be married playing away are ones with pics taken in the bathroom, don’t get me wrong not all bathroom pics mean that they are hiding, it’s just something I’ve noticed, "
Or I found mentioning you are likely to mark them if you get carried away. I don't always but it's usually a good way to tell those who are playing when they possibly shouldn't be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t assume I just ask them out right, the ones I found to be married playing away are ones with pics taken in the bathroom, don’t get me wrong not all bathroom pics mean that they are hiding, it’s just something I’ve noticed,
Or I found mentioning you are likely to mark them if you get carried away. I don't always but it's usually a good way to tell those who are playing when they possibly shouldn't be "
I use this last one a lot too. You will have marks left on you... |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
Some are, some aren’t.
Alas for the genuinely single guys who can’t/won’t accommodate for whatever reason, there is a huge amount of cheating “single” men on fab and also many other networking and dating sites. It only takes a short time for ladies to get a little jaded with them and that’s why so many assume that any guy who can’t accommodate is attached. |
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"I don’t assume I just ask them out right, the ones I found to be married playing away are ones with pics taken in the bathroom, don’t get me wrong not all bathroom pics mean that they are hiding, it’s just something I’ve noticed,
Or I found mentioning you are likely to mark them if you get carried away. I don't always but it's usually a good way to tell those who are playing when they possibly shouldn't be
I use this last one a lot too. You will have marks left on you... "
Yes sometimes the outright question isn't enough. But then sometimes the marks are not either. But at least I have fun in the process that way  |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too?
Some are, some aren’t.
Alas for the genuinely single guys who can’t/won’t accommodate for whatever reason, there is a huge amount of cheating “single” men on fab and also many other networking and dating sites. It only takes a short time for ladies to get a little jaded with them and that’s why so many assume that any guy who can’t accommodate is attached."
Massive amount. And once bitten twice shy. So can't blame the females for being doubtful considering the crap we have to deal with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"or they dont want strangers too know where they live
But it okay for them to know where the man lives?
There are hotels or clubs for meets as well.
My point is if the excuse is good for one it's for any other!
Isn't that equal got women too?
I didn't get you there..
If neither of party wants to know where the other lives, they can meet elsewhere."
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too?
Some are, some aren’t.
Alas for the genuinely single guys who can’t/won’t accommodate for whatever reason, there is a huge amount of cheating “single” men on fab and also many other networking and dating sites. It only takes a short time for ladies to get a little jaded with them and that’s why so many assume that any guy who can’t accommodate is attached.
Massive amount. And once bitten twice shy. So can't blame the females for being doubtful considering the crap we have to deal with"
Men deal with crap on here too lol not just women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a serious note - I am actually single and without children
I've only accommodated once, that was with a long-term meet and that was at my parents' house, not mine and that was instead of us meeting at a hotel in the middle of our respective towns.
I don't accommodate because I can't stand having people in my personal space, the only people who come into my house are boyfriends/girlfriends, my landlord and work men. I don't meet locally like ever either. My profile says I don't travel as I rely on public transport, so my way to meet (unless someone comes over to me for the weekend and books a hotel here) is to book a hotel room in the nearest city, and have the dual opportunity of getting some shopping and some sex in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t make any assumptions based on accommodating.
We can’t accommodate because our flat is tiny (we downsized to save for a mortgage) and have been living out of boxes we can’t unpack for a year and a half! I don’t let me friends come over 90% of the time... which sucks because I’m out old place I used to host all the time.
So why would I invite a meet back to a house i don’t like and feel uncomfortable sharing with others? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"women are more cautious perhaps
My point is there is a big assumption that if a guy can not accommodate he must be married... I also read this on another thread.. the guy asked what’s wrong with my profile and a women replied that you have cannot accommodate so assuming your married "
I think it’s more likely that he is married. We will sometimes accom as a couple , but never as individuals, that wouldn’t happen at home - she would expect him to sort it out , and I would expect to have to sort it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a ridiculous assumption. Some people choose to keep fab and real life totally separate. I know plenty men who have joint custody of their children and wouldn’t accommodate but aren’t married. I would never have anyone in my house. This is my children’s home. Nobody from here has ever known where I live, not even the village I live in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a ridiculous assumption. Some people choose to keep fab and real life totally separate. I know plenty men who have joint custody of their children and wouldn’t accommodate but aren’t married. I would never have anyone in my house. This is my children’s home. Nobody from here has ever known where I live, not even the village I live in. "
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Everyone on here is trying to fulfill some fantasy of theirs. My profile says I dont accommodate however I have invited some single ladies round it depends on the person.
Also if someone is married I personally dont see why it bothers other people. If they want to cheat or have sex out of the marriage that's their decision
Its surely no skin off the other person's nose.
1. They dont know the partner
2. Likely hood of it ever coming back in you is slim
3. You get your meet and your fix and the rest is history
I've met women who are cheating on their husband and I couldn't care less. I think sometimes it adds to the thrill |
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Men are the key group here who largely struggle and complain about difficulties getting meets with others, so their issues are more prominent as well as in much higher volumes than others, due to their predominance here. By volume there are likely to be more men who are cheating here and a significant amount of others dislike this and have looked for tell-tale signs of a cheater.
Sure, all varieties of people here are likely to be cheating and probably share the same signs. Other meeting options away from homes ordinarily help to deflect attention from it. The virus has caused hotels, clubs etc to be removed as options for now, so it can emphasise the suspected reasons why people say they can't accom. |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
Nope. I'm not available weekends but doesn't mean I'm married. I'm definitely single |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't always assume marriage, kids and house sharing could be reasons. But there are a lot of cheating men on here too.
I'm married with a family, hence no accommodate from me. |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
I don’t have this direct assumption for men who cannot accommodate. Everyone have their own personal reasons and can be vary.
Married & hiding their marriage ones clearly detectable in many different ways and most of them says can accommodate anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the users explains in their profile why they cannot accommodate then nobody has to assume anything."
With all due respect, they shouldn't have to explain why they can't accommodate.
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For some, it's not because they can't acommodate, it's because they don't want the neighbours to see strange men randomly visiting at night.
In those cases, they will acommodate sometimes, but i wouldn't press the issue unless they ask you to go to their place when arranging a meet. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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It's wrong to assume that just because someone can't accommodate that they are married, but in quite a lot of cases that is the reason. There are obviously other reasons though, children, house shares, living with parents etc. It's not difficult to put a line on your profile explaining that, if it bothers you that people might assume that you are married.
Personally I don't accommodate because I have kids. It's also a matter of personal safety, & after a previous scary experience I don't want to reveal where I live.
Generally I opt for club or hotel meets initially, again that's about safety, i wouldn't be prepared to meet at a guy's house until I got to know him & was confident that it was safe.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am a single father aswell my kids come first. Its there home and if people can't respect that then there not worth my time"
Exactly this! There are more single fathers around now as Courts do not automatically grant residency to the mother. The times they are a changing! Only recently had to point this out to someone. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't assume it as I have can't accomadate on mine. I just don't want to bring people I don't know well back to where I live it's my home I do bring people I know abd trust here. I presume the same when I read it on someone's profile.
I do find it quite funny tho when guys send me a first message wanting to meet straight away and have I can accomadate like that will make a difference. I'd much rather not go to someone's house anyhow I made that mistake once when I was new here it was meant to be just a coffee and he thought I owed him more just because I called to his place. |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
Yeah I get that a lot....... I just live in a very small village where everyone curtain twitchers. I’d rather not have my business known by all and sundry. |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
That’s because in my experience usually a man who can’t accommodate is married.
I can’t accommodate but I’m sure as heck not explaining why to anyone on Fab but be assured I’m not married. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s a ridiculous assumption. Some people choose to keep fab and real life totally separate. I know plenty men who have joint custody of their children and wouldn’t accommodate but aren’t married. I would never have anyone in my house. This is my children’s home. Nobody from here has ever known where I live, not even the village I live in. "
Same, I find out where they live then just say I'm from some town/ city miles away from them. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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On my profile I have stated that I can’t accommodate as family stay with me. I feel that is sufficient for a profile.If I meet someone for a social or at a spa or club and I am asked why I can’t accommodate I explain my reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
It's irrelevant. Women can do no wrong whereas men are the pits of the earth.  |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too? "
I explain why I can't accommodate as I house share lol |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too?
It's irrelevant. Women can do no wrong whereas men are the pits of the earth. "
There are lots of married women on this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too?
It's irrelevant. Women can do no wrong whereas men are the pits of the earth.
There are lots of married women on this site. "
Yes and they don't get anywhere near as much hatred as married men do. |
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"I see a lot of women on here assume if a guy can not accommodate then he must be married... but most women on fab put on their profile that they cannot accommodate... are they married too?
It's irrelevant. Women can do no wrong whereas men are the pits of the earth.
There are lots of married women on this site.
Yes and they don't get anywhere near as much hatred as married men do. "
I personally don’t agree with either gender that cheats on their spouses! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On this note, are we allowed to accommodate again now? I’m confused! Surely we can based on the new rules?"
No you can't.. if you're single or a single parent, you can bubble up with ONE other household |
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