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Sometimes, but it tends to be about something I've read in a post that I want to discuss further but for whatever reason, don't want to discuss it on the forum.
I very rarely send a message unprompted. |
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Yes they do.
Some send a message for something you wrote on the forums.
They do message for a meet.
Many say thankyou for something nice thats been done for them.
You would be surprised on how many are shocked that you did something nice for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm seeing a 30 year old lass I met on here. She messaged me  "
Has she asked for your mother's maiden name, name of your first pet, road you grew up in etc? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm seeing a 30 year old lass I met on here. She messaged me
Has she asked for your mother's maiden name, name of your first pet, road you grew up in etc?"
Actually met her in person,just because I'm not the most attractive man doesn't mean I can't pull! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep. Actually when I used to be interested in meeting when I was on my old profile, I used to use my filters to block everyone and only message those who interested me. Everyone who I've met, I messaged them first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm seeing a 30 year old lass I met on here. She messaged me
Has she asked for your mother's maiden name, name of your first pet, road you grew up in etc?
Actually met her in person,just because I'm not the most attractive man doesn't mean I can't pull!"
Easy easy tiger! I was only joking! |
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obviousley most couples and woman are bombarded with messages and if I replied to everyone it would get ridicules with the amount of conversations that would start and I would be lost in the middle of it all. So if a guy sends a cock pic and say something like, Love to fuck ya! I pass it by. But if someone uses their brains and says something with a bit of imagination and not the usual run of the mill stuff.Then I will have a look and possibly reply  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Occasionally. I met my fwb "support bubble" in here by messaging him first.
Most guys don't give us chance to though as they've already messaged us!"
Very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually think the concept of this works really well, like a dating app that is pretty popular at the moment. You match but as a man you can't message first so it's relays heavily on the lady making the initial connection.
I think this works as it stops the hundreds of messages that women recieve daily plus it stops the guy getting lost amongst that.
Something fab could evolve to perhaps? |
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
from Home Counties to Middle Earth |
I recall messaging twice in the year I've been on here. I've become good friends with one of them as a result.
Both were platonic messages relating to something I'd seen/read.
It never really crosses my mind to hunt. It's a job enough to manage the inbox |
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We have messaged guys first but most seem to have very short profiles which don't give us much to go on so it can be a bit of a lottery. Like all women and couples here we get lots of messages so it's much simpler to just review these and reply to the guys who match what we're looking for. |
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I never have, personally, unless it’s to comment on a forum thread.
I think I’d be too crushed if they took one look at my profile and said, ‘I’ll pass’!
My only communication is with people who message me first. Gutless, I know. |
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By *odgerMan
over a year ago
Coventry(ish) |
"I never have, personally, unless it’s to comment on a forum thread.
I think I’d be too crushed if they took one look at my profile and said, ‘I’ll pass’!
My only communication is with people who message me first. Gutless, I know."
Well you can't message
But I guess that joke isn't funny anymore! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've received a few messages from women who contacted me first. Then after couple messages back and forth became very clear that they were touting for business.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never have, personally, unless it’s to comment on a forum thread.
I think I’d be too crushed if they took one look at my profile and said, ‘I’ll pass’!
My only communication is with people who message me first. Gutless, I know."
We can't be liked by everyone but I find it difficult to believe many would pass on you. Just my humble opinion but you are one of the most attractive ladies on here. |
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Yes, but it's rare.
Most seem to have a bit of a complex about messaging first. Like as if they're undervaluing themselves by doing it and that they're putting themselves up for rejection.
However, if I'm on the forums, I sometimes get "I hope you don't mind me messaging, but..." And then something interesting about a thread. Of course, I like these messages, so I wish they wouldn't say "I hope you don't mind me messaging".
It's just the way it is.
I've had some completely unsolicited messages too but these are very rare, but well received. They tend to be "Hey, I loved such and such a pic. How are you?".
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"I never have, personally, unless it’s to comment on a forum thread.
I think I’d be too crushed if they took one look at my profile and said, ‘I’ll pass’!
My only communication is with people who message me first. Gutless, I know."
Yes, super super common. I guess women have more fragile egos or something. Haha! |
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By *exy7Man
over a year ago
Bristol |
Never had a conversation here I initiated by a female. I guess I can
Only blame my profile and the absence of face pics as well as the fact that the vast majority of members are male. I should go to a club and get verifications before standing a shadow of a chance... |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Do any of you women message first x"
I did once or twice on my single profile after I joined, having got up the courage to, just to be ignored, so I stopped. I'm now in a couple and we haven't as yet
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"Do any of you women message first xI did once or twice on my single profile after I joined, having got up the courage to, just to be ignored, so I stopped. I'm now in a couple and we haven't as yet "
You got ignored? What selfish bastards! Bahahahaha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rejection, Rejection, Rejection ...
This is one area where women are generally weaker than men. As a man we are trained from a young age to “throw enough mud” ... and to take rejection in our stride. I think I was 12 years old when I was first dumped and humiliated (at school).
... on the flip side ... I try to see who’s is noticing me (looks, winks, fabs) before I message - but I always over the moon when she makes the first move !!
... obviously I still generally fuck it up with bad patter afterwards - but I’m working on that !!!
hahaha
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"Rejection, Rejection, Rejection ...
This is one area where women are generally weaker than men. As a man we are trained from a young age to “throw enough mud” ... and to take rejection in our stride. I think I was 12 years old when I was first dumped and humiliated (at school).
... on the flip side ... I try to see who’s is noticing me (looks, winks, fabs) before I message - but I always over the moon when she makes the first move !!
... obviously I still generally fuck it up with bad patter afterwards - but I’m working on that !!!
hahaha
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Haha, interesting isn't it?
Same, I was bullied every day for years. In the end, I just didn't give a fuck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Haha, interesting isn't it?
Same, I was bullied every day for years. In the end, I just didn't give a fuck! "
Absolutely interesting !
I just wish feminism had advanced to the stage where everyday was like I was in a lap dance club !!!
Haha |
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"Haha, interesting isn't it?
Same, I was bullied every day for years. In the end, I just didn't give a fuck!
Absolutely interesting !
I just wish feminism had advanced to the stage where everyday was like I was in a lap dance club !!!
Haha "
Haha!!! |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
If someone captures my interest enough then I'll message first. It's usually as a result of a bit of interaction on the forums, if they make me laugh or say something that intrigues me.
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
The Land that time forgot (Norfolk) |
"I only speak with people from the forums. I usually message first if I think they’re funny/interesting and I want to get to know them better "
So did you think I was funny, interesting or both? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only speak with people from the forums. I usually message first if I think they’re funny/interesting and I want to get to know them better
So did you think I was funny, interesting or both?"
I have a feeling you mentioned a cat |
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