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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For those of you that have experienced this..
Where did you go?
Did other people see you or was it alone?
Have u ever got caught? What was the reaction if u did, did it lead to anything.
Would love to hear from people x |
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I was listening to a steps CD in my van In a public place inwas seen by 2 women while i was doing the dance move to tragedy they laughted ams pointed at me ...  it lead to me throwing it away and putting on some acdc instead I've not looked back since  |
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"I was listening to a steps CD in my van In a public place inwas seen by 2 women while i was doing the dance move to tragedy they laughted ams pointed at me ... it lead to me throwing it away and putting on some acdc instead I've not looked back since "
I'm all for being trolled but that was lame |
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I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand 
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic  |
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic "
Thanks! Get my arsenal out in a club sounds exciting and terrifying at the same time lol x |
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic Thanks! Get my arsenal out in a club sounds exciting and terrifying at the same time lol x"
Walking out of the door is scary, 10 minutes after getting to your chosen venue and having other dressers smile at you or say hello makes all those fears fall away and you're set for one of the most amazing feelings you will ever have |
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic Thanks! Get my arsenal out in a club sounds exciting and terrifying at the same time lol x
Walking out of the door is scary, 10 minutes after getting to your chosen venue and having other dressers smile at you or say hello makes all those fears fall away and you're set for one of the most amazing feelings you will ever have "
Agreed on LFF! Though it was quiet when we went.
Way Out Club seemed to have loads of men when we went on the pull with a few being taken over to the travelodge down the road for a quickie lol
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic Thanks! Get my arsenal out in a club sounds exciting and terrifying at the same time lol x
Walking out of the door is scary, 10 minutes after getting to your chosen venue and having other dressers smile at you or say hello makes all those fears fall away and you're set for one of the most amazing feelings you will ever have
Agreed on LFF! Though it was quiet when we went.
Way Out Club seemed to have loads of men when we went on the pull with a few being taken over to the travelodge down the road for a quickie lol
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Ohhhhh they were the classy ones then as I've seen a few in the bushes and behind the bins going for it  |
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"Fab socials are great for inclusion of tv/ts if you are looking for parties to go to, we book a private function room for confidence and we all definitely have one thing in common which is Fab "
Yes that was a brilliant evening. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was listening to a steps CD in my van In a public place inwas seen by 2 women while i was doing the dance move to tragedy they laughted ams pointed at me ... it lead to me throwing it away and putting on some acdc instead I've not looked back since I'm all for being trolled but that was lame"
But your come back was firm fair and to the point so kudos to you.
In this day and age we are lucky to live in easier times for cross dressers and trans men and women so I say fuck it and just go out dressed as you wish and where ever you wish.
Best of luck.
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I have been to all of the venues/events Sophie mentions above. Enjoyed them all. As a heads up, there is a hotel directly across the road from Pink Punters which is full of like-minded people at the BNO event (second Friday of every month). So you don't have far to stagger in heels to get to your destination |
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"I have been to all of the venues/events Sophie mentions above. Enjoyed them all. As a heads up, there is a hotel directly across the road from Pink Punters which is full of like-minded people at the BNO event (second Friday of every month). So you don't have far to stagger in heels to get to your destination "
All of them have hotels close by, you couldn't get any closer than the one at Way Out as it takes less than 30 seconds door to door even if you struggle in heels and they do 24 hour pizza too |
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic "
This is amazing advice thank you, I am looking for a place to go out for my first night out when this horrible pandemic ends x |
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic
This is amazing advice thank you, I am looking for a place to go out for my first night out when this horrible pandemic ends x"
First night out id recommend Pink Punters as you'll be among loads like you who will have been there for their first nights out too, its really safe and has lots of friendly security and compared to Way Out, almost no grabby gropey blokes as most there are more polite.
Best of luck when you do venture out and make sure you enjoy yourself |
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"I've been out in public a fair bit but usually centered around a night out to trans friendly places.
Manchester's Canal Street is a brilliant place to go to, loads of bars with some fab people in them and the 2nd Friday of each month.
Leeds first Friday (LFF) is great too with so many dressers around that you feel part of something good and some great bars to go to as well.
Pink punters in Milton Keynes is good, one great big venue and its probably the best place to start your journey in public at.
The Way Out club in London is ace fun, a little small but attracts some gorgeous girls although the guys you will often want to punch as they can get a bit grabby....they're easy to make run away though as they're always smaller than you and get scared when you bite back when they overstep the mark.
Find yourself a friend to go with, get your arse out and you'll wonder why you didn't do it sooner. It makes sense of this whole dressing thing we find ourselves unable to understand
Oh and if you fancy a swingers club, Club SX is amazing as is the Attic
This is amazing advice thank you, I am looking for a place to go out for my first night out when this horrible pandemic ends x
First night out id recommend Pink Punters as you'll be among loads like you who will have been there for their first nights out too, its really safe and has lots of friendly security and compared to Way Out, almost no grabby gropey blokes as most there are more polite.
Best of luck when you do venture out and make sure you enjoy yourself "
Thank you I have looked it up and it does seem great, I was thinking of Manchester but your advice has made me feel comfortable for pink punters, I have the outfit and built up the confidence I just need this pandemic to go now x |
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By *avinaNWTV/TS
over a year ago
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I have been out shopping, walking down the promenade and walked in and out of hotels dressed...I also once went on a boat trip around a lake fully dressed which was nice and probably my most daring trip so far.....x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve walked round my village at night while dressed "
Should hope so too. You might scare someone if you did it naked.
Honestly all you closet dressers, get yourselves out, because nobody really gives a fuck.
Don't restrict yourselves to 'trans friendly' places either, because almost everywhere is welcoming these days. |
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I was at a social where there was a lovely CD, looking really nervous. I introduced myself and after a chat introduced them to others. We had all had a really great night.
I say do your thing whatever that maybe....Just do you. |
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"I’ve walked round my village at night while dressed
Should hope so too. You might scare someone if you did it naked.
Honestly all you closet dressers, get yourselves out, because nobody really gives a fuck.
Don't restrict yourselves to 'trans friendly' places either, because almost everywhere is welcoming these days."
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Got on the Tube, off on Oxford Street. In and out of the shops, tried on a dress I liked it and bought it. Starbucks why not I thought, coffee in the window watching the world go by (actually just a bunch of shoppers). Back on the tube back to the hotel.
My outfit Blouse, skirt, stockings and comfy shoes. Obviously wig and makeup.
Looks from others a couple but nothing too bad, nasty comments or aggressive attitude from the general public..non.
Great day out and highly recommended |
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"Got on the Tube, off on Oxford Street. In and out of the shops, tried on a dress I liked it and bought it. Starbucks why not I thought, coffee in the window watching the world go by (actually just a bunch of shoppers). Back on the tube back to the hotel.
My outfit Blouse, skirt, stockings and comfy shoes. Obviously wig and makeup.
Looks from others a couple but nothing too bad, nasty comments or aggressive attitude from the general public..non.
Great day out and highly recommended "
I can only but imagine what that experience was like. I'm glad you had a great day out |
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Did LFF in September last year. Awesome experience. Stepping out of the front door as Gemma to get in the taxi from my bestie's house to the hotel was scary, I nearly had to be shoved out LOL!
She called the taxi short so we could walk along the canal side to the hotel, check in girls at Roomzz were great, they love LFF! Went & had a late lunch in Cosmo. Back to the room to get ready for the night out. Found the courage to go down in the lift on my own to the foyer & get a bottle of water from the vending machine. Confidence built quick!
Main Friday night out was ace, clubs like Fibre, Popworld, Havana, Viaduct.
Saturday was a huge lie in, then out for lunch in a cafe. Went shopping in the afternoon as a group, main street & Trinity Centre for Boots & Primark. Few funny looks & smiles but nothing major.
Saturday night in amongst the non-trans crown was even better. Ended up out until about 4am in Mission. Best night of my life. All went by far too fast.
Cannot wait to go back again ASAP!! |
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"Did LFF in September last year. Awesome experience. Stepping out of the front door as Gemma to get in the taxi from my bestie's house to the hotel was scary, I nearly had to be shoved out LOL!
She called the taxi short so we could walk along the canal side to the hotel, check in girls at Roomzz were great, they love LFF! Went & had a late lunch in Cosmo. Back to the room to get ready for the night out. Found the courage to go down in the lift on my own to the foyer & get a bottle of water from the vending machine. Confidence built quick!
Main Friday night out was ace, clubs like Fibre, Popworld, Havana, Viaduct.
Saturday was a huge lie in, then out for lunch in a cafe. Went shopping in the afternoon as a group, main street & Trinity Centre for Boots & Primark. Few funny looks & smiles but nothing major.
Saturday night in amongst the non-trans crown was even better. Ended up out until about 4am in Mission. Best night of my life. All went by far too fast.
Cannot wait to go back again ASAP!! "
It must feel so good to express yourself, especially in such a public way and without negatively from narrow minded people.
For me expressing myself can be a challenge sometimes but when I've done it, it feels good.
I'm glad you had such a good weekend, it sounds perfect. |
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Reading this makes me so happy for the other girls but also sad for myself who will never have the looks or the confidence to ever go out, I will remain a sad creature at home forever |
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I agree with all the above events all the other girls have listed. I’ve been to them all, and trust me you will have a fantastic night.
If you are anything like me, the first time you step out of the door is terrifying, but within a few minutes you will honestly be thinking what were you worried about.
I also go out shopping in the day sometimes. Again the first time was terrifying, but once you realise, actually nobody Is staring, pointing or smirking at you .. in fact they will heatedly notice you, then again you will wonder what you were worried about .... assuming of course you are dressed appropriately!!
One small step for woman .... one giant leap for TVkind! 
Go for it girl .... you’ll love it!!
Rachel xx
P.S you will start to appreciate just why women’s feet do hurt after a night out in heels!! Xx
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Drove to clubs/saunas all over the country as tina but suppose biggest highlight of my dressing career was going to benidorm as tina with few other tgirls,drove to airport,got on plane (after getting patted down by a female security officer) because my jewelry triggered the alarm,lol,and being tina 24/7 from the second i left home to arriving home 7 days later,having a fantastic holiday,even pulled a hotel staff member while there,i didn't take 1 item of male clothing,can't think what more i can do,my advice is take micky out yourself couple of days think what people may say to you then think of a response to put them down,i never walk straight past a stag party i go and mingle with them even join in there conversations when they see you got confidence & serious about being tgirl 99% are ok with you, you even get sly nod of can i come to your room but don't tell my friends, and sometimes 1 of his friends had you the day before,lol. |
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To echo Rachel above, dressing appropriately is key. If you dress normally in say pinkish trainers, skinny jeans, nice top or girly hoodie, even try female sunglasses if the day suits, some people may notice you, many others are just too busy to notice anyone around them. It's not all about lingerie & flashing flesh. Blend in & go low key, study what women wear.
If you go out looking like a cheap hooker in public, expect to attract lots of attention, most of it you aren't looking for.....unless that's what you want lol.  |
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By *avinaNWTV/TS
over a year ago
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Great advice from Gemma...blend in wear clothes that dont make you stand out they can still be colourful and in a way it will still feel sexy to you even if it might not look it to others...and wear some sensible shoes you can walk in high stilleto heels or how you walk in them, if you can walk far in them might give the game away x |
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"I agree with all the above events all the other girls have listed. I’ve been to them all, and trust me you will have a fantastic night.
If you are anything like me, the first time you step out of the door is terrifying, but within a few minutes you will honestly be thinking what were you worried about.
I also go out shopping in the day sometimes. Again the first time was terrifying, but once you realise, actually nobody Is staring, pointing or smirking at you .. in fact they will heatedly notice you, then again you will wonder what you were worried about .... assuming of course you are dressed appropriately!!
One small step for woman .... one giant leap for TVkind!
Go for it girl .... you’ll love it!!
Rachel xx
P.S you will start to appreciate just why women’s feet do hurt after a night out in heels!! Xx
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"Reading this makes me so happy for the other girls but also sad for myself who will never have the looks or the confidence to ever go out, I will remain a sad creature at home forever "
Who says you haven’t got the looks?! Love yourself, network with likeminded people and get yourself out there (when all this is over). You are too fabulous to stay at home forever |
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"Reading this makes me so happy for the other girls but also sad for myself who will never have the looks or the confidence to ever go out, I will remain a sad creature at home forever "
That first night you go out you'll realise that it's not all about passing as a female as the reality is, everyone can see that most of us are guys in dresses although yes, some do look incredible.
Its about getting out with others like you, people who have been through what you have and they know how you will be feeling.
Its scary thinking about going to say hello to anyone but trust me, say hello and tell them this is your first night out and chat instantly begins to flow.
I've lost count of the amount of first timers who have joined in with the crowd I used to go out with as most are quite welcoming of others in this little niche world we find ourselves in.
What you will find is a devil may care attitude in those who have done it before as just being out takes over all of your fears and wipes them away. |
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I went LFF few times almost two years ago , maybe some of you saw me there or they have chat with me.
It was my first contact ever directly with CD's , i was so nervous first time and at some time very comfortable. I always relate where i am today and thankfully to CD's that i meet in a social internet page , at the age of 36 i was so closed in my bubble i didn't know nothing about Transgender . Very easy they could feel my words when i talk to them so so deeply that the word transgenger was mentioned to me for the first time in my life . Just took 6 months till i left everything to follow my dream to live my life as me being free and happy for the first time . I was intriguing first time i hear talk about LFF in Leeds but i felt i needed to go to because I never had direct contact with any LGBT + people till this point . I went i was very well received people overwhelming and lovely to chat . They took me to the pubs and today one of those pubs become my favourite ever the Smokstack . Just to not go long in my story and get boring i do feel grateful and today even my real name on my ID was choosed by those CD's friends i meet 7 years ago on that social media page , i promised to them at the time that name would be my real name one day .
Op whatever is the struggles in life remember people these days love people not for status, color ,gender, age , nationality etc etc , people love people for their humanity |
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"I went LFF few times almost two years ago , maybe some of you saw me there or they have chat with me.
It was my first contact ever directly with CD's , i was so nervous first time and at some time very comfortable. I always relate where i am today and thankfully to CD's that i meet in a social internet page , at the age of 36 i was so closed in my bubble i didn't know nothing about Transgender . Very easy they could feel my words when i talk to them so so deeply that the word transgenger was mentioned to me for the first time in my life . Just took 6 months till i left everything to follow my dream to live my life as me being free and happy for the first time . I was intriguing first time i hear talk about LFF in Leeds but i felt i needed to go to because I never had direct contact with any LGBT + people till this point . I went i was very well received people overwhelming and lovely to chat . They took me to the pubs and today one of those pubs become my favourite ever the Smokstack . Just to not go long in my story and get boring i do feel grateful and today even my real name on my ID was choosed by those CD's friends i meet 7 years ago on that social media page , i promised to them at the time that name would be my real name one day .
Op whatever is the struggles in life remember people these days love people not for status, color ,gender, age , nationality etc etc , people love people for their humanity "
This is lovely to read, many of us CDs do understand what it is to be trans and the journey you have to travel which can be insanely hard. You have my utmost respect for being who you are today for it.
There is often a divide between trans and CD so to hear you say things like this which bridges that divide makes me smile and feel happy that it happened like this for you and also for them for being good people as that is all that we all are, people.
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