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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Christ I’ve had times when I’ve had over two thousand unread. Currently just 372 but I’m sloppy with admin and they build up also when you get number 1 on hot pics your inbox goes mental, haven’t uploaded any new pictures for ages so not so many messages of late. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About 600 when I was new.
I pretty much delete every message receive now other than from friends or forum related."
Me too. Well I’ve been lazy lately but that’s what I’m doing from now on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About 600 when I was new.
I pretty much delete every message receive now other than from friends or forum related.
Me too. Well I’ve been lazy lately but that’s what I’m doing from now on "
I get like that sometimes but I found i was sometimes missing some from friends. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About 600 when I was new.
I pretty much delete every message receive now other than from friends or forum related.
Me too. Well I’ve been lazy lately but that’s what I’m doing from now on
I get like that sometimes but I found i was sometimes missing some from friends. X"
Yeah. That’s why I put that as my status earlier! I’m going to check them every day now! Because I’m not really looking I never check them! x |
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By *zoreanMan
over a year ago
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"What’s the most amount of unread messages people have received when they have logged on. I think 2 is the maximum for me.
Nobody msg me "
You've said that you don't want single guys lol, don't expect the big flood! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What’s the most amount of unread messages people have received when they have logged on. I think 2 is the maximum for me. "
I'm not certain of the exact number but I'm pretty sure I one woke up to 1 (one) ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not many really, probably 50 at most. My filters are set pretty tight which helps. I don't tend to pay attention to any messages they aren't from friends or through the forum anyway so they just get deleted unread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I deal with any messages when they come through as I believe it polite to do so.
Some I might message back to say that I am too busy right at that moment to send a considered response.
My inbox never gets out of hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the moment I have 1. But that’s because it’s a long message and I can’t answer it right now "
It took me a day and half to type that message. Lol.
On a serious note I can envisage your Type C and Type D personality communicating with each other before putting the content down on paper! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the moment I have 1. But that’s because it’s a long message and I can’t answer it right now
It took me a day and half to type that message. Lol.
On a serious note I can envisage your Type C and Type D personality communicating with each other before putting the content down on paper! "
That’s exactly what is happening! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the moment I have 1. But that’s because it’s a long message and I can’t answer it right now
It took me a day and half to type that message. Lol.
On a serious note I can envisage your Type C and Type D personality communicating with each other before putting the content down on paper!
That’s exactly what is happening! "
I know you well by now!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's almost always zero, unless I've recently taken part in some sort of pic swap/mail a forumite thread, in which case I might have anything up to three messages waiting to be read. I know - impressive, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"currently 1683.
but to be fair, most of that is the usual copy and paste / fuck now / meet now / are they real / hey.. Messages 
Px "
Yes thats about the same as mine.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends if I load a new picture or when I posted a meet before lockdown.
But my filters are very tight and my profile is strict so thankfully I don't get hundreds anymore. |
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I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no? "
That is because you have manners. I think even a thanks but no thanks is courteous.
Although I must confess whilst poorly mine did say don't message me as I will delete. |
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"I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no?
That is because you have manners. I think even a thanks but no thanks is courteous.
Although I must confess whilst poorly mine did say don't message me as I will delete. "
When you’re poorly you don’t feel like replying to messages, that’s different - an inbox full and ignore them is just sheer arrogance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no?
That is because you have manners. I think even a thanks but no thanks is courteous.
Although I must confess whilst poorly mine did say don't message me as I will delete.
When you’re poorly you don’t feel like replying to messages, that’s different - an inbox full and ignore them is just sheer arrogance "
I know why I like you |
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"I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no?
That is because you have manners. I think even a thanks but no thanks is courteous.
Although I must confess whilst poorly mine did say don't message me as I will delete.
When you’re poorly you don’t feel like replying to messages, that’s different - an inbox full and ignore them is just sheer arrogance
I know why I like you "
High 5! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no?
That is because you have manners. I think even a thanks but no thanks is courteous.
Although I must confess whilst poorly mine did say don't message me as I will delete.
When you’re poorly you don’t feel like replying to messages, that’s different - an inbox full and ignore them is just sheer arrogance
I know why I like you
High 5! "
Ladies. I very much agree, it is only polite to reply to several hi...
Meet now...
How's fab treating you...
messages a day.
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"I usually receive Quite a few most days (except when My profile is hidden)
I reply to friends and forum post messages. It costs nothing to be polite and reply.... to have an inbox of hundreds of messages and not reply to them is a tad ungracious. If people take the time to message you could at least afford them the courtesy of a reply....no?
That is because you have manners. I think even a thanks but no thanks is courteous.
Although I must confess whilst poorly mine did say don't message me as I will delete.
When you’re poorly you don’t feel like replying to messages, that’s different - an inbox full and ignore them is just sheer arrogance
I know why I like you
High 5!
Ladies. I very much agree, it is only polite to reply to several hi...
Meet now...
How's fab treating you...
messages a day.
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Filters darling, filters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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982.  . Can’t keep up to be honest and that’s with filters. As much as I’d love to reply to all, even just to say no and to wish them success in their search - I physically haven’t got the time   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About 600 when I was new.
I pretty much delete every message receive now other than from friends or forum related."
When mine reach around the 450 mark, the older ones disappear so I thought that's as many as anyone could have unread?
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"4 was the most but they were ongoing conversations. Usually I get no more than 1 unsolicited message every couple of months."
Sounds nearer the truth but please this thread is about giving attention seekers their time to shine  |
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Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion "
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else |
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else "
Were all here for ourselves but if someone says good morning is it not just good manners to say good morning back ? And why not delete them as you get them if thats the case ? Why let them accumalate ? . Guese we each have our own ways of using fab no right no wrong i jusy dont see the point of leaving unnread mesaages . Read or delete simple really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have 1648, some have been there for weeks. I have a quick scroll through when I log on and if one stands out or I see one from someone I'm chatting with I'll reply to it, but the rest I leave for when I have the energy to sort through them.
I feel better now I've had my time to shine and brag about my inbox.  |
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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It's been in four figures a few times before and I end up sifting through them at odd times of the night/day to get them down.
I reply to those who've clearly read my profile, or gone to some effort with their message, whether I'm interested or not. Manners and all that.
I do actively manage it through the day, use filters and haven't been so active with posting of late, so my inbox has been much more manageable (apart from Monday's madness when I must have had 500 in the space of a few hours) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else
Were all here for ourselves but if someone says good morning is it not just good manners to say good morning back ? And why not delete them as you get them if thats the case ? Why let them accumalate ? . Guese we each have our own ways of using fab no right no wrong i jusy dont see the point of leaving unnread mesaages . Read or delete simple really "
So deleting unread isn't rude?
Just wondering, do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox?
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else
Were all here for ourselves but if someone says good morning is it not just good manners to say good morning back ? And why not delete them as you get them if thats the case ? Why let them accumalate ? . Guese we each have our own ways of using fab no right no wrong i jusy dont see the point of leaving unnread mesaages . Read or delete simple really
So deleting unread isn't rude?
Just wondering, do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox?
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Exactly this. I'm not going to waste energy on a "Hey" message, when clearly they can't be bothered either. |
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else
Were all here for ourselves but if someone says good morning is it not just good manners to say good morning back ? And why not delete them as you get them if thats the case ? Why let them accumalate ? . Guese we each have our own ways of using fab no right no wrong i jusy dont see the point of leaving unnread mesaages . Read or delete simple really
So deleting unread isn't rude?
Just wondering, do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox?
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Not every have i previously stated but i dont let them build up so i can boost my ego and say i bulk deleted 500 messages thats just silly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not every have i previously stated but i dont let them build up so i can boost my ego and say i bulk deleted 500 messages thats just silly"
Do you really think that we keep messages in our inbox to boost our ego?
"Hey"
"Wanna fuck"
"Sit on my cock babe"
"You remind me of a Terry's chocolate orange. I want to bang you on the table."
Oh yeah these messages really make me feel good and like I'm a queen!! 
I just find it easier to leave it  my hotmail account is the same, I don't delete all my mail in that account either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes shit loads and that's where we lose control of it, so unfortunately a mass delete will happen from time to time  it's nothing personal and apologies to those who put the effort in, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not every have i previously stated but i dont let them build up so i can boost my ego and say i bulk deleted 500 messages thats just silly
Do you really think that we keep messages in our inbox to boost our ego?
"Hey"
"Wanna fuck"
"Sit on my cock babe"
"You remind me of a Terry's chocolate orange. I want to bang you on the table."
Oh yeah these messages really make me feel good and like I'm a queen!!
I just find it easier to leave it my hotmail account is the same, I don't delete all my mail in that account either. "
I’m exactly the same I let my messages get into the thousands, not because it’s an ego boost but cause I’m lazy af |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m exactly the same I let my messages get into the thousands, not because it’s an ego boost but cause I’m lazy af "
It's like that meme that's always floating about;
There are two types of people in this world.
*picture of 5000 notifications*
*picture of someone who is organised with 0 notifications*
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
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"When I got to over 1000 I realised this was rediculous and just turned all the message filters on. Right now I have 2 . "
I'm weary from Monday's explosion. I need to recheck my filter settings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else
Were all here for ourselves but if someone says good morning is it not just good manners to say good morning back ? And why not delete them as you get them if thats the case ? Why let them accumalate ? . Guese we each have our own ways of using fab no right no wrong i jusy dont see the point of leaving unnread mesaages . Read or delete simple really
So deleting unread isn't rude?
Just wondering, do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox?
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This is exactly my attitude too
Plus it clearly states on Fab FAQ'S that no reply means a no thank you. I'm not sure why anyone would feel that they're entitled to someone else's time just because they messaged them
The majority of messages I get are from faceless guys asking "wanna fuck?". I've no interest in chatting to faceless strangers.
I've tried the polite reply approach in the past but that then opens up to further messages.
A fair few people saying it's rude or arrogant not to reply. I think it's rude to message someone without taking the time to read someone's profile or be respectful of how they run their profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just dont get why woman who log on daily if not hourly and infact spend most of their time in the forums would accumalate so many un read mesaages ?? Sorry i may wake up to 10- 15 but take time to read them and reply in most casses but then again i dont think anybody is beneath me . Bulk deleteing is just poor manners in my opinion
I don't see it like that at all. I make it clear in my profile I'm unlikely to engage with people.
In the past I have replied to be courteous but inevitably it lead to more messages and at times abuse because they couldn't change my mind.
I don't want fab to be a chore. I'm here for me. No one else
Were all here for ourselves but if someone says good morning is it not just good manners to say good morning back ? And why not delete them as you get them if thats the case ? Why let them accumalate ? . Guese we each have our own ways of using fab no right no wrong i jusy dont see the point of leaving unnread mesaages . Read or delete simple really
So deleting unread isn't rude?
Just wondering, do you reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through your letterbox?
This is exactly my attitude too
Plus it clearly states on Fab FAQ'S that no reply means a no thank you. I'm not sure why anyone would feel that they're entitled to someone else's time just because they messaged them
The majority of messages I get are from faceless guys asking "wanna fuck?". I've no interest in chatting to faceless strangers.
I've tried the polite reply approach in the past but that then opens up to further messages.
A fair few people saying it's rude or arrogant not to reply. I think it's rude to message someone without taking the time to read someone's profile or be respectful of how they run their profile.
My profile. My rules "
^ this.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I put the hotdog picture on and the lovely Nora opened a thread about it I woke up to 645 views and 72 unread messages, that was a bit of a shock, back to normal now thank god. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not many really, probably 50 at most. My filters are set pretty tight which helps. I don't tend to pay attention to any messages they aren't from friends or through the forum anyway so they just get deleted unread"
What about winks...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does a women ever send a send the first message to a man?
I have. Although I never got hump if they didn't reply "
I know what you mean. If a guy sleeps with a lot of women, he is called a stud. If a woman sleeps with a lot of men, it is always not with me! |
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I don’t expect a reply. I don’t think I am entitled to a reply. I do take time to read profiles and be polite and have never sent a “wanna fuck?” message. So I always hope for an indication of a no.
I understand the protocol behind the FAQ of unanswered means no...but is it so hard to just delete it? That’s so much more of a no than a message that’s still there. You never know if a read message means the reader hasn’t had time at that point to reply. And if they can put it back to unread, then they can also delete.
By saying that no one needs to be polite in the same breath as the messages I get aren’t polite, is just double standards and it’s become a self fulfilling prophecy these days.
I’m not losing sleep over it because, hey, it’s only fab...and there are far more important things in the world. But, just my thoughts. |
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"I don’t expect a reply. I don’t think I am entitled to a reply. I do take time to read profiles and be polite and have never sent a “wanna fuck?” message. So I always hope for an indication of a no.
I understand the protocol behind the FAQ of unanswered means no...but is it so hard to just delete it? That’s so much more of a no than a message that’s still there. You never know if a read message means the reader hasn’t had time at that point to reply. And if they can put it back to unread, then they can also delete.
By saying that no one needs to be polite in the same breath as the messages I get aren’t polite, is just double standards and it’s become a self fulfilling prophecy these days.
I’m not losing sleep over it because, hey, it’s only fab...and there are far more important things in the world. But, just my thoughts. "
That's a cool attitude to have
I'm always polite when I reply to messages and even more so in person. As stated on my profile though, no reply means a polite no thank you. Some people really seem to struggle with that though.
I'm not great at communicating online. Find it far easier to just meet up/attend clubs |
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"I noticed a pattern here! Tits equals hits.....
No I got 400 for posting my cum video men like hearing a woman enjoy herself with her pussy  "
Ofcoure we do, that's why I finger a watermelon when I'm polishing the brass |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The most I had was over 400 
399 was me!
I swear you never messaged me before... Plus your message would just count as 1 unread, regardless how many messages you sent me in 5 minutes "
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"Does a women ever send a send the first message to a man?
I have done occasionally, but it's usually to comment on a forum post or his status."
I messaged men first and been ignored. Maybe I shouldn't message gay men |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
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"Does a women ever send a send the first message to a man?
I have done occasionally, but it's usually to comment on a forum post or his status.
I messaged men first and been ignored. Maybe I shouldn't message gay men "
. Looked tonight and zero. Same yesterday and the day before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does a women ever send a send the first message to a man?
I have done occasionally, but it's usually to comment on a forum post or his status.
I messaged men first and been ignored. Maybe I shouldn't message gay men . Looked tonight and zero. Same yesterday and the day before. "
I'll fix that ! |
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By *went OP Man
over a year ago
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"Does a women ever send a send the first message to a man?
I have done occasionally, but it's usually to comment on a forum post or his status.
I messaged men first and been ignored. Maybe I shouldn't message gay men . Looked tonight and zero. Same yesterday and the day before.
I'll fix that ! "
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