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How do you cope being single?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I like my own conpany and I cope good being it, although sometimes it can be abit quite, that is why I like to have alot of sounds on in the background like the tv or some music  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"I like my own conpany and I cope good being it, although sometimes it can be abit quite, that is why I like to have alot of sounds on in the background like the tv or some music "
I'm more than happy just me and the dog usually, even without background noise. But lockdown has taken it to the extreme. It's great being alone when you know there is the choice to go out and socialise, touch people (in an innocent or otherwise way) and then come back to solitude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
Could not have put it better! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
That is a great way of putting it. |
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
^^^^^^ This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
This ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
This, mostly. |
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
Perfectly put x |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
Same. Except swap quiet sniffle for loud blubbing and a consoling wank. I think there will always be moments where we wish we weren't single. My cousin had a baby in December and another cousin is expecting in the Autumn. Makes me think about having my own family. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
This is exactly how I am |
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I remember the times when I was tiptoeing around another person. Waking up on a day off and hoping their mood wouldn’t ruin the day.
Currently I stay in or go out as I please. Take foreign holidays on my own, go to the beach or explore (do both) no discussion just do what I want.
Deal with my problems and not hers as well.
However I do miss the good stuff as well...just finding it difficult to remember the good stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont even like sharing a bed, never mind my house.
I'd happily live alone for the rest of my life, hate tidying up after people, cooking for people, dealing with shit small talk, crap tv programmes, being moaned at blah blah blah.
Infact I just really don't like people.. |
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life.Same. Except swap quiet sniffle for loud blubbing and a consoling wank. I think there will always be moments where we wish we weren't single. My cousin had a baby in December and another cousin is expecting in the Autumn. Makes me think about having my own family. "
All of this
I have a 19 month old nephew, and another nice or nephew on the way, and it's made me realise that I've left it too late to have kids of my own now, and that makes me sad.
But most of the time I enjoy my own company as much as anyone else's, and am content enough. This lockdown has made it a lot wo3, though, because if I'm choosing to be on my own than that's fine. But being on my own because I have to be us driving me up the wall with loneliness and frustration.
It would probably be a lot better if I had a dog. I love dogs, and they generally like me, but in BL Days (Before Lockdown) not only was I at work all day during the week but also out at least two nights a week until gone midnight and so it wouldn't be fair on the dog to leave it alone all that time :-/
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I obviously miss having sex and intimacy on tap...but especially lately, it's just having someone on hand who cares and who I care for. That cuddle or kiss on the head when I've had a crappy day, the silly private jokes, someone that I'm perfectly happy to sit in companionable silence with, or alternatively talk about anything and nothing for hours. That companionship that only comes from having a partner.
Apart from that I'm all good and cope very well on my own |
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I’ve spent most of my adult life single, it’s never bothered me and I think that was helped by being an only child, used to amusing yourself and doing your own thing.
What does bother me is when people say it’s a waste, why is it a waste? I’m still living my life, doing things, going on holidays etc. It’s a waste as society thinks it is, not to share it with another person. You can share experiences, but it doesn’t have to be with another person that is a permanent fixture in your every day life. |
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In normal times mon-fri I lead a single life, at the weekends I am in a relationship. Its finding the balance that fits you and your lifestyle the best, then finding people you want to spend your time with x |
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I like my own company too. I've been frustrated in the lockdown with feeling restrained, as not able to get to meet with friends and family with spontaneity, or go out and do random stuff. I tend to prefer peace and quiet but put TV on at night, for easy on the mind entertainment.
Shag - did you know that they are showing some best of Big Brother soon? Could swap your noise for it, if you can get it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Look on the bright side you can have so much more fun you may not be able to when in a couple!
Surely fab has been helping, some real great genuine people on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I've become single it's because my heart has been slowly broken over time, I've done all I possibly could and probably more. So by that time I'm usually relieved the pain is gonna stop and I can grieve properly instead of "drip feed" grieving.
Then I remind myself that I never want to feel that pain again. That I've done enough grieving throughout my life and I need to look after me.
I had pooch before so it would be different without her, with no love, no snuggles, no hound to lick my tears away.
Friends, family and keeping busy I guess. Work work work.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
Xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like a sometimes partner
Someone to do fun things with, have amazing sex and intimacy with and go on holiday with.
But I don't want to live with them or meet their kids and extended family or share money or domesticity.
That would be perfect |
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
This... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
Well put there and yes I sometimes feel that way too, as you say after that feeling you get you still like being single  |
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"I would like a sometimes partner
Someone to do fun things with, have amazing sex and intimacy with and go on holiday with.
But I don't want to live with them or meet their kids and extended family or share money or domesticity.
That would be perfect "
We find not going into each others homes at all works as well for us, no blurred lines |
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Most of the time i quite enjoy it. I can do what I want, when I want and not have to think about someone else. And then there's the other side where I miss having sex on tap which is handy when you have a high sex drive and other relationship things. |
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
100% This, but swap woman for man |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I usually cope by enjoying my freedom and independence, having adventures and making my own decisions.
It's felt much much harder throughout lockdown without those freedoms. My poly lovers have partners and I have felt very 'solo'.
It's interesting that I feel a shift. Before I absolutely couldn't imagine a primary partner. But now I can.
Still, I'm not chasing..just open to it. It's easy to confuse having feelings loneliness with thinking that something or someone is missing from your life.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all does depend on the individual at the end of the day but regarding the physical side of things I believe its much easier for a female to get what she desires (some of you girls must have a few ‘go tos’ right?). Whereas majority of us guys form relationships with our hands lol
I do get that it’s difficult for each gender but again, it depends on the individual. Some may enjoy the freedom but being humans, we do all have certain needs whether physical or emotional, and I believe it’s easier for women to an extent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s easier to be single and female than single and male. "
It's really not as easy as you think.
Firstly we need to establish whether they're going to make your skin into a lampshade
Then we need - well I need a little bit more than just body parts rubbing together.
If this is the case I'd rather have a wank! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv realised during lockdown what's important...family , friends safty and wellbeing....also during this time iv realised how not having a partner to turn to when ur feeling down or lonely or horny etc etc is hard ....so if anyone is in the same boat and wants a chat ..more...or less contact me ...lifes pressous x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s easier to be single and female than single and male. "
all the over thinking, yes they need a man in order to balance the answers they over think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on your character, I have never had a problem being in my own company so consequently I don't have any real issues being single. I'm comfortable with either scenario. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer it. Only my wants to think about, any plans I make I dont have to worry about including anyone else, eat what I like, watch what I like, it's great |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands |
Have been a singleton for 43 years now and quite happy with that and at my age can't see the situation changing.
I have a good circle of friends and have been in a platonic friendship for 39 years, a drink fueled party night some 30 years ago resulted in us having a daughter but the friendship survived and is now almost a brother/sister situation.We both have had our own sexual partners along the way and talk openly about it. Would we live under the same roof? NEVER.
Single I may be but the response on here to my health issues shows that I am not alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been single basically all my life. I'm very used to it now and accepted that will probably never change.
It's incredibly tough to emotionally support myself at times. The thought of having to do it for someone else terrifies me. Sad I know but that's how I feel.
Very happy just having my dog and good friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually hate it, however I've told myself it's for the best while my boys were young. As a result I've got into a few scenarios with people that really weren't good for me.
Now I'm very alone and genuinely scared I will never find my happy ever after.
I'm very independent and I put on a brave face, underneath though I'm tired of there being no one for me. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
"I actually hate it, however I've told myself it's for the best while my boys were young. As a result I've got into a few scenarios with people that really weren't good for me.
Now I'm very alone and genuinely scared I will never find my happy ever after.
I'm very independent and I put on a brave face, underneath though I'm tired of there being no one for me. "
You are a beautiful person, and you’ve got many many years ahead of you. I’m sure the right person will come along at the right time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind been single. I've got used to my own space. Living how I want to. But sometimes I feel very alone. No one to call on. Desperate to be wanted. Need to have the closeness of a male body. |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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"I actually hate it, however I've told myself it's for the best while my boys were young. As a result I've got into a few scenarios with people that really weren't good for me.
Now I'm very alone and genuinely scared I will never find my happy ever after.
I'm very independent and I put on a brave face, underneath though I'm tired of there being no one for me. "
Happy ever afters usually find us when we least expect it.
Hope you are ok OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I actually hate it, however I've told myself it's for the best while my boys were young. As a result I've got into a few scenarios with people that really weren't good for me.
Now I'm very alone and genuinely scared I will never find my happy ever after.
I'm very independent and I put on a brave face, underneath though I'm tired of there being no one for me.
You are a beautiful person, and you’ve got many many years ahead of you. I’m sure the right person will come along at the right time. "
I agree with this |
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"I actually hate it, however I've told myself it's for the best while my boys were young. As a result I've got into a few scenarios with people that really weren't good for me.
Now I'm very alone and genuinely scared I will never find my happy ever after.
I'm very independent and I put on a brave face, underneath though I'm tired of there being no one for me. "
It will come along when you least expect it, until then keep your strength x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would like a sometimes partner
Someone to do fun things with, have amazing sex and intimacy with and go on holiday with.
But I don't want to live with them or meet their kids and extended family or share money or domesticity.
That would be perfect "
I like the term. 'sometimes partner' sounds a perfect idea!! X |
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"I like my own conpany and I cope good being it, although sometimes it can be abit quite, that is why I like to have alot of sounds on in the background like the tv or some music "
Being single during the lockdown has been more difficult but I won't be rushing into a relationship once this is over either.
I'm quite comfortable being single. I do miss companionship, great sex and banter but other than that I have work, my child and other commitments to fill my time. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I enjoy being single. Luckily I like my work and I've been able to work all through lock down.
I have hobbies which keeps me busy, I'm also happy staying at home in the evening usually with the radio on.
I am very independent (or selfish) and like not having to compromise on things, not watching stuff on TV you can't stand. I don't even miss the cuddles and sleeping together and I'm quite content.
Sex isn't a problem for me, I get as much as I want. Plus I have a really nice female friend who is also happily single so we can go out to the pub or day trips together.
The only thing that concerns me is growing old on my own (but not that much at the moment). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well Shag,
It’s like this.
Sometimes I’m glad I’m single, and then sometimes I get an overwhelming urge to feel loved and adored.
When I feel like that I may have a quiet sniffle to myself and think what a waste of a good woman, but then I pick myself up, dust myself down and get on with life."
Exactly this |
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By *assy211279Woman
over a year ago
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I love being single no jealous twat stopping me doing things, also no one else to answer to. And hopefully when lockdown is fully lifted I will be finished catching up with getting all the old rubbish moved away and be able to pleasure a man on my terms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not about coping its choice
Can be lonely sometimes but even in a relationship you can feel lonely
Jus crack on enjoy urself get into who ever you want and shag ur way through |
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I was late in moving out from home (30+) and moved in with Ian.
Everyone said “oh you should move out on your own so you get used to your own company/independence”.
I know myself well enough that I don’t enjoy my own company; I like talking to people or as someone else said, just in quiet companionship. Think if I had my own place, I’d definitely get the cats I’ve wanted for years.
Think this comes from being from a big family (I’m one of 6) so I’m always used to a presence in the house.
I’ve kept myself busy during lockdown such as DIY, sewing, paperwork, shopping but not everyday has been productive.
I have my Guides and I’m confident enough that if I was single, I’d travel etc on my own. I actually did Meet-up events to do just that and went to cjs on my own for about 9/10 months, brand new in the scene.
Millie x |
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