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Hey, what's in your heart?

By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Often it is our mind that is in the driving seat of life on a daily basis. We're full of busy thoughts, working things out, calculating, pre empting, opinions and reactions. Mind has alot to say, which can be useful.

AND

Speaking from the heart can often get to a more.. well .. hearty truth. An expression of something closer to the very heart of our being can be refreshing and insightful..a new, sometimes more pure perspective in this moment, maybe not the next.

So, put your attention into your heart and ask what is present, what wants to be said or heard.

Heart is a place of no judgement, oodles of compassion and the unconditional aspect of our braver, deeper, knowing self.

There's no need to provide solutions for each other here, or offer opinion. Try to listen from the heart when you're reading. A simple acknowledgement to our fellow humans.

(If it's not for you, just pass on by to a different thread).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart just hurts at the moment...There is so many unkind words being spoken and so much vitriol everywhere. It just makes me sad

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By *adbod74Man over a year ago

Dudley

My parents always taught me to listen without judgement no matter what's being said, sometimes a silent ear is more helpful than sentence of just words.

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

In the last few weeks I've not only suffered a miscarriage but one that went to wrong I ended up in HDU with internal bleeding. To add on top of that last week I found out that the embryo is still there near my ovary and will probably always will be. I don't know what I'm supposed to feel at the moment, and my brain is in turmoil. Thanks for the place to vent Freya

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not sure if heart is always a place of compassion and not judgement. It's the mind which can rationalise these feelings.

My heart is a tough fortress.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Honestly? Weariness. People making the same mistakes, turning on each other, instead of standing side by side.

It will pass, though. It has before and it will again.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the last few weeks I've not only suffered a miscarriage but one that went to wrong I ended up in HDU with internal bleeding. To add on top of that last week I found out that the embryo is still there near my ovary and will probably always will be. I don't know what I'm supposed to feel at the moment, and my brain is in turmoil. Thanks for the place to vent Freya

I'm so sorry

that's so much to be dealing with.

Please take care of yourself. *hugs* x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So sorry to read this, much love to you sweetheart

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not even sure if any comment is welcome, sorry if I'm out of line, but sending my love.. I wish you didnt have to go through this Frieda. X

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By *wist my nipplesCouple over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I am so sorry. X

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By *emorefridaCouple over a year ago

La la land

Sorry didn't mean to take over the thread. Just with lockdown not been able to see friends. I'm ok just heartbroken at the moment. Thanks to you all XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can not begin to imagine what you are going through at the moment so my words will mean little. I am sending you love though x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can’t let your heart rule your mind

And your mind can’t rule your heart

If your somewhere in the middle then your do just fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hurt, confliction, disappointment and sadness yet the desire and fight to bounce back.

Lots of self reflection

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"My heart just hurts at the moment...There is so many unkind words being spoken and so much vitriol everywhere. It just makes me sad

Sending love tender heart x

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Sending you love Frida, I'm so sorry you're going through this especially during a time like this.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

I am also so very sorry to read this x

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Oh love xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart is completely broken at the moment. It's tired, it's sad, it's been lied to and it feels like it's been completely forgotten.

Yet it still desperately wants to love with all its broken parts.

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By *nabelle21Woman over a year ago

B38

"Hurt, confliction, disappointment and sadness yet the desire and fight to bounce back.

Lots of self reflection

You own that fight and desire P x

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My mind and my body are weary.

My heart roars, relentlessly, with the fire of my convictions and the strength of my compassion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My mind and my body are weary.

My heart roars, relentlessly, with the fire of my convictions and the strength of my compassion. "

Ho chi Minh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so sorry to hear this. What your feeling right now is normal. I went from feeling distressed to empty and numb when I was in a similar situation - I had a ectopic in 2004. All my thoughts are with you and if you ever want a friendly chat or just to vent my inbox is open

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart is not with the person I lie beside but can’t get away as will lose my kids but think about someone else all the time. I feel like a cowered and hate myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry didn't mean to take over the thread. Just with lockdown not been able to see friends. I'm ok just heartbroken at the moment. Thanks to you all XXX "

Please don't be sorry, you've nothing at all to be sorry for

We may not all know what it's like to go through the distress and heartbreak that you are going through right now, but I'm certain when I say not a single person's heart isn't hurting for you.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"Sorry didn't mean to take over the thread. Just with lockdown not been able to see friends. I'm ok just heartbroken at the moment. Thanks to you all XXX "

So sorry to read of your news

huge love to you xxx

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

My heart holds both tender rawness and fury. It can feel like turmoil trapped. Like the pin is out of the grenade, it's free falling through the air and I cant tell when or where it will land.

My heart wants to scream

'who is holding me?!'

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To those suffering my heart goes out to you - we're all facing struggles of one kind or another right now whether they be the monumental and awful kind Frida is going through (my thoughts are with you Frida) or simply missing company and feeling alone at this time.

I've had some news this week which hasn't been the best and has potential to get worse very soon and right now I'm not really sure how I feel, or even what to feel - for now strength and positivity are called for, but there will come a point where emotions and my heart take over I know, and when they do I'll let them take over and run their course.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blood, some funny muscle stuff and a fuck load of LOVE and passion...!

I'm lucky I think, but grateful.....

Love to you all!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hurt, confliction, disappointment and sadness yet the desire and fight to bounce back.

Lots of self reflection

And some empowerment too xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m reading all these posts and sending positivity to all that need it.

My inbox is always open for listening to anyone.

As for my heart... I don’t particularly wanna go back in there for a while so I’ll just observe.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To those suffering my heart goes out to you - we're all facing struggles of one kind or another right now whether they be the monumental and awful kind Frida is going through (my thoughts are with you Frida) or simply missing company and feeling alone at this time.

And we will be here to hold you hand as best we can.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't know you, but my heart breaks for you, this is what happened to me in January. I can't imagine how hard it must be to go through it at this time.

If talking to a stranger might help, my inbox is open

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so sorry x

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

I want to be loved. I long for love again. I lost my husband a few years ago and have been alone since. I’ve had fun and met some lovely people. Yet I still let some treat me like rubbish, because I crave a touch, to be held, to have contact, to feel wanted for a while.

Love seems to evade me so I put up with the crap in between as it’s better than nothing at all, even if it does end up making me feel worse.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

My heart is heavy. I’ve been let down by someone I had a very strong connection with. Someone I thought respected me. Turns out he had zero respect for me and it’s devastated me the last few weeks BUT I can learn from this not to trust anyone else.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"My heart is heavy. I’ve been let down by someone I had a very strong connection with. Someone I thought respected me. Turns out he had zero respect for me and it’s devastated me the last few weeks BUT I can learn from this not to trust anyone else. "

I feel the exact same way, I could’ve written that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart is battered but still strong enough to offer support to anyone here who needs it. Sending peaceful vibes to you all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart is hurting and having a constant battle with my head which is also hurting. It's not the sort of pian that paracetamol will fix though, it's a deep rooted pain that's been pulled to the surface that I have no choice but to deal with now. It's also very grateful for some very dear friends that I know have got me while to try to survive this battle.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I feel the exact same way, I could’ve written that x "

Awful isn’t it? I had hoped with the crisis in the UK he would have not have been disrespectful but alas he was....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart and soul belongs to another, it will stay there until I die

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple over a year ago

kent

"My heart is hurting and having a constant battle with my head which is also hurting. It's not the sort of pian that paracetamol will fix though, it's a deep rooted pain that's been pulled to the surface that I have no choice but to deal with now. It's also very grateful for some very dear friends that I know have got me while to try to survive this battle. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel the exact same way, I could’ve written that x "

or 'just' learn warning signs of falling into same patterns again..and being able to protect oneself from hurt by building distance from that person rather than whole human kind? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's fucking shit tho. I wish people understood the damage that they do to people by not being honest. When the lessons you learn from being taken for a mug isn't a positive lesson, it's one that condemns you to not trusting.

I'm sorry this has happened, it's something that happens far too often and impacts in ways some people could never imagine or take responsibility for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't say anything that will help but I am sending you lots of love

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart is completely broken at the moment. It's tired, it's sad, it's been lied to and it feels like it's been completely forgotten.

Yet it still desperately wants to love with all its broken parts.

I hear ya loud n clear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart holds both tender rawness and fury. It can feel like turmoil trapped. Like the pin is out of the grenade, it's free falling through the air and I cant tell when or where it will land.

My heart wants to scream

'who is holding me?!' "

Or who will catch me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart aches at the moment. Those that know what I do in the real world will understand. This virus is shit, the devastation on a human and emotional level is huge and om not looking being a witness to it.

Normally my heart is the fire and optimism that silences the negativity of my mind. It's pretty resilient like that so I guess this is just a blip

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By *orthern StarsCouple over a year ago

Durham

There are some immensley sad posts on this thread, we send all of you that are suffering hugs, and hope that your pain eases in time.

Brighter days will be ahead, just keep holding on. A day at a time, an hour at a time on bad days.

Hugs to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart just hurts at the moment...There is so many unkind words being spoken and so much vitriol everywhere. It just makes me sad

Sending love tender heart x "

Thank you

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan over a year ago

Torquay

"There are some immensley sad posts on this thread, we send all of you that are suffering hugs, and hope that your pain eases in time.

Brighter days will be ahead, just keep holding on. A day at a time, an hour at a time on bad days

Hugs to you."

Ain't it the truth, I count myself lucky. I wish you all the best _emorefrida

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart is a pretty battered and cranky place these days. The mind protects the heart, I prefer to keep it that way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is in my heart?

The love for my two children, so much love for those two..... they are truly beautiful xxx

the love for my parents- thanks mum and dad, I’ll always be eternally grateful for everything, always

The love for the guys I’m dealing with right now... (male DV support worker with a very heavy caseload at the moment ) were in this together xx. Always xx

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By *ntrigued32Couple over a year ago

Nottingham

Frida! I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this...

One of the worst things a woman can go through.

I feel you, my inbox is open if you wish to talk privately.

Sending you love and light.

Jo.Xx

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By *evil-AngelWoman over a year ago

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My heart was completely broken over a year ago so I'm hiding it away to make sure I don't feel pain like it again.

I can usually cope with the loneliness that brings, but I'm struggling this weekend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart was completely broken over a year ago so I'm hiding it away to make sure I don't feel pain like it again.

I can usually cope with the loneliness that brings, but I'm struggling this weekend"

Know this too well. My huge hugs and loves to you. Inbox if you need it xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An empty void

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s a bit of a mess.....happy, sad, hopeful, resigned, hurt, strong, warm and loving, cold and distant. All these spin on a roulette wheel, all day...every day.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Listening to my heart has got me nowhere, other than hurt. So its being ignored now, no matter what it tries to say

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By *reya73 OP Woman over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Love to all of you and your hearts and stories and truths.

Thanks for sharing and supporting xxx

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By *untimes6969Man over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Life can be a real roller coaster at times, remember the good times, learn from the bad times! We’re all stronger than we know, doesn’t always feel that way, dig deep and try to keep a smile on our faces - it’s infectious, in a great way!

Some very sad posts, heart goes out to you all - we’ve all got issues but we need to find the strength, wether by ourselves or with support from loved ones or profession help!

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By *erces LetiferMan over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone who was a friend once....

She filled my heart. Even after she walked away.

Today, like every day, I remember her, my first thought when I wake, my last before sleep. So often I see her in my dreams.

I miss my friend.

If she ever comes back and reads this I hope she finds her peace.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone who was a friend once....

She filled my heart. Even after she walked away.

Today, like every day, I remember her, my first thought when I wake, my last before sleep. So often I see her in my dreams.

I miss my friend.

If she ever comes back and reads this I hope she finds her peace.....

Mine is total opposite to you. Thought she was kind, caring and loving. Turned out to be the complete opposite. She was a total narcissistic. However, I have made friends with some great people. Both men and women on here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain."

Why not joy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart just hurts at the moment...There is so many unkind words being spoken and so much vitriol everywhere. It just makes me sad

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I'm never unkind tread in my footsteps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm so so sorry to all of you who are going through hard times, Frida, you're in my thoughts, that would be terrible at any time, but must be even more so now.

My inbox is always open

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

Why not joy?"

When you love someone, you give them the power to break your heart. You just have to hope that they don't

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By *kiolo1Couple over a year ago

Whitland

Wow that is devastating, so sorry you are going through this right now. I know I don't know you but sending loving vibes from my heart to you. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I often say on every threads but it is on that one that it makes more sense:

Follow you heart

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As I often say on every threads but it is on that one that it makes more sense:

Follow you heart "

That's what I do. But the women seems to think I am staring at their boobs!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

Why not joy?

When you love someone, you give them the power to break your heart. You just have to hope that they don't "

Giving yourself whilst expecting pain as an ultimate and inevitable outcome can surely only lead to a self fulfilling prophecy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So much sadness here..where is my heart? My heart is in retirement, its confounded that mankind never learns from the past, I started as a child on a road that came straight from the hands of hel but no matter how I search I just keep finding that en masse mankind has learned nothing and Im beginning to think we never will. Im trying to find my place and finding that outside of my wonderful gf and the beauty that is nature I have no place. I have withdrawn, pre lockdown and covid, to the wild places and its creatures..those are what got me this far...I rarely mix with my own kind outside of my gf as I find judgement comes rapidly..not just of myself but of others. Why can t we just be...live who we are..truly who we are, not an artificial characterisation of what we perceive we should be to fit in...my feelings of myself?..outcast, but I am luckier than most as I have mother nature and will always have her...she is my home and my guardian and I have one person in my life that accepts me for the screw up that mankind made me.

Love, hugs and warmth to you all that have a heart in pieces and a mind in search of the beautiful things. XxX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

Why not joy?

When you love someone, you give them the power to break your heart. You just have to hope that they don't

Giving yourself whilst expecting pain as an ultimate and inevitable outcome can surely only lead to a self fulfilling prophecy "

It's actually a beautiful vulnerability.

I guess it depends on how you view things.

I choose to see something special, you choose to see something harsh.

Perspective is a wonderful thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So much sadness here..where is my heart? My heart is in retirement, its confounded that mankind never learns from the past, I started as a child on a road that came straight from the hands of hel but no matter how I search I just keep finding that en masse mankind has learned nothing and Im beginning to think we never will. Im trying to find my place and finding that outside of my wonderful gf and the beauty that is nature I have no place. I have withdrawn, pre lockdown and covid, to the wild places and its creatures..those are what got me this far...I rarely mix with my own kind outside of my gf as I find judgement comes rapidly..not just of myself but of others. Why can t we just be...live who we are..truly who we are, not an artificial characterisation of what we perceive we should be to fit in...my feelings of myself?..outcast, but I am luckier than most as I have mother nature and will always have her...she is my home and my guardian and I have one person in my life that accepts me for the screw up that mankind made me.

Love, hugs and warmth to you all that have a heart in pieces and a mind in search of the beautiful things. XxX

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

Oh gosh some of these posts are sad. I send love to all, but especially to Frida x

My heart? Well my heart is just waiting to be given away again.

It’s full of hope and excitement that one day it might beat that little bit faster when the right fella comes along and looks at me with devilment and delight in his eyes, with a love that you can see that burns through to their soul.

And more importantly, my heart is full of hope for my children that they will continue to be happy, healthy and have a life full of love, laughter and fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My heart has got me into more trouble than my head but it's also bought me much happiness....sometimes x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart was completely broken over a year ago so I'm hiding it away to make sure I don't feel pain like it again.

I can usually cope with the loneliness that brings, but I'm struggling this weekend"

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By *arlomaleMan over a year ago

darlington

Swinging brick apparently but my last ecg says different

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Someone who was a friend once....

She filled my heart. Even after she walked away.

Today, like every day, I remember her, my first thought when I wake, my last before sleep. So often I see her in my dreams.

I miss my friend.

If she ever comes back and reads this I hope she finds her peace.....

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

Why not joy?

When you love someone, you give them the power to break your heart. You just have to hope that they don't

Giving yourself whilst expecting pain as an ultimate and inevitable outcome can surely only lead to a self fulfilling prophecy

It's actually a beautiful vulnerability.

I guess it depends on how you view things.

I choose to see something special, you choose to see something harsh.

Perspective is a wonderful thing "

I agree. It's an amazing gift to give someone. All you can do is have faith you've found someone who deserves it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

Why not joy?

When you love someone, you give them the power to break your heart. You just have to hope that they don't

Giving yourself whilst expecting pain as an ultimate and inevitable outcome can surely only lead to a self fulfilling prophecy

It's actually a beautiful vulnerability.

I guess it depends on how you view things.

I choose to see something special, you choose to see something harsh.

Perspective is a wonderful thing

I agree. It's an amazing gift to give someone. All you can do is have faith you've found someone who deserves it."

Is it not a gift to give with joy rather than an expectation that it will cause you pain?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Well, I'm in love. Therefore, ultimately and inevitably... pain.

Why not joy?

When you love someone, you give them the power to break your heart. You just have to hope that they don't

Giving yourself whilst expecting pain as an ultimate and inevitable outcome can surely only lead to a self fulfilling prophecy

It's actually a beautiful vulnerability.

I guess it depends on how you view things.

I choose to see something special, you choose to see something harsh.

Perspective is a wonderful thing

I agree. It's an amazing gift to give someone. All you can do is have faith you've found someone who deserves it.

Is it not a gift to give with joy rather than an expectation that it will cause you pain?"

I think one can hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My heart just hurts at the moment...There is so many unkind words being spoken and so much vitriol everywhere. It just makes me sad

I'm never unkind tread in my footsteps

Are you going to the chippy?? If so I will deffo tread in your footsteps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If only there were magic plasters to pop them on and make everything better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If only there were magic plasters to pop them on and make everything better."

That would be amazing!

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