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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
I second this  if anyone wants a chat I’m a message away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Absolutely this... Love you Chick x
Kindness costs nothing and you never know what people are going through in their lives
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind
Absolutely this... Love you Chick x
Kindness costs nothing and you never know what people are going through in their lives
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Well said HC
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Love you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Much love, OP.
I'm just fucking shattered.
Sending you hugs and hoping you're feeling better
Thank you. Getting there. Back at you."
Thank you lovely  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind
Love you "
Love you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do "
This! You always manage to find the right words GM |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do "
Sage words as always Gemini.
Everyone needs somebody sometimes and I do see a lot of the current bickering as a cry for help.
Then again, some of it’s just plain twatty. |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Whilst its nice to be important ....its important to be nice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
I’d like to use your thread to thank those that have been kind to me lately.
I’ve needed it and will always support anyone else in anyway I can |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Everyone needs somebody sometimes and I do see a lot of the current bickering as a cry for help.
Then again, some of it’s just plain twatty."
Spot on - with everything that is going on currently it should be a time of support and understanding - sadly frustrations and angst seem to have spilled over - there's always been negativity of course but it just seems to be worse than ever lately
Anyway that's another conversation for another thread I'll not drag this one down with it any further....back to positive vibes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind
I’d like to use your thread to thank those that have been kind to me lately.
I’ve needed it and will always support anyone else in anyway I can "
Sorry to hear that lovely. Hope you're feeling better now |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I agree, lovely sentiment - treat everyone with kindness. Times are difficult right now for a lot of us and showing a bit of compassion and even treating someone like you would like to be treated should be happening far more than it does right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
You’re such a sweetheart xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes the smallest acts of kindness can have a bigger impact than we imagine.
Just as cruel words can.
Be nice, laugh lots and be gentle. You don't ever know what someone else has on their mind |
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Kindness and compassion and respect for other people cost nothing, and yet they are rare.
If you can be kind to someone today, do it. If you know you’ve hurt someone, apologise for it. Let go of your grudges, stop the animosity, and respect each other. It doesn’t have to be difficult, and it might just make things better |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Well said HC, life’s not so easy for many of us even without the stresses of lockdown x |
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do "
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x"
I don't actually think we're in disagreement at all - but whatever the reason for the bickering and back biting the point is positivity, inclusiveness and support are what we should all be striving for, along with a dollop of reason and compromise and if that's not possible avoidance.
I know a lot of people (me included) are posting less and less lately and part of the reason for that is the negativity that seems to be abounding of late.
Like I said though I'll not drag a positive thread down further - be positive, be inclusive, be supportive is what we should all strive to do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x
I don't actually think we're in disagreement at all - but whatever the reason for the bickering and back biting the point is positivity, inclusiveness and support are what we should all be striving for, along with a dollop of reason and compromise and if that's not possible avoidance.
I know a lot of people (me included) are posting less and less lately and part of the reason for that is the negativity that seems to be abounding of late.
Like I said though I'll not drag a positive thread down further - be positive, be inclusive, be supportive is what we should all strive to do "
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x
I don't actually think we're in disagreement at all - but whatever the reason for the bickering and back biting the point is positivity, inclusiveness and support are what we should all be striving for, along with a dollop of reason and compromise and if that's not possible avoidance.
I know a lot of people (me included) are posting less and less lately and part of the reason for that is the negativity that seems to be abounding of late.
Like I said though I'll not drag a positive thread down further - be positive, be inclusive, be supportive is what we should all strive to do "
Oh, we're mostly in agreement - except for "it isn't hard to do". I think it can be.
Also don't think this is dragging a positive thread down - some people let out their frustrations on here and feel better for it, others take a step back - as hippychick says, there are different ways to look after yourself and look for support. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kindness and compassion and respect for other people cost nothing, and yet they are rare.
If you can be kind to someone today, do it. If you know you’ve hurt someone, apologise for it. Let go of your grudges, stop the animosity, and respect each other. It doesn’t have to be difficult, and it might just make things better "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x
I don't actually think we're in disagreement at all - but whatever the reason for the bickering and back biting the point is positivity, inclusiveness and support are what we should all be striving for, along with a dollop of reason and compromise and if that's not possible avoidance.
I know a lot of people (me included) are posting less and less lately and part of the reason for that is the negativity that seems to be abounding of late.
Like I said though I'll not drag a positive thread down further - be positive, be inclusive, be supportive is what we should all strive to do
Oh, we're mostly in agreement - except for "it isn't hard to do". I think it can be.
Also don't think this is dragging a positive thread down - some people let out their frustrations on here and feel better for it, others take a step back - as hippychick says, there are different ways to look after yourself and look for support. X"
OK that one came back to bite me 
What I meant was it isn't that hard to do to just switch off and avoid if it's really getting to you.
I get everyone is frustrated and get that those frustrations will find a way out - just think if people could be a bit more positive and less bickery things might be a little more pleasant for all - and I appreciate that's an idealistic view but it's also an accurate one IMHO |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
First time I’ve ever wished there was a like button on the forums. |
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x
I don't actually think we're in disagreement at all - but whatever the reason for the bickering and back biting the point is positivity, inclusiveness and support are what we should all be striving for, along with a dollop of reason and compromise and if that's not possible avoidance.
I know a lot of people (me included) are posting less and less lately and part of the reason for that is the negativity that seems to be abounding of late.
Like I said though I'll not drag a positive thread down further - be positive, be inclusive, be supportive is what we should all strive to do
Oh, we're mostly in agreement - except for "it isn't hard to do". I think it can be.
Also don't think this is dragging a positive thread down - some people let out their frustrations on here and feel better for it, others take a step back - as hippychick says, there are different ways to look after yourself and look for support. X"
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"Nice to see some positivity for a change - far too much backbiting, sniping, people taking offence for the sake of taking offence, people taking offence because others hold a different opinion and more going on lately
Bring back the positivity and inclusiveness I say - if you disagree with something someone has to say, either ignore or counter it in an adult balanced and reasoned way rather than taking offence and going on the offensive.
It really isn't that hard to do
Lovely positive thread, thank you Hippychick.
I have to disagree with you, GM - whilst I'm all for live and let live and having a proper debate without resorting to insults, I think it IS a lot harder for people to do right now. I know I've been very up and down and my patience and tolerance levels are at an all time low. I think it's natural for people to hit out more when they're under sustained and uncontrollable stress. That's why I've not been around so much - if I let myself get dragged into bickering, it just makes me feel worse!
Big love to everyone.
Mrs TMN x
I don't actually think we're in disagreement at all - but whatever the reason for the bickering and back biting the point is positivity, inclusiveness and support are what we should all be striving for, along with a dollop of reason and compromise and if that's not possible avoidance.
I know a lot of people (me included) are posting less and less lately and part of the reason for that is the negativity that seems to be abounding of late.
Like I said though I'll not drag a positive thread down further - be positive, be inclusive, be supportive is what we should all strive to do
Oh, we're mostly in agreement - except for "it isn't hard to do". I think it can be.
Also don't think this is dragging a positive thread down - some people let out their frustrations on here and feel better for it, others take a step back - as hippychick says, there are different ways to look after yourself and look for support. X
OK that one came back to bite me
What I meant was it isn't that hard to do to just switch off and avoid if it's really getting to you.
I get everyone is frustrated and get that those frustrations will find a way out - just think if people could be a bit more positive and less bickery things might be a little more pleasant for all - and I appreciate that's an idealistic view but it's also an accurate one IMHO "
We are in total agreement there |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Ah, your warm heart OP xxx
It's good to remember, even if some one has the polar opposite view on life, or isnt behaving how you think they should .. that, mostly, we are all just doing our best according to where we are at in life. Even if it isn't your idea of best.
It's also good to remember it's ok to run out of kindness, capacity and patience sometimes.
It'll come back x
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"Ah, your warm heart OP xxx
It's good to remember, even if some one has the polar opposite view on life, or isnt behaving how you think they should .. that, mostly, we are all just doing our best according to where we are at in life. Even if it isn't your idea of best.
It's also good to remember it's ok to run out of kindness, capacity and patience sometimes.
It'll come back x
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You give a little love and it all comes back to you. |
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It's really starting to drag now isn't it.
We had a couple last night go off at us and block us, because we're simply exhausted and not in the mood.
Kindness goes a long way.
I'm just holding on to the fact Mr. is home in 2 weeks, then I've got help with the kids, chance for a proper cuddle AND we can't leave the house for 2 weeks! 
Hang in there guys, vent when you need to, look after yourselves. X |
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"Ah, your warm heart OP xxx
It's good to remember, even if some one has the polar opposite view on life, or isnt behaving how you think they should .. that, mostly, we are all just doing our best according to where we are at in life. Even if it isn't your idea of best.
It's also good to remember it's ok to run out of kindness, capacity and patience sometimes.
It'll come back x
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Amen to this |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Amen sweetie!
Be kind, always. X |
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
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I agree.
But unfortunately we have been told how to feel and think. We must be happy and fluffy at all times. Our thoughts and feelings must comply to others or we are wrong. |
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By *lappyMan
over a year ago
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Big love to everyone and if anyone feels like they need to talk, my inbox is always open no matter what the problem is however big or small it may seem, it’s good to talk, stay safe friends xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
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Quite often the person who is fucking up the most is the one who needs the most love and understanding, which can be a very hard thing to do, but a little kindness and understanding an go a long way.
We all have stuff going on in our lives, and you never really know what is going on for others.
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
Quite often the person who is fucking up the most is the one who needs the most love and understanding, which can be a very hard thing to do, but a little kindness and understanding an go a long way.
We all have stuff going on in our lives, and you never really know what is going on for others.
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And totally agreeing with you Freya. Wise and lovely as always |
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
Quite often the person who is fucking up the most is the one who needs the most love and understanding, which can be a very hard thing to do, but a little kindness and understanding an go a long way.
We all have stuff going on in our lives, and you never really know what is going on for others.
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
Quite often the person who is fucking up the most is the one who needs the most love and understanding, which can be a very hard thing to do, but a little kindness and understanding an go a long way.
We all have stuff going on in our lives, and you never really know what is going on for others.
And totally agreeing with you Freya. Wise and lovely as always "
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The world seems to have gone crazy lately, hard to know where to look for some normality. Ive just tried to shrink my world even smaller than its been made to shut most of it out, it can be overwhelming to even begin to understand any of it or whats best to do to help. I am firmly back in hermit base camp. |
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"The world seems to have gone crazy lately, hard to know where to look for some normality. Ive just tried to shrink my world even smaller than its been made to shut most of it out, it can be overwhelming to even begin to understand any of it or whats best to do to help. I am firmly back in hermit base camp. "
Was that Alder?  |
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"The world seems to have gone crazy lately, hard to know where to look for some normality. Ive just tried to shrink my world even smaller than its been made to shut most of it out, it can be overwhelming to even begin to understand any of it or whats best to do to help. I am firmly back in hermit base camp.
Was that Alder? "
Yes it was - I do hope she’s okay |
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"The world seems to have gone crazy lately, hard to know where to look for some normality. Ive just tried to shrink my world even smaller than its been made to shut most of it out, it can be overwhelming to even begin to understand any of it or whats best to do to help. I am firmly back in hermit base camp.
Was that Alder? "
Yes it was |
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"The world seems to have gone crazy lately, hard to know where to look for some normality. Ive just tried to shrink my world even smaller than its been made to shut most of it out, it can be overwhelming to even begin to understand any of it or whats best to do to help. I am firmly back in hermit base camp.
Was that Alder?
Yes it was - I do hope she’s okay "
Oh no I hope she's okay too |
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My inbox is always open for anyone who needs to have a rant, wants to let some anger go or needs someone to just listen. we can't always vent when we need to and bottling it up is not healthy long term, especially in these times x |
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"The world seems to have gone crazy lately, hard to know where to look for some normality. Ive just tried to shrink my world even smaller than its been made to shut most of it out, it can be overwhelming to even begin to understand any of it or whats best to do to help. I am firmly back in hermit base camp.
Was that Alder?
Yes it was - I do hope she’s okay
Oh no I hope she's okay too "
Oh no . I was coming back to reply to her and she's gone |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
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Absolutely and please don't mistake my earlier posts to suggest that I think there should be absolute jollity and positivity at all times - that's not possible nor is it actually healthy, especially when it's false or forced.
My comments about negativity were more aimed at the bickering, petty sniping etc that seem to have abounded lately and driven quite a few to post less.
As I said if people could be supportive and wary of others rather than taking lame potshots, underhand digs and sinister references to what is in the past the world would be a far better place for all. |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
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"My inbox is always open for anyone who needs to have a rant, wants to let some anger go or needs someone to just listen. we can't always vent when we need to and bottling it up is not healthy long term, especially in these times x"
You're lovely |
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
Absolutely and please don't mistake my earlier posts to suggest that I think there should be absolute jollity and positivity at all times - that's not possible nor is it actually healthy, especially when it's false or forced.
My comments about negativity were more aimed at the bickering, petty sniping etc that seem to have abounded lately and driven quite a few to post less.
As I said if people could be supportive and wary of others rather than taking lame potshots, underhand digs and sinister references to what is in the past the world would be a far better place for all."
Very well said G-man |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
Yep this just being kind to each other and treating people how you'd like to be treated is how I try to live my life....I don't always get it right and can fuck up especially if the hormones are misbehaving or the moons full  . Also I try not to let anyone or anything upset me...if I can.
Lovely post OP |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind
Yep this just being kind to each other and treating people how you'd like to be treated is how I try to live my life....I don't always get it right and can fuck up especially if the hormones are misbehaving or the moons full . Also I try not to let anyone or anything upset me...if I can.
Lovely post OP "
Thank you my beautiful friend |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind "
This is the kind of forums I love I posted last night saying the forums have been great for my mental health during lockdown they always put a smile on my face |
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"It's a difficult time for everyone, lockdown as us all a little crazy.
Add in the normal difficulties of life and it can get in top of us.
Wherever people get their support, whether it be IRL, in the forums, chat groups, it's ok
Let's let everyone do their thing and be kind
This is the kind of forums I love I posted last night saying the forums have been great for my mental health during lockdown they always put a smile on my face "
That's good to hear |
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
Quite often the person who is fucking up the most is the one who needs the most love and understanding, which can be a very hard thing to do, but a little kindness and understanding an go a long way.
We all have stuff going on in our lives, and you never really know what is going on for others.
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I understand the sentiment OP, I really do.
However, I don't think we should stop calling out things we don't agree with.
Neither do I think we should automatically extend kindness in the form of sycophantic saccharine platitudes.
There were a couple of threads yesterday where many here who seem to be advocating some sort of unconditional kindness did not extend that |
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The forums have caused me stress at times but mostly very supportive. It’s very hard to read a text/message and Sometimes things can be misconstrued. Always best to remain positive and be kind in a world that is not always kind. I would imagine many people on this site have had struggles with mental health and sometimes that 1 comment or word can push someone over the edge. I am always one for speaking my mind and don’t always agree or follow the masses but I always do so with a kind heart. |
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"Can you extend our kindness to the person who is fucking up the most? Instead of projecting some false idea of positivity and expectation onto them?
The idea that we all need to be positive all the time sets us up for failure when we are simply experiencing what it is to be human .. with a full range of diverse emotions and experiences, states and capabilities.
I wonder about accepting each other where we are at instead of expecting something different.
Imagine that?
Unconditional compassion.
Is it possible to treat some one how you would like to be treated regardless?
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It's a huge challenge, but a worthwhile aspiration. On the same note, I would say being kind to ourselves is as big a challenge, if not bigger. How often do we say things to ourselves we would never say to others? Beat ourselves up for "failing"? I know I do.
Mrs TMN x |
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It's a huge challenge, but a worthwhile aspiration. On the same note, I would say being kind to ourselves is as big a challenge, if not bigger. How often do we say things to ourselves we would never say to others? Beat ourselves up for "failing"? I know I do.
Mrs TMN x"
Wise words - as someone that struggles with exactly that I know just what you mean |
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Well said OP, the forums are my happy place, they usually make me smile but lately its be horrible on here and its caused tears. Ive even taken a few days off here as It got to such a low point on here.
I hope it returns to the fun happy place I enjoy so much. I love seeing people smile xxxx |
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"I understand the sentiment OP, I really do.
However, I don't think we should stop calling out things we don't agree with.
Neither do I think we should automatically extend kindness in the form of sycophantic saccharine platitudes.
There were a couple of threads yesterday where many here who seem to be advocating some sort of unconditional kindness did not extend that "
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"The forums have caused me stress at times but mostly very supportive. It’s very hard to read a text/message and Sometimes things can be misconstrued. Always best to remain positive and be kind in a world that is not always kind. I would imagine many people on this site have had struggles with mental health and sometimes that 1 comment or word can push someone over the edge. I am always one for speaking my mind and don’t always agree or follow the masses but I always do so with a kind heart. "
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